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Your video was so hilarious! Your nice really got you, she almost turned you into a white ghost. I so much love the bond, and the memories you're creating with her. You really made me laughed this morning. All the best and thanks for sharing.

Wow! Wonderful. I just ate breadfruit, and it was really good. This evening was my first time of eating it. Thanks for the wonderful piece you wrote here, you've even given me a medical reasons to be going for it.

Let's go there!

poshestmina:
Useless criminal.

You see them on Instagram with motivational captions
" I started my poultry with 1 feather ",
" I started my multinational restaurant with 1 spoon of garri"
" I started my clothing line with a broken needle and thread"


you start putting pressure on yourself and regretting your existence .

I kukuma trust FBI

I beg, I never chop oh! No kill me with laughter! I love how you pass your message with humor.

You're doing perfectly well. No matter what you do! Not everyone will ever like you. Sometimes is best to be on your own than letting negative people into your personal space, they are toxic already, don't stoop to their level.

You should be glad that they even showed you who they truly are, imagine if you have gone too deep with them thinking that they have your best interest at heart!

Since you're sharing a house just try and manage them, such people are everywhere.

Hmmm!
What is worse than the person you supposedly love killing you inhumanly?

I don't advocate for separation in marriages, but in this case I will gladly support this man instead of him killing his wife and destroying himself in the process.

Marriage is not a do or die affair.
If you don't love someone, there is no need in getting into marriage with such an individual!

Mary the person who is already what you want, and not what you want him to become.

The biggest lie, is to believe that
you can change anybody. If people change it's because they want to.

Kalatium:
Ok great advice
I will try that after the lockdown

That's great!
She needs you more than you can imagine. Don't forget, she's not staying with her parents any more!
It could be possible that she has now substituted you as someone she can confides in, maybe like a parent or an elder brother. It's an opportunity for you to be a positive influence to her, so please take it!

As humans, we constantly need the support and love of adults around us. That my friend becomes a scares commodity if a child is parted from her love ones at an early age into child labour where most girl are physically, verbally, emotionally abused by the madam of the house, even sometimes sexually abuse by the oga or male member of the family. So thank you for agreeing to help her the best way possible!

thorpido:
Is this a gay story?

Same question I wanted to ask! It must be a gay shrine. Or is the OP confused about his/her sexuality?

OP forgot to edit the story from where he copied it from. Is this how low you can stoop for cheap like and nairaland front page?

does trying to befriend a rich unmarried man makes you a Golddigger?

Nope!
It doesn't, it's the intent of your heart that makes you one.

Let me help with a little definition: a golddigger, " is a woman who forms relationships with men purely to obtain money or gifts from them."

If you want him for his money, then I'm sorry! You are a golddigger!

GarfieldDenny:
In fact, women's nagging is a unique way to express intimacy.

OP! If you believe that nagging is an expression of intimacy to you, who I'm to say otherwise It's your life.

As for me, that's not how intimacy should be expressed. I love peace of mind more that anything, and I'd rather remain single, than have that taken away from me by a nagging wife!

Nagging is very toxic to any healthy relationship. What happened to clear communication? Nagging will only put your partner on the defensive.

She sees you as someone she can run to for refuge, a pillar, a teacher or mentor, and you see her as a very weird girl.

If I were you, I will boost her confidence.

About her age, I was always scared of going out at night because I thought the moon was always chasing me. An adult explained to me that the moon is actually my friend and not an enemy and since then I changed my perception about it.

Why don't you see yourself as the little girl sees you? Impart her positively in your own little way and don't be part of her already complicated childhood.

Take heart!
If you think sucide is the way out, then think again.

Killing yourself through painful or not so painful means is not the way out of misery.

Don't just think about yourself here, how about those you will be living behind, those that genuinely love you?

You are at your weakest moment, but death is not the solution.

You may not be where you ought to be at the moment from your own estimate, but that doesn't mean you should kill yourself.

Find a reason to be happy, find someone to love. Find something meaningful and get involve.

Find something that gives you sence of fulfillment and keep doing it. A change is going to come to you.

Try exercising yourself regularly like running or any other form of exercise that you love, it helps a lot against depression.

Try listening to music, and learning new songs or how to dance. Just do anything that distract you from your normal negative pattern of thought.

Stay alive! God loves you!
Please search for Joel Osteen material either on YouTube or anywhere else.

LawBreaker:
Is it a good idea to take a child to a motherless babies home to raise the child for you and when she is of age, you will come and take the child.

It's no a bad idea, if that is the best available option.

Why do I feel bad reading this? Please:
1. how old is this baby?
2. Where is the mother?
3. Where are the grand parents (your mum or sisters)?

