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Oyindamolah:
MARTIAL BED.

My wife says no sex until her mother leaves our house.
FROM A MY COUSIN:

I'm happily married with two young kids ages 2 and 4. We stay in a 2-bedroom apartment and usually leave the connecting door ajar so that if the kids wake up during the night they may have access to our room to seek comfort, which is very frequent especially during these noisy thunder storms.

My problem started with the arrival of my mother-in-law, less than a week ago to spend 2 months. Of course, she sleeps with her grand kids in their room.

This doesn’t stop them from frequenting our room during the night, so the door is still left ajar. Much to my amazement, my wife has now told me that she will no longer allow us to copulate during the time her mother is with us. She said her mum scolded her and feels we are rude to engage in lovemaking knowing fully well that she is in the adjoining room.

My wife has always feared her mum so it is impossible for me to convince her that this is her house, not her mum’s. I don’t see myself going one week without sex, talk less of 2 months! Is it my fault that the bed creaks or that my wife has to make noise at her height of ecstasy?

I feel that my mother-in-law is being very intrusive and insensitive and I’m prepared to talk to her and ask her to leave if she insists on tormenting my wife, but I know that my wife won’t find it funny at all.

What should I do?

you can not stay for jst 2 month without sex.....just see how a stupid Nigerian man is thinking....spit.

Do me i do u....na ladder dem gv us for airport. Na to off stadium light be our own....let them play their football training on a torch light.

Officiallyme:
Hello guys, met this girl some time around January this year and asked her out and we started dating ever since

So recently, I got to know about her past. Her past was so reckless that it is giving me a second thought about everything, started having s*x at the age of 15 while in secondary school and travelling to see a lot of men whom she claimed was asking after her hand in marriage. This girl has slept with so many guys that it's freaking me out, funny thing is, she's been lying and hiding some things but as a smart guy, I've always had my way around her to tell me the truth.

She told me she did a "mistake" abortion for one of her boyfriends then and just last year December, she had s*x with a married man and she knew very well he was married. These are just few of the stuffs I recently found out about, I know it's all in the past and she claims she's changed and want a real relationship with me but I don't believe at all, she claims to love me so much and cannot do without me and honestly, I love her too but I'm scared this may just change a lot about everything.

I don't know what to do, I'm hurt and disappointed and I don't know what to do now. I just need someone to talk to me, please don't insult me, I just need some pieces of advise.

Thanks

Na she toast u abi na u toast her.....if u answer this question then i go give u the advice you seek for.

those werey boys no get joy at all....but u chop him money...lol

Thugnificent:
I woke up yesterday morning only to receive whatsapp messages and phone calls from family and friends on my contact list that they received a message of me being a criminal and "loan prostitute" on the run with company funds because of few days overdue loan. I thought the Government claimed to have clamped down on this people. My Girl friend that normally calls me every minute hasn't called since yesterday. I'm guessing she has also received the message. I'm Soo embarrassed

Oga, why take a loan when you know u won't be able to pay back in due time?....I believe this loan companies have what we call T&C.The ignorance of most Nigerians won't allow them to go through it jst bcus of the money they want to collect....people shouting here, telling u to report them to this and that are brainless....Because i see no reason why u should take a loan nd not pay back....if it was to be a friend who lend u some cash now, that's how u won't pay back nd when he keeps asking for his hard earned money from u, u start keeping malice with him or her........Bro, you are a criminal by not paying ur loan back, look for a better way to clear ur mess off their radar....


peace....

ProphetofOdin:
Hi,
Please I will try to be brief as possible as i can.
I work with a firm that sells construction equipment, and head the logistics and warehouse department. I have this junior colleague that has been with the company for 8years(long before i joined cos i have only been there for 2+ years), he is experienced and good at his job.
But yesterday i caught this guy trying to steal two pieces of 70ah batteries, it really broke my heart because he can not even sell this things for up to 100k. I have tried everything in my capacity to make sure those working under my dept enjoy every benefits that are due to them; from hazard allowance, overtime, and so on. I sign all this allowance without asking questions even when sometimes some of them are questionable. I was doing all this so that nobody has any reason to steal and they have small change to augment their salary.
Personally i hate theft and frown at it and they all know it cos i keep preaching against this at every meeting, and if i escalate this to the management at the HQ in Lagos, he might be sack without benefits after 8 long years and he is a family man.

