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blackpanthar:
Talk to him and see if he has a plan... or if he just wants to escape and come home to "rest"

For you, why not learn a skill and start your hustle so that when your brother comes home, you can teach him a skill too... SCHOOL IN NAIJA IS NO LONGER THE WAY O... hmmm... just let your brother drop school first and learn a skill then he can sponsor himself

ashybabs:
Fans were glad to see the latest development on Amanda. The rehab facility she joined had actually changed her. In the interview, she said it was hard for her to join the rehabilitation center, but she had to. She said she still had fervent craving for drugs but obviously can't get any because of the rehab. Over all, she showed appreciation to Netizens for their love and support on her.
Nice





In the video, we noticed Amanda had changed - she is now healthy. Many will say it was the rehab center that changed her, but if we look deep, it was actually the love, support and prayers from Netizens that saved Amanda.

In conclusion;
Whatever you are going through in this life, always consider the fact that there are people out there willing to support you. The world is built around hate, but within these hatred is an undying love. The love for one another, coupled with effective prayers is one of the most powerful things on earth - the story of Amanda's transformation proves this point.

I sincerely hope this article has inspired you to seek love and prayer and transform your life for the better.

RIP to those that lost their lives this year, and better days ahead to those that scaled through the year.

Scientists:


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I know many will bash me for taking simple things too much, I understand

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

How can he engage with such kind of woman?

He didn't check the house number before entering!

seanjost:
Is this not true... what exactly do ladies do for each other?

EaglesEyes1:
Is this girl ok at all?

LucyB24:
@redpanthar

I can't pay him surprise visits because I don't know exactly where he stays. I've never visited him before. He lives in Lagos and I live in Abuja. All I know is that he stays somewhere in Lekki.

He isn't responding to any of my calls and texts.

I tried telling my boss that I had an engagement on Saturday but he refused because I had already taken two days off a week before due to ill health, and the project required my specialty. No one else at the office had the skill set to handle the project like I could and there was a deadline.

bouncin04:
I have other girls that come around once in a while.. but issue is .. I've invested so much time and money on her ..just can't start all over with another girl ..

Wiselyimbecilli:
Am a young man who is planning on getting married soon. I have dated this girl for over 1 year, we had fallen so deeply into each other until last two months wen she told me her genotype. I was very heartbroken. We tried getting medical advice on any possible means of ensuring only healthy children, but the answer remained the same "it's very risky". So we had a weekend outing and towards d end of it,, we broke up. I saw her cry and it was really a devastating experience.
This should be one of the first questions people should ask when they meet to avoid unnecessary heart break and waste of time, just brazen up and ask her, you will be fine.

Now I have this childhood friend I want to ask out, she is a pretty and hardworking lady from a very decent family. She also knows my intentions.
Later today, I intend popping up dat scary question "wats ur genotype?". The possible answers to this question have given me sleepless nights.
It's not easy to find someone dat would fit into ur life perfectly, and wen someone like me does, then I will have to scale this genotype hurdle

This life no just balance

manos:
Note: it's a bit long... I could have summarized but I want those contributing to get a crystal clear picture of the situation, so that they can give better and specific advice.

The major problem here is that she mixes up things to be done in the kitchen with things done only in the toilet.

I have been married to my wife for over a year now (no kids yet) and there are certain unhygienic habits she has been displaying, since we started living together. I have been seeking ways to help her improve on it, but a calm correction from me always leads to a bitter argument between us. (She claims I complain too much whenever I point it out)

For example, she always clears her throat early in the morning and spits in the kitchen sink. (despite the fact that we have 2 toilets with wash hand basins; one in the room and also a guest toilet, with a wash-hand basin which is basically 3 steps from the kitchen). Then she goes to the bathroom, gets her toothbrush and comes back to the kitchen to brush her teeth, while doing several things with toothpaste and saliva drooling from her mouth all through.

The other day, she prepared breakfast (spaghetti) for both of us with the drooling toothpaste mouth and i refused to eat from it. I didn't complain to her either, until she asked why I didn't take my portion of the spaghetti from the pot, later that evening. I mentioned to her that, as always I find it disgusting to eat spaghetti, seasoned with toothpaste drool and saliva. The response I got from her was a hiss and then she said that, next time I should inform her if I am not going to eat the food she cooked so that she would not cook for me."