I heard on a radio some days ago of a man that 'forcefully took a 2 months old baby from the nursing mother, and kicked her out', depriving the baby of her mothers care at that early stage in life.

Well I don't know your story so I won't judge, but I sincerely hope you are not that man, if you are please return that baby to the mother, and learn how to be a loving father.

My Niece is almost 20 years now, her mum died while given birth to her. She was cared for by her grand mother and everything is fine with her, it was when she was about five that she went and stay with her father and her elder sisters.

Today we are all glad she's doing well in life, and she is also doing excellently well in her studies too.

I am surprised you want to take you child to the ophanage, why? because the kind of society we have in Nigeria is the type that shows togetherness!

That they are also human, just like men. I know that they are not perfect however educated they are, I guess that's what makes them human.

Coldie:
Benue is north last time I checked

Please educate me, I'm aware of it been part of the middle belt but of it been a northern state and own by Fulani that I don't know.

Kdon2:
They should go else where now! Na by force? So If you have a tenant you can't evict them?. Is it their property?

I don't have problem with them moving for the sake of peace, what I have problem with is you suggesting that they should move to other states suck as Benue and Niger. Have you not been hearing about the killing in Benue state?
You should be demanding for a permanent solution instead of issuing such a statement. Oh! I get, it's okay for Fulani to kill other people, so long as you and your people is not touched in anyway it's okay by you.

Coldie:
But the north is like 2times the size of the south, why can't these people stay in the north.

Kogi state is close to Delta, even Niger state and Benue and they have large land mass why can't they relocate there?

Or If possible relocate to ondo or oyo state they have a very large land mass that's fertile with lots of grasses.

And why should they relocate to those states you mentioned, is that where they came from? Indirectly you support killings in Benue, that's why you want them to move over there right?

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I also thought babies came out from the buttocks because that was what my mum told me! [/quote]hahaha

Sorry OP!
The way your sister is been treated by you mum was same way I was treated by my parents, but in my own case I'm the last born (youngest child). All the same sorry for you pain.

Queenttoast01:
Thank you
But none of this happens to me
I prayed and I will pray again too
I pray I get covered too

It's okay. I wish you all the best, please as you pray also believe just as you've said.

Dreams
Watch it Mrs. Dreams can be heavily influenced by your daily occurrences and thoughts. If you've been having issues with him or been around someone having issues with their husbands and internalized it, then it's normal for your brain to play it back to you in a subconscious state in form of dreams. While in school I remember how I do dream of thermodynamics and engineering mathematics problems I couldn't solve before sleeping in my dreams.
Don't quick to say what will destroy what you have. If you have issues with him then have that resolve. What I do personally when I dream is to pray and believe that God got me covered.

Haha
As unbelievable as it may sound, non of those was used on me by my parents growing up. Dad only pull my chin when I'm the wrong other that that it's usually a lengthy lecture on why you shouldn't do what you've done. When I have children of my own they will be no need of such tools on them as a correction means too.

Hmmmmm
This is seriously seriouse!
You ran with the wrong crowd, and now you've turned a new leave, for that I say congratulations.
You're remorseful! And that's okay too! You have started a new journey, people will constantly judge and remind you of your pass.
So, you need to be strong. For your family forgiveness and your children I'm not going to say it will be easy but you have to be positive and never give up hope.
Genuinely fight for your children and forgiveness from those you've offended they may come around and forgive you and even if they don't, know that you'd tried your best. You're only 31 years old, and have so much to live for so please don't live the rest of your life regretting the past because that will deny you the joy and happiness tomorrow has to offer. Good luck and may God see you through your hard times.

Why are you tolerating such an abuse? It's already messing you up psychologically. Speak up, or are you waiting for him to kill you first, and for what exactly to be called the nicest guy killed by his cousin? Stop been a willing victim, stand up and defend yourself the best way possible.

Oops!
you're married to a fraudster, The reason why he is using poor English to communicate is to sieve out his targets. His not interested in those who are highly educated because those ones would see right through him and report his activities, but the less educated ones are easy to manipulate that is why he is communicating poorly with them. His choice of words is intentional. I'm sure you've heard of romance scam, Nigeria prince Scam, email compromise scam etc? you have to be careful with him while you decide on what to do.

OP sorry for what you're going through with your mum, but I must tell you this. Your mum is a perfectionist and they are the hardest people to try and please. Such people hardly appreciate their own achievement, they hardly accept compliment and the set target so high that they can't even attained.
You love your mum and her approval means so much to you, and that's okay but its the easiest way to living a frustrated life.
Today it's your mum, but tomorrow it's going to be someone else i.e wife/husband, boss etc
Do what is right and move on.

