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@pyno
Hello, let me help you to clarify.

Every women are different belief/opinions/point of view/experiences to answer the question"What Women Want From Men".

All of them are not the same. What about you tell us what you believe on that topic mentioned above? There is no right or no wrong! Also can you handle their constructed criticisms to respond back? Everyone are different!!!

He ate all food too fast---because he was so starved to death and worn out, while listening Plague One to tell him a story about the river named "Knowledge" where he swam previously. He felt stuffed already.

All of sudden he felt so sick and panicked thinking,"I'm plagued already". He fainted.

now? Don't tell me what to do! I read this thread now!

I want from man at below:

[list]
[li]Listen to me[/li]
[li]Understand me more[/li]
[li]Show me your affectionate, heart at romance, caring, supportive[/li]
[li]Talk to me when time of trouble/stress[/li]
[li]Respect me[/li]
[li]Trust and confide in me[/li]
[li]Don't be ashamed something you don't want to tell me, that's all right, take your time to tell me later when u feel right---no rush![/li]
[li]Share your pains with me, help me understand you better- - - don't shut me out[/li]
[li]At last, you must understand that financial obligations is 100% compromised - - I don't like any payment being late, repossessed, or disconnected without consulting me first. we know that we want debt-free financially. DON'T BE STINGY!!![/li]
[/list]

I am not gold-digger, materialistic, or sugar daddy! I am conserved, determined, friendly, responsibility, reliable, educated and independent person---shopping is NOT MY BAG! My EXs had talked with me admitting his own mistake to generalize me like those women who are shopping freak or money-spending and regret to lose me FOR GOOD, NO RESTORATION!!!

From my point of view about my EX who was born poverty living in a city while I was born middle-class hardworking class living in a RURAL COUNTRY. We were different people not get along each other. EX was recklessly money-spending the day he married me and got good job I helped him through, I hate money wasting!!! It was not my idea getting married him---it came from my parent forced me into!!!

bejarano:
Because there isn't any Nigerian women where I live doesn't mean I haven't travelled all over the world and met them on my travels.

I was puzzled reading what Bejarano stated above quote, what part of city you live in England? In London, there are many Nigerian students or residents there either legally or illegally. 

I remembered in other day watching "Marvis Purvis" talking show on the topic "bizarre dating" on tv. Marvis had interviewed with a white guy from New York bought fully passport to bring REAL black BUSHWOMAN (i think from Africa or Australia) in the US to live with him claiming as his girlfriend. Marvis asked him how he met BUSHWOMAN. At the local drinking bar, he was watched the tv, "National Geography" that day. He said he fancied with a black bushwoman with long long long iron (jewerly) neck.

That is how he brought her to the US and asked her to have more pierced all over her body (i mean 1,000 pierced) at his own expenses No Kidding!!!  Until BUSHWOMAN became US citizen told her boyfriend get tired of wearing all those 1,000 pierced all over her body and wanted take it off. Her boyfriend has no object and sent her plastic surgery to protect from infection. Still bushwoman and white guy are very happy couple together more than 10 years.

Let me share my funniest moment to tell you how I know boy like me:

I remembered back then i was in college bar environment during alumni reunion event.

I was with group of college girls on standing because every tables/chairs were full. Behind me, i saw a group of black guys sat on table, one of them wooed on me curiously to know who I was.

Unfortunately that guy did not know that he talked to my boyfriend asking him too many questions about me. (I saw everything that guy conversed to my boyfriend, i controlled hold laughing myself) My boyfriend was so cool and enjoyed answering his questions.

Guess what! That guy had couraged to stand up ready walking so cool. We both girls and boys saw whole thing, a guy was clumsy almost tripped out of the chair to approach me. I was politely smiled (cannot help to hold laughing) at him. Guy talked so smoothly,"hey you, I remembered you somewhere back old school, is your name Michelle, right?"

I slightly laughed,"nope Michelle is not my name, but I do know your name back old school". Then guy still hum quickly,"Stephanie, right?" I said,"No, wrong". He still tried to remember my name, continued give me wrong names, then dropped the guess-name subject. He asked me,"I would like to ask you for dating".

I said,"I am so sorry that I am taken". He laughed saying,"please do not try hard-to-get yourself, i am available. come on. I want you. you are so hot".

I said,"i have my own boyfriend". He said,"who is your boyfriend, show me where?" I pointed at that guy where he previously talked to him.

He blushed and left college bar, because he thought I was joke! Everyone was blast laughing seeing whole conversation.

Get that picture---how do you know when a boy like a girl?

@babyosisi

ok, i back off

Congratulation!!! Hope everything works out smoothly!!!

@cute-ass

@babyosisi
Not every white men wear t-shirt and blue jeans, more likely under 18-25 years old wear that.

Over 25-50 years old white men tends to wear informal business casual such as polo shirt, nice pants, nice shoes during working hours. After working hours (weekend and evening), they change to wear jogging clothes and comfortable casual clothes.

Only 10% white men like or love black women in any countries, US, UK, goes on, where interracial relationships accept, that is pretty small!!!

Latin America is mixed Mexican and Spanish race - hispanic!!! Foreigners still call them WHITE, while westerners call them HISPANIC!!!!

@mamaput

go back reading the original post by bejarano stated that he is white.

We are not talking about his race.  We talk about that picture. We thought a fake picture with fake profile that is copied from model site to seek for Nigeran women online dating site  THAT IS RED FLAG FOR 419/SCAMMERS.

