Wittyglam: You don't know the damages the uncle who started sleeping with her at age 8 has cause her. She came out clean to him, does that not count for something? This is how you help a person and this is how you know someone that is willing tlive a better life. I'm sad
Well she should get a therapist not look for a relationship. Damaged/hurt people hurt people.... I’m not saying he should mistreat her but he shouldn’t invest in a love relationship with her, friendship would d
What if she has a damaged womb? So he is supposed to be childless for a decision she made as a adult? Abortions also don’t leave women the same emotionaly. She needs therapy not another boyfriend.
Wittyglam: Are you judging her for opening up to you? Or it's her fault she got molested at a younger age. She came clean to you which is very rare and you will judge her with that? Bro you don't deserve her at all.
If you're a parent, aunty, uncle, brother check this out and educate others.
She doesn’t deserve him. She needs to stay with the man she gave her womb to 4 times. Everyone has had issues before as an adult you are responsible for your choices.
wirinet: Will you marry a virgin? If yes, then you have a point. But if the girl you will marry in the future turn out not to be a virgin, how will you determine how many guys have drilled the hole before you, and how will you determine how many abortions she has had?
Well, men are different. I unlike some men I ask questions. I have no problem with a woman not being a virgin, I have a problem with the number of partners because if we face it, it tells a lot about who she is mentally. Is she flaky? A woman who if there’s a little issue she goes to get someone to bang. Is she “stupid“, a woman who anyone sleek can manipulate and sleep with her. I don’t want such woman, if you’re cool with that then good for you.
How will you determine? Well, based on her character you can tell if she is a honest person. I have dated girls I can beat my chest for when she tells me something and I have dated ladies I can’t even trust when she says it morning.... it’s all a function of her antecedents and how well you read people and ask questions.
We men have to get to a point about being honest with ladies about our standards and stop being cowardly. They hear Simps like you talk and they believe it when even a simp like you know the truth deep down, it’s in our nature not to want a woman with 4 abortions , you’re just not bold enough to stand your ground.
Lovethaa: Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .
One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .
She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle , she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly
She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old
She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .
But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..
Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...
and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...
I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything
Your judgemental type makes people insecure and unable to trust people they love with their true story
Actions have consequences captain on a white horse.
You don’t get to eat your cake and have it. If you want to be the one to date a girl with 4 abortions, go for it but don’t blame a sensible man for feeling some type of way about it because guess what 4 is no mistake.
Lordsagna: hi, I'm a newbie in programming without any prior knowledge....my interest is software development.. I've started learning python what other language do I need c++ or Java ?
It depends on what you want to do. If it’s web development or mobile apps, go for JavaScript first.
Forget those ones telling you Python. While it’s good, you would eventually come to JavaScript (if you have any desire or web or mobile. Don’t take the long route.
So if it’s mobile App, learn React Native (you would need a background in JavaScript)...
PERVENCHE: *NOTE With all due respect, I have changed names and some too familiar details about myself out of respect for my wife to be. I know she likes to catch cruise on nairaland.
My name is Friday (of course not my real name) I am from the middle-belt. So please save your tribalism with all those una Igbo, Yoruba and Hausa insults. I met Grace(my wife to be) few years ago. It was love at 1st sight. She was everything and is still everything I had hoped a woman should be. There is this crass about her that makes her effortlessly better than any lady around her. My type in the true sense of the word. Tall, busty, curvy, sassy, elegant, personable and above all, she has a graceful soul. From the 1st date to this day, I still pinch my self like.. What in God's green earth is a beauty like her doing with a shrek like me.
But then, true perfection is always a utopia. Grace in all her graceful demeanour and aura, has a flaw; Indecision! More so, blind trust seems to be her albatross. (I swear she can even take Lai Muhammad's word to the bank) Though, I still love her; flaws and all. Her complete or should I say blind trust for me and Abigail became one of the reasons Abigail(her younger sister) has become an unending chapter in our relationship. Even though the blame of what happened squarely falls on me.
Abigail just shy off 20, is too savvy for her age. Not the outright outstanding beauty like my Grace. What ever little she lacks in beauty, she more than makes up for it in her mentality. For she is truly a smart and an intelligent girl. Just five years younger than Grace. One who expect them at least to be close and be like Asaba and Onisha but then...they are the direct opposite of each other. While Grace is the introverted shy person, Abigail is quite the extrovert and likes to make friends for Africa. It is only fair to believe their formative time in secondary school played a part in their output towards life. Grace likes to conform like most day school students. Abigail on the other hand, is the boarding school nightmare all parents hope not to experience: the deviant.
