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jaxxy:
Even if she has a beautiful attitude? I’ve seen pretty able gals with bad attitude, unintelligent and nothing meaningful to offer. She still looks good just the legs and I’m sure when she uses her prosthetics she looks normal.

And I have seen ugly short girls too with terrible attitude, but last las, a man will marry them.

Of course she's pretty if not for those legs.

But have never seen a Nigerian guy marry a cripple except one in a million and it's very rare. That's the honest truth and we all know.

Only abroad will one sees this type of love.

In Nigeria, no man will even look at her. Even a Nigerian man abroad will not marry her.

May God help us in this country amen

Oma307:
too talk, almost all the incidents in nairaland, it seems you have experience it

I talk to free my my inner demons and what have gone through.

It lighten my mind and soul.

I can't help it. Kind of a therapy on its own.

You can choose not to read them immediately u sight Victorian.

Y'all have to bear with me and use selective blindness on my true life stories.

It's that easy.

Born2Breed:
Wow! You are a real man. Glad to hear this.

Thanks dear

They go dey alright Las las

All na shakara.

Looking at the man's face, he can't wait to fucvk her again.

Lol.


Yeye!

Born2Breed:
Not all parents will try that. Most will be scared of hurting their family.
This is bravery and can be likened to kpata kpata we go die today.

I'm like that.

We will die here! I tried something similar years back but no kids involved, I got a black eye and fingers were cut off but was quickly rushed to theatre by my fiance back then and stitch back by a surgeon.

I thought I lost my one of my eyes but God saved me .

It takes mad guts!

Funaki:
no azz this time

Azz is no longer helping her situation.

In fact who azz epp?

Shes using her brains now, which is very good. More money and fame will increase.

Wish her best of luck.

When parents refuse to train their children in the way of the lord , menace becomes order of the day, but guess what? The menace comes back home for the final kill.

Go church, una go say God no exist

Allow the mother take the child to Church for the teachings of the word, una go say never!

In life, it's either u choose God or choose the devil! U cannot be inbetween and say because I'm a good man, and I don't believe evil exist. So no evil will come near my home.
Oh really?

I pity some people who refuse to train their kids.

She doesn't even look happy sef

She looks stressed and sad

What a way to enjoy as a rich lady. Lol

All I'm seeing is smiling untop suffering all to belong and be called a big lady.

Wish her luck anyways.

dollytino4real:
dis 16 years girl is getting too fat 4 her age o

That's why she did the needful and got married to a 60years old bilionaire.

Life is all about choices

Destined2win:
You see your life?

Just look at how the lady you are joblessly trying to promote shunned you.

Get your jobless ass busy

Promotion u say?

Did I ask for any Vote of who is more beautiful or what?

Did I call anyone to vote me as beautiful or what? What kind of useless promotion is that!

Trouble dey sleep, yanga go wake am. I send una work?

In the bid of causing another quarrel between two ladies abi? Do u think I'm as Daft, as both of you!

If u people don't have jobs to do other than causing never ending bickering online,well it's just too bad. When una go wait taya! Useless lots!
Promotion indeed!

Smhhhhhhh!

GreatResearcher:
Who is the MOST beautiful?

Victorian or UyaiIncomparabl ?

Sorry we can't post their pictures here since we haven't gotten their permission to do so.
Our effort to reach out to them and get their approval proves abortive.


For those of you who haven't seen these ladies in person or their pictures, checkout their facebook pages or their NairaLand profiles for their pictures.

Please don't be biased. We are working on a project.


#BeOurJudge.

You well so?



If u ever click my mention or call my name again, may thunder strike you dead! Useless thing!


Smhhhhh

Their hearts failed them


Sighs youths and sex!

As if na do or die!

Smhhhhh

Op jejely send her back home, before one becomes two.

But some guys sha

I have a neighbor, she's a pensioned widower ,all her kids resides abroad, married. she brought a househelp from Cotonou When the girl was just 8Years. She stayed till 18 years, she learnt how to fix hair alongside then Later another male neighbor from the same street came to meet the madam and said he wishes to marry her. The madam made more enquires about the neighbor and realised the man is OK, from a good family with a good job. The widower gave her blessings, told the girl family and they came to Lagos, They are married and sometimes she comes over to help the madam in house Chores when she's chanced. Shes now madam in her hairdressing shop which the husband opened for her

So all these boyfriends deceiving your househelp and collecting their share, should have conscience for God sakes!

Biko send her to family.

