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Lasunray01:
Good day nairalanders. My first time post in 5yrs.

Will try to summarize the issues and seek sincere advise please.

I’ve been married before but got divorced within a year due to genotype issues(it’s a long story). So I remarried 2yrs after and with a child now, and that’s where my issues started from.

I know I have some bad sides too which I’m trying to change, which is flirting with single ladies, and this has caused multiple fight with my wife.

Whenever we have this fights, not physical, just verbal, but in her anger she breaks virtually anything around, cups, laptop, speakers etc. she can be madly angry. I’ve warned, petted her severally to desist from this act especially infront of our kid...but she won’t. It’s getting worse by the day. Now she reports me with blackmail to her parents and friends making me feel I’m the worst husband in the universe, calling me unprintable names. Calling me weak cos I don’t beat.

Now the advice I seek, we are planning to relocate as a family abroad this year, but I’m really scared. I can actually go alone, but would prefer we all go together since I have the means. But I’m scared if I won’t regret my actions to take her along with this her character. What if I get jailed or lose custody of our child abroad, because she’s a master in blackmail. She can turn simple issue overboard.


Sorry for the long epistle. Just had to pour out my mind. Constructive criticism is welcomed.

Thank you

Then flirting with single ladies nd save ur self the stress.

Militants nd sea pirate's be laughing right now...pepper soup don land for who we go see catch.

Ebubu3:
Strange because elephants travel in herds

africa don kill the rest na..dem no dey gree see animal for eyes especially snake...that tin don suffer for man hand.

soldier dey kill prison officer, prison officer dey kill Civil defense officer, police dey kill soldier, vigilante dey kill police, mtcheew, dem jst dey kill kill, dey do do, dey shoot shoot.

imagine, school for 9ja na rubbish.

lol, bro John don see finish.

Nigerian's neva show this one something yet. if u knw u knw.

CAUSTIC002:
lol, we are 6, lock came with 5 keys.

lol, fear catch me ni....anyway, the key can be duplicated but i no knw how dem dey do for ur side o....for my own kaba, u go need bring proof of identification( drivers license, National I.D, Int passport, voters card etc) b4 dos guy's go even gree do the stuff gv person.....I no blame dem na, na as Nigeria be now.

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key never lost nd u wan do duplicate, u no try at all.

Melvin56:
Hello everyone my name is Melvin
I have been following this platform for long but I registered officially today,I always enjoy comments from righteousness,slawworn,sapphire etc.Everyone is just amazing even with all the beefing and disagreements

Now my problem is that after a long search I was able to secure a job at a club as the club manager

Due to the fact that we have so many clubs and lounge in that area and the fact that my own club is new we barely have customers

Now my boss is questioning my ability,that is if I am fit for the position

Please friends I don't wanna loose my job
I need advice on what to do to attract customers
Mind you I am just a manager,don't know much about publicity
If you're into this field kindly help

I also beg the admin to help me move to FP thanks[color=#006600][/color]

control olosho enter the club na...mtcheew

BigFrog:
My shop decking is cracking as a result of the ceiling fun hanging rod they put up there. It's not firm. It wobles with the ceiling fan and I now notice cracking allover it decking.

Another thing is I plan to uninstall the ceiling fan. The decking is a new deck ans there is plan to put another shop on top. I was worried if all this will affect the structure and it looks like the deck is not strong.

I need advice from experience personal from this house to advise.

One day na One day be the implication

tortoise wey dem don use do sacrifice finish for building site na im u go carry cook chop..it's ok, continue.

The Nigerian president can as well traveled to any country with armed security nd many soldier's that's if he has the funds to do so. the cost of hotels for the staff's traveling with him, cost of avaition fuel for his plane, cost of fueling his convoys etc.

Johnames:
Am an introvert, so my girlfriend came around, am not the gisting type, I wish I was, so there is this guy that stays with me, the guy is cool, I have no problem with the guy, so the problem now is that, he is always gisting with my babe and whenever they are gisting, the 2 of them will laugh so hard, the thing come dey make me feel somehow, I will be outside, I go they hear the 2 of them dey laugh for inside house, I don't know how to handle this situation, what will be the best thing to do here.

Na wetin be ur problem gan gan...soro soke

I knw this church, located at asa dam bside dangote....if u knw u knw.