Through the 1st years we dated, Abigail was in secondary school and was never in the picture. For some odd or strange reason, Grace was not ready to fully commit. Not that I blame her or something. At 23, Most girls her age are like Alice in wonderland; they crush on celebrities and Chase childhood dreams and fantasies. The vile ones, if truth be told...tend to live out their hoė phase. At 28, I was already grounded to know what I wanted and it was Grace and marriage. Sometimes, you do all you can do but then life has a way of throwing in a curveball. More over, "No be say because I wan chop egg I go begin dey worship chicken." Sensing her shakara, I pulled the hand brakes on us and walked out of the relationship.
***2 years later*** Fortunately or unfortunately after letting go, Grace became incensed and started to want me back. I hardly do any social media at this point. Pride won't let her call me, so there was no way to send coded messages on whatsapp status to me. Being the introvert that she is and the all trusting graceful Grace, she started to send Abigil over to my place to bridge the gap. In just over two years, Abigail had changed and developed into a sexy hippie bohemian. Not that I fancy her in any erotic way or something. It's just that in our contemporary naija society where mostly everyone conforms, it is hard not to notice a bohemian.
Knowing I would do no better than Grace even with a million dollars and in a hundred years of searching, I mended fences with Grace and our relationship became stronger than ever. Over time, Abigail became a bridge between us. At first, Grace would send her over to run errands for her. After a while, it became a second nature for her to come over and fidget with my electronics. Courtesy demands you be nice to your in-laws to be and so I was nice to Abigail.
Abigail's posturing over time made it difficult for me to say no to her especially during them Nengi and Laycon days in the house. She was a fan of big brother lockdown. And would always ask for my keys to watch the silly show for she was equally as silly to be gushing over that vanity fair. Grace seems not have any issues with her coming over and I also did not for I was hardly home and God knows the sub was kinda wasting away.
There are some things in life that are not planned. They just happen! My boss at work then tested positive for Covid and we were all asked to quarantine at home. Grace still had to go to work while Abigail was always free because of the ASSU strike. Suddenly, I started to be alone with Abigail. She would come over "for big brother" around 9am and leave around 7pm in time to beat her curfew at home. It was awkward staying all day with Abigail. Grace too predictable, only comes over on Sunday. For some strange reasons, on Sundays, Abigail will never show up.
There were times, and I am sure it could just be my imagination, that she enjoyed teasing me. She would come dressed like a sister Mary Amaka from home but after a while, she would take her bath and transform into a Kardashian. Wearing skimpy cloths and heavy make-up. I tried to give her her space. I was in quarantine and therefore, had practically no where to go. I am basically the type that don't flock with co-workers and I hardly keep any friends except for Grace. I am not one to be neighbourly with my neighbours so I was stuck with Abigail all day. Humans are social animals and we tend to gravitate towards each other especially when we are alone with someone. Gradually, she won me over and I started to watch the big brother show with her. While she was rooting for Nengi after her Erica left, I was simply for Neo for he had my height. And the bond between us grew. God knows I had no vile motives and evil intentions. It is hard not to enjoy Abigail's company for she is a smart, gleeful and witty girl. While I do all the talking with Grace, Abigail on the other hand does all the talking with me and it was a welcome change.
*** D Day *** It became obvious Abigail was not telling the truth at home. She would pick their calls and tell them she was in her female friend's house. And in the spirit of our new found big brother bond. We kept the secret. On this faithful day, it had rained all day and Nepa had struck and the plug in my generator was no good. The rain had brought with it a cool breeze and some magical thunder. Seemingly, we could not watch our show so I took a blanket because of the cold and buried my attention on my PC (laptop) re-watching season 5 of the game of thrones.
Naively, Abigail joined me and entered the blanket with me. I use the word 'naive' because I honestly do not want to qualify her as a minx. And I know she does not see me as a Justine Bieber of a crystal ball for her to be drooling at. While in that warm blanket watching the movies in such compromising position, One thing led to another and alot of that one thing opened up her Pandora's box and I... I ate the most forbidden fruit there ever was. There is no telling how wonderful making love to her was at the heat of the moment and there's no shame in the world that equates to the shame that immediately dwell and still dwells in my soul shortly after even to this day. There's a lot to blame our mistake and betrayal on. Could it just be the moment? the weather? the chemistry? the devil? (laughs) my opportunistic habit? Her feminine warmth in such close proximity? my placing a hand on her thigh and meeting no resistance? My foggy mind and grown erection? Her racing and panting heart? Her feisty zeal and deviant nature? My libido? Hers? My morals? Buhari? Herdsmen? IPOB? Sunday Igbahor? Dstv and big brother? NEPA? Game of thrones? Was she after all really a minx? In all fairness, she is just a little naive girl that does not deserve to be pilloried for my betrayal. As the adult, I should have known better and acted a lot better.