Though I have scold him and told him he would hear from me by Monday morning, the truth is given the situation I don't know what to do with this guy.

I am really confuse cos i don't even know how long he has been doing this shit.

The truth is, we are all thief's. He is a thief nd you are a thief too....Every living creatures in Nigeria is a thief including animals nd insects.......Scold him nd free the young man abeg.....May God help us all.

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Let her go, she will come back to her senses.

You buy land, open food stuff shop nd na u still come be the customer of ur shop again...na so this thread be. if u knw u knw.

everytime vote...mtcheew,e b like say dis one don dey yawere small small sha

Truvelisback:
Good day, Fellas. Why are guys losing interest in settling down?

Na who don chop belleful dey settle down.... if u knw u knw

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her,

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

Say na story u dey tell us or whc one u dey, soro soke werey.

This OBO jst dey baby factory children sha...

JonOfAustrlia:
My wife got pregnant again even with an IUD. We werent planning for it. As these babies are so small and require so much care already.

Its not like raising them in the village. We live abroad and we dont get help. It means we always have to be with them if not for daycare but then we are working. We are already so tired.


I dont know if I am venting or asking for advice. We are grateful but we are so tired already... what to do...?

I wan ask just one question alone then i move......Who fukk your wife give her belle?

Netmuch:
Hi fellow nairalanders,

I and my fiance were both bankers, I brought her in town and God used me for her to secure a job.

Where I used to stay was a bit further to our work place, so their is another banker guy who has a CR-V Honda car that usually drops her in the morning at her office whom she later became close friends with, although dey do call themselves whenever the guy is about leaving his house to pick up my fiancee, which I was aware of.

However, suddenly I realized that my fiancee WhatsApp chat is always cleared not to let me see their chats which I suspected a foul play, but the worst came last week when I was trying to get my car engine oil and I was approaching her, she was calling the guy, as I near her to eavesdrop on what she was talking with the guy, she quickly ends the call. I got angry that why will she not let me hear their conversations if truly she has nothing to do with the guy. I challenged her but she insisted nothing was going on between them that she had to end the call on my arrival which she has always call in my presence.

I don't want to be a fool as am about to end the relationship, but I guess I need your honest and positive response on this matter why she had to do what she did. I am a very simple guy and I believe every one should have their freedom. And I don't cheat.

I will love to hear your mature opinion on this.

Thanks.

See brother wey mumu....you got angry nd challenge her that why would she drop the call when she saw you...chia....This Show's how weak you are..The first stupid step in life is to challenge a lady over a man. Who does that this 2022....instead of u to use ur big coconut brain nd think of the further steps to take, you went ahead nd challenge her without evidence.....chia, God bless my guy @ GP. He would act as if he knows nothing but deep down, he is planning something big but see this op, dey jump under woman skirt.....

abeg shit o, no allow me shoot u.

See as stupid Nigerian's dey reason.....earn 50k without work.....Op self is a thief, just that one is a big thief nd the other, a small thief. How can you just apply for an online stuff like that without making some research first enh, for this zoogeria.......Okay, you wan make fast 50k bah, satan don bath you today. u go learn asap

Baba, u still dey learn work....market don cast long time ago na...abi u knw hear say every shaking tree is a target....All this computer editing no go pay you my guy, go hustle....leave all this computer editing tricks....419 no go pay.

people dey para for this kontree zoo o.....See person don sell all him hard earn properties finish wan come use the money go yankee....Nawa o, make me too go sell my bycicle jeje.

everyone shouting ''learn to control ur anger''like say dem too dey control their anger.....mtcheew, u think say to control anger na like bread nd butter bah...

Na who get power dey find husband, na who chop belleful dey find wife. if u knw u knw.

All pie na pie....fish pie, egg pie, meat pie, coconut pie, snake pie etc are all pie

Graceihotu:
My question is "what do guys really want"
I am not saying I am perfect but I know I am surely the best girlfriend any guy could ever think of yet I am still experiencing heartbreak at 31���


Had issues with my boyfriend since last year April bkos of a particular girl he posted on Facebook addressing her as the mother of his house. I became angry and told him I was only going to continue the relationship if I spoke to the lady in question bkos same lady posted him too calling him her first love.