I let that slide but I felt she missed the point. The next day was her birthday and I decided to prepare breakfast for her.
While I was in the kitchen cooking, she came in with the same drooling toothpaste mouth to take a kitchen Scissors in order to cut something on her pants, even though we have another scissors in the room for such purposes. In the process of trying to pick the scissors, her hands which were covered with toothpaste drool had to cross the pot which I was cooking with. I mentioned to her that I was not comfortable with that and she just hissed as usual, still picked the Scissors and left the kitchen while angrily saying that I am just a complainer. I lost it at this point and proceeded to give her a lecture in anger about basic hygiene and why I can not keep quiet over these things because we live in a shared space and how her actions have a direct effect on me. It ended in a shouting match till she kept quiet, without accepting she was wrong.

This is the pattern almost everything takes when I try to correct her. The worst part is that I would still have to be the one to apologize for shouting at her because if I don't, I might be subjected to a week long silent treatment which I dread.

There are other more unhygienic things that are done by her, which I might not be able to post here due to the fact that I am not completely anonymous and she is still my wife but I hope this information is enough for someone to understand my frustration and profer a solution.

rasheedatt:
I am freaking out about this, My boss asked me out on a date which I think is innapropriate but I love my job and i was looking for a loooong time before i found it so I will be damned if i give up.

I was very kind and told him there is zero interest here so i wouldnt want to waste his time. He told me I should quit the job or accept him and he will increase my salary.

I told him to give me a week to think about it.

What should I do?

Adex2442:
Well, u are fine. And I like yr eyes..
Can u do me a favor pls?? Send me yr contact on mail. Utuborosariemen@hotmail.com

Thanks IRIS.

Adex2442:
See yr eyes. U are supposed to be called IRIS

Atouke:
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In the past 30years, the city has grown in leaps and bounds.
One of Nigeria's best photographer Samuel Okposin took his camera to the city of Uyo and captured the city in its greenery.

Enjoy A peep into the city of Uyo through Samuel's lenses.

Next time you think of a place to spend vacation time in Nigeria, Head on to uyo and make this virtual tourism real.

Davash222:
I'm interested to know if you're a graduate, a student, or a drop out

justmag:
Let me start by apologizing if this has already addressed! I am sorry.

Now! I have noticed lately that most women sometimes take their precious time to reply to messages even when then message has been read. Sometimes they reply after three hours, sometimes days, weeks and so on. This has been an observation among friends and family members. Sometimes among couples as well. I don't get it! Why is this?? Would appreciate a girls input.

BadRadio:
A guy got so attracted to a lady while shopping in a popular Nigerian departmental store. He was at the clothing section but noticed she was at the cosmetics section doing her thing, so he decided to get a deodorant, just for the sake of having a word.

He made his intention known but @ last she didnt oblige him. "Call me" she said, here have my number"... This happened before the lockdown !!!



And as I speak, this guy is still calling like 500 (five hundred) times daily and chatting 24/7 with hope that his luck will shine one day.


What manner of fvckery is that?;

skimena:
There's this young beautiful girl that is my friend. she's just 19. she's indeed an epitome of black beauty. we are very close. there's nothing about myself I don't tell her. infact we confide in each other. but I like that thing that's under her legs. I just want to have a bite of it and she's aware I'm in a relationship. I've used all my antics such as buying her things but it's not just working out. so I told her to name her prize but she didn't say anything so I offered to give her #1 million either in cash or by cheque just to enter that punana island. She said no that she's not ready to start having sex now. I think she's not wise.

t4cbjn8:
I caught my wife cheating with a Transvestite. I was out of the country and used the software called win spy remote https://win-spy.com/ and found out my wife is cheating on me. The worst part is I just found out out that my baby is not mine, but the Transvestite is the father.
I loved the baby so much, I am so depressed now. I do not know what to do. I love my wife so much but this I cannot accept. Should I leave her? Or what can I do? I think I need a new women, to take my pain away. What would you do?

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

stanliwise:
He should lay low and humble himself which means he shouldn’t go on a reactive mode and he shouldn’t violently act out. He can call his mother friend or anyone especially religious person to help him beg but please please he should never ever fuel his mom suspicion of him being a thief. Having a bad name is worst dent on a person personality to future success in life. A good name is better than silver and gold. To live a life where ones parent has conviction their son is a thief is a terrible life to live. That life is meant for those who are born-thief asin those one that has it in their DNA that stealing must be the way of life and they don’t care. But for anyone who wants a good future that last thing you can do is to have a bad name.

