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op, please choose the job. Most men these days are not ready to be financially responsible for their wives. They are the ones , that will order you to quit orelses no marriage and when you, then quit and asks for upkeep money, soon he will start grumbling and saying u demand too much and do you think money grows in trees? Do u think i pluck money from my backyard? u will hear all sorts as if u were a lazylaid back girl from day one .. and i bet you, the love go clear slowly but surely from your eyes, after much grumbling and put down from the guy. As for me, any man i wish to spend my life with, MUST marry me and my job... no compromise, at all.. and am happy with this choice, av chosen.

What will one sale or consult, to be able to cough out N1.3M per annum and also live abit comfortable?... just asking,sha...

but how did strangers get to know , in the first place Its better to tell her, for the children sake. Or else the children will suffer, after both parents are dead... Thats assuming if the husband suceeds in infecting his wife, in the long run.

Pls do you have some for sale?

miky: lol any business person that puts their own money into electricity in nigeria is doomed for, it would simply be stolen and sabotaged...citizens and governments are crooks who deserve each other.

True words, its terrifying the decay in the actions of both citizens and government, especially most of them May God help Nigeria.

Be hardworking and trust no one except yourself.

The wife is too confrontational, thats y she is getting the beatings. Now , she wants to add martial arts? . Lord av mercy. Tell her to cool down, a wife or a woman shouldnt be so strong headed. She should cool down for once and think of other subtle ways of bringing her man back to being loving. At least, she didnt marry a demented man in the first place?

@ blue diva ...true words.

dear op, first youve made the decision of getting married ontime and having kids, which is a blessing. As for me, i would have been married last yr and even this yr, but i have laid out plans , i want to achieve b4 bearing kids and doing the full wifey work at home. Children and the homefront , takes a huge amount of dedication and attachment, which am not capable of giving right now. Likewise my fiance. I and my fiance, came up with this idea that we should postpone our wedding until a certain date, which we both agree to accomplish and hopefuly complete our dreams to a certain degree and also be prepared mentally to be parents and happily married. But to your question, you need to convince your husband especially on his happy moments that u have to better yourself , which will inreturn be good for the family. Let him know, what truly makes you happy and how you to achieve it, with his help involved. Talk to him continously and do some reasearch on how to go about your next step in career. Give him details of what u have found out and how good it will affect your lives with the kids involved. I bet, if he truly listens, he will support you, cause u cant do it alone as you are married with kids. Best of luck and always pray about it.

yes

Am lady, pls get a job for her elsewhere. U may not have feelings for her but how about her? Are u truly certain, she has no feelings for u anymore? For the sake of your marriage and peace of mind, pls dont employ her.

The truth is you cant trust anyone except yourself, until a guy has shown a reason to trust him. Simple be open minded, dont expect the worst and dont expect the best. Just do your part. Be open , sincere and non judgemental and if u notice any sign of craftiness or deceit, my dear stay clear from such guy before getting too attached and move on. There are few good guys around, just shine your eye, use your head and be openminded. And dont dwell on the past, but learn from the past.

of course, why not..mothers , do it out of unconditional love for the child... i can do it for my children, if i have to... no big deal.

Banga Soup with stockfish garnished with snails and bushmeat with Starch to crown it all .... i love my Delta meal.

NONE OF THE ABOVE! But maybe i could consider number 1.

@ op, its really sad, but there is no human right group that u can contact about this issue. In Nigeria, we have not gotten to that level of protection yet. All man for himself . And if you report to the police, the father will know its you. Then report to the family members? none will come. Because they dont want to be saddled with the financial and emotional wahala of taking care of another person's child, even though the child is also there own o . Its a dead end.. No solution... just prayers , that God will touch the heart of the father. Thats how situation in Nija sucks.

Thats most Nija men for you.. Lazy, Golddiggers and the first to cry foul after selling themselves cheap to women.. sorry guys but its true.

Heaven FORBID! .... hell no!!!!!.

@op, if you foot 80percent of the wedding,i bet you when u guys are married, u will be the one footing most bills. Av seen it happen b4 amongst my married friends and they are not finding it funny. And when naming ceremony comes for your baby, he will tell, shebi u want the ceremony... foot it. pls make it 50, 50. I thank God, am not up for big wedding.. I dont need the stress of it. The outcome of my marraige working out is paramount to me, than big wedding ceremony.. Best of luck o... but dont go for 80percent...no no

Who really cares about being in Bey's circle... It wont create any specific difference in Kim's publicity. Am not supporting kim flirty attitude to guys but for God's sake, everyone has his or her own circle. So, why create a fuss about it Bey , Kim, Rihana they are all celebrities, and talented in various ways, even dear Kim.. E easy to be in dead georgeous shape . It takes hard hard work and dedication. So Bey, keep your little inner circle, that has only one celebrity member Gwen paltrow. If her circle is so hot, other credible celebrities should join in, nah

check out the looks on both faces of the couple.. daredevils , i will say... Our dream has come true... Happy married life! May the best man win ... I tire.

@ idprincess, 4yrs difference.. He is so dark and dresses very professional, one could spot the difference btwn us , small sha we are even saving money to get a family car , immediately after marriage.

Yes it can work, depending on both of them. As long as, she makes him the man, of the home and her leader and also, he sees her as his princess and woman to be loved and cared for, . And also, pls for Godsake, use wisdom when listening to third parties, either family memembers or friends. Am engaged to be marrried to a younger guy, that has proven in various occasions that he sincerely wants me as his wife, mother of his kids and so ready to care for the new family we are about to create . He is so proud of my achievements, my look, and my strength, which older guys tend to shy away from. .Initially, i was sceptical due to our age difference but when i looked back on my past relationships with older guys,theres always this issue of being unnecessarily suspicious of me due my looks, which had been so frustrating for me. But with a younger guy, they have this fresh outlook that almost all women are good and to be trust, except been proved beyond doubts that she is not. They are not suspicious, they are not control freaks and they are not stingy ... my dear,pls follow your heart, be wise and be prayerful and best of luck. Its sure working for me.

Any man waiting for his wife to dish out her money for the upkeep of their family and angry , she is not spending her money on him or for the household, is JUST LIMITING HIS PROGRESS in life.Its a dynamic rule in life, some men are ignorant on and feel they are wise. The husband is the Provider while the wife manages her husband resources and the homefront. A wise man , should always pray that God will bless him enough to cater for his family , without selling his Birthright to his wife, for peanuts.
I have a male friend, who is married and successful, he always tells me, that he does not even know how much his wife earns and he gives her money every 3weeks for food, children upkeep and her own personal upkeep too, including buying fuel in her car. And he says, this with great content and a man look. He was even the one that mentioned , selling of birthright to the wife. Men, fulfil your responsibility and good fortune will smile down on you and your wives will be so submissive.

tpia@:
who's the third wheel?

the hubby is looking kind of stressed.

Some people always looking out for imaginary expressions , instead of being happy for her good fortune...

Carry go Oluchi ... nothing do you and your bobo.

Bad belle pple, all haters... leave anita and her family alone...she's not complaining, infact she will be happier than most couples yabbing her and her choice of husband. People never seem to amaze me.

Car washing is meant for the man or better still take it to Carwash station. The Wife has enough workload on her hands already. Why add more?

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