[quote author=Adakintroy post=77295420][/quote]OK then, if you say so

BrainSanitizer:
$1 = # 360.50
$35B = #126,175,000,000,000.
Someone should please remind me...
How much is Nigeria's budget for 2019 again?
Alright. Thank you baby for that reminder.
#8.83 trillion.
Let me do the simple maths.
126.175 trillion ÷ 8.83 trillion gives.......
14.29!
That means the divorce settlement can take care of Nigeria for at least 14 years!
Damn it!
Where are all these creatures parading themselves as slay mamas?
Come and see real slaying here ooo
A proud divorcee!

Lol, that's what I was about to type as well.

The women don't know how lucky the divorced wife is and how generous the husband is, as well.

Mehn! I'm made for life!

No more hustling!!!!! Chai!

Life!

Daeylar:
Lol. As much as this is funny and true.

The man cheated. He doesn't really have a large heart. The law just protects women better over there. Which is why their men grow up well and with respect. They know the consequences of acting stupid and misogynistic will be great to bear.

Here misogyny and mistreatment of women is the order
So Nigerian men mistreat women to their hearts content.

For him to allow her take 32billion dollars or so, he has a large heart, even though he cheated.

Lemme ask you, which Nigerian billionaire will dash his wife or will his wife such money?

Which Nigerian billionaire will even settle his wife with such money if she divorces him, in fact no Nigerian woman will divorce such a billionaire, even if he marries 100 women, not cheat o but marry 100 women after her.

Abeg, let's be real.. This is Nigeria. Not US.

the man has a large heart. He try.

I will even gladly divorce him for such money, if I don't love him and I'm rich for life .


Honestly u have no idea.

GreatResearcher:
victorian see business

The man try, he has a large heart.

That's why I like oyibo.

Divorce a Nigerian man, he will keep pursuing the woman in flesh and spirit to destroy her completely . Only God can save such woman from his venom, especially if she's a good woman and not at fault.

Fear men in Nigeria, when it comes to divorce. Only few let go of the woman, and wish her well.

LadyHeaven:
Lol, it was truly an epistle...

I'm like that most times. Pardon me, Biko.

LadyHeaven:
If true its really unfair, she was obviously brought up that way and her mentality may not be able to be changed, who knew maybe she even made efforts to and was rebuffed by the 26 year old claiming Musa, women sure do go through a lot of shi*, if she went abroad and became hippie she would have been lambasted for growing wings, now she didn't change from her strict religious ways she is still been blamed for not evolving, anyway i hope she is happy and true to herself wherever she may be.


PS- Musa has been waxing stronger since the ordeal so who knows maybe the S/S girl is his good luck mamacita

Mr Ahmed is already successful before meeting the SS girl. And his success will continue with or without her. There are people like Musa, who are born successful in life, his new wife is just an icing to his cake . When a woman or a man is supportive and understanding to their partner who is successful, the success of that partner grows and there will be no limit to his or her success. Just have an agreeable, meek loving partner, then leave the rest to the go getter partner , it's success all the way.

My Pastor once said, he had a childhood best friend ,they grew up together until later they parted ways after secondary school. He said he aimed for higher things in life, re groomed himself, and also re-brand his ideas, and everything about himself, now today he is well known, body guards with him anytime he's travelling to certain areas in the country or abroad but his childhood friend refuse to grow and refuse to be groom himself. His childhood friend even became worse after they parted d ways but one day, his childhood friend saw my Pastor face and advert on a billboard about one of his seminars in portharcourt . He was surprised and said ha! That's Ben! Or is my eyes deceiving me? He traced my Pastor to where he was at the seminar centre but his body guards refused him to meet with my Pastor. He said angrily but the Revrend Ben is my best friend! The guards looked at him and laughed! They mocked him, friend indeed! U must be crazy. He got tired arguing, he then waited at one corner for Pastor. Immediately he saw Rev Ben Coming out, he screamed his name. So loud, my Pastor turned and saw him, he was waving frantically, Pastor stopped and was like John? He screamed and said yes o! With tears in his eyes. The guards wanted to drag him away, Pastor held up his hands and said no! Don't push him away. Allow him come, Pls. They all looked at Pastor like is Pastor okay? His friend rushed to him and hug him. Pastor hugged him back and he said let's go to my car and talk. Pastor then asked what happened to you?

Long story cut short : change is constant, don't allow people meet u where they left you, always evolve yourself, if u av a partner who wants to evolve and he or she is evolving, Pls try evolve with the person. Don't be rigid and get stuck in the past. Don't be stagnant in one place. If Not? The re-branded partner will see the other as a stumbling block in their paths to success ,if the partner refuse to re-brand as well.

I hope the ex wife will meet her kind and be happy as well.

Don't mind my long story o

GreatResearcher:
Did this really happened for real?

