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He is there to cause nuiscance and unfortunately, you may not be able to chase him amicably unless you go down with a fight. The fight is what I'm not sure you will ever win.

I like her response, if you eventually marry her, you will learn to keep your hands in your pockets.

She is even the one that needs a rethink, she is about marrying a wife beater that would eventually kill her.

What if the kids are actually his and something went wrong with the DNA?

Would beating her and removing her teeth make the kids his? He behaved like an animal and he deserved to be punished.

Psalme91:
It is almost 4AM my husband hasn’t come home yet , just because we found out that I am carrying another baby girl. I’m in pained , I don’t know what I have done to deserve all this . Please help me beg God if I offended him unknowingly to please forgive me and blessed me with baby boys ( triplets). Please

Give him time, he will come around. Stop feeling bad, it is not your fault. Every child is a Blessing no matter the gender.

If only my aunt could have one to call hers, she wouldn't bother if it's a male or a female.

He should move on too, he will find another woman, unless he is the problem .

Rhaspody:
So you are advising men to cheat if their wife is starving them of sex

No I'm not.
I'm only being logical here, if the man had cheated on her sometime in their 39years of marriage, then what does it matter? He can always get it from other women if it were all about sex to him, reason I said it's way beyond sex.

They were married for 39years? Sad it turned out this way after such a long time.

crackkhaus:
Just imagine.

What will a 19yr old know about life to be arguing with her elders everyday on Nairaland? Lmao

You small girls will just start collecting penîs as early as 15 and then suddenly think you now have sense... Kai

I gave you one like
Why did I even expect this?

bukatyne:
@bold: some ladies are truly victims.

However, any lady who dates a married man is in it for the money.

And I agree with you that an average Nigerian has selective morals. They don't see most things as wrong until it happens to them or relatives.

I was going to say the wife lacked class fighting the side chic till I realized the crazy girl was actually camping with the man in HIS HOUSE.

She deserves whatever she gets.

Only a man married to a non-entity would fight the wife for the side chic. You want a man to fight a wife (who stereotypically cooks, cleans, cares for the children, manages whatever left over he brings home) for his side chic he recreates with?

A recreational partner costs less to replace.

And at the wife 'higher' than the side chic: that is just gimmicks to console the cheated wives.

One of the major benefits wives get from marriage is recreation with the man (attention, spoiling, love, romance thoughtfulness etc etc). Marriage/life comes with a lot of responsibilities that recreation time is cherished.

The cheating husband recreates with his side chic and the wife does all the work. A terrible situation if you ask me.

It is like toiling at work and when it is time for leave, they give it some else because you are so 'indispensable'.

Na wash.

@bold, you can't say it any better.
Pure lies just to deceive the wife into thinking she is special.
Special yet, the sidechick gets all the benefits in marriage even better than the one married.

3rd June, 2000

Obasanjo is an Ex- convict yet millions of Nigerians voted him in 1999 or what is your aim?

Weaker men, do you mean the type of men that are not ready to provide for their families? Do you mean the ones that are cool with their wives being the sole provider financially as well as being homekeepers? Do you mean the ones that are not ready to remain like our forefathers but still want the women to remain like the women of old?
I mean the type of men that abandon their wives with kids with the mind that the kids will come looking for them someday after the woman has taken care of them?

If you are referring to these men, YES, they are weak and not fit to live among humans.

The video does not suggest anything like you have reported.

TonyeBarcanista:
I joined Nairaland in 2006 with my first moniker...

I registered a new moniker in 2013

And Registered this present moniker in 2015.

I joined because I love to write and discuss politics (although I don't only dwell on politics)

Were you the former Barcanista? Who frequents Politics section, always or most times at loggerhead with Ilugunboy and a host of others?

Expensiverichyb:
Bad idea. All over internet? I can't believe it. Not everyone will appreciate that internet movie scene kind of idea.
@op, send her messages once in a while but give her time to take decision either to come back or move on.
But wait a minute, what kind of anger wouldn't allow you to listen to your friend explaination? Sounds scary

I'm only being sarcastic.

