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Mindfulness:
Is that girl in the pic that oyibo who gave you papers 'cause you look 25 years younger in this picture than in the gayish picture I have of you.

When we say you are worthy of nothing but sneering at, you see why . The blue shorts pic is from our recent holiday in Turkey, the one you refer to is earlier. Also the girl in the pic was actually with the big white guy - although jonzing as you can see .

Are you sitting comfortably?


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shaybebaby:
My son's lineage, grand papi receiving an MBE from mama Charlie for services to politics.
Now, that IS an achievement.

....Wow! Cute kid...is that him on your DP? Bless.
But why post pics? I thought as a matter of principle it was wrong And where are you - did they airbrush you out .

I preach marriage & family, and more expansively about flourishing societies. I live, and am happy to show my reality in that regard. If that sucks for you, go buy eggs .


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shaybebaby:
Please don't, I beg you..
"Weeping profusely"

...quit frontin' girl...we know it's not Spanish omelette you want, or pasta al dente...it's proper Nigerian bush meat . Food is ready .


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Timbuktou:
I shouldn't mention you again? . Sounds like a reverse cop out. I'm also tired of going round in circles talking about stupid hypotheticals. As usual, you bring nothing of substance to the argument and dumb done the discourse, very typical of a leftwing liberal nutcase. You people don't expect to be questioned. How very progressive. Bye bye o.

Tim, Njokusboy has well spoken. They are only good for laughs and ridicule. All pained emotion, ad-hominem and threats. They simply cannot be taken seriously. Deal with them accordingly .


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Mindfulness:
Are you still talking to the people who - in their desperation - posted their gayish bikini pictures here?

Can you take him seriously after all?

I think you have forgotten what they looked like. I can remind you.

Keep on fooling yourself - how will you ever recreate that warm feeling and giddiness you got when you clapped eyes on the picture. It had you in such a funk you had to download it. Do you sneak glances when you're alone .

Awon doofus . Scurrying from thread to thread talking about my pic. If I wasn't against poly-monikering I'd have a "TVsButts" tag just for you lots. Or maybe a "TVsButtsCrack", it takes little to get a superannuated old bag like you excited.

And as for the threats, I laugh in Arapahoe. I will post that same pic and more - shameless old hussy like you will probably explode from the excitement. But we know it's your altogether lame reverse psychology, that's exactly what you are hoping for right .

SiestaFiesta:
A happily married man trying to impress strangers online.

A "married" woman hoarding beach pix of strange men.


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^{...aren't you mad jealous of the girl in the pic?....if only you could get that close}

Timbuktou:
He wasn't what?

Only pansies report insults. Real humans hit back or ignore and move on. But please, feel free to report. Surely, you're a hypocrite if you don't report TV. He's guilty of hate crime, and we don't want him victimising someone else do we?

She hurtin' cos I was born and bred in the UK, whereas she had to marry for papers . Awa awon omo onile UK

And doubly pained because I subscribe to the principles that made this nation great, while she's striving for faux respectability by "coconutting" . Levels mate, levels .

More pix loading . Picture stealers will wet themselves .


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shaybebaby:
Hate preachers DESERVE to be locked up.

Timbuktou:
Where and how did he preach hate?

Hate, as in he doesn't agree with everything I say, say things that validate my poor choices in life, or make me feel better about my lousy situation.

Hope this helps


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^{...the girl wasn't with me 0! Just another one trying to tap current like Mindfulness}

Timbuktou:
Tell her she's got a crush on nairaland. From a safe distance, of course. Don't want my head bashed in with a rock.. . You carry eye enter market o.

5minsmadness:
I see it my brother. Those kids are what waffi call take-away Cute for days. Oyibo life good sha.

Appreciate the compliments guys. You do realise they are crushing to the spirit of our resident haters

shaybebaby:
By spamming this thread upandan with pics, what are you trying to prove to a people you despise? What IS your point?

