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abbey621:
I'm sorry but did you actually read what you posted? This is marriage and not some trumped up relationship. Absolutely no excuse for what the wife has done. You gave excuses such as boredom, lack of gifts, lack of dates but sincerely that's bullshit! All I see from what the guy has described so far is a woman who's not content with what she's got.

if you get bored in your marriage or your wife doesn't spoil you or she isnt romantic enough, you are telling me that in all honesty you will continue to be a loving loyal husband to her and you will waive off any temptation that comes your way?

freelance777:
Dear Nairalander's

How are you all doing? I hope you guys are doing well? I am writing this post to express my fears of the unknown, because I have been a very trusting and reliable husband to my wife.

Before marriage, my wife have once told me about his ex who is supposedly his best date ever in her life before she met me, that apart 2 years into our marriage, we had an arguement in which she confronted me about a number saved with a lady's name on my dialled list. I openly and honestly told her it was my old school mate whom I missed her call and had called back. But she wanted to know more like I was doing something shady, that got me all roused up and I just told her to leave me be.

A week later, I received a call from her straight from work that my daughter had a serious cut on her lips due to an
accident, I quickly rushed down to the school, but met them at the nearest clinic where my daughter's lip was being stitched, few mins later I walked down to her school where she works nearby to pick up her car key then bring her car nearby so we could all go home, surprisingly, I found her wedding ring inside the glove compartment. A ring she wore out to work that very morning.

I didnt question her immmediately until the night of that day, I asked her why she had removed her ring and kept it in the glove compartment knowing fully well that the wore it out that very morning, she said it was because I have had mine removed since the past 1 month, so she also had the same reason to remove her's.

A week later, she opened up to me that she has been talking to her ex whom I described above, I asked her about what? She said she has been taking advise from him whenever we have issues. I kept shut and moved on.

2 more years into this marriage, I recently found out that her ex had sent her a whatsapp message, but she didnt respond, so I opened up a discussion with her based on ex's. I asked her if keeping contact of ex's or communicating with ex's is good for married people be it the man or woman, she said its a no no, that infact she will never accomodate such and that its wrong for anybody to do that. I immediately told her to open up her whats app, she did and I showed her her ex's whats app message, she at first was scared, wanted to cover up the phone somehow, but due to fear, she slowly relaxed herself and she said well that I can see that he is just talking and she has not been responding, and that its possible for someone you do not have on your contact list to send you a whatsapp message, I agreed, but countered her saying you also have saved his number with Abbreviation, if you never intend having future communication with him, why then did you save his number thereafter? I didnt get an answer, until later after two weeks when she told me she was in communication with him in order to secure a job for his younger brother. ( Very hard to believe) I moved on.


A few days later again, I was on my way to help her fix her iphone which she has abandoned like a year and the half, something just prompted me to dial his ex's number on that phone, behold she had saved the number as 'rsif' someone who bears Williams. Anyway I kept quiet still. The the final incident that gave me a final warning that this my wife might be cheating on me unknowingly was just a month ago when she told me she had met this dude on the same estate we reside, that he was into business and had also gave her his complementary card, I asked what he does, said he is an estate agent, I responded saying estate agency does not correlate with what you do, she said at least he can provide us good offer for housing by the time we are ready to move. When all of a sudden, she said that same guy had asked her to help cook since his own wife had travelled to the USA to give birth. She asked if it was right for her to go ahead and do the cooking, I immediately denounce that move that it is wrong, and that the guy has another motive entirely. I told her to tell him that he should ask his own family member to cook for him, and that she should immediately cut communication with him if she wants to last long in the marriage.

My wife responded by saying, she does not think the guy has bad intentions and that he is a cool and nice person with a very mild personality,that if the dude has such intentions, that it would be the most surprising occurence to her. I said well just do as I have said. Lo and behold, I investigated her phone and I found out that she had already cooked for this dude even before she asked me the question. I confronted her, and she said it was because I might not find it funny and thats the reason why she kept it a secret at first. I then promise to show her that the dude was infact a cheater whom is planning to cheat on his wife with my own wife. One day, I impersonated my wife, and started sending text as such as that am ready to give him what he wants, lo and behold, this dude was responding and was even asking where I was at, that he is ready to heal my wounds, a hug and everything that I needed. I showed my wife the text message, and she acted all surprised, but I was not, because based on the conversations that I have seen, it seems to me that whenever I have issued, he rushes to call the guy and tell him everything, which was a good avenue for the guy to provide emotional consolation in order to get what he wants.

I apologize for this long story, but I just needed to detail this story well, so that I can get insight of what I need to be thinking, what I need to do, and the right steps to take.

Thanks all.

you disrespected the marriage by taking off the ring and expected the devil not to play skelewu with your marriage? You are a very big joker!

You need to stop wasting pastors time and energy bringing you together if you have no intentions of showing commitment in your marriage.

Its not by force to have a wedding every Saturday. Stop wasting all of that money on jollof for people to enjoy on your wedding when all you will do with the marriage after that is play child's games with it.

So this is an igbo boy who killed a teacher hian

Teempakguy:
Blame the girl

i blame your mother for that nose

Love

NeduLuiZ:
bit.ch have succeeded in making those kids fatherless


Let's see if her parents who never gave her the approval to return to her matrimonial home would sponsor those poor kids in school


And for the nigg.a who killed himself
Fvck you, you weren't man enough

if these are the kind of idioots Nigerian women labour to bring into this world. Its about time they start taking contraceptives seriously.

What ever sorry goat of a man that raised you told you its sensible to throw your wife out of the house in the middle of the night where any rapist or armed robber can have with her?

Or is that what your mother has been? A pathetic useless human being if she doesnt have a husband?

Tekzyflex:
See her face black like something Wey thunder strike. Very ugly winch

you own dark face looks like what then?

sameer1212:
See her ugly black face. By merely seeing this one, u go know say she be witch. Nonsense.

you look just about the same complexion, if she not lighter than you

GboyegaD:
Your question is vague kind of. Do you mean a scholarship to study in Hong Kong, Canada, or an Hong Kong scholarship to study in Canada?

haba use "unclear" na

Talk about forcing a religion down a person's throat. I can still click yes and remain non-muslim. This is absolutely retarded.

Kivva:
And what have you done with your miserable life?
At least she is defending and standing for a cause she believes in while you are here licking men's asss.

You are the vile and insecure creature here because all you have been doing is supporting and looking for validation from most of the guys on this thread.

In case you don't know she is in one of the best universities in Nigeria and studying a course that you can never dream of reading even if all of your family members combine their empty heads to write the entrance exam.

Asinine, half-witted, sycophantic biatch!

Dont give yourself a headache, these are the same women that will create new monikers to discuss their marital problems. Nothing new about some of these characters.
Form perfection with one account and spill the beans of what really going down with another.

Iamsynord:
Lol

lol too funny

Okay

Have the ideas of marriage by black men turn marriage into something else?
Religion----> broke muslim man will marry more wives than he can afford.
Traditional wedding------> child marriages, marrying to pay off a debt.

What do u think?