₦airaland Forum

PrettyCindy: I was married to a Yoruba man 2yrs ago (am from d East). The man is from a polygamous family and deeply believed in divorce; infact 3weeks into the marriage he suddenly decared that divorce is an option when anyone of us gets tired. Bottom line, the marriage lasted for just 7 months.

I did all I could to make our marriage work but I was totally frustrated. My pregnancy was 2 months old when he physically assaulted me repeatedly kicking my stomach. My child survived and he is 4 months old now, a healthy baby.

Now the thing is this, am a single mum now as we are finally seperated. What chances are there for single mum‘s to find love, are they discriminated against? Am not saying i want to start dating again now, i just want to know what its like for us out there.

Beync: No one is taking side with the wife, cos even if out of anger she ran out of her husbands' house to his best friend and on getting their she notice funny moves by her husbands frnd ,a woman who truly love her husband and respects the institution called marriage should have run back home and tell her husband so he'l beware of the kind of best he has or move to relative so as to avoid giving in to the temptation. But she gave in and latter came back quietly like nothing happened after relatives must have settle their arguments. Why we are saying forgive her is becos to err is human and to forgive is divined. But the final decision whether to forgive or not lies in the op if after all investigation he finds out that his wife is guilty.

Area-Fada:
All this issue of forgiveness, forgiveness. What if the man decides not to forgive? He's within his right. He didn't marry his wife for another man to shine her Congo. If she has any evidence that the man cheats too, she also can decide not to forgive.

How do you know that she didn't use the arguement to go to be near the family "friend" she already wanted to nyansh all along?

One reason people do all kinds of things these days is that when caught, they can always blame the devil and "repent".

If the "friend" had not confessed and by chance HIV is diagnosed in both OP & wife (heaven forbid), every body will blame the man for it and automtically assume his wife is an angel.

We should seriously review our wholesale embrace of foreign religion before our family unit becomes non-existent.

Guy, judging from this alone do u know that the woman is heartless. She petended all is well and didnt deem it necessary to tell her husband she shares the same bed with every night. But instead a visitor left the comfort of his own house to break the sad news to him. Men this woman is something!

emmatok: NA wa o,

Are you blaming the OP for his wife's action?

Why would a married woman pack to another man's house over an argument, she should have gone to her parent house.

The OP did the right thing by taking his child away from that irresponsible wife and friend.

The OP should be careful with such woman.

Maxidoe: I have read the reponse to the OP's seek for advise and it seems most peeps are not married,you say forgive and forget,forgive and forget your wife's infidelity with a friend,it takes the grace of God oh,and those of you saying he should have gone to beg her to come back,so that each time their is an arguement she will live the house and be begged to come back abi.They were into each other on two diffrent occassions meaning he kisssed her,sucked her booobs,probably suucked her pu-ssy too and also finger phucked her,while on her side she probaly stroked and played with his pe-nis probably sucked it and moaned passionately on 2 diffrent occasions,what the OP meant by into each other is that they did everything except putting his pe-nis into her pusssy,if she was your wife what would u do? do you think that marriage can ever be the same again?can he erase this from his memory?can he trust her again?do you knw what it takes for a married woman to allow somebody else to smoooche her?And when it happened the fisrt time,she did not run home but she waited till it happened the second time,and it would have probably happened the third,fourth time and continously if family did not resolve it.My advise is this,you knw youself more,what you can take,can you still love and respect her,can you still make love to her like nothing happened? if you can then forgive but if you cant my brother its all up to you.Buy kitchen cabinet instead of paying a daughter's school fees,and leaving the house cos ur husband got angry and shouted on you,and away for about 30 days,ridiculous,like someobody said you dont have a good wife and i agree.

