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Toks2008:
A MAN OR WOMAN CAN NOT BE JUST FRIENDS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

It’s no secret: guys and girls being "just friends" is a concept held by only the dreamers. Any lady who believes that she can be just a friend with a guy other than co-worker, co-student, or just on a platonic hi-hi level is in-fact the most myopic lady to walk on this planet

A guy’s friends consist of, well, only guys. The only reason a guy would go close to a girl would be to date or bed her. No guy is going to waste his time just being a friend with a girl because it’s not like she is a sports freak or a trans-gendered.

Guys have enough guy friends and won’t waste their time listening to ladies talk from a girl just to be their friend. Plain and simple he wants to bed you except of course you don't mind or he has not made it obvious yet.

Guys being friends with girls is a farce: either he wants to sleep with her, or she still believes in unicorns, because a guy cannot genuinely be friends with a girl and its either the lady secretly desires him or vis avis even while one of the two are ignorant of this.

In-fact i always tell a guy or lady to be more at alert when your bae says this about another opposite sex.."we are just friends,we enjoy each other's company,we are just fond of each other" because once you start hearing this from your bae,you should run because fondness is stronger than the feeling of love and what your bae will not dicsuss with you will be discussed freely with that person so of what use is the affair you are having?

I know some people will say not in all cases and i quite agree but there is a simple test to know if there is no hidden notion or surpressed desire so please as a lady just prove me wrong? give that just friend of yours a kiss and watch him stop you. After-all you guys ought to be just friends.

And for the married man, snap out of your delusion and tell yourself hard fact...YOU ARE OLOJU KOKORO...Let your wife be your only friend,best friend and close friend and same for the lady.

Keeping "friends" of the opposite sex while married or committed to someone is an emotional affair and its even worse than actual physical affair.

Just trying to make common sense.

fbtowner:
Everyday when I read stuffs like this.


I keep adding 2 years to the day I planned to get married.


Hoes everywhere. I wish I can just go to US and turn to Gay.

bleeped up life

Coolguy89:
congrat bae,but she is not my type

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Shocked:
Hello everyone,

I'm in a dilemma. I  got married less than 6 months ago to a man I loved very much. I thought he was God-fearing, honest and great. We met some 5 years ago, I was a virgin, we dated for about 2 years before we tried having sex and I got pregnant. I was just 22 and a graduate. We couldn't get married immediately because of financial constraints but we finally did after a lot of troubles and emotional trauma.

My parents told me we didn't have to get married regardless of the fact that we had a child, that they'll support whatever my decision is but that they'll never be a part of a divorce. I went ahead and married him because he seemed like a great guy. He can't go late to church talk more of missing it, he's a house fellowship leader, has this big Bible, reads it everytime and all his posts on Facebook are about God, we have constant devotions. He washes for us, irons, cooks, uses his money to make sure w wear the best stuffs and are comfortable to an extent. I had to beg him to stop buying stuff for us so that we can save towards our child's education. I appreciated all this and I thought we'd have a wonderful time being married and spending the rest of our lives together with our child. I work my ass out, I am not a lazy person too.

Some days ago our child didn't sleep early, I was bored so I decided to check his gallery to see pictures but it had a lock on it, I decided to see what my name was saved with, he used my first and middle name, even that of my parents. I got suspicious and decided to check out other stuff. Every messaging app was passworded so I dropped the phone. But curiosity got the best of me and I decided to by-pass it. I found an ugly, disgusting and heartbreaking can of worms.

He was asking every girl on his friends list on social media if he could be their man, he has records of people he has slept with and those he invites over, pay them and their bills. He even paid the house rent of someone else while we are owing ours. He was sexting with his ex abroad telling her how she was the only family he wanted and that he will come over again and make her his rightful wife, that I was just a Bleep and I know he's still in love with her. They exchange nudes too. You would never find a trace of me on his account. I found our child playing with condoms he took to Shiloh and we never used it.

