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jom28gy:
Our focus now is labour party,

Labor party may just be another accident waiting to happen. APC is a confused and incompetent party because of the incompetent, evil and corrupt people that hurriedly assemble themselves and positioned it to wrestle power from PDP.

This may also be the faith of Labor Party. Obi just hurriedly join and such marriage creates cracks and Nigeria may suffer when they win.

Nigerians must look at other options to get genuine leader for Nigeria but Atiku and Tinubu.

I would have preferred Osinbajo but I know he will not get it in APC.

The wicked, corrupt and dangerous ones are gathering again.

Nigerians. Beware!

Do you do bitcoin and crypto currency transactions on your accounts?

Horrible advice.
It all depends on what ended the marriage. If the huband and wife mutually decided to end things, then this would have been appropriate.
1. Firstly, regarding your first statement "Never say bad things about your ex to them"
What qualifies as bad? As long as the woman isn't making up lies to sway the kids, then she should tell them every thing. What if the husband is abusive? A drunkard or uses hard drugs?? The essence wouldn't be to spoil his image but to let the children know the type of person he is. So that they can keep safe if they decide to get in touch with him.

2. "When it is time for school fees especially, tell them to ask him, if he sends them back to you, they will know you pay( children never forget)."
I agree. Always update him about the welfare of the kids. If he takes up his responsibility, good. If not, then learn to survive on your own.

3. "On his birthday,remind them to reach out to him and on their birthdays if he doesn't call( 99% a bad dad will forget), they will know this."
Okay. But if he's a dead beat father, I wouldn't do this. No point forcing thsm to be involved in the life of a man who doesn't give a damn about them

4. "Encourage them as they grow older to maintain family ties with their father, his family and half siblings if any. If the family is mean and dangerous, keep them away until they are grown and independent."
Only if the man is interested. Don't give the kids unnecessary hope. If the man abandoned them when they needed him the most, then he isn't worth the hassle.

5. "To be able to move on with your hustle, just tell yourself that you married a good man but he died and left you by yourself to bring up beautiful children you both love very much and then trust God to bless the hustle. God will not fail you."
Or tell yourself the truth and let your story motivate you. You married a man who picked up his bags and left you with your responsibilities and his. Deal with it, move on and surprise every one who doubted your ability to raise 'your' kids.

6. "Do not spare the rod. Be firm and make them street wise for life is tough out there so prepare them to face the world outside. Discipline them, teach them enterprise make them know God."
Okay

7. "When the children are 16, tell them everything that happened. Don't lie, don't make excuses,just say it. You will be amazed how much they know the truth anyway. I was shocked about 11 years ago when my daughter recalled in detail a moment when she was 3 years old�."
Agreed. Let them form their own opinion of the man. But give it to them as it is. No lies, no excuses.

7. "Be very protective of the children; Watch your male friends and keep your friends circle small. Be around those who love and trust you."
Okay. Nice

8. "When you have healed and it's time to move on with your life, introduce your children first to him and probe into the man's background( please check)."
Agreed.

9. "Never stop being a mother, always ensure your children bear their father's name. Talk to them about their village and take them to visit even for an hour; they need their identity.
10. "Preserve pictures of you and ex and give it to your children when they turn 18 as souvenirs for life. Their children need to know who their grand parents are(were)."
Family isn't by blood or name or village. It's about who truely loves you. If the man is a deadbeat fether, then present to your kids the opportunity to answer either his or your name.



At the end of the day, it's all about loving those who love you. Let your kids face the reality of things no matter how bitter. That's the first step to healing. Don't encourage them to love someone who once abandoned them and who would do it again without a moment's thought.

What if he didn't abandon them? What if the woman actually took them away without his consent?

kals4luv990:
how is that guy a simp now ni
Do yu know what or who a Simp is..yu just dnt have sense

Since you have sense, kindly define a SIMP?

Kologirl:
Hi everyone
So I recently got disflowered, it was my choice and I did it because I'm not really the marriage type, like am not a tradition woman, I'm in uni now but I do work hard for my own money so my choice wasn't money motivated,
My problem is I have started falling for the guy, like mad. Before we did it he told me that he loved but I honestly didn't care, but now have starting to love him for him.
He's nice, Caring and drama free.
I don't know if I should date him.
You rarely see a Nigerian guy that's not a problem.
The reason I'm confused is because I want to live a isolated life, just me and my adopted children but I'm not sure he's down for that.
The times we spent together he's always talking about wanting a family plus he's this religious type. I don't know if I should give the relationship a try. He keeps asking me for a relationship but I don't think it's sex motivated because since we had sex 10 months ago, he hasn't ask for it again plus I was the one who told him to disflower me

Please mature advise only, keep in mind I'm still young, i only recently opened my nairaland account and I did so because I needed advise. Thanks

You are a dangerous dimension for the guy because the both of you don't have same orientation. The relationship will eventually break down and he will suffer more. I think he is a SIMP so he will be the worst hit

I accepted it already.

