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Please my clitoris sometimes gets tingly and i have to rub it gently until it goes away, which sometimes leaves me wet. What can i do without rubbing it?

The name of the church gave it away that no one should attend such a church

ifeomabernard:
At 44 still looking fresher than some under 25 lolz!

its true o, look at your own profile pic for example, she can pass for your little sister.

Kate unmarried @ 44 and Mercy married in her late 20s. Spot the difference. Nigerian men have the ability to turn a beautiful swan into beware of them

IYANGBALI:
I know who disvirgined her

na your papa?

PAGAN9JA:
stup.id reply.

not as stup.id as you

PAGAN9JA:
madman! IM A TRADITIONALIST LIKE MR. BENNY'S PEOPLE.

NOT A SINFUL CHURCGOER LIKE YOU XTIANS.

if you are a traditionalist you would be working on getting medicine to make your kondo bigger or you would be going for waist moving lessons so you can satisfy your wife.
Then you would go to your oracle and offer one goat and chicken so that any man who tries to seduce your wife will wake up with his kondo on his forehead. Divorce is never the answer.

I no fit give my 5year bf my own $100 and you gave your man gini belonging to gini? auntie u don enter one chance o

Im not against people investing in their relationships but you should know your limits. No one knows tomorrow, so if you are not married yet, you better not act like his wife.

PAGAN9JA:
how can a self-respecting man face his wife straight in the face knowing fully well that someone else has fvcked her.

you are craze

is marriage all about sex? Is that what you vow to in church? Abeg get out of here. You vow to better for worse and the moment u see worse you run for the exit door, so why did you bother?

He should be figuring out if it was the size or his skill she wasnt enjoying and fix that. He needs to pray for his wife so that she will only yearn for him.

Sometimes i think some men are probably the most stupid beings on earth. Let me explain why.

You like having sex with a woman but you at the same time expect women to have little or no sex experience before committing or marrying them.

As a result of this women withhold themselves because they don't want to be regarded as loose. Hence they make u suffer before you get that sweet thing.

The funny thing is some guys boast about using a girl when he has spent so much time and money on her and she on the other hand gets a free orgasm without putting in any effort.

If society would stop judging a woman by whats between her legs. You fools would be getting it until you die, but no you prefer making life difficult for yourselves

That man might take you all the way to bankrupcy. You guys need to sit down and talk about boundaries. Let your money for school or anything else important be left untouched.

If he reckelessly spends his, he will just have to manage himself until he gets his next pay check. Unless of cause you are will to give him.

Besides he is the head of the house and he should be more responsible otherwise you will have several problems in the future.

You might have to look for a professional who will advise you on how to spend and save your money. If you work with a plan he might start being a responsible man was supposed to be all along.

He should just forgive her, some women are polygamous because of their youthful age. Like i have always heard on NL, divorce is never the answer. She will eventually become mature and he will learn to love her again.

Only a selfish senseless man would divorce his wife and still demand money. Surely the love of money is the root of all evil men.

Before you just get a few people's opnion on nairaland, i suggest you do your own vast research on the internet.

Look for real estate websites, check out a few areas and houses within your budget. You get an idea of what you might rent and where it will be located and whats close by.

Then maybe after getting a few places down you can ask others on which would be the best option.

Dollyak:
....£5 sold me off indeed lol... that's a good one.
The fact you don't even know the brand or the quality shows your ignorance. It's easy to chat $hit on Internet just to get some brownies, but at the end of the day what is real is real. It's not my fault things are frustrating for you, so sit your rascalart down.

thats a £5 worth brand didnt i already tell you?

Can't be bothered replying your accusations about being cocky. Comprehension and spatial contextual awareness are definitely not your biggest strength.

i can most definitely know "cocky and pretentious" when i see it

I mean, see a comment from a supposedly stable mind. Wtf. So yeah, go wild with your wishful imaginations of my lifestyle. Before I forget, make sure you keep up with my profile to analyse the subsequent ones. Faceless bitchh

of anything about yourself you desparately tried to portray about yourself was in any way true, you would not be this angry from what i said. Anyway enjoy the fake life on NL, greet papa in the village for us

Dollyak:
In naira of course... Hahaha I laugh at your cringe worthy post. Its funny how guys think every Nigerians on nl are failures. In the end you are just an irrelevant nairalander hoping to get a cheap points on someone you don't even know. You are just as stupid as those judging the op as a liar without knowing his true financial status.
Your cheap shot attempt is a total failure... an embarrassing one at that. Try a more intelligent one, unless you know me or my family.