I am a good person, I have learnt a lot sexually and I am willing to try out new things. I am very beautiful and you would never guess I have a child. I cannot point where this is coming from because I would never have thought of cheating on him. If I was doing something wrong, he never pointed that out. He was my best friend and we communicated a lot.

I confronted him because I took screenshots and sent to myself, he had an explanation for everything and I couldn't fool myself. They were all lies. I sent a reply to his ex on Facebook because apparently she didn't know he was married. I told my sister and she's been crying because nobody saw this coming from a man like him. I am wondering if I should involve his family. My parents might die of high blood pressure if they found out.

I am sorry about the long epistle. What do I do?

Toks2008:
I know this topic will shock many people who believe in the propaganda that the use of condom is a formidable prevention against HIV but unfortunately,using a condom does not prevent you from contracting HIV but only reduces the chance of contracting it.

Now read this and i doubt if you will ever read this anywhere else because the condom industry is a huge one and facts like this may not be widely disseminated but here i give it to you to ponder over.


-Human immunodeficient Virus(HIV) is very virulent and can pass through through unnoticeable and painless skin abrasion on the penile shaft as well as the vaginal region.

-The viral load is present in cervico-vaginal fluid and of-course in the blood.

-We will agree that in most cases if not all,the condom no matter how carefully worn still exposes some part of the penile shaft and this is where the problem lies because in most cases,the vaginal secretions come in contact with this exposed region of the shaft.

-This means an automatic entry of the virus from the vaginal fluid into the man especially when there are some abrasions on the penile skin which of-course is so delicate and easily bruised.

-If the man also has the virus and he happens to have any form of abrasion on the penile shaft then the woman can easily contract the virus once the Unclad part of his shaft touches the walls of the vaginal.

This is just a simple illustration to show that condoms are no guarantee prevention against HIV.

Staying faithful to one sexual partner who is HIV negative and will not be silly enough to indulge in careless sexual act with an infected individual remains the best way to prevent HIV.

The bottom line is that no one is really safe and we all stand the risk of contracting it as the Virus has a transient period between when it is contracted and when it can be detected in the blood so you may meet someone who is tested negative today and later may test positive.

GOD HELP US.

Omotayor123:
Lol... I wonder if the dog is important more than the wife and his unborn child. The woman is a professional Nurse.

greatiyk4u:
This man is indirectly inviting Xmas attack

May God save us

QSFemi:
Good evening nairalanders. This is my first post on this platform and I enjoined you all to overlook my simplicity. I need your views on the scenario I am about to relate. I have a degree like many other peeps out there, completed nysc july this year and have hitherto been jobless. Well, Like a twist of fate, I got a job just yesterday that will be paying me 50k in Lag. I based in Akure and the job is in Ketu, Lagos. My friend that I can squat with temporarily lives at awoyaya, Ibeju-Lekki lga. Can I survive? What do you think peeps?

Omotayor123:
So this Evening, I heard screams from my neighbors house, *I know the woman of the house is heavily pregnant*. I run to check what was happening.. I met the woman bleeding as a result of the beating she got from her husband..

This is what happened....... *****

One of the three dogs in the house *Her husband being a pet lover (Dog Especially)* gave birth two weeks ago and had since become unbearable to accommodatewith her 24/7 barking. Most Neighbors could hardly sleep at night with her consistent barking.

The wife couldn't take it this evening and beat the Dog with a stick to keep her quite. The husband who was Mad at her action did not hesitate to pounce and beat her mercilessly which lead to her bleeding.
She was taken to the hospital for proper treatment afterwards..

This leads to a debate among neighbors about what they would have done if in her shoes..
Is Beating your wife (pregnant) for your pet the right thing to Do?

To all pet lovers, Seun, Males and females the house, what is your opinion/views on this matter

Cc. Lalasticlala, dominique
Merry Xmas

emusmith:
How do you know a girl who loves you then? That could be my next thread...

Mrokaykay:
AMEN
AND MAY GOD KEEP SCAMING U THE WAY BUHARI HAS SCAMMED NIGERIANS...

lestat:
@OP, bless you bruv... tears are rollin down my face as I am reading this because I can so relate to this esp number 5.

