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Ibukun120:
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dontjuststop:
Hello Nairalanders,

I have been having some doubts about my children which I stated in my earlier post but I couldn't summon the courage to do it.

My wife kept giving me reasons to suspect her so I had to man up and take the test secretly. I took the test and samples were submitted few days ago but the doctor said it will take 7 to 10 working days for the results to come back.

Ever since I took the test, I haven't been myself. Am so restless and anxiety is killing me while I keep praying the results comes out favourable as I know it could mark the end of my marriage if there is a bastard among the children.

Men in the house: Can you share your experiences conducting DNA on your children and what was the out come. My hear beat is so loud right no. This is the moment of truth. So help me God.

Update:
While I was at the DNA clinic waiting for my samples to be taken. I saw a couple who came for a different type of DNA test. The lady is two months pregnant while the guy wants to know if the pregnancy is his before assuming responsibility of the baby.

He was charged a million naira for the test and was told to come back for results in two weeks time. I wish I knew this was possible as it would save me from what am currently passing through. Aside the cost implication, I will advise every man to take their pregnant partner for test before assuming responsibility for any pregnancy. I just learnt something new!

Note:
I will update this thread once the result comes in the next few days. I hope I'll be a happy man afterwards.

Prettydevil:
Most women are not capable of giving out real genuine love. All they are concerned about is an image of you and once that image dies so does their love. find people who genuinely love you for you and never let them go no matter what. for those who like materialistic women, you are playing with fire..because the minute you stop being their ideal man who has all the qualities that make them squirt, you are practically dead to them no matter your shared history. a word is enough for the wise.

Sometimes some of these men can't tell when a real woman is before them, because anything under the skirt is to be played with then they go and fall in love with the ones that will show them colours and then come online to cry foul.

johnkey:
as john left the premises of the school he forgot to look left twice while crossing the road, naso dangote trailer nack am dead, john died..end of story.

Wicked sombori, you didn't allow me continue the story.

castro:
Hello Vanillalyce, I'd like to know you.

Oh I will like to know you too?

Mikester:
As a romance enthusiast, I find myself being enormously clued up about relationships - what makes it healthier, more enjoyable and what makes it rewarding. Thereby I came up with these lessons I intend to share with the public as perhaps it may be useful to some couple out there.

Note: If you're in a relationship just for sex or financial gains, you might want to lose this information.
I will be concise on each of them for easy reading and assimilation. Thanks for your attention as I proceed...

Below are the lessons I've learnt so far...

1. If you expect your partner to love you the way you love them, you will always set yourself up for disappointment. Don't forget this.

2. A good partner is willing to put conscious effort in accommodating to your preferred love language (words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service or physical touch) to show you they care.

3. Be with someone who supports you. They may not understand you completely but they should support the person you were, the person you are and the person you want to be. This is very crucial for those willing to get married

4. Dump anyone who belittles you and puts you down. Your self respect is more important than anything else.

5. If you feel strongly about a certain topic (religion, politics, etc.), save yourself the trouble of dating someone who has starkly different views from you. This would go a long way in averting vain arguments, stress or violence.

6. Gaslighting and emotional abuse is real. Know the signs and get out while you can. Do not subject yourself to wrongful manipulation due to your sexual urges or some other petty reason. It will pay off in the long run.

7. A good relationship is one that adds value to your life. If your relationship is draining you and negatively affecting other aspects of your life, it’s important to ask yourself if being in that relationship is really worth it.

8. Action is more important than words. People won't always tell you how they feel but they will show you. Look at what they do and not just what they say.

9. Set clear boundaries in the relationship. What’s considered acceptable in one relationship may be considered cheating in another.

10. Speak up if something they did made you uncomfortable. Communicate, communicate and communicate. Talk about what you’re into and not into, upfront.

11. Don't date or get into a serious relationship with someone unless you're proud to have a child like them

12. Ask each other personal questions often. Continuously discover and learn from one another.

13. If you're trusting family and friends thinking your partner isn’t right for you, they may see something you don’t. Try to figure out what.

14. Don’t take your partner for granted and don’t let your partner take you for granted.

15. If you’re constantly arguing and having the same fight over and over again, it’s time to decide whether being in the relationship is really worth the trouble. Don't overlook.