It really bothered you that you had to quote me twice? The only comments i made on this thread where of bad belle people like you. You started using info you found on some website to attack the OP, for what? You were the one being corky for no reason.

I never said you a failure i only implied you are a pathological liar. We all know girls like you, you come form daughter of a rich man when your father's networth is not even up to US$100,000.

Anyway im sorry if i spoiled your imaginary rich life. That £5 sweater sold you off. But its okay if you intend to form any further i will not disturb you. You father cannot be giving 7figures (not even in nairas) when you wear regular clothes with your regular ass please sit down and keep quiet.

Dollyak:
Op, with your ridiculously low mortgage to salary ratio, 3k a month isn't that bad. I am sure you live in texas, Washington (North West) or some sh!!t, because there are not many states/career(Excluding medical fields) that pays decent six figures with such a ridiculously low rental ratio, unless you are a world class specialist.
Anyways, you just need to learn to say no. If you are going to give, you need to make sure it's going towards a self sustaining programme for your family and friends. The amount my dad have given to his ridiculously large nuclear family is definitely into seven figures. Yet, nothing to show for it . Therefore, be strict and give wisely.

your father has given 7figures (in nairas of course) but you still text guys to buy you pizza because dont you dont have salt in your house to cook? God jus dey watch you

Bonapart:
That's what happen when you open your legs for every man that comes your way...
Are you he's the real father or a wanna be dad

Close your legs and you won't be a baby mama but a wife mama

this is probably coming from a bastard son

I will pour holy oil on the snake and collect car key

Airforce1:
You cant dictate to God on how to protect his people

God doesnt like darkness

Tallesty1:
33 and unemployed Like seriously are you waiting for manna to fall from heaven??

Forget marriage now if u don't wanna die of frustration.


Go out and get busy bro.

from your profile pic its clear you are a child.

Airforce1:
I'm not dark skinnned

I'm chocolate in complexion

you are still not part of the men that deserve God's protection from abusive wives.

lalasticlala:
In response to this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/2449280/freeze-coolfm-posts-photos-injuries






http://citypeople.com.ng/i/freezes-wife-responds-to-violent-adultress-allegation/

no woman should under any circumstances should ever hit a light-skinned guy in the face unless he looks the likes of airforce1 then its allowed.

God protect every yellow paw paw of a man in this world. Blackett and crew God dey your side. No abusive woman will come your way. Shout Glory!

abbey621:
And if you call cooking for another man, flirting with another man and sharing heart to heart moments with him "small things" then obviously you are one of those I consider classless or undignified.

Well good thing my self-worth is not based on strangers that have no significance or benefit to my existence, so im totally cool with that.
The day i lose an eye because of what you have to say is the day i will die. For now my life is still worthy just as much as it was 5mins ago

Once again you try to sound intelligent but the result is completely opposite. Just because you are not enlightened enough to understand the different meanings of adultery does not mean they do not exist! For your reference:

ADULTERY WITHOUT SEXUAL INTERCOURSE—The Bible speaks of “wanton eyes” (Isa. 3:16), “eyes full of adultery” (2 Pet. 2:14), and “the lust of the eyes” (1 John 2:16).

both the words adultery and lust include the word "sexual" and there is nothing the lady did that sounded sexual. Just quit trying to hard to sound intelligent, if you were at all you would consult your dictionary to make sure of the meaning of certain words before using them.

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery already with her in his heart.”
http://www.christiananswers.net/dictionary/adultery.html

again lust means with sexual desire.

You seem to be one of those people of the mind that a wife can have as many male friends as possible as long as there are no sexual activities, you seem to believe it is okay to flirt around and if caught then it's no big deal, the man should be man enough to accept and work through it.

Any secure man would trust his wife so long she does not flirt with her male friends/ colleagues. How else do you expand your horizon if you do not make friends or acquaintances?
Only an insecure man would see anything negative with a woman keep male friends even they know their boundaries.

Now to my final point, I don't know about American men or those in European countries but as an African man I'm meant to be the head, I do not subscribe to the notion that marriage is 50/50, more like 60/40 or 70/30 with the man having the majority of the decision making, it is the role which was given to us by God,

Insecurity will always make you feel like you have to be on top of someone for you to feel like your existence on earth is worth something. When you see your wife as you other half and partner there will be no need to put her down just to feel like you have something you have control over in your life.