This is one reason I can fight anyone no matter who you are or how influential you are. As soon as you make me bad in the public I will fight you till my last blood, or I will live that area for Good. I can take any shit from anyone but not people who compromise my integrity.

Localemperor:
Its is no longer news that I have been declared insolvent. After all effort to maintain my liquidity level to no avail I decide to let her go.

Just as organization retrenched worker during periods of economic downturn in order to cut cost of operations, I sent her a massage expressing my regret and reasons.


I feed her
I pay money for hair dressing
I buy clothes
I take her out every weekend
I buy shoes
I do everything thinkable

She works and earns but I still wonder why she would want me to do everything for her. I compiled my income statement and statement of financial position for the first quarter and found out that expenditures have exceeded income and debt is on the rise.

So I wholeheartedly declared my self insolvent yesterday and decided to cut cost in order to protect my goodwill.

Monfeels:
I want to share my problem with you guys in the hopes that maybe I'll get some good advice or at least some insight into my problem.

When people first meet me their impression of me is that I'm good looking, cool and intelligent. Most girls usually assume that I have a girlfriend or a legion of side chicks that I Bleep whenever I want to.

The truth about me is that I've never been in a proper relationship with another woman before. All I've had is sexual partners that I stop talking to after I have sex with them, and girls I get intimate with just to control them and get them to fulfil my desire of having a female to own, please me and do my biding, and then I get bored of them and cease contact and move on like I never knew them.

The reason for this behavior is that I don't possess the emotional resources needed to engage in a healthy relationship with another human being. I have no empathy and I usually feel no guilt or remorse for my actions. It's impossible for me to care genuinely for another person. I don't feel people's pain or suffering and I'm not moved by the death of family members or friends. I simply do not care for any other person but myself. I've been this way for a very long time. I lack the ability to maintain relationships with people hence why I lose friends often. Relationships are usually a means to an end for me and when that end is met, I become irritated by the person I've gotten close to.

Despite the fact that I don't see the point in relationships, I still find that I get jealous of couples in healthy relationships. It's not like I want to experience what they experience, just that I am envious of the fact that they are participating in something I can't participate in.

When I find a girl that I want to get close to, I'm usually consumed with jealousy over her previous relationships, and over any current relationship she has with any member of the opposite sex, even if it's merely platonic. All I want is for her to devote all her time to me and shower me with attention and love. The problem with all this is that I don't want to reciprocate this behavior. In fact the idea of devoting attention to, and showering affection on someone else irritates me. It's all pointless, but I enjoy when it's done to me.

Another weird side to all this is that I don't just want to control the girl, I also enjoy making her feel bad, but in a way that makes her crave for me more. I enjoy poking holes in herself esteem, making her second guess the presumably good qualities she thought she possesed, making her not feel wanted by me, and making her do more to please me.

I don't love women, I only become obsessed with them. Obsessed to the point that I'm constantly tortured by thoughts of them being sexual with another guy especially when it's someone she has dated before. I want her all to myself and even if she had sex with someone before I met her or before we became close, I am filled with anger and jealousy whenever the thought crosses my mind, and I want to punish her for that. It's like I want to erase her past and replace it with me. I want to be all she's ever had. I don't want anyone else in her life and I don't want anyone else in her past.

All this must sound crazy to you guys but this is my reality and it's eating me up. I need advice.

DNSPro:
Recently,

I discovered that a lot of Nairalander men have been wailing about their sour relationships with Nigerian girls and it is not surprising to me.

You would be foolish if you do not have a backup when dating a Nigerian girl and I do not say this because I am a flirt or womanizer, at least I can boast that girls I have dated is laughably very very very low in comparison to what is obtainable out there.

It is no news that most Nigerian girls are unstable mentally and emotionally.

For the ones who lamented about money they spent or how they almost went bankrupt, I am not surprised about one not let other guys bully you as if they never fell "mugu" to any Nigerian girl.

However, you will run into problems when start treating them like wife instead just a girlfriend. This is were we make mistakes.

Early this year, I was chatting with my girl and before I know what's up, her whatsapp line became inactive. This was surprising to me and I called her immediately to know whether she blocked me to which she said why would she block me. I told her to check and she said she will cos she was charging her phone. Next morning it was still same thing so I kept calling because I thought maybe the phone had been stolen.