Climbing down from our lustful climax, we both knew immediately what we had done, the gravity and the implications it could have on not just us, but grace and the whole family. In the most contrite way possible, we apologized to ourselves and vowed never to repeat it again. We felt it would be better not to tell Grace or anyone and we agreed Abigail would stop coming over. I started to avoid Abigail at all cost. I did not just release cum after my despicable act with Abigail, I released every thing good in me and every form of happiness. I felt much less of a man and wished I had died as a child or better still was aborted.
I hardly could face Grace after. The more I try to ghost her, the more she held on tightly. It became awkward visiting their family house for I was not comfortable around them trusting and accepting me. Not for the fear that they would find out...just my conscience eating me up. I stayed away and made peace with my gross mistake. For over six to seven months. I did my penance and nothing happened with Abigail. I know I am in a better place now to make sane decisions about cheating. To give something back to Grace, I have vowed never to sleep with anyone till die. We know how cheating amongst married men is common these days. I no call Adekule Gold name oh!
Me and Grace are set to marry on the 17th of this April. The thing is...Abigail is her chief bridesmaid and preparation demands I see her most times. She still has a look in her eyes...dunno what to make of it. A look of blackmail? Of you could still hit it if you want? We have unfinished business kinda look? You should be paying a bride price for two look? I die inside every time I see Grace happy she again got us back to talking terms because of the wedding. Ignorance is truly bliss.
I have doubts going through with this wedding. Folks may laugh and say I chickened out because of the inflation and money, others might blame Grace. It may ruin Grace for ever. How do I do this knowing Abigail will always be family?
This is rough!! Hope Abigail is not underaged?
I’d say confess.... it’s hard, it’s crazy, but it’s the right thing to do.
Confess to someone you both respect, your marriage counselor perhaps and follow the instructions. If it falls apart, make plans to relocate.
Just one moment of lust has ruined lives and crumbled empires.
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Samopex05: A letter gotten from your university that describes English language as a medium of instruction. In other words, a letter that says that you were taught in English language.
Secondly, for university of Sunderland, filling the online profile, there is no option that gives that. I have a snapshot of the available options attached below...
Samopex05: A letter gotten from your university that describes English language as a medium of instruction. In other words, a letter that says that you were taught in English language.
tobillionaire: .. I'm sure the road leading to this place would be bad.
Abi no be ogun state again
My beautiful state with bad roads
Obviously not your state and obviously you have no clue where this is. It is on entry to ogun state and the roads are probably one the best you would find in the SW.
Yewandequeen: You see only women have the power to forgive and forget about their partner cheating.
Men will never forgive you nor forget. The trust would be gone forever and would cost you your relationship.
Don't tell him if you still value your relationship. However, desist and flee from any form of temptation from any ex or anything that has third legs, we are human we sometimes make mistakes. Lastly, genuinely ask forgiveness from God and move on.
Enjoy your home.
Enjoy which home? Something built on a lie? Even God isn’t involved in that marriage cos that makes God a liar too until she confesses....
IamBroke: Okay there's this lady I met at a friend's place. She's free spirited and kind of nasty.
She's married with 3 kids but she's not living with her husband, reasons I don't know.
I believe she'd be 5 years if not more older than me but yet she calls me like I'm with her kidney... I can't even believe the kind of stuff we do though we've not had sex but she's pushing me that way but that's one thing I don't want to do cause she's married and I'm feeling guilty.
I don't want to hurt her and I don't want to continue this stuff with her and I don't want to avoid her either.
So what do I do now?
Advise me on what to do please
You are dealing with a Proverbs chapter 7 woman. Go read it and also see where you might end.
Chuxx84: Good evening nairalanders. Please I need advice/opinions on this issue at hand.
I have been taking care of my mother since before I got married, I have other brothers older and younger but they are not financially buoyant. (So they claimed) I did not mind this but kept on caring for her ( house rent, feeding, other bills).
Although it's a burden to me, but she is my mother. Now my wife suggest that any money I want to give to her should pass through her (I will send to my wife then she sends to my mother) or she does the sending and I later pay her back.