16. Put yourself first. The number one relationship you should put first above all is the relationship you have with yourself. It doesn't mean you're selfish, it simply means you won't allow yourself to be taken advantage of by people who don't deserve you.

These are the lessons I've learned so far. My heart wasn't broken o. Don't assume in that direction. These are purely my observations from the experiences of other people. No more, no less...




Is there something I'm missing?

Members in the house, what's your take on this? Have you been jilted before or have you learned any lessons from previous relationships? Please share

Nice one

bigjackass:
You told her you can't marry her, then told her you are an ss1 dropout. That's why whe sees no worth in you to have your baby. She's like what's the point when he won't marry me and he's even half educated. Leave her alone to do whatever she want with herself. Also stop fúcking girls without protection when you know you can't marry them. USE CONDOM

This advice I like�

incogni2o:
Have you been in a relationship where everthing ranging from conversations, action, reactions, calls, gist, advice, resolving issues, future goals, emotional intelligence and all there is to expect and have in a relationship seen to be in near absolute Perfect Harmony.

So perfect to the point that you became scared and you were finding other flimsy reasons to excuse yourself for a while or confused?

Wow

BUSHYANUS:
He is an accountant there as u all think

This is his daily routine

This is mean but why am I laughing at this...the face though

SatanBoss:
ask your mama and ur papa to do give away to you. no be me tell them to dey Bleep anyhow

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JohnspeakU:
Below is a chat between a lady and her fiancé and how a 3years relationship ended.

Who should be blamed?


Lalasticlala mynd44 seun

Well handled. She didn't do well but I want to believe she didn't mean all that happened but refusing to eat..man think about it and do you.

ogtechinc:
Most planes fly at altitudes like 35,000 feet. If you tried to exit a plane at that altitude you would die almost immediately. The air pressure at that height is so low that if you held your breath, your lungs would explode almost immediately. Even if you were to breath out REALLY quickly, there isn’t enough oxygen at that altitude to keep you conscious for very long at all. So you would lose consciousness. Then you have that small problem of pulling the chord to deploy your parachute - not possible to do if you are unconscious… If you deploy it as soon as you exit the plane the lack of oxygen would cause your death on the slow descent.

You are also looking at temperatures 30 degrees below zero at those altitudes - the eyes, nose and mouth would freeze over almost immediately.

You would also be exiting a plane flying at around 150 miles an hour or more - assuming you could get out of that plane, that air pressure on you would kill you immediately, too. Most planes fly at more like 500 mph.

Now, just think of the logistics of carrying them when a parachute can weigh up to 40 pounds - one of those per passenger - that increases the weight of the plane, increasing the fuel used and therefore the cost of tickets, for a benefit that would probably kill most passengers trying to escape the plane.

The other thing is - most airplane accidents happen during takeoff and landing at heights that would render a parachute useless - most main parachutes require 600 to 1,200 feet of freefall to open and slow the person down.

So the added cost of doing so, lack of training of the passengers in how to exit an aircraft and land safely, plus all the issues of getting out at high altitudes make parachutes not worth the cost.

Source: Stuart Davis

What a detailed explanation�

Tbadbad:
This is deep, please what should I do? I am confused, she is in my house right now in Nigeria, this is some one I have her house and everything,

There are still some many things hidden in the closet. Like he said, if you want to live a long life,now is the time to lay that foundation.periodt

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:
Orishirishi something ... If u feel u deserve long life, now is the time to lay the foundation. No sentiments. You know with this girl, your life is like a bird perching on a tin rope. You will dance surugede for the rest of your life. U can choose a problematic life or a fairly decent life. The choice remains yours. Don't let it get late!

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[quote author=chinedumc91 post=98364178]My dear people in this great forum. I seriously need your advice.
I'm dating a deeper life lady, we have see each other up to six times but four of our meetings were at eateries while the remaining two we met was her own house and I always go with gifts like shoes, sandals, slipper, clothes etc.
The issue now is that, I wanted her to at least know my place since we are both living in the same city. But she said no, that her parents wouldn't approve it even though, I told her to come along with her two sisters if possible. She insisted no is against her church.