Bodyodour:
I told my boss,I have feelings for her after thinking she gave me the greenlight. She smiled and left. Two days later, I got a sack later. She is 28 and I am 23. I am just confused and angry. Did I do anything wrong?

Don't be sad. You have just learnt a major lesson. Never hit on your boss except you are so sure she is hitting on you.

Besides, office relationship can be a crazy affair.

APC2:
I created this new account to hide my identity.

We live in a highbrow area in Ogun state with one Kid of 2 years. My wife is not working, she is attending a university in Ogun state where we lived. My wife always watch African Magic, Zee World or running from one prayer house to another. She does not respect me at all. Living with her for 3 years now is hell on earth.

......

I am always at home with my family when I return from work and I think my wife is taking that for granted. I will be going out from now to meet other women. I am completely tired of the marriage and I am considering marrying another wife that can give me peace and respect.

You have very good in-laws. However, NAPTIP likes to feast on matters like this - you beat your wife, for whatever reason.

habsydiamond:
A jobless entity even get strength to fight... E get how dem dey torture people like them.. If not for the 2year old child I would have advised u not to fulfill any of her requests again until she comes to her senses... visiting too many prayer houses will only add more to ur problems cos the problem you don't have is what those money sucker creatures called pastors will say u have just to collect the little u have. See this woman o.. She no get job but fit buy one bag of rice for a pastor... Shey she wise or she's foolish... Imagine, jobless pesin dey sow seed for another jobless pesin. This world balance at all

You have very good in-laws. However, NAPTIP likes to feast on matters like this - you beat your wife, for whatever reason.

Cokahot:
I've always done that,I avoid poor ppl. They feel its your responsibility to take care of they miserable life just cause u get small tin. I hate all poor people.

Grow up man or woman. You are responsible when you allow flow of opportunities, wealth, and resources from you to the poor, less privileged, family members, friends, and other people.

God blessed you so that you can be a blessing to other people - rich and poor people. If you are still to understand and practice that orientation, then you are like the man given talents and could only selfishly mine the talents for your own benefit only.

Brownygold002:
It all started with a harmless 'hi' nd I'm about to begin forever wif you.


SO This morning, my ride or die, made my finger heavier by giving me the most amazing shocker suprise .


It's the easiest YES Av said this year with my full chest. Moma and papa, Tasha has a wedding to plan oo.


so I'm 18, the people wey born me ain't complaining.


I'M OFF THE MARKET OOO ALL MY TOASTERS.

It's ganna be lit tonite. Osheyy!!! Congrats brownygold002, natasha Grace Lotanna soon to be be MRS Alexandar Natasha

Congratulations

virginprincess:
Broke nigeria men .

You again!

TotoNaRubber:
Hello all,
I have N15 million I would like to invest in anything that can generate like 13 percent annual interest minimum every year but I am out of ideas what to invest in.

Could anyone advice which investment can guaranteed safety of my capital and interest for the duration. In the absence of any idea I may have to do small giveaway from it to my girlfriend who knows about it and is asking me for N500 k from it to buy iPhone.

Suggestions are welcome.

Let's enter an MOA, I will need 5 million out of your funds. I will invest it in a business and pay you 20% of the money per year.

You can only terminate the agreement at the end of each financial year.

virginprincess:
, is this a poem or what?

Obviously you are of the new generation. It was done by Celine Dion.

virginprincess:
Kriss216 and wallade, you guys should stop gossiping with my name, whether I'm a virgin or not is non of your business.

I am so sorry ma

virginprincess:
Yes, you are correct,he should be the one falling for me and not the other way round.

"Tell him, tell him that the sun and moon rise in his eyes, reach out to him and whisper tender words so soft and smooth, hold him close to feel his heart beat, love will be the gift you will give yourselves......... Never let him go"

Does that sound familiar?

Kriss216:
You think? You're not even sure... please help me confirm from her

I have never been there so I can't be sure. I only chose to go by the name.

East

Kriss216:
Lol
Only if she's a virgin

l think she