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NO WHERE, uv been punk'd

@ bukatyne, u are so right on point.. What we truly have these days is glorified slavery in marriages. And its not a pleasant sight to see.. Men wants a submissive girlfriend/wife, but does not give really give a damn about her and the woman who wants to be married by all means, accepts all bullshit from him until after marriage. Then , after marriage, either one gets tired or both, then they either choose a loveless marriage and smile infront of friends/families that they are happy, while at home they are cat and dog or one chooses a way out of the misery and file for divorce..frequent scenarios.

True words ....@ kuylie....true facts....Gbam!

From my view and little experience from other women tales that are either single mothers that got married to older men is that pls focus on your baby, work on your carreer, and pray that the right man may come.. He may come, he maynot, but dont be disturbed about it. And the reason , is that most men hardly takes care of another man's child. And bet this one will not, except the father , himself. And i hope he comes back and reconciles with you. Also most single guys are scared of marrying single mum due to their baby or babies, because of the financial and emotional responsibility involved. They run from responsibilities like crazy!... As you want a single guy without a kid, likewise a single guy wants a single girl without a kid too... Except u can opt for a single dad, that will complete the equation. And all man for himself, but marriage continues...pls Poster stick to your baby, and career, the right man may come.

Love you dad.

Bad belle. lazy,poverty striken nigerians ... everyone saw how Psquare grew from their music career, danced , chereographed very well, sang their souls out... always going for concerts in and out of nigeria, trying to be one of the best music group, no resting time at their prime age. Now, bunch of stupid fools,think they have sacrificed their mum for rituals.. Its so sad ,Nija mentality is so sickening..Get alife! stop enving successful people,smile infront of them and then go behind them to pour out rubbish, because you are poor and too lazy to think and make a difference.. May their mum rest in perfect peace. And may God give the family the fortitude to bear the loss.

@ mumu swegbe luckgames, i have my own money ... am just opportuned to have female friends that are well taken care of by their white bfs, even though they had jobs.. not guys like you, that cant even take care of yourself, talkless of a babe.

White guys love more, sincere and not stingy with money ... Their babes , either black or white is well taken care of.

Simple! Bar yourselves from the kitchen and pot of soups, and allow a chef to do the cooking, counting of the meat ,dishing out appropriate portions to each family member and locking it up in the freezer and everyone is happy!.. what a jamb question...oh Lord.

Not just married women looking good, even single girls looking sweet. Most do it, to feel good inside and amuse themselves of how cool and georgeous they can still look. It pleases the mind of a woman and has a soothing feeling to look good... Its not all about men looking.

Cos most nigerians are bad and deceptive.. Trust in nigeria, as a country is lost...If anyone of you, trust your neighbours, then i rest my voice....

, am happy again.. and we v fixd d date.. yeah!.

word!...... what next?

@ oiseworld, am indeed running. Those frustrated nlders that cant accept a true story when they read one.. thats ya luck.... i, honestly dont care if the doubting thomases believes me or not..This clearly shows alot of people in this romance section are highly frustrated.. and i honestly feel all your pains. Lash it out... go ahead .. i oblige you, all...and thanks for placing my post on front page Seun, and thanks you,all for the high rates of replies... i love this!... wow! this is cool.....people getting all worked up! men! i love this... i didnt even imagine, my posts will get to this stage, very hilarious & pathetic... thanks for making my evening... thumbs up ...yeah.

Word!

i told you!... so i should accept their stupid shallow minded abuses , abi?

If you all like, abuse yourselves from now till tomorrow, it wont change or add anything in my life or decisions am taking. Well, if the dumb ones are so worked up, on my issue , so be it, frustrated nlders.. I dont have the time for all this bad belle.. keep on spitting rubbish.. If my story,irritates your eyes then close them, abi na byforce?smhh....dumb asses to you all, critizing... i dont care, what the bad mouth nlders feel..who cares

@Rocktation, thanks. av placed it behind me. Life goes on..na wa... thanks to all matured thinkn frnds here. d lord is my strength..wow.

@Godmothr,my decision has given me, a sense of peace &more clarity. lastnite, i was a total wreck emotionaly. Today,am better...@ Billyonaire, i wil try..thanks.. @ James-dman, all u cud pick from my r/ship story is- am successful? may God help your mindset. Am telling my true life story,cos it sounds absurd even to me!

I Have Changed My Mind, No Longer Getting Married To My Muslim Fiance

I thought marriage is a shared effort between two parties. You share the joy, the difficulties, the happiness and thorns that comes along with it, but i was dead wrong yesterday. My fiance and I had a deep talk yesterday about possible challenges we were likely to encounter if we ended up married. After drawing up a lsit of those challenges, I felt like I could work round those challenges, however the only one i could not accept is his claim that he will not assist me financially should I have any financial issues in future.

I was surprised at this and asked if he was serious. First, I rarely ever ask him for money even when I get broke occasionally like everyone else, but how can I be married or even have a fiance that wont support me financially? For God sake, I am not an island that breeds and survives on its own. I am a normal human being like everyone else. My fiance stood his ground in spite of all these points I made and said "nope, I aint doing that."

What even hurts is the fact that he helps his friends and family out financially when they are down. So why should my case be different? I have come to realise that the reason for this might be tied to the fact that I am successful. He is sees it foolish to be there for me if am broke and to cap it all, he expects me to take care of our needs financially at home when we get married. We once made plans to save up for a car, but he stopped paying and told me that I should buy the car myself. According to him, the reason why he stopped paying was because I own a buisness while he is a salary earner. Is it crime to be successful?