Dunderhead...per the above, who told you they are for you


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shaybebaby:
My bad.. But na so e pain you reach?

Me pained

shaybebaby:
Hate preachers DESERVE to be locked up.
I said your wife has a lovely soul..
Gawd you were really butt hurt!

Me hurt

Don't worry, more pix on the way. Where is your pal. Some will be so hot she'll be squirming in her seat for days .


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Timbuktou:
Great family you've got there, super combo. Really happy for you. I pray your children make you proud.

I'm on a picture-downloading spree by the way.

Graciás. Married a babe to ensure the discontinuation of some of my more wor-wor genes


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shaybebaby:
Hot and bothered? More like cold and clammy.
You have to understand that with all your talk of having intellect, that was the last thing anyone would expect from a so called "intellectual" and Christian.

Pathetic attempt to obfuscate - You intentionally scuppered the convo by going full jihadi (asking for me to be locked up), then feigned requiring scholarly citations (have you ever provided a single one ). You also said I dare not show my face, so I posted family-wide pics .

Evidence of your deep-seated neuroses

shaybebaby:
If you chose someone who is happy to exchange her brain for a marriage certificate, good for the both of you.

shaybebaby:
is that your wife?
I'm sure she has a beautiful soul, so very sure.

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Timbuktou:
TV01, chai. I can almost touch the love you've got for that cutie. She's so cute I want to carry her. Good one there. But I'm still scared of having a daugter.

I'm slowly getting to grips with it - diva'ish behaviours manifest already She is being raised with the one aim in mind - to be highly accomplished and marry a man of requisite status! And God be glorified, I do have a male heir .


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shaybebaby:
Hot and bothered? More like cold and clammy.
You have to understand that with all your talk of having intellect, that was the last thing anyone would expect from a so called "intellectual" and Christian.

And stop lying, Mindy said no such thing about that any pic.

I really trample on all your insecurities don't l . All those lame excuses and rationalisations you tender for your circumstances and the fantasies you weave around your situation. Dented by the reality of TV01. We understand the hate Pele tie

@ bold
https://www.nairaland.com/3218607/why-married-women-addressed-mrs/14#47814080
https://www.nairaland.com/3218607/why-married-women-addressed-mrs/14#47814294 - quoted, so don't bother to edit


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5minsmadness:
Pls..... Pls... I can't breathe... Tears coming outta my eyes


Cute baby u got there!

TV that u man?


You guys have made my day aswear!

Of course it's me - along with my youngest. My face is not hidden on NL

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^{...in fact,having a daughter has blunted my edge somewhat...I'm not giving the errant women on here as hard a time as usual}

5minsmadness:
Oh am getting there
Started from page 14 then went back to the beginning. Currently on page 4.


The only down side is that I missed the pictures

Otherwise it's been hilarious so far

Glad you are enjoying it bro' .

No worries about the piccies, I will be back to continue the spamming spree - re-runs included . I'm sure people are interested in knowing what got Mindfulness/SisetsFiesta so hot and bothered, and left Shaybebaby so traumatised, that both of them have been running around the forum for days going on & on about it. Methinks the ladies doth protest too much

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^{...this was the one Mindfulness said made her puke...I don talk am, she never born}

Kimoni:
Thanks Thorpido. My next question would be: how much of these anatomical and chemical differences account for gender differences vs the role of cultural and historical factors. If you call it a thesis question, I'll agree with you perfectly

Hi Kim, I would think most of the difference is due to the anatomy, physiology, endocrinal and hormonal differences. It's stamped into every cell of the body, and the differences start to become apparent as early as 4 months old - noting that kids do very littler before then anyway .

It influences mood, perception, response everything, even if the difference is subtle or nuanced. Left alone men and women would naturally fall into general specifications. Indeed, even when fully liberated and given the choice, they still tend to. Ask Timbuktou, he's done the research .