Oops after bejarano responded previously, how we suppose to know if picture is real or fake?

@white'Nkem

That's exactly! I know the difference between incredibly shy handsome sexy stud and hot smooth-slick stud guys.

In my area, there are too many hot smooth-slick talking sexy studs out there(American black comedian/actor, MARTIN LAWRENCE-"wannabe", THAT IS TOTAL UNACCEPTABLE to me. I don't mind the ones who are incredibly shy sexy stud i would keep for myself.

As all above me have said - i agreed completely.  Having divorce to go back to ex is sin!  Forget it the past you had shared with your exs, move forward to your current wife that God has his purpose for both of you current marriage. Past is past! Never look back!!!

Talk your current wife to apologize that you never mean to hold back your past(forbidden dream of ex), BURN EX's PICTURE facing in front of your wife!!! I know you feel pain, but past is past, period!!!

Someday you could be reunited again if both your ex and you are widowed under God's willing, not your!!! Who know, only God knows!!!

Get marriage first before getting pregnancy is a blessing from God. Getting pregnant before marriage is disgraceful to God.

Yes, if whoever get raped should immediately go medical treatment to check-up for STD/HIV/AIDS and prenatal care counseling, also if you have your courage to report who is the attacker to the police to catch them in most COUNTRIES such as US, UK, others. ALL HOSPITALS, all college/Universities' infirmaries, and some ambulances have rape kit---to gather semen/sperm/blood and to take pictures on every injured body for the purpose of court evidence as well as to trace finding DNA match to catch attackers.

Person who is victimized as rape can severe trauma to hold back too long, scare of men and cause sex problem or unwanted sex without seeking counseling.

Yes you and your husband are committed adultery under God's eyes---SINFULLY!!!

@osegwu

I agree with u, no one can change person, Only God can change person if you pray to request for.

If you are young and graduated from either high school or college landing good stable job for 40 years, you will still have excellent money management on saving money during 40 years. (smart money wise)

Let's give you an example:

Suppose you land a good stable job in law firm as parallegal secretary (female) or legal document clerk (male) in a salary of $40,000.00 a year, your bi-weekly paycheck you set up to deduct $300.00 for your retirement plan (401K pension) with interest rate(monthly 4.0 percent) every two week. (no withdraw allow)

By the time you turn 60s (age), you will be richer in retirement plan. Your retirement plan you will make roughly $3,594,240.00 million dollars in your 401k bank account, you will receive monthly check of $2,900.00 at your retired age.

Sample  Formula: (by the way this is not accurately, just give u example how it works)
$300.00 X 2 weeks = $600.00 (monthly)

$600.00 X .04 interest rate = $24 + $600.00 = $624.00 (interest rate monthly in first year, you should know that interest rate change every year)

$624.00 X 12 month = $7,488.00 (first year)

$7,488.00 X 480 months (40 years) = $3,594,240.00 total

Therefore, I am not financial advisor or retirement plan broker to do math correctly mentioned above.  In reality, all companies and bank in the US have their own 401K pension (retirement plan) on every employee's full benefits package when they hire employee on the job on the first day.

In a conclusion, starting young before 30s you invest money wise, by the time you reach 60s, you will be rich. But the problem in American (US), there are 40% of American FAILED TO START saving/401k investment as they were young, by the time when they were retired age (62), they are BROKE NO MONEY to take care of themselves, because of deep debt trouble they still struggle trying to pay off FIRST.

Does it make sense to you? I do not know about Nigeria/Africa have full benefits (health, life, retirement, disability insurance) package for all workers at their jobs.

It is true and that is why 70% divorce rate climbed too high.

If i was her shoe, I would sit down and discuss with my man telling him that i want to have baby soon because of my biological clock. Honesty is the BEST POLICY to make my man know instead of cheating him out to get pregnancy from someone else using his name----because of his money she could not live without!!!

If my man do not want to marry me for producing baby, then walk away finding someone else who will love to. THAT IS SIMPLE, no questions!!!

Yes, a guy and girl can be just friend. In the past, I have many male friends who confide in me while they has their own girlfriends who know me well. Once my male friend marry her, then our friendship ends. NO HARD FEELING!

For those who say "no, guy and girl cannot be just friend", tell me, how you know a girl you want to get know her more without making friend in preparation of possible future wife?

MY CLARIFICATION WHAT I MEAN BY:
Do you mean that you walk into girl that caught your eyes to feel she is the one you want to marry without need to make friend or get know her first and to propose that girl u want to marry her ON THE SAME DAY? Is that correct? Tell me

@cute-ass, u are not only one, I agreed with u including @kitaun.

Let wait and see what morayo15 has say! Hopefully she will make up her mind---act her age!!!

@yicob
You misunderstand what I say previously. Now u call me callous and coward. 

Let me clarify you, YICOB, i say i would not help you giving you all names who are love addicts. because I am one month member just joining Nairaland since Feb 2, 2007 and do not know anyone who are love addicts at NAIRALAND to recommend you.

I am NOT A MATCHMAKER for you. There are over 80,000 Nairaland members, it is lot of work asking all females who are love addicts for you.

Not fair for @babaearly call you "monster". Read this previous thread at below:

how would u know who is a lover boy now? are u seeking attention? s\really some guys look like monkeys behind the computer screen and some look like beasts. really this doesnt make sense.

Ok, i leave you alone and wish you the best luck finding someone special out there. I back off! NO HARD FEELING!!!