I feel so sad, disgusted and realise that I can't go ahead and marry him. If I have to feel single while being married? What is the use of getting married in the first place If i cant count on my partner to be there for me. I don't think it is all about exchanging sweet words. Mere words are of no use to me. I receive sweet words everyday, so its no big deal. I have female friends and we assist each other sometimes, because everyday is not Christmas and sad situations happen that could make one go broke. I have worked myself hard for years, and I wont add to my workload after marriage. It is not worth it. Nah.....too much liability.

Anyway, this morning I told him I needed a break. I think we both need the break to think things through. We need to find out if we are suitable for each other or not. As far as I can see, I don't think so. Not any more. I thank God, he told me this on time before I took such a huge step as marriage. Abeg,let me focus on my business and friends that truly care about me. Can you guyz imagine?

michelin89: What are we adults for if at 30, we are still seeking people's approval? Will getting married make you love your kid more? You want to get married for yourself and not for the kid. You never even mentioned of how you want to create a loving and safe environment to grow you children, just of you don't want to be looked down on by families and strangers.

Goodluck!

I honestly wonder too.. the baby u are about to give birth to, should come first. Then be content with Registry and traditional marraige, until later in through the years , when you and your husband is more financially strong, then u can organize your dream white wedding, if u still wish to.

@mkykejones, i didnt meet him on nairaland, or on any website. He works around my office area, and often sees me , most times either going home or rushing into the office in the mornings, and he has been dying to woo for me , in the past one year but didnt have the courage until few months back, he summoned up guts and says Hi, from there we started with greetings, then he told me his mind, of how much he had been inlove for the past one and half yr .. he was even shaking while toasting me, he couldnt look at me , straight up.. and he wouldnt accept , no for an answer... and i love his guts Am not desperate dude, if not, i would have been 2nd or 3rd wife to someonelse way back.. So,myke take your hate elsewhere, this is true love ...abeg i have better things to do with my time, not justify my happiness to haters and bad belle people, who cant bear to hear someone being happy .. thread closed. thanks my well wishers for your good thoughts and wishes.

my dear kay9 and all my well wishers, God bless u all. My mind is madeup, av gone thru different relationshps wit d very rich and d very poor. I know wat i want in a husband and he has those qualities, although not perfect but he is trying. this is d 1st time, i wil date a muslim guy and he is different and has a conscience. I honestly prayed abt it for wks and God gave me a revelatn dat he is d one. we v bn dating 4 d past 5months. He has a v.good job and frm a comfortable home. my mind is madeup.

@kuylie, dont worry. i will give birth ontime. Even in the christian homes, men do have concubines that have given birth to children for them outside their home. Its all a matter of time, before the wife at home finds out..Having children late ,is in all religion, either christian or islam. We all pray to bear kids ontime during marriage and mine will not be different. Haters, i will bear my kids quicker than i expect , amen.

we will both abide to our agreement,so help us God... amen... we will..thanks bknight

thanks kay9 {smiling here}, he wont misbehaves.. alot of pple will skin him alive, if he does and he knows..thanks scash..i will...my gut tells me, he is a good guy.

@vikin, thanks but age is just of the mind. I dated a guy older than me with 10yrs and he was really a jack ass and extremely proud and arrogant. And religion is simply of the mind,i dont discriminate and will never.. The one, my family supported in the past turned out to be a fiasco and i reminded them about it. They couldnt say anything anymore , than face the other way, saying at least humans make mistakes and i shudnt nail and bury them because of approving a scam & ritualist for a husband for me in the past . So, now am making my choice and they have to deal with it and accept it.. thank God , my parents have gone to rest with Baba God.. may their soul continue to rest in peace.... am happy with my choice and he is so easygoing.

@ realbitch... not all muslims... and he is not a full muslim. he rarely goes to mosque, except when he visits his dad.. he is openminded.

@olas2u, i know its a challenge... am ready for it and through the years, av come to understand people and how to handle certain situations..thanks. he makes me happy and he is so proud of me and my achievements, which i rarely see from my exs.

my point is am getting married, after a long long wait and if you are referring family section... that section scares me, too many sad stories on marriage there, dont want my new marriage to catch the bug there, amen o.

Hi nairalanders, am about to get married to my muslim fiance, who is 3years younger than me but we have to do the marriage rites islamic way. Its a 7day marriage process affair, then on the 7th day, the Nikkai takes place, everything sponsored by the groom and his parents. Although am a christian and i dont see anything wrong marrying a muslim brother. My extended family are not happy about it, but who cares...its my life and the right guy for me .. My fiance also agreed , he will go with me to church after marriage and we decide to choose a neutral church, so it wont look as if am in control .. Also, no islamic name for me and for my future kids o, he also agreed too..as long as his parents are not staying with us, we should have no problem about the islamic names. ...
I can recall way back, when my cousin a guy says i shud focus on being a second wife or third to a married man, cause young guys are not focused and will feel insecure around me . I felt angry by that statement, but smiled and say no problem. But i had faith , that no matter my age of bn 32,that will not stop me from marrying a cute young guy, i didnt expect it will be this young , sha. but i thank God... am out of the waiting list....yeaaah