He told me the lady was his cousin sister and ofcourse I believed him bkos she bares same surname with his cousin brother whoose wedding we attended together, He addressed me as his wife to be throughout the occasion so I had everything to believe in him

Just five days ago I saw his wedding notification on Facebook with that same lady. My heart has never been this broken B4 in my life. I have cried out my soul to the extent that I barely see clearly this days. I tried not to cry but I just can't. I am seriously weeping as I am typing this.

I have tried to encourage myself but I just can't stop crying and WAILING.

Who have I ever offended and what exactly do guys want?

I have searched all through the 5 yrs of relationship and aswear with my life that I never stressed him but I only requested Love not Money from him

My heart is bleeding.
I only sent him his pre-wedding pics and congratulated him then he replied "thanks''

He feels I don't deserve an explanation �����

one thing i no understand hear bsay, did he get married to his cousin or the 'cousin like' was just a figure head

guobe:
you click on combined on bet9ja platform after selecting your games,then click on the number of folders or games you feel will be successful and input your stake under where the amount is.combination is mostly good when you are playing with bigger odds

thanks bro

BigYash:
Baba who no get shock absolver full heart ,no fit run the business o.. Some teams dey shock person with result most times ..

lol

BigYash:
There are bad days in this business my nigga. God forbid you loose consecutively twice or three times your mind go dey. My own na 2k to 10.. E dey go well.. The 10 odds na two days games o.. No be my money alabi go take contest next election

lol, one guy stake man city to win crystal palace nd dem play draw, him stake 5k for the game...omo, come see as d guy dey para o....if dat guy get chance to enter UK at that time enh, him go flush all man city player's walia.....Me jst dey one conner dey reason say even 1.30 odd dey cast like play play o.......But people dey yarn d guy say all dis while him dey win nko why him no para, den i know say d guy dey win wella b4 him loose...lol

guobe:
Betting is full bookwork,it requires alot of analysis to win.you cannot win all the time but you must strive not to be On a loosing streak because it brings down morale in betting.Try also to make use of combination bet to avoid one cut my ticket.You can also go for 2 to 3 odds if the games are getting tougher and you need to win.You can join my channel on telegram guobepredict.I don't think we are doing badly over there.

Bro, how does that combination bets work?.

A friend of mine was pointing one Alhaji to me some months ago. He said, could you belive this man stake a game with 1M nd won a whooping 7M back....I told him good, but there must be some bad day involved where hr looses some of his cash. My friend said yes, he does looses some of his cash but the winning is more than what he looses back to the system...


3days ago, I heard the man won 15M with a stake of 2M. He gave the shop owner 200k nd the guy was jst flexing muscle around.....Then i realized football gambling is not for people with 1000 below...If you want to win then be ready to stake big....
Tell me why people won't go broke when you pick up 5k from ur acct nd book a game of about 30 tickets with 100 naira each to win 1M nd with a sensible person who only stake 5k on 2 to 3 odds.

Mtcheew, Na big money i dey use stake my games now o, e no go beta for 100naira

My elderly bro went to the hospital nd never came back home...that was 2006.....Well, if to say the coconut head b dey alive reach now, mayb him for don join militant...lol

Anytin wey concern height of 20ft above, i no dey do.....na who chop belleful dey enter plane.

jonaifame22:
We started dating in January.

She cries and whines on my bed like she has just heard the news of the passing of a loved one.

say na tears of joy abi na tears of sorrow?....soro soke.

prayer for nigeria na im this one dey gv dog wey her neighbor dey eye all dis while.....it's okay o....una go hear wetin go happen next week when her neighbor hand land for the dog.

no vote bubu, no vote bubu, dem say na bubu dem go support till d day dem die...okay na, make we dey watch...finger crossed

Atimjessy:
I just signed up on nairaland today so I can just pour out my mind.
I have been coming to this site for almost a year now because this is where I get latest and trending news.
I live with my brother who cares about me a lot but he has been too strict with me. I FEEL CAGED! Can you imagine I don't have a Facebook account, I can't use WhatsApp, I don't even have a bank account. If someone wants to send me money, I usually use our neighbor's son account.
He monitors my calls and contact list.
I only use e-mail because he said I will be using it for future registrations.
I envy my friends a lot. I'm in my mid-teens.
I am just fed up.

Who dash u the phone u dey use chat now...u don start again abi, make i first call ur brother.