As I sit here typing this I am about to go drop her tax collecting arse at the airport!

I am free at last!!! These trully are tears of joy.... lol she just walked in now and hugged me thinking I am sad she is going!!! Imagine that I am actually crying because I am so happy she is going!! Words can't express how horrifying it is dating a woman who is a total 'give me'!!

I have greyed, aged, doubled my smoking habits, and started becoming a shell all because of this relationship!!!!

Every month I spend at least 300k just to maintain my home and here!!! U think my house is big? NOoo!!! It's all her!!! Give me money for this that, that this, she breaks a phone I have to replace it, she looses money I have to replace it!!!

I will never wish my enemy to date a liability!!!

Lord have mercy I am so over come with emotion that my hands are shaking as I am typing this!!!

Bless your heart bruv! I trully thought I was alone!!! I had stayed so long in this because at every point in time I wanted to break up she has a way of crying and making me feel I am tossing her into poverty and suffering then she starts to say hurtful things like I will never have peace, for allowing her feel sad, no woman will ever make me happy, then I will never have a happy home so and so. Then after some time she will start begging saying it's because she loves me, blah blah blah! Then I start to feel guilty for trying to break up and then I take her back, this is what I have been going through for years!

Note she has never gotten pregnant for me so don't start thinking she has arborted or something, this is someone who has cheated on me multiple times, this is someone who is a chronic liar, at one point she wiped one of my bank account saying she was hypnotised by strangers, I lost my previous car thanks to her, she keeps multple men and claims they are all platonic. Yet at every point in time I try to walk away she makes me feel guilty for throwing her into poverty!

Now do u know what I did, for the last three weeks I have been putting it into her head that she ought to go spend time with her mum in Akwa Ibom, and she was adamant that no, but I kept at it and finally she agreed, she knows I am travelling for a meeting in our head office abroad in January so I told her when I return to Nigeria she can come back, but honestly once I drop her off this morning.

So bruv, thank u so so much for this!! Bless u!! Bless u!!

So sorry for the long post!!

CaptainJune:
Well, without any form of pride, I can say I have seen paradise 3 times through the grace of God. Once in a dream and 2 times in visions. And yes, there is chocolate in heaven, LadyF. I saw it, I ate it. It was so abundant in the Chocolate Room I found myself that I went out to call others to join me. This is just one of my visits to heaven. Heaven, there is nothing worth missing it. I am blessed to have been granted a peek into heaven. That peek alone is enough for me to do everything possible and impossible (both through Christ) never to miss that place. Trust me, nothing on earth is worth missing heaven.

Spanner4:
Vikky wetin be ur own na, abeg leave me to find my soul mate na

Toks2008:
lol..na you i wan marry.

Oahray:
I get your point, and it's fine. I still think you have a streamlined view of what dating is. First of all, it doesn't always involve intimacy. Then it doesn't have to be for years.

Even if you don't call him your bf, there would definitely be some sort of romantic bond between the both of you before you get engaged (unless you fancy arranged marriages). "A rose by another name would smell as sweet."

veeluv2015:
Biko before you people try to crucify me, i know i'm a bush girl and uncivilized. But i think this is totally wrong and na so incest dey take start. Not when the girl is this big na. Haba!

What do you guys think?

Toks2008:
Please cut down on the orubebe weed you mix with your food..its getting out of hand..wettin i do you? If you want me why not just say it abi na your own way of showing green, light be this?

I bind every monitoring spirit following me online and of-line...if you mention my name again..

Oahray:
engagement means you have agreed to get married. Are you saying you'd agree to get married to a guy who hasn't as much as told you how attractive you are?

kaffy4tope:
Yeah, we fancy anything you put on since our intention is to get you laid and waste you like we did to your types. We won't allow that in someone we wish to take to momma.


Oh! You expect a guy to tell you, you look like a LovePeddler when he has not use you to count scores? You're on a long thang.