I believe cultural and historical (social) factors tend to re-inforce the biological imperatives. There will be outliers, and there will always be exceptions, but generally speaking we act out norms, and true to types. I am raising a boy and a girl and the difference is clear. Even with what I always understood, I still found it quite startling.

it I would add, that in a way, that's the whole point. Human beings are sexually dimorphous for a reason. Naturally, men and women come together to bond and form families. The differences are perfectly complimentary. "Male and female made He them".

How far?

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njokusboy:
@ TV01, you are a smart fella, lovely family, beautiful wife, beUtiful child....


However, I am of the opinion that you are wasting your intelligence on those ladies up there....
They aint worth it.....

Thanks bro', for the compliments and the advice. You are actually spot on, I just hope others can see the points made like you can. Having said that, I will discomfort them both a little more before "pegging" them. Time will see if they are able to rise above it .

Mutaino7:
As in i had to step over corpses along the way from page 1 to 17... Nah now we know who go school and who learn something.. Some people get first class but cannot defend the G.P

It can be quite painful can't it


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5minsmadness:
This issue of married women keeping male friends is one of deep concern to me. Since the advent of smartphones, facebook, whatsapp etc, the number of married women that engage in intimate conversations with men that are not thier husbands is alarming.

Sometimes it might just be innocent fun, the woman might just be looking for a little benign excitement, but we all know how women are and how they can be moved by words and material things. How can this be curbed? Should it be curbed?

Even we as men have a lot of attention we receive from female folk online. Even when we tell them we are engaged or even married, the attention and sometimes sexual innuendos keep pouring in. But for us guys we might feel it's all right. We are men and it takes a lot for us to fall in love which is the danger we forsee in women. But as men we get tempted too and start to indulge in the attention we get from our online vixens and ours often lead to the point where before you know it nude pictures and vulgar jokes are exchanged. Should we feel vindicated because it's a man's world? If you @op feel bad that someone is calling your wife so frequently, can u imagine how she feels if someone is doing same with you? What will she find if she looks through your phone, your whatsapp? Is it fair on her?


Inasmuch as you should take action concerning this matter, try and make sure you yourself are clean.

Cc tv01, pls I'd like your input cos am having a similar issue though I believe I have resolved it the best way I know how.
*hides shovel*

If you are talking about the OP', if the backstory as revealed by keepingmum is true, there may be deeper issues. Based on the OP only, the 2 options are to "have it out", or to monitor some more in the first instance. But at some point it will have to be addressed.

If it's about comms with people - particularly of the opposite sex - I would simply say mostly don't do it. Any interaction should be circumspect and very public, if it must be offline, there has to be a very good reason. I'd give known single-mums, divorcees etc. short shrift, but be more receptive to married women I knew were committed to their homes

Having said that, it's probably a slightly different protocol if both are unmarried. Either way though, you have a point, I think women have a greater tendency to romanticise interactions, although this can be driven by an individuals situation as well.

Personally I don't. I wouldn't anyway, and especially not with the new crop of NLanders. I've physically met two people from NL and due to NL in my over 10 years here. One a male I met up with when I visited Lagos, and the other a female who I met with her husband when they came to London on honeymoon.

A few people have tried to contact me offline. I only felt comfortable entering into dialogue with 2. One, female, was about very specific marital advice, which ended when I had said my piece. The other, male, was more ongoing but patchy, and has been dormant for a while. I've also made a few coaching contacts, which for me is professional interaction.


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shaybebaby:
is that your wife?
I'm sure she has a beautiful soul, so very sure.

Your surety is not required. A man of understanding marries with high expectations

SiestaFiesta:
Clap for yourself.

...off to clap this....g'night

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shaybebaby:
The beauty about having Mindy's mindset is that she neither cares nor needs my cheerleading nor validation from anyone else. Same here, what is being done is acknowledging excellence on my part and I can, it neither enhances my wellbeing nor diminishes it, same with her, same with anyone else who is in touch with their inner selves.

...no cheerleading during play. Are you a learner .