Kaleidoscopeman:
We are getting married in 4 months. I don't check her phone except for hotspot or she is showing me something. Just one message popped and I was supposed to click something else but the message.
What's your candid opinion on the screenshot?

What i see here is a lady who is trying to catch Cruise nd milk someone else hard earn money....she is a hole.

Paramount01:
Hello nairalanders,hope you guys days was good? please advice me on the matter on my mind.

I entered a relationship very early in my life as back as when I was still in secondary school with a girl in my area, we never had sex until wen she finsh her secondary school we started having sex,we don't stay far from each others house so is very easy for her to come over to my house when my parents are not around.

We had sex countless time and what did you expect from people that had sex every time without protection, the girl was pregnant. As at the time she was pregnant I was already in my 200level at the university and she was still looking for admission when I heard about it I told her to keep it but she told me she can't keep it that her parents will kill her so I gave her money to abort it which she did, we continue with our love affair but now very careful till I am about leaving for service, when going I told her I will surely keep myslef for her and she should also keep herself for me till I come that if I hear any rumor that she is dating somebody else I will just cut off the relationship so I left, after a year of service in the far east I got a job and she can't come to my side due to distance I later came home after 1and half year, as I saw her, I observed somebody else has touch her, her breast was full of milk I ask her what happen she said nothing, I later found out that she was pregnant for another guy when I was not around and she aborted it so the milk is still in her breast I was mad within me she beg and I forgive her.

Note all through my stay during service year I never touch any lady I kept my self for her as the promise I made with her,I stayed like 2 months at home before going back to my base,has I left she told me she was pregnant for me again I was shock but told her am not ready to father a child now that she should abort it, she aborted it and we continue our relationship but I only come home once in a year.

My mind was not pure with her again so I now start giving other girl attention due to what has happen before, I now met this new girl, we attend the same Catholic, we started has friend not until I begin to pick interest in this new girl,I asked her out and she agree which make me to forget this my old babe totally, the old babe complain and I told her I am sorry I can't continue with her again that my mind is not with her again, she begged but I told her parents I am not interested again.

My wedding with this my new babe will come up August but my conscience do judge me that i don't treat that old girl well by leaving her. pls help, what can I do?

That old girl will be ur greatest nightmare...mark my words.

if stupid gambling doesn't kill u then a hole would.

Austinboy:
I purposely opened this thread so i can let out all I'm passing through and feeling because I've been having suicidal thoughts. Right now as i speak, i can't even use my own original sim as a result of constant threats from people i owe.

Let me start this way. I used to be a very upright person who detested gambling. Even back in school when my then room mate used to, i looked at him somehow. Fast forward to after NYSC, just by hearing a discussion of how someone made 300k with 100 naira. I decided to try. I started out with 100 and then when 1 game cuts it, i will say i have hope. 100 sooned turned to me staking 1000 then i went out of control from there.

I started gambling on dog racing and before i knew it, u did the one which eventually wrecked me. I started gambling on instant virtual first on bet9ja before i moved to sportybet.

Last year was the worst. I made millions of naira but all when down the drain on virtual bets. There have been days when i can finish 500k in just an hour on virtual.

Right now I'm indebted to so many apps. My name has been broadcasted severally and people who used to look uo to me are wondering what went wrong. I don't know if i can ever build my image again. I'm so ashamed of myself that i don't know if i should live again. The problem is anytime i have money, even after saying i won't go back. Once I'm credited, i go straight to it. It won't be an exaggeration to say i have lost over 15m within the last 5 to 6 years I've been into this shameful habbit. Please i need help, i need advice maybe from someone who has gone through this phase successfully because I'm at the verge of ending it all. I used to be so responsible and now my life is not worth emulating at all right now.

Mods please help me move this to front page as i need someone, just anyone to tell me how i can move forward from this mess.

Bro, please chat me up on 0,7,0, one, eight, eight, nine, 2,7,1,7

OP, u neva see whr u ask person for direction nd the person go change am for u badly like say una both don knw each other b4....So in dat case, u have to apologize b4 asking anytin frm someone...




When some tells u no problem at the end of a conversation means he or she can assured you 80% of what u demanded from him or her bt if the said person ends it with OK, then forget o.

Iyaebe:
My friend came to visit last Sunday and met my cousin brother who came visiting, she asked who he was and I told her then I noticed she steal glances at him at intervals and not fully interested in our discussion.