Jay Alex: 2yrs ago my wife and i had an issue@home,i had to pay the yearly rent and had to get an operation for a torn ligament,the cost of both was almost same..I do not like to be embarrassed about my responsibilities so i decided to pay the rent and work for a few months and save for the operation,since it wasn't dire.My wife wouldn't have non of it,she insisted i get the operation first and from a mild argument,we really started having problems,we barely talked and she really wouldn't see reasons.So i did what i had to do pay the rent so i'd maintain the cordial relationship and mutual repect i and my landlord shared,since i wasn't feeling much pain or pressure from the knee.3weeks after my wife refused to pay our daughters school fees,which she took care and instead bought a new set of kitchen cabinet,she said that's what's important.That's when we had the big falling out..i was angry and furious and shouted on her,when i came back she and my daughter had gone to my best friend's house.I went there took my little girl and left her with my friend and his wife..after 4weeks she moved back in by then parents and relations had set in(the one thing i hate).4months later i got the operation,and since then we'v been good,best friends like always..a week ago my friend said he had something to tell me that's burdened his heart for so long,one he felt he owed me as a friend,i listened and after many starts he said he had 'touched' my wife while she held up with them,categorically they didn't sleep together,but then twice he said they were in each other..i left and havent said anything to him yet and my amiable wife never thot it wise to tell me all these while! The two people i love and trust apparently betrayed me..what do i do with my wife? Where do i start with her?

1025: if only african rulers will be kind enough to be dying this way, african will be a better place to live. we pray that more of them die and if possible, the masses shld threat them like our enemies that they are.

pafm247: CRAP....smh

buzor: initially i tot it was ibb, but he excluded west africa.
i think we need these type of prophecy in naija...

Sijo01: Gudday folks.
Am nt a fan of religious section, i decided to come in here due to dis liru issue i hav. Wanna kno if wat am abut to do is ok.

My brother who has never asked me for financial assistance b4 is really in need of money &has asked me to help out. I in person, am nt always confortable wen sombdy ask me for somfin n am unable to giv.

D issue now is dat, am nt boyant @d moment but i hv my tithe which i kno wil be reasonabl enof to giv out because hv nt been to my church for some time now (went on a visit to another church, was on duty, went out of d state etc) so, i did nt pay my tithe neither did i spend it.

If i give out this money (my tithe) to my brother, wil i b on point?
Plz folks ur opinion is seeked here.
Thanks!

life_style: Dreamers..


Nigeria is a terrorist Nation!

Your Naira Has no value in the International market

Fix your economy first then maybe in 20 years go head the world bank.

festuskol: B4 nko, like he has any choice.
Are we meant 2b surprised dt he endorsed her or what naa?

I can't even imagine obama in a debate against Jonathan,
omo d difference wil be too clear. Cos obama's intelligence level is simply miles ahead of GEJ's. I don't hate him, it's just d truth.

onyewec3: The election was not rigged. How culd u compare a vote of about 500,000 for PDP compared to 5000 of action congress.d distance is toooooooooooooooo wide to b judged as rigging!

PointB: People voted for the candidate of their choice. To expect PDP to lose election everywhere because of the poor records in SW is to expect too much. Other parties are mostly made up of recycled PDP members, so there is nothing new here.

Congratulation Mr. New Governor.

Sweetnecta: How a muslim ordered the destruction of a mosque is beyond me, when he is even forbidden to destroy churches. Definitely, churches are less important to him than mosques are.
The messenger of Allah, Muhammad [as] at the battle of Badr told the people guarding him to leave because Allah has promised to protect him. And Allah [swt] is the best of Protectors.
After 911, the muslim communities in USA, specifically in New York City told the authorities that Allah is our Protector, not needing additional 'protector[s]'.

Fear of man is sign of lack of true faith. When a muslim leader is destroying Islamic places of worship because he fears harms from misguided group[s], instead of supplicating to God for protection, no wonder the state of religion is the way it is in the west; ignorance leading people to seek faith in the wrong quarters, thinking that they will be successful there. They fail to observe that poverty and test abounds in all religions and success on earth is not based on being in the correct religion and shall not matter on the Day of Assembly, where the nation of religion you belong to and your faith and deeds shall be the elements that matter to your Judge; God Almighty Allah.

freecocoa: What's there to do but to try and find out his reason(s) for doing such but then thinking about it,the only genuine reason would be to cheat on me, which leaves me with the only option of giving him the chance to be truly single and searching.

manitobor: Al quaeda in Nigeria? Terrible! Nigeria is fast gaining reputation as a terrorist hub in Africa where bomings, kidnappings and the like take place often. Really terrible!