I didn't think she blocked me. Why would I? Eventually, she picked the call and told me she checked but the whatsapp is not on her phone and some other things were wiped off. I believed this because he had been complaining about the phone for which I sent her money to fix it prior to this.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it after while and I stopped asking and just kept communications on normal calls, at least she didn't block me there and that didn't give me any reason to suspect I was blocked. I also didn't want to seem like a pest if prop further (you know how Nigerian girls react when you do)

So last month, I was calling her and when I do, she would cut the call. This was unusual to me. She did this for almost a week until I reached out to her friend in order to know what was happening. The friend let me know that the mum's health is bad. Her friend sent me pictures of the mums condition and it was an eyesore.

I know my girl(I may not be her guy lol) to be one who does not like bugging you with her problem but why would her friend know this and I do not? I thought about this for some seconds and waved it off. I probed the friend further to know the expenses and the friend told me about 300k is needed. I wanted to sent 100k but for some weird reasons, I sent 60k with a plan to send 40k after a while. At least that will help start something.

few days after that, I noticed that the friend was getting response from her faster and relaying them to me on whatsapp since when I called she does not pick. I had to ask the friend if she is communicating with my girl (I may not be her guy lol) on whatsapp and the friend said yes, she is. I said okay.

Thereafter, my girl (I may not be her guy lol) called me, probably to thank me for the money, but I missed it so she left a text message. She told her friend that she called but I didn't pick and wondered whether I was angry. The friend messaged me in the morning and queried why I didn't pick the call or whether I am still angry. I told the friend I missed it because the phone was not with me and that I am not angry.

So this is where it got interesting...

last week, the friend upload a picture that looks like one from my girl's status wishing her happy birthday and today the friend uploaded another thanking my girl (I may not be her guy lol) for the cake.

At this stage, I was wondering whether I did anything wrong that made this girl not give me her "new" whatsapp number because that was what I thought. I looked at the status of her friend again, saw old pictures of both of them and concluded it is impossible to have new phone and still have this old pictures that were stored in an old phone.

I called her today after that and asked her whether there is any reason for not giving me her "new whatsapp number. That was all I asked and she went defensive and aggressive, saying am I not aware of what happened to her phone blah blah.. same phone I gave her money to fix? Was she expecting me to bring out another money to fix it again? She ended by saying she is not ready for this talk and that we talk about this later.

I said I know but it is just a question. She refused to answer a simple question. I told the friend her reaction when I asked and guess what the friend did? She tried to blackmail me like Nigerian girls do and said my girl is trying to make me understand something and that women like to be listened to all the time. That I should listen instead of reacting. I smiled and within me, I said this one think I am a JJC. What she meant is that I didnt do anything about my girl's phone and that is what she (my girl is reacting to ). WTF?

So, I installed whatsapp on a new line to check her status. Lo and Behold, the profile is active, which means I was blocked all along. I didn't waste time to let the friend know my findings that I was blocked. Same friend only replied "it is well"

Well, I went back to the new whatsapp line and told her I am aware she blocked me and it is good. At least I now know I was blocked instead of assuming

I am not so pained though because when dealing with a Nigerian girl, I have learned to always have backup... we move!

jumper524:
It's possible to find beautiful girls from these place though but it doesn't change the fact that less than 40% of their girls are beautiful.

1, Ondo: I tell you the girls here are hardly ever beautiful. The locality of the few beautiful ones there there is enough to turn you off.
Girls bearing iyabo, Bose, basira are common there, if you take your survey on girls bearing these names you'll discover 90% are from ondo and are extremely ugly..


Delta: my guy we know this one say Na fact.
The girls there are most of the times mistaken for men on several occasions.
They are so manethic(if that word even exist) they behave so much like men and are extremely ugly in shape

Plateau: Jos have the blackest set of ugly women in Nigeria. It's very easy to identify a Jos woman from voice. The moment you can do this you'll get to understand how ugly they look. Their women are very hospitable to men from other part of the country mostly due to low patronage from their own men and to encourage commitment..

Cross river: yea most of you would be shocked they made the list but it's pure truth.
Calabar women are very curvalicious but are damnnn too ugly.
During my days in Calabar, I could remember taking a strow on Sunday morning in the street of Calabar. Trust me I no see one single fine girl.
Despite the makeup they mould before going to church they were extremely ugly as Bleep. The beautiful ones there are mostly from akwa ibom or ogoja.

Feel free to add yours guys..

SultanOfPuna:
For Guys
We all know 60% of naija girls have flatscreen boobs. Yeah flat like tad road
But some of my homies swear that they infact love Saggy Boobs...

Are there guys out there that are sexually attracted to girls with saggy Boobs??