In this last Xmas, she asked me to buy her Ankara materials, which I did but she was expecting me to either take her out and use the opportunity to bring the gifts I bought for her. But I used covid19 as an excused. As I'm writing this now those gifts are still in my house.

Now, she urgently needs 50k to register her carry over courses and her parents said no money and she crying everyday because Tuesday next week is the deadline.
She begging me to either give her or borrow her the money. But I told her that there's limit of what I can do for her now since we have not yet marry. in fact I told her it is against my church to be spending on her when we are not yet to marry.

Note, we are getting marry this year even though we have not started our church courtship.

what do you advice me to do.

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Which one is church courtship, if you are not asking her to come know your place for sex, why is there a limit to what you can do for her because you know very what she is trying to avoid..state exactly what you want and let her decide and stop using she doesn't want to know my place as an excuse. Besides you are set to marry soon so stop being coy.

truthsayer009:
IRIS West is a popular name for Barry Hallen's girlfriend / wife. So congrats oh, na your husband be that

Where have you been?

Don't vex much now.. I am sure she won't insult again when trying to make a point.quoteor=TransAtlanticEx post=97809986]Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation? [/quote]

vpaymoney:
A lady with sense that will not give me problems. Kind hearted lady from a good home. A lady that will not be self centered. A lady that will not Finnish my money or after money. A lady with home training. A lady that I can travel and still have rest of mind. Pls match make me with anyone if you are close to one. Tribe isn't a barrier. Distance also could be worked on. Nigerian ladies in the UK/USA are very much welcome. I just need a true mature LOVE.
My Personality:
5.7
Athletic
AA
0+
ARIES
Non smoking
Highly sensitive


Turn Offs:
Dirtiness,
Laziness in Kitchen & House cores,
Bad Smells below & general body.

Note: all turn offs can be worked on provided she is willing to LOVE and allow change. Cheers! My contact in my sigy.

Mmmm...well let's give it a try

CrescentMoon:
Let me first tell you my kind of character. For you to make me angry, you have to repeat an offense more than 30 to 40 times. After each offence, I would only give you facial expression that will let you know that you offended me. And I would ensure you get the message.

So wife kept repeating same offence. I told her I don't like what she was doing. She said she would adjust, but kept repeating the same thing. When I got fed up, I tried to retaliate. My only retaliation is that I stopped being around in the house. I would leave the house very early in the morning and return late at night. I would go for business in another town and return 4 days later. She knows nothing stops me from coming home everyday from the other town because I have means of transportation. She flared up. Started calling relatives that I'm maltreating her. They asked her to say which ways I have been maltreating her...she said I'm avoiding our home. Relatives asked if I'm beating or starving her. She said no.

I know why it pained her very well. If she wants to go and urinate outside, I would go and drop her there. When she is through, she would call me and I would go and pick her up again.

She's a woman that's always settling fights for couples in the street. So, she never wanted it to be heard anywhere that we are quarelling in our home. She won't want anybody to come to our house to settle disputes. So this prolongs our fights always.

When she couldn't bear it again, she sent a message to me that goes like this: I INITIALLY DIDN'T WANT TO DIVORCE YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR DISABILITY AS I PITY YOU. BUT NOW, IT'S OVER. YOU HAVE TO BEAR THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR ACTIONS TOWARDS ME ALL THESE YEARS. WHAT DID I HAVE TO DO WITH A JUJU DIABOLIC MAN IN THE FIRST INSTANCE.

Let me disect those words in capital letters for you. I have a disability, but you can't notice it easily until you start talking to me. She said I have to bear the consequences of my actions towards her... looking back, I have done unimaginable things to make her happy. I even saved her life when she didn't want blood transfusion from unknown persons as a result of her Christian belief not to contract demons from the blood of unknown person. Fortunately, my blood group is that of a universal donor. That means I can donate blood for anybody. Note that she had never done any noteworthy thing for me apart from giving birth to our babies. About being a juju man, I will tell you how she arrived at this: somebody was about to give birth from her family side and the baby was in breech position. She asked for advice and I told her that if I take the woman to the village my uncle will give the woman a concoction to reverse it. Her faith is against it, but because someone from her side just gave birth through CS, which almost led to the death of mother and baby, she asked me to take the woman to the village. The breech position was reversed. I'm surprised she now labelled me a juju man.