Her claim is my mother is fetish with my money. I'm confused can this be true? Sometimes my mother will make simple money request my wife would say I should ignore her. She says she is taking me for a fool. I am beginning to get tired of this whole thing. Please help with advice or opinions.
Thanks.
If your mum dies due to your weakness, God will judge you. Even if your mother is a witch (Which i doubt), it is your responsibility to care for her.
ASUNDER: My friend is currently going through a divorce in the UK and having a hell of a time. His wife mounted as many allegations on him as possible during separation - domestic violence, marital rape, child abuse, drugs and alcohol use, adultery, forgery just to name a few. He had to leave the house. He has moved to a room in a shared house and now even struggling to pay the rent. He does not see his kids anymore (not by choice). He is very broke and in debt because of all that is going on. He can no longer afford a lawyer. He feels so powerless, helpless and hopeless that he cannot fight most of what his wife is putting him through in court. He represents himself these days.
He has stopped looking after himself and is always looking sad . He also lost his job due to his arrest and all the drama. He was arrested because he tried to go see his kids at his former home and his wife called the police that she was afraid of him and that he had come to harass her. Police arrested him even without any traces of any harassment. Note that he moved out of the family house voluntarily thinking that the period of separation would ease tension between him and his wife.
I always feel sad seeing him in this state and just wish that he could recover and bounce back. He is considering moving back to Nigeria.
Have you gone through divorce in the UK or do you know anyone who has? What was the experience and what advice would you give someone going through this?
Thank you.
He should not move back. Encourage him to stay back, fight what he can fight and rebuild his life. You cannot give up your life because of some woman. Rebuild and bounce back, it will all be a story in a few years.
I have an uncle who got divorced years back. The woman collected his houses in the uk successfully, he literally lost everything. That was many years back, today he is successful again, even though single, he owns businesses in the UK and in Nigeria.
Plus I think EVERY man must have a backup plan, for real. A solid one.
Iamafinegirl: To think he told me he wld offer me perfect love, Love unconditional....he always used the word “purest form of love”. Wat I would be loosing if I didn’t accept him and hid proposal...how women fail to accept good men as blessing from God and don’t get to see it and later go to marry someone evil....how he would take so good care of me. Men and speech ehn... Oh boy if I remember the sweet talk, I dey weak. Men r scam
You are the scam, Aunty. Take responsibility of your mouth and work on yourself .
Iamafinegirl: Ok that chat is quite recent and I think I explained already why I said “you no dey understand English” Cus you said I should send all my contribution to your younger sister account and you would send only some to her while you keep your remaining to do stuff on your side because you don’t trust me financially in ur words so I must submit “all” my contribution to her for her to be dishing out money for feeding and all to me who is the one working since joint account couldn’t be open due to your license that had to be renewed. In the chat I was saying so u want me to give “all” to her and you would be keeping your own “some” because ofcourse it’s stressful to be typing “all the contribution” everytime since he already should understand the context of what we were talking about or chatting about already. That’s how uncle changed d topic entirely to that me I said he said “I should give all my salary to her”. I was confused. How would your younger sister be our financial manager in our own home? I told her and she said she doesn’t want to be sef as it doesn’t make sense? When your account wasn’t opened I said you can hold the contributions since u don’t trust me with money or you can give me to hold. That’s what I meant by any account. I didn’t know I have become so nothing in your eyes that I must submit my income to ur younger sister so she can monitor me when you are not in the house ooo. you still want her to be the one controlling your wife’s spending etc. Yet me and the younger sister had been chilling, eating out etc having fun and he carry our matter put for head for where he dey.
I have to explain every English I speak becuase you would just pick one line hold it and fight because it wld serve as a good defense for u. Nawa o
He is a nag and he is petty and you are a very rude and quite arrogant.... Just leave each other alone. Let everyone work on themselves. We all learn and grow from our mistakes.
Iamafinegirl: That was just me saying I wonder why I can’t or couldn’t unravel d drama or help it . I used to think I had sense or was bright but I met issue higher than me. Let me explain myself. So you get what I meant so you won’t say I am saying something else I am not meaning
Me, I want you.
You shouldn't be calling each other names though. And since you are not sexually involved (at least not actual intercourse), you might want to leave his house, give yourself time to reevaluate the relationship. You both might not be bad, but just bad for each other and that is alright.
Like I said, I want you and I want to hear about your imperial college stories, I'm good with no sex before marriage too.
Romance › Re: She Told Me Her Honest Story But It Made Me Lose Interest In Her by TundeChris: 10:59pm On Apr 13, 2021
?? Thief? Nooooo way! Bro, steer clear.