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SiestaFiesta:
Because you say so?

What kind of mo.ron exposes his family like this?

One that married with a pure heart, heartfelt commitment and sacrificial love. Come, the husband you purloined during the night, se you can't reveal him during the day?

See bride...chei!


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shaybebaby:
Cry baby made spanish omelette, thank you very much..

...quit frontin' girl , we all know what you really crave is Nigerian bush meat


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SiestaFiesta:
A happily married man trying to impress strangers online.

...don't hate show us your "blended" family na

Wifey and daughter...shik and side shik


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SiestaFiesta:
And that's why you actually took your time and made the effort to type it for us. It makes perfect sense.

I recommend some brain workout.

...Nephew, niece, niece-in law...as a rascist I must be having a terribly difficult time at family gatherings

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SiestaFiesta:
https://67.media.tumblr.com/0dfc3878b1467cb8fba65b653c0f97d1/tumblr_n4robsdeUN1ssvjtqo1_400.gif

...you know, you are right, I am soooo slow. You want to see more pics abi? . I'm coming, superimposing my reality on yours must be kinda therapeutic .


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SiestaFiesta:
Are you TV's lawyer now?

He doesn't have to be. He simply knows me well enough to appreciate I would never seek recourse to the mods. I respond, I refrain, or I retire. And what is your own anyway? After all, you have a self-declared cheerleader, who is only serving to make you look bad .

SiestaFiesta:
Don't tell me you actually read it all?

Actually, that would impress even me. Not sure how I ever expected comprehension as well, let alone a cogent response

SiestaFiesta:
For the first time for what feels like a century, you have managed to have a good idea.
This is what we should actually do some day.
[img]http:///media/10-26-2015/moI3Sd.gif[/img]

My understanding is to enter a talent show actually demands some talent. You can watch me from home

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SiestaFiesta:
You are very slow, very very very very very slow.

You still have not noticed that I have stopped reading your epistles if they are longer than 5 lines. I have limited my attention span to ignorance to five lines. Who knows? It may be damaging to the brightest of brains.

Having said that, let us see what nonsense you have fabricated in your write-up - or shall I say the first paragraph?

@bold

And what made you think that I care how "we will never see you beyond what you contribute here"?
You have not yet noticed that how 'we' see me is as important as a fart released in Indonesia yesterday.

While Crybaby is making the pasta, why don't you prepare the sauce - trying to overcome your natural limitations must be a strain. .

If you can respond cogently to just point 1. above, and not resort to any of your 3 strategems, I will de-activate this night grin

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shaybebaby:
This. I don't want excerpts of the Quran, rather scholarly opinion which isn't lead by religious fervour, wholly objective discourse about Islam.

That is my scholarly opinion . Nothing religious about it, it's a simple stating of facts. Or have the attacks from 9/11 onward escaped your attention. Did you miss the wide-scale sex enslavement of girls from barely pubescent age in Yorkshire? Are you unaware of the sharia courts operating in parallel with the judicial system here? Or ignorant of vigilante activity by men imposing sharia on in some British areas? Perhaps you are really in Agege , in which case Boko Haram may resonate. Or perhaps Al-Shabab if you are studiously pan-African.

We know the form discourse takes here, and no one demands "academic opinion" or scholarly citations". Indeed none are generally required. Anything can be fact checked or challenged, and we bring what we know to bear. It's how I caught your oga magicking numbers from thin air

Anyway, I've listed an number of your strategems previously. Devoid of any insight or real understanding and bereft of anything but canned answers, you can never really muster a cogent response to anything that even resembles a searching question. You have absoutely nothing. See your pathetic attempts to justify reneging on vows. Abeg, return to cheerleading and kneading the dough for your home made pasta. .


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shaybebaby:
Sauce please
Now we are all aware of your stance, again I'm asking you to back up your arguments with well referenced sources. Abi you no go School? If you did, you must have failed. This is poor.

Like l said, no expectations, l knew you wouldn't disappoint. l expect no better from your oga. Was there anything specific you needed cited?

[b]1.
Islam as a socio-political & religious creed is totalitarian, expansionist, racist and supremacist. Any other creed, ideology or, mode of governance which does not readily submit will ultimately be warred against.

Islam demands an imposition of sharia law and fealty to the recognised caliphate. All muslims do not have to be fanatics. The creed itself is fanatical. A few simply have to follow it to it's logical course - via it's scriptures or historical trajectory. Any muslim who does not deep down ascribe and desire sharia is actually an apostate. Ask your friends amongst them .

We've seen that in the West. In NY, London, Paris, Brussels, Orlando. It's real in Nigeria, Kenya, and other African countries with no hint of Western involvement.

We see it in open terrorist acts, sexual enslavement of young non-moslem women, infiltrating the educational system and the imposition of a parallel court systems, and vigilante activity on our streets. Be blind to all of this if you choose and concern yourself with Islamophobia. Has one person been harmed - in the West at least - as a result of any of this?[/b]

2.
Women are not as emotionally capable, or as well equipped as men when it comes to leadership - especially leadership under stress. It's down to basic biology and wiring. I can't offer you any succour if that reality does not sit easily with you cheesy. Take a straw poll of men the majority will agree. Indeed, most in relationships will experience all the time Likewise women. Indeed, most women secretly dread or hate having female bosses. And they hate being with men who cannot lead. And I don't mena in choosing soft furnishings 0 !

Does that mean women should not be given opportunity? Or that a some may be able to make the breakthrough? No. Men are just naturally and relatively better, and better equippped. No vex huh .

3.
Racism. The bible, nor I, see men as anything other than descendants of Adam. One blood - Acts 7. I never post or posit based on the construct called race. Personally, I was nannied with a white family soon after birth, I have had more relationships with non-blacks, and I have a number - i.e. many white relatives - by marriage and by blood. Anyway, you have but 3 strategems, lies, ad-hominem, or diversion. And atimes you artfully meld 2 or more. We see you wink

4.
That's your gig - every question challenging gender dynamics, morality, religion, events, or politics in Europe is met by your stock response, no light in Nigeria, ergo whatever obtains in the West is better grin. Your self-loathing (of your black heritage), and clumsy efforts to distance yourself, or outrightly reject it are legendary. It's why you find such a ready ally in Crybaby .


There are many of you on this board - jonzing for validation & medals . Claiming fine, educated, exposed, enlightened. Usually claiming educated when they are not fine , or enlightened when they've made a hash of their personal lives.

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shaybebaby:
TV01, come back nah. This was just getting really interesting.

Back. I've posted here. Error posting which took a while to correct in-between chores. I have no expectations of a cogent response from either you or your hero

https://www.nairaland.com/3218607/why-married-women-addressed-mrs/14#47820720



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SiestaFiesta
Shaybebaby
Mindfulness

SiestaFiesta:
I was and I have had the pleasure to live in several countries; quality education and exposure combined.

Bolade005, come and see another "jonzer" 0. No matter what, or how you style you've educational background or achievements, we will never see you beyond what you contribute here. And too be honest, it's mostly low-grade canned ideology, with a mish-mash religiosity which basically says "do whatever makes you feel happy".

You've been repeatedly exposed as an inveterate liar, amoral and singularly devoid of an original thought or ability to think tangentially. In fact, revealing more of the "real you" off NL will only confirm what I've written, hence your being so tight-lipped, and hateful of those who are happy to present their reality

SiestaFiesta:
They should thank me for sharing it with them instead they come here to embarrass themselves through their lack of knowledge and their over-simplified thinking in categories such as black and white. Are their brains not capable of processing complex realities?

Lack of knowledge , complex realities . Right;
Like Germany welcoming millions of refugees whose religion and culture are at best inimical to their host' culture and traditions
Like the dream of anyone being able to settle anywhere, at anytime and do anything is not absurdly reductionist?
Like actualising that will not require jihadi-type action - like Hillary Clinton' as previously posted - to achieve?

SiestaFiesta:
All Muslims are fanatics. All women are emotionally incapable. All whites are racist. All Africans are poor.

1.
Islam as a socio-political & religious creed is totalitarian, expansionist and supremacist. Any other creed, ideology or, mode of governance which does not readily submit will ultimately be warred against.

Islam demands an imposition of sharia law and fealty to the recognised caliphate. All muslims do not have to be fanatics. The creed itself is fanatical. A few simply have to follow it to it's logical course - via it's scriptures or historical trajectory. Any muslim who does not deep down ascribe and desire sharia is actually an apostate. Ask your friends amongst them .

We've seen that in the West. In NY, London, Paris, Brussels, Orlando. It's real in Nigeria, Kenya, and other African countries with no hint of Western involvement.

We see it in open terrorist acts, sexual enslavement of young non-moslem women, infiltrating the educational system and the imposition of a parallel court systems, and vigilante activity on our streets. Be blind to all of this if you choose and concern yourself with Islamophobia. Has one person been harmed - in the West at least - as a result of any of this?

2.
Women are not as emotionally capable, or as well equipped as men when it comes to leadership - especially leadership under stress. It's down to basic biology and wiring. I can't offer you any succour if that reality does not sit easily with you . Take a straw poll of men the majority will agree. Indeed, most in relationships will experience all the time Likewise women. Indeed, most women secretly dread or hate having female bosses. And they hate being with men who cannot lead. And IO donlt mena in choosing soft furnishings 0 !

Does that mean women should not be given opportunity? Or that a some may be able to make the breakthrough? No. Men are just naturally and relatively better, and better equippped. No vex huh .

3.
Racism. The bible, nor I, see men as anything other than descendants of Adam. One blood - Acts 7. I never post or posit based on the construct called race. Personally, I was nannied with a white family soon after birth, I have had more relationships with non-blacks, and I have a number - i.e. many white relatives - by marriage and by blood. Anyway, you have but 3 strategems, lies, ad-hominem, or diversion. And atimes you artfully meld 2 or more. We see you

4.
That's your gig - every question challenging gender dynamics, morality, religion, events, or politics in Europe is met by your stock response, no light in Nigeria, ergo whatever obtains in the West is better . Your self-loathing (of your black heritage), and clumsy efforts to distance yourself, or outrightly reject it are legendary. It's why you find such a ready ally in Crybaby .


There are many of you on this board - jonzing for medals . Claiming fine, educated, exposed, enlightened. Usually claiming educated when they are not fine , or enlightened when they've made a hash of their personal lives.

Your response - as I've noted quite frequently - lack real nuance, and often don't even directly address questions. A subscription to Bild and watching the late night news doesn't make you a political analyst or foreign affairs expert. The less said about your grasp of scripture the better .


If you can respond cogently to just point 1. above, and not resort to any of your 3 strategems, I will de-activate this night


Ma ruggedies, ekú weekend. We'll speak during the week if not before


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SiestaFiesta:
They have just taken in millions of destitute war refugees.

Matthew 25:35-40

35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

And they did this because the bible said so, or due to their population deficit .
Or was it due to their failure to fulfill the first commandment "go forth and multiply", or because they are an ageing nation

SiestaFiesta:
Have you watched CNN or BBC tonight?

The people in Munich opened their doors to people who got stranded after the KILLING SPREE - not a Muslim terrorist attack - because streets were locked up and public transport stopped working even though the police at that time were still thinking that there was more than one perpetrator.

Could you do it at the risk that one of these perpetrators would enter your home?

Of course not, you would be directed by fear and not by faith. Hypocrite!

You know not what I can do, or have done. Fish away
And the 84+ in Nice? And those axe-attacked by the Afghan (housed by a German family)?


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