Sorry here is a guy who doesn't believe in writeups. He believes in evidence and facts.


I might believe that Femi fainted and regain himself but that's no a proof that a god exists. Atheists faint and regain themselves too.


No prove in your writeup that god did anything to or for Femi.

Meet a medical expert he will tell u why Femi fainted and why he regained himself..


If there was God, his business was to make sure Femi never fainted. Remember he says Femi will eat poison and it shall not harm him.

I don't have strength typing endlessly and repeating God exists.

If you don't believe He exist, well that's your own. No time flogging a dead horse.

For me God exists fully well.

GreatResearcher:
Nice writeup. U could make some buks writing fiction books.

I will make more money writing true life stories.

They carry more content and weight.

But wait! That's a good business idea!

Hmmmm

GreatResearcher:
Victorian happy weekend

Happy weekend 2 you too.

Thanks

Adakintroy:
Why are you being proud. She may not be the worst woman in the world. Some women are just terrible at handling breakup. That's just what we are withnessing. Not that she may be a disheartening fellow.

She still a pretty woman and intelligent. All she needs now is a willing good-hearted man to love her patiently. Their is still something in there.

All this may just be a cry for help. She had tasted love. She may not want to go back to that lonely place.

Love and marry her @ your own peril.

I pity any man who thinks he can use patient love to change Tonto, because of her beauty. The man will cry blood later.

No man, I repeat No man can change tonto, except God himself.

Tonto is mentally unstable, she's even a menace to the society.

Churchill fucvk up marrying such crazy woman. God forbid!

fk001:
You never jam a player.


A player will pretend like he doesn't even entertain anything sex before marriage, in fact he will act as if he is celibate. He will be patient and focus on his target, he wouldn't mind how long it will take but as far as at long run he will gain your trust that's okay for him because his agenda is intact

Nigerian men are no longer patient to wait that long, lol. The players are even worse off! If you can't open legs sharp sharp on the first date, they quickly cut off and move on to the next victim.
In their mind, why waste time with this one, when they can deceive other girls for a quick sex.
So dear, nowadays most men don't have patience to play the waiting game. He's spending on her and still pretending he's not eager to fucvk? Lol

In your dreams.

Except he's impotent and can't lift up his dick!

fk001:
You never jam a player.


A player will pretend like he doesn't even entertain anything sex before marriage, in fact he will act as if he is celibate. He will be patient and focus on his target, he wouldn't mind how long it will take but as far as at long run he will gain your trust that's okay for him because his agenda is intact

Really?

wink2015:
I thought Ahmed Musa is a muslims.

He behaves like a southern christians.

Life abroad don change the guy.

Joromi12:
Only a matter of time he dumps u

I don't think so.

Not all women are the same, likewise not all men are the same, that's why we have different looks, shapes, sizes and even different hearts .

He may have found his missing rib in his new wife. This new wife fits his new evolved self.

I feel as time went on, when he progressed in his football career and moved abroad his taste in women changed, instead of the traditional looking wife he once loved, his tastes then changed to trendy looking hippy women. It seems the first wife refused to Conform and change her style to trendy look , and also refused to pedal down on her strict mentality. The ex wife remained stuck in her traditional looking ways, unwilling to move along with change and such things can irritate some men who have already moved on to the next level in their transformation in life, same applies to women as well.

If you don't grow along with your partner, who is always evolving and like trying new things in looks and character, the partner will eventually get tired of constant bickering, arguments, then cut off finally.

Such a beautiful first ex wife

JustBeing:
Your words are so on point. I feel for the OP and I wish I could type but I had a really long day but I'm so happy she's getting good advice from forward thinkers like you.

Meanwhile we need people like you in our community. Please join our interactive forum on www.womenwholisten.com so that you can change lives with such insightful comments like this. Thanks.

Awww ! Thanks I will join.

sandrayeo:
Hi all

I’m sorry this is going to be long but I’m in so much pain right now and I really need help to make sense of all of this.

I had 3 relationships in my life. The first one was in my early 20s I was madly in love but I moved to the UK for Uni so the long distance thing didn’t work out. He met someone and eventually broke up.

Then I met this guy in my late 20s in my congregation. He was so religious and caring. After 6 months he proposed and we started planning our wedding. That’s when I found out he was an active registered member of multiple gay dating sites. I confronted him about it, he denied everything but the trust was gone. We broke up and he moved on to marry another girl.

Finally I started dating my friend of 3 years or so. We were great as friends, but the romantic relationship was not as smooth as I thought it would be. We fought a lot, at least in the first year.
Eventually, things got better and we started talking marriage and babies.
By that time, I was in my mid-30s with a diagnosis of premature ovarian failure.
We decided to speed things up. We stopped the only contraception we ever had (condoms)
He was 100% on board with getting pregnant but was dragging his feet about marriage.