Ever since then she has sort of made our house her second home and I don't need to be told that she's very interested in him.

Whenever she comes around and we are discussing, she will just be nodding and contributing with few words while her main work is to be stealing glances at him and this has made me so angry that each time she calls that she's coming I'll tell her I'm not home but she will still come.

Yesterday when she called to inform me that she was coming which I told her I was not home and I will branch her place when I'm returning. I knew she will come, so I went to hide in my room, and behold when I came out, I met her and my cousin having some conversation and I'm sure she initiated it. I didn't even give her face as I was so annoyed as to why a lady will present herself so cheap for a man she barely knows.

Now I want to fully stop her from coming to our house but I don't know where to pick on her because she's a nice person aside this cheap silly attitude she's displaying. How do I go about it?

Walia u be witch....wetin concern u now abeg abi na u wan marry ur cousin bro ni...enhhh, we knw una type o, ok na

me jst ball in to Anambra last week Sunday, i dey Isiagwu local govt jeje right now.

Bastard1stborn:
The girl dey nairaland.com

she no knw say the person wey dey her back self no dey see road for company...lol...Make God no allow us enter one chance whr woman go dey threaten us with sex matter....sometin wey she enjoy fah.....make he tell him uncle say him don dey knack the girl b4 she join the company and after that the knacking continue......uncle go understand say u b street boy.

ChizzyBuna:
Now here is the real issue
As of today i told her that i saw her name on sack list. It didn't go well with her
She has accused me of using her to climb to get new position at work.
She is now threatning to expose all our flings and affairs to my uncle who is the M.D.
She swore that i cant be promoted and she be sacked. That if they will sack her then they must sack me too.

She said i should defend her like i did last year or else she will expose our office sex and flings to M.D
And if i defend her, that my uncle will definitely suspect and he might demote me or sack me. He is a tough disciplinary man. I have seen him sack his closest allies.
I do r know what to do. I havent eaten since afternoon. My mind is not at rest

Na una type dey put we guys for wahala, see hw u allow one pussy hole finish u to d extent she get mind they threaten u join......Bro, if her name is on the sack list abeg let her go. if she wants to expose u then u also find a way to threaten her back na...although if fowl yansh blow, na she go still loose bt ur own reputation go damage pass buhari own.

cut ur coat according to ur size, now u don go cut agbada wear.

wahala upon trouble.

moneyissweet:
Not only that I benefited from him, but showed me how to catch big fish.

Do you get?

i don get u...the big fish clear me for eye wella....igbo Amaka.

moneyissweet:
So na Cubana chief priest be animal.
Do you know how many men that dude has helped.
He is paying more than 200 people salary every month.
And you, who you don help?

u dey part of the people wey him don help ni.

u go do wahala vote egungun enter power, but later him go go pick animal as him SA.

stampo:
Good morning fellow Nairalanders.
This is real matters that needs your advice..

A very close friend of mine has found himself in a confused state and will need best advice on how to handle a critical situation.

This guy is already planning to get married with his girlfriend later this year ...plans going on.
During the last holidays, he ran into his ex girlfriend after a long while, they exchanged number and he invited her over to have a drink then hang out somewhere.

During the course of the meeting one thing lead to another they had sex...this happened 2 months ago.

My friend just got a call from the ex girlfriend that she missed her period and she is pregnant for him..
My friend was like trying to explain to her that he is get married in few months time and has no plans for her as regards marriage.

The ex girlfriend says she is keeping the pregnancy that my friend should do what ever he feels
The issue now how can he tell his girlfriend and parents about it.

Should he stop the planning of the wedding or should he continue with the ex girlfriend ?.

Please your advice on this issue is needed.

Na u b dat ur pussy friend. notin go do u.

tyup:
Clueless and pot bellied theives as Service chiefs are the cause of these madness but I won't sack them cuz they're my people is the reason for all this attacks with impunity

The day Buhari leaves is the day Nigerians and military folks would breath fresh air

Figure headed service chiefs...

tyup:
No gun trucks on ground to counter them, no APC, no TB strike facilities only 7.62mm amo. Bros if na you, you go wait?? there's no applaud in dying foolishly. put US army in such position, they'll run to cuz weapons determines a soldier

Omo bro, i tire o....this boko boys dey para fah. No place dem no dey burst enter o especially military ground....NDA, now this one.