Look at most influential couples in the world and you will know how secure men get it right. Its always good to learn something new. A secure man knows he can achieve more by working hand in hand in his wife rather than keeping her under him just to nurse his ego.

promoted by tradition and accepted by society. I do not believe a wife should compete with her husband in terms of tit for tat as it is clear the ultimate loser would be the woman as society still judges a woman negatively for being married two or more times but for a man no one really cares if he marries 4 or more times. So spare me the bullshit and focus more on educating yourself

Only a woman who doesn't know her worth would let the option of someone else stop her from being happy. A strong-willed women goes for whats best for her not what society thinks, because it will not be society living her life for her.

If thats how you intend to raise your daughters in such a backward way of thinking, i feel sorry for them more. Clearly they will only growing up to live unfulfilled lives. Educated people move forward with changes they do not to stick to old oppressive ways of reasoning.
You have just learnt something new

OP im sorry to say this but these are the kind of issues that make some people not want to help you, guilt tripping them.
Yes you helped someone before but it does not necessarily mean you are entitled to the financial help in return. When you seek for assistance always make sure you do it the right way.
People normally arent keen on helping strangers online when the person has not proved their case to be genuine.
You have edited our previous threads and posts and this can make some people doubt your story.

Kimoni:
You don't love your wife. Unfortunately and kids cannot go together in one sentence especially when you are the father of the kids. The problem with your marriage is you. Be sincere with yourself and don't blame it on her. I strongly suspect you have some other love interest outside. Own up and don't blame your wife for your feelings.

people always tend to make the biggest issues out of the smallest of things just to get away with certain things. Any slight opportunity to overreact they will always use it to the best of their advantage.

Or he could be getting action elsewhere and the slightest idea of his wife doing the same makes him act irrational to every small incident.

abbey621:
I'm sorry you might want to check the meaning of adultery again, it's not only about physical contact, emotional bonding is considered cheating nowadays. Now what you are suggesting is for the man to stick with the wife, a wife that has yet to admit she did anything wrong. Forget the westernized crap, as an African man I cannot tolerate such a thing and I cannot advice any man to tolerate such nonsense!

You are not mature enough for the commitment which is why you cannot tolerate the smallest of things that can be fixed. So its understandable. If you don't have tolerance or patience you will not survive a successful marriage. For a marriage to be called successful it has to pass through tests, if you cannot do that it cannot be called successful.

You should learn from many that have lost out on many things because they put pride first before anything else. Many have fallen because their egos take over their reasoning. When you end up on wife number 4 and still end up with the same results, you will understand.

Tell me when you find a definition of adultery that does not include the phrase "sexual intercourse" before you give your own new meaning to it.

abbey621:
Let me tell you something, the fear of the unknown is what kills most ambitions. A man will always find a wife, it's so easy as long as he's capable financially. The children will be okay, when they grow up they'll understand why their mother was sent packing for adultery. Furthermore if I've never been in a serious relationship I doubt I would be discussing a subject as sensitive as this so don't insult my intelligence

I did not insult anyone's intelligence it just that most intelligent people that i know know that marriage is not a bed of roses and when you go through trivial trials its better to fix the marriage than hope to find someone else close to perfect. Finding a replacement and finding a good woman are 2 entirely different things, sadly some people never know the difference.

Intelligent people also know that commit adultery is having an extra-marital affair with someone not cooking for someone, they usually know the huge difference between the 2

abbey621:
You still don't get it do you? If a wife does not like an action by her husband for goodness sake let him know, if he does not change involve people who can talk to him. You act as if marriage is about tit for tat, if a woman should react the way she has to every little issue in her marriage, she would soon find herself out the door. By your reasoning because the man took off his ring or he isn't a good communicator, the wife has the freedom to flirt with another man, confide in him and who knows what. When did Africans start acting like the Kardashians?

If African marriages are more stable why are more people running away from them and adopting the western way of doing things?

abbey621:
Wrong again, they are way beyond that stage. The damage has been done already, if I were in the guy's shoe at this stage I would have sent her packing but it seems this guy is a softy which is why he's on Nairaland asking for advice.

okay im assuming you will be the "hardy" that will help his children deal with the divorce and you will be able to give him a wife who will be able to handle another woman's children and be the perfect spouse to him that he cant be to her. Arent we all always ready to give the easy way out when we know we wont be there to help people deal with the most hard times?
Are you even married or have you ever had a serious relationship before?

abbey621:
Yes! Some men are natural cheats while others have self respect. As a man I know it's my job to tell my wife how I want to be treated, I owe it to her to discuss what I like and what I don't. If she won't listen, I'll involve her family and if that doesn't work I'll leave her. The day my wife stops being attractive to me is the day I know something is not right somewhere and that's where the conversation starts not flirting or cheating!

so now that a problem has presented itself in the OP marriage why are you giving a different vibe from what you would do in your own marriage?