He wanted to do things backward; I was not OK with that so we had a big fight. I gave him an ultimatum so he broke up without actually saying it. He just stopped coming to my place, started acting distant. I tried many times to have a heart to heart conversation, I asked mutual friends to talk to him. He kept saying everything was fine but kept acting like an ass.
I finally had enough and stopped calling him and decided to move on with my life. I was in the process of getting my last eggs frozen when he came around (at least that’s what I thought). We had unprotected sex again and I got pregnant.

When I told him, he freaked out, pressured me to get an abortion and said I could never ask him for anything if I kept the baby

An abortion was not even a possibility in my book. I kept the baby, he bailed. I didn’t hear from him for 2 years. The first time I saw him since my pregnancy was in family court. We talked, he begged for forgiveness and said he wanted to be a good father to our son but also for me to take him back.
At first I said no but after 2 years of acting like he really had changed, I relapsed…only to find out few days ago that he’s about to get married back home to his longtime girlfriend with whom he has a child, only 6 months younger than mine.

Now I have 2 questions, the first one, I really need a male perspective:

1- Why would a man do what he did to me? Why would you come back and actively try to get back with a woman you obviously never loved when you are in a committed relationship and about to get hitched? But most of all, why would you go back to someone you caused so many pain and humiliation in the past and do the same shit to her all over again?

2- How do I get over this and move on with my life? Because this part of my life is now over, forever ruined. I’m almost 40 and a single mum. I will never be able to find a man willing to marry me. I'm left with anger, bitterness and regrets.

My dear , always remember most men out there just want to know how your pussy taste, it applies to alot of women out there, including me!
The men will come will sweet tales, even swear with Koran or Bible or even with their mothers name but all they are after is how does the pussy feel and taste.
You need to be vigilant,prayerful and careful with your heart and mind. In fact be protective over yourself.
Some will even call God name, that don't u know its divine intervention that we are meeting up like this? All na pure lie, that's why we are having so many single ladies with children, but no father.
You are not the only single mum out there. Well I'm not one sha, but all the same have seen single moms get married to responsible single men or single dads.

From henceforth, focus on God , your child, your job and family. Men will still come again, to see if they can deceive you and have sex but this time, let them know u are a born again lady and u are not ready for never ending sex that leads no where. Let them know u want something stable and serious, and if they are here to just quickly have sex by using sweet words or by saying but u are my gf nah, we should be having sex! It's not like you a virgin, really?

. Some will even come with marriage, I will marry you. All na lie! U need to build your spirit to be able to discern those lying sweet tongues and the only u can do such is been close to God.

U let the guy know, look guy! I'm not ready for never ending sex, let's be friends and see how it goes. Both of you should have what to gist about. Apart from sex and talks about what turns either of you on. Infact don't entertain such talks or chats.
If the guy has nothing to gist about? Abeg free am!

Later your own will come.
But from henceforth, be happy focus one what makes u smile and gives u joy. Then leave the rest to God.

I'm in my 30s as well, but I don't allow my past make me unhappy. Im more into church things and my job. Early this year, while going thru cross over night prayers, spirit of God revealed to me, Men will. Come, I mean men! But most are coming to taste and run! So Vicky! Be alert! Don't be foolish, use your head. Screen them and later u will see they are just around to hurt me once again emotionally,infact some are coming to give me one last blow to finish me off emotionally.. I said to myself na WA o, upon everything have gone thru in my past. I said OK, no problem let them come. We will see who get sense pass!

Now, I'm so strict with my criterias and I don't entertain sex chats! Any guy coming that can't chat or talk without adding sex, I quickly cut off! No time to waste on those ones. Even the ones that comes with marriage, when I ask one or two deep questions, they run away. Lol


Babe! U need to be tough but in a calm way. Don't tolerate nonsense anymore. A real man who wants you for keeps will hang around u, watch u and eventually wife you. But u need to be patient and hold onto God.

tushgirl:
Nairalanders thanks for your advices....so he contacted me a week after I ignored him and we came back together but after sometimes he started acting up again so I broke up with him but he is back now begging but I aren't going back
Cc:brideofdracula,,phillybuck,sweetie25,
G8authur,foreveryoung197,nerosky and others I couldn't tag

I didn't even see this one before I typed the above advice.

I know he will be acting up again. He's unstable. His eyes still dey up!
Enough women is around him for him to drill and satisfy and he's just getting started . Just forget about him and move on to a better guy. He's not the only guy on earth.

Free yourself babe!