Oshiomole is just a useless man, a total disappointment to the then Labor union.

shogsman:
You can't understand Cos you aiiint a man so stop judging and move on.

I'm human and have blood running through my veins, the man is also human, we both have emotions and feeling, we are both faced with temptation which we have a choice to either fall into or we walk away to avoid complications, so that I'm not a man is not an excuse.
He is a goat who has no respect for his marriage.

I don't understand how some men find it hard to resist a woman's body like you saw all the signs that the woman wants you to Bleep her yet you could not stand your ground and tell her off. You are nothing but a cheat, even if she stripped herself naked right in your front, couldn't you have moved away from there?
Busuru.

Doveyvia:
She's Iya Oko , but I thought Yorubas equally respect an elder sibling's spouse?

Well, my husband said other girls are ready to call her mummy just to be his wife.

Your husband is the problem.
You are very well replaceable and he sees you as any other girl he can bring in for marriage, if you mess up, he will bring in another girl, no time to check time.

As for your SIL, there is nothing you can do to make her do chores, unless she is ready to leave, you may not be able to chase her away without having any problems with your husband and inlaws. She was badly raised and its unfortunate you are suffering for other people's irresponsibility.

tyson99:
Mercy oooo chai she don old like the land of galilee

I just translated this in yoruba.

Uisce:
A married man has no business being on Tinder. Shameful.



It's a dating site/app with the reputation of being a "hookup" app, designed to facilitate sexual encounters.

Ok.

It's pathetic OP, sorry about this, I just hope your husband cares about you enough to use condoms with the hookups. May God help you pull through this.

Keep begging her, post her pictures all over the internet and recruit people to beg her on your behalf.
Thank me later.

I hope you don't end up chasing your sis away from her matrimonial home.

What is Tinder and what is it about?

You could dash her one since you have five .
That's what she is expecting.

You don't need to be afraid girl, trust me there are still good men, those that won't cheat, abuse you nor disrespect you, they are good-looking, they hold the family setting in high esteem and above all, they are not stingy.

To the men that feel its their right to cheat, those ones have things wrong with their brains.

Theunbreakablem:
Hmmm I don’t think she is cheating on me and if that was the case it is possible for another man to buy clothes for the children that doesn’t belong to him ?

A man can buy clothes for his mistress's children, heck he can even buy for you the husband.

crackkhaus:
You don't know what is called a thunder slap.
The only thing you will have the strength to do after receiving it is to be moving your lips, using it to ask rhetorical questions like did you just slap me, or using it to rain abuses that don't make sense.

It's like having a concussion.

I know that kinda slap yeah, but you still can never tell what anger can do. You may not see it coming.

crackkhaus:
See them...even their own blood sister living in their matrimonial home is still a big problem.
https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/disgusted.gif

A woman that cannot trust her man with her sister has no business marrying such man, the allegation is quite heavy and it needs to be addressed.

I'm not the one that doesn't trust her man, its the OP's wife that doesn't trust him so relax your balls.

The mistake she made was not informing you of her movement when she knows the sister is too young to tend to the kids. She should have called you to come stay with them, that's an irresponsible act.

Your mistake was slapping her, what if she slaps her own back, a fight happens and she handles a knife and stabs you? Learn to control your anger, if she was stronger than you, you would not slap her.

You have made the best decision, return the young girl back home to avoid further troubles.

Are you sure you've not given your wife any reason to suspect you want to sleep with her baby sis?/that allegation is too strong, you guys need to address it.

madridguy:
It will solve his problem of sexual desire.

Polygamy does not solve problems of sexual desires.
Many northerners with three four wives still have numerous girlfriends outside.

Smartchoiice:
I believe that for a man with a career woman getting a housewife should complement the absence of the first wife... what do you think?

If he wanted a housewife, he should have gone for that initially, you can't know she is a career woman before marrying her and still use her career as an excuse to cheat or bring in another woman.