Set your priorities right. Do what you can, things that are right for anybody not just your mum and be happy that you've met a need and not to seek approval/appreciations/compliment in return for your effort.
your mum may be treating you the same way she was treated by her own parents, she may not her liked it then but unfortunately that's the only way she knows how to deal with you.

She loves you and she just wish you're perfect which is an impossible wish for anyone. Its all up to you to come to the realization that no matter what you do not everyone will appreciate you and your mum is no exception because she is dealing with herself and not you, the earlier you realize this the better for you.

Ok! I've heard you.

I don't know what to say, but on behalf of all good men let men say sorry for the hurt. I feel hurt right now too, because my phone just got stolen and my account is super red! but I will still say sorry. Do go for check to see if you're free of all forms of infections. Forgive yourself it's not your fault.

Oops! your husband is a thinker. As such he may not appreciate:

1. Things that does not interest him, find out what he values, like hobby those things maybe meaningless to you but to him it means a lot. Encourage him to talk about what he likes

2. He an introvert. Such people need time alone to regroup

3. He needs to trust you, that means whatever he tells you stay within you both. You need to assure him that his secrets are safe with you. Make sure your are not a gossiper if not he'll never trust you with vital personal information. I.e if he doesn't like telling people when he's traveling you make sure you don't reveal that information to any one

4. Encourage him to talk about non-personal stuff first.

5. Try and listen to what he complains about, because they are people that I'm sure your husband is very free with. What Are those people doing differently?

6. If you have not please try and read the "five love languages" and "why you act the way you do".
7. Suggest things to him, instead of telling him what to do, that way he feels his in charge and not been control/manipulated by you.

8. The worst idea you can have is to think you can change him. Communication is key and for you to communicate effectively see point no 6 again.

Deepfeel:
Are you aware nene is an idoma name? The madam is from Benue too

Stop saying what you don't know, do you understand Idoma more that Idoma people? Nene is not an Idoma name. Efik perhaps but definitely not Idoma, it's the victim that is an Idoma.

I saw this on quora.com and felt like sharing it with those that it might interest. It by Teja Kumar reddy he lives in the UK.

I have been tested positive for COVID-19 and today is the 10th day, well I am recovering now. I want to share my experience, how it really feels like having coronavirus in your body.

On the very first day, 24–03–2020, symptoms were high fever and headache. The next day vomiting dizziness and fainted four times in a day and eventually need to call for an ambulance and admitted in hospital. They just kept a saline bottle and tested for COVID-19 and later that day, midnight around 1:30 am, sent me home.

I came home, slept, and woke up, started fainting as I was having. I didn’t have any energy to speak, stand, or walk. Somehow, with the help of my housemates, I took some fluids, gained some energy, and I was having a different kind of sensation in the body which I have never experienced in my life, which doesn’t let you sit, stand or sleep.

It feels like your body is continuously working on something. Maybe it was battling against the virus. It is more like something sitting on your chest which will irritate you so badly. How much ever you eat or drink, your energy drains so fast like charging a mobile to 100% and after using it for just an hour, your battery is critically low. It continued for the next seven days and when it come to breathing, thick mucus stuck in the throat which doesn’t comes out to spit or we can’t swallow in. I tried many ways to get rid of it, which was causing shortness of breath until you drink some hot water or turmeric milk. It was not melting and coming out to spit or swallowed into your stomach and then it gives some relief and I was taking these hot water for every 15 minutes and which allowed me to breath properly.

Whenever I feel low energy immediately there was a temperature in body and I used only Tylenol (paracetamol). Even after 9 days still, I feel exhausted. The diet, which helped me to cope with this virus and to have some energy, was rice, eggs, glucose dextrose, bananas, oranges, apple, lemon, turmeric milk, and hot water every 15–20 mins. I forgot to mention about the lab test results; we were informed by the doctor on the same day, and I discharged later in the afternoon around 3:20 pm. I received a call from the doctor that I have been tested positive for COVID-19 and said that I need to self isolate myself for the next two weeks.

I say that no one should go through this virus as I have seen the worst phase of my life in the past few days being far away from your parents coping with the loneliness and battling with this virus is not an easy task.

Why the government is stressing so hard on this virus and why the old age are dropping, you will come to know when you experience this virus.

So, please stay home, don’t leave your home unless it is very urgent. Nothing is more important than your life. Luckily, I was having some helping hands and they helped me a lot with the food and all necessities every day and I want to thank them and may God bless all the people that helped me and prayed for me.

Thank you guys for reading my post. Once I recover fully, I will make an another post.