Instead of me to take her message personal, I urged her to please herself. This infuriated her the more. Instead of leaving me, she invited someone to intervene, tracked me to the second town, and it was settled there.

My problem now is that those words are still ringing in my head... someone I thought was a lover said she married me out of piety.

Sometimes we women tend to say crazy things when we are angry but seriously don't mean it..you both will be fine..I am sure she feels very sorry and won't repeat it again.

paulolee:
met her in p.h..was a nympho joined with so many porn tendancies..did drugs n luv to record our sex..na me run at last n even leave p.h for her

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donbachi:
I met her in 2007.on the eve of that 2007 presidential election.she called by 11:30pm,that she was at my gate.thought she was joking.i saw with 3 policemen inside her car.what i heard was "baby hop in".mind you,there was no movement that very night.from 9pm till dawn.naso i go dey kill my sef from dat to 12am till 6am.the girl love sex die.inside swimmingpool,car,public dark places,supermarket toilets and her shop..onetime like dat,i gast to use hot water massage my priick for 1week.

Hahahaha,you see wetin pass you

2dice01:
The two i met here in Lagos can't speak any
Hope you can teach a brother

Oh yeah, I will gladly do

Morningstarrr:
Well, i rep Isoko but reside in Abuja. Greetings to y’all

Greetings to you too�

2dice01:
Hehehe
You self be Delta

Vanilla can you speak?

Oh yeah�

thatsleepboy1:
Hmmm

This is sad and shouldn't happen to anyone at all..and to think that you are ok,what else is she looking for?

Hello to the lonely 9ja guys and girls living in diasporal, this thread is dedicated to you to find compassionship and stop living a boredom life over there abroad*

This thread is created for you to find and meet that your dream guy who will always text you and make you feel lively all the time while you're exploring your time......

Don't shy away to comment and tell what it feel likes to live a boredom lifestyle

Keep commenting and let's explore this page to the top page* thank you all

me here in Nigeria is still dealing with loneliness and boredom and it's really not nice

luchishawn:
we have been dating for almost two years now.
I used to think he was the right one not until he sent me a text saying ' it is over'
I called him but he refused to pick up.
Maybe I offended him, so i sent him an apology text.
The next day, he sent me a message on my WhatsApp that i was not a good wife material.
Tried finding out his reason for the statement.. it took a while before he sent 'WHY DID YOU NOT USE THE OLD STEW TO MAKE JELLOF RICE?!'.
so that was why , he was annoyed..
first of all, there wasn't enough rice and I couldn't boil only half a cup.
when he read my message, he blocked me.
He even went further to inform his friends that i was no longer his gf�.
worst part, he paid me a visit unexpectedly and demanded that I should return all his money , he spent in our relationship.
I know it sounds awkward.
yeah, Christmas is almost here but I have been battling with heartbreaks.
should I go back and beg him?
or ignore him and move on?

help a sister abeg!

Please let him be,when he comes back to his senses he will come around, except his reason for breaking up with you is not oldstew/jollof rice matter but just held onto it to cause a break up.

Chuxy:
Yeah this is where all Deltans meet from whatever reason, be it FRIENDSHIP, RELATIONSHIP, SEX TALK, GISTING, JOKES, OR JUST TALK, WHICH EVER,,

SO ALL THE DELTANS WHERE ONA DEY, holla here, Shout

Wow, I like this..I am deltan too (Illah) but based in Lagos.

Eaglefine:
Still can't believe it. The worst is that, he's not telling me anything. not even taking my calls not care to reply me.

It's going be hard but chest it and act like you never knew him..move on

Eaglefine:
Something is changed. We are not talking or texting each other lately as much as we used to.
When I go visiting to find out what's wrong; below are the answers I get:
# I am busy all day.
# Very tired to answer calls whenever I'm back
from work.
And so many unthinkable reasons.

I feel neglected and I really don't know what to think anymore.

Pls what should I do?

Take a walk sis,he done