Romance › Re: I Love My Nigerian Men! by Uche2nna(m): 5:31pm On May 31, 2008 |
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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Iice Can I Meet You? by Uche2nna(m): 5:01pm On May 31, 2008 |
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Travel › Re: What Do You Think Of White Foreigners? by Uche2nna(m): 4:59pm On May 31, 2008 |
amber_ella: Well, I have a bit of German in me, so on behalf of my fellow whities, I'd like to apologise to you.
Growing up, I thought that racism was a thing of the past. Here in Canada, it's not socially acceptable to make racist comments. We're taught that everyone is equal and that skin color is just that - pigment. However, once I started dating my African husband, it became apparent to me how stupid and ignorant some of my fellow countrymen and women still are. They won't come out and say it but it's totally still here. Very shameful and disappointing. Yeah!!!!! I understand. They would be giving that look that says "Whatchu doing, amber!!!"?  |
Romance › Re: I Love My Nigerian Men! by Uche2nna(m): 4:56pm On May 31, 2008 |
HR.hotness: I'm done with men. . .
Love Slaves will do from now on  If I have told once, then I have told U twice. RELOCATE  |
Travel › Re: What Do You Think Of White Foreigners? by Uche2nna(m): 2:10am On May 31, 2008 |
amber_ella: I'm curious to know what you think of white foreigners living in Nigeria? Honesty is allowed here. Do you make any assumptions when you see a young white woman? Some people tell me white foreigners are treated better than some locals. Others seem to have negative stereotypes (ie: white women or westerners don't have strong family values, do not respect their parents, sleep around, etc.) Or do you simply not care and treat them the same way you would treat anyone else. Are there many white people living in your area?
Thank you. I dont if that is a general trend but , in all honesty, the white guys that I know back home were treated much better than the locals. I dont mean just caucasians. I remenber the Indian guy that taught at my sister's secondary school. He virtually had an office to himself. |
Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Iice Can I Meet You? by Uche2nna(m): 2:07am On May 31, 2008 |
Oh, Ikamefa. Crush on Maxell, eh ?  |
Romance › Re: Where Did You Meet Your Fiance, Fiancee,girlfriend,wife,boyfriends, : by Uche2nna(m): 2:05am On May 31, 2008 |
Rebellious: @4 Her, is Uche cute? Answer is an emphatic no. |
Romance › Re: Where Did You Meet Your Fiance, Fiancee,girlfriend,wife,boyfriends, : by Uche2nna(m): 1:58am On May 31, 2008 |
Under the mango tree |
Politics › Re: 'My Power Project Story' By Olusegun Obasanjo by Uche2nna(m): 7:27pm On May 30, 2008 |
debosky: OBJ may have wasted an opportunity no doubt, but if we REMAIN in those 8 years or don't take stock with a view to moving forward, we are wasting even MORE time now. I am not making any excuses for OBJ - he tried a number of strategies, many failed and he was beginning to get somewhere with the NIPP, even with its flaws. What I ask is that WHILE we are still 'probing' (knowing what has come of such in Nigeria in the past) we should also maintain what is on ground and move forward. I still maintain he has laid a solid foundation that, if built upon will create dividends almost IMMEDIATELY, is that not the desire of people? I don't deny his planning is necessary, but not to the detriment of things happening in other areas. I agree with U on that count. In as much as I advocate for the probing of not only Obj but any other thief that has come across Federal money, I would not want the governace of the country to be on recess cos of the probings. My stand is dat we can always do both,,,,, Keep building Keep probing |
Business › Re: 1st Online Dvd Rental Store Premiers In Nigeria by Uche2nna(m): 7:23pm On May 30, 2008 |
Are they going to be using NIPOST  |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Blame It On Congress: Not Bush by Uche2nna(m): 7:21pm On May 30, 2008 |
4 Play: In my view,the reason why there is so much kerfuffle over Iraq is that for the first time in decades,Westerners (in the form of US troops)are also losing their lives.Saddam's Anfal campaign didn't make headlines because no single American died in it To be honest, thats the reason most Americans would throw at You when the Iraqi war comes up. |
Family › Re: Nigerian Men Spending Time Away From Their Families by Uche2nna(m): 6:37pm On May 30, 2008 |
amber_ella: I want anonymous responses because I don't want to offend anyone. I can't go to my inlaws and say "you people seem so materialistic, putting money before the family"!! How rude and disrespectful would that be?! I don't even feel comfortable to ask a friend my age. LMAO.  Maybe I am naive but I want to believe there are more tactful ways to say these things  |
Family › Re: Nigerian Men Spending Time Away From Their Families by Uche2nna(m): 6:28pm On May 30, 2008 |
amber_ella: For that reason, if I want to understand my husband and his family, I should go to his people for answers, no? Yeah, but wont it be much better and probably more productive if U talk to the parents of ur spouse. Parents of spouses in Nigeria most of the time help out in cases like this. People frown at divorces back home so the parent s would try all they can to reduce the strains in the marriages of thier kids. And since U said U are very close and friendly with them, I wan to believe they would be a better resource to tap into than coming opn a public forum where there are diverse opinions, motives and upbringing. |
Family › Re: Nigerian Men Spending Time Away From Their Families by Uche2nna(m): 6:07pm On May 30, 2008 |
On a lighter note,
Yeah, I agree that culture is always in a state of flux but it is more deeper and far more steadier than a trend.
Anyway, back to the topic of Men leaving thier families. Hope U get more helpful responses. |
Family › Re: Nigerian Men Spending Time Away From Their Families by Uche2nna(m): 6:04pm On May 30, 2008 |
amber_ella: However, you failed to address my question. I am not here to talk about anal sex or to complain about my husband. I am simply interested in talking to men who work away from home, or women whose husbands work away from home, to hear their point of view. If this statement was made without a reference to culture , then I would have held my peace.However, making it a Nigerian/African thing kind of got me hot under the collar. Sorry, if I came out too strong there. Nothing personal. |
Family › Re: Nigerian Men Spending Time Away From Their Families by Uche2nna(m): 5:44pm On May 30, 2008 |
A thread like this was opened by Leilah and because of her record of tying everything down to culture I was a little bit harsh with my response. Now I am in the danger of repeating maself,,,,,,,,,, Whenever I hear a white woman trying to use culture to understand everything that goes on in thier marriage with our Naija brothers, it irritates me. Cos I know the so- called culture (of at least the Igbos) is the very opposite whatever is being advocated here. A little dig into the family structure of the Africans would show that it always consists of not only the dad, the mom but also extended family members. That is our culture. We even have a popular saying that goes this way "One person is not sufficient to raise a child". That accentuates the importance of the extended family viz a vis the whole community in the issue of raising a child. I remenber being disciplined not only by my parents but also by uncles and aunts. That is culture for U right there. Culturally, most Africans practice the extended family system rather than the nuclear family system. Now what U guys like to call culture are actually trends. And this is driven by a whole array of factors ranging from financial to academic pursuits. And these trends are not restricted to the Nigerian man alone. Part of the problem here is that most of ur Nigerian spouses dont actually take the time to educate U guys about what our culture is really like and that might be the reason why trends and fads like anal sex and patronising clubs would be classified as a Nigerian culture  I have dated a couple of white girls and I always make it a point of duty to teach them a little bit of what it is like to be an Igbo man. Most of them grudgingly end up watching some Nigerian home movies with me. They always thank me later  |
Politics › Re: Soludo: The Face Of A Thief? by Uche2nna(m): 4:10pm On May 30, 2008 |
landis: clever.
Abacha did not loot any money, he just paid them to certain places.
IBB did not loot any money, he just paid them to certain places
OBJ did not loot any money, he just paid them to cerian places

I love Nigeria
 Very soon Yar ' Adua would be also paying some lump to certain places and there would be people in place to defend him. Forgive my asking , how can one spend $17 million dollars on consultancy and travelling expenses. Was he going to the Moon?  Maybe its because I am a poor guy, but sometimes the amount of money being droppoed by these officials makes me wanna go bonkers. See, I dont care if U have ur positives or negatives. If U are a thief , U are a thief and should be treated as such. I dont care what positives Soludo brought. It is part of the job as a CBN governor. He did not do it for free. He was paid for doing his job. However, his job does not include looting the Federal Govt of Nigeria. Hoping that the source of this piece of News is not suspect. |
Culture › Re: Original Hausa Names by Uche2nna(m): 2:33pm On May 30, 2008 |
Amina ---- I dont know if thats borrowed or not but that name brings back some memories  Balarabe |
Romance › Re: Anonymous by Uche2nna(m): 2:29pm On May 30, 2008 |
buzyDiva: Some Ugliness are UNLOVEABLE o . . big time. Thats why there is the option of reconstitutive surgery. The guy get money, so whats the problem  |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Boycott South Africa! Boycott Dstv, Mtn Etc! See What They Did To Your Brothers! by Uche2nna(m): 2:28pm On May 30, 2008 |
Well, Mpele actually started with an apology and then gradually shed his skin  |
Christianity Etc › Re: Vatican: Excommunication For Female Priests by Uche2nna(m): 2:23pm On May 30, 2008 |
@ huxley Ur dilly dallying is reaching astronomical proportions  |
Politics › Re: 'My Power Project Story' By Olusegun Obasanjo by Uche2nna(m): 11:44pm On May 29, 2008 |
naijaking1: This game of "buck-passing" will not give power to Nigeria. I am so disappointed that you have resorted to blaming Yardua and his associates for 'sensationalizing' this report. You have also forgotten that OBJ personally, handily, and willfully picked an unwilling Yardua to succeed him in office.  |
Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: What Do Ladies Really Want? by Uche2nna(m): 9:53pm On May 29, 2008 |
Fact is that it is always better to date someone within ur financial class. I always know if a girl is "high maintenace". And my heels do all the talking when I meet such  |
Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Need A Woman For Marriage by Uche2nna(m): 9:34pm On May 29, 2008 |
U dey bleach oooo U dey bleach.
Yellow fever , U dey bleach ooooo U dey bleach ,
Yeye thing , U dey bleach ooooo U dey bleach.
Who steal my bleaching? My fine fine bleaching. I buy am for shopping ,,,,,, |
Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Crush On Hkhi: Him by Uche2nna(m): 9:31pm On May 29, 2008 |
lol |
Culture › Re: Cultural Misunderstandings by Uche2nna(m): 6:06pm On May 29, 2008 |
The Americans would ask U "Are U Okay?". That usually pisses me off!!! Someone falls flat on his face and U asking him if his Ok?  Me I always volunteer the good ol' sorry  |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Boycott South Africa! Boycott Dstv, Mtn Etc! See What They Did To Your Brothers! by Uche2nna(m): 6:03pm On May 29, 2008 |
@ Kobo
We all know about Nigeria and its problems. Hell, I am a Nigerian .
However, if a problem arises in SA that requires the attention of the Government , I would not expect them to convene a conference to settle our own problems at home first before reacihng out to those in SA. The situation in SA hopefully has not taken the turn for the worse but if it does the Nigerian Government would be stupid to keep their mouth shut just because we have our own internal problems.
My point about the immigration stuff is that people would always migrate in search of greener pastures. You can't say there is no point evacuating people facing troubled times just because You think they would swim back when things become much calmer. |
Culture › Re: Why Are Nigerians So Abusive And Insulting? by Uche2nna(m): 5:53pm On May 29, 2008 |
Ok ooo I just found ur posts about those outburst hilarious  |
Politics › Re: 'My Power Project Story' By Olusegun Obasanjo by Uche2nna(m): 5:50pm On May 29, 2008 |
debosky: Granted there were some managerial and planning deficiencies in the OBJ NIPP implementation and conceptualization, and those should be corrected forthwith Ok. debosky: To fyneguy claiming the power projects were 'white elephant' projects
People are making this all about OBJ and his persona - it is NOT. Yes the buck stopped at his table, what we need is an OBJECTIVE and rational assessment of what he spent, how he spent it and what it achieved - not political point scoring by engaging in the new national past time 'Obj bashing'. I believe the cronies of Obj are actually the ones taking it personal. Someone even told me that I should mind how I post cos Obj is somebody's father  |
Culture › Re: Why Are Nigerians So Abusive And Insulting? by Uche2nna(m): 5:29pm On May 29, 2008 |
Just curious, Is it a Nigerian dominated community? How do U know they are all Nigerians? Most Africans are black , U know and there are also black people living in America  And how come U are always in the midst of these so-called Nigerians  |
Foreign Affairs › Re: Boycott South Africa! Boycott Dstv, Mtn Etc! See What They Did To Your Brothers! by Uche2nna(m): 5:27pm On May 29, 2008 |
Kobojunkie: Now that is the best question anyone has asked in so many pages of posts. We are quick to castigate those outside of our own shores for doing what we do within but at the end of the day, these people are more likely to move back to SA as soon as the situation dies down. We have Jews still living in Germany and Germans living in America. Nigeria had a very brutal civil war yet the Igbos still found a way to be scattered all over Nigeria. So whats ur point?  |
Culture › Re: Why Are Nigerians So Abusive And Insulting? by Uche2nna(m): 5:22pm On May 29, 2008 |
gabrywyl: Maybe the little ones are not rude because theres the eldest there but I think the middle age Nigeriens can be alittle over the top at times.
Like today, a guy called me ugly like the devil and called me bitch and I did not call him anything to begin with and when another Nigerian guy ask him what is his problem, he told the guy to kiss his black ass,  gabrywyl: Maybe the little ones are not rude because theres the eldest there but I think the middle age Nigeriens can be alittle over the top at times.
Like today, a guy called me ugly like the devil and called me bitch and I did not call him anything to begin with and when another Nigerian guy ask him what is his problem, he told the guy to kiss his black ass, 
And like the other day, another guy called me a Malaysian Slut and not worth for a Nigerian guy since I did not talk to this guy at all also to begin with gabrywyl: Maybe the little ones are not rude because theres the eldest there but I think the middle age Nigeriens can be alittle over the top at times.
Like today, a guy called me ugly like the devil and called me bitch and I did not call him anything to begin with and when another Nigerian guy ask him what is his problem, he told the guy to kiss his black ass, 
And last week, another person called me a LovePeddler pretending to be a virgin. He just snap out and everyone thought he had his period or something,
Now thats what I call Plain Rude, (Sorry, I don't and never would saybad words or to swear but just to give examples. So excuse me for this time. Thank you) LMAO  It seems You are in the midst of some very pissed off Nigerians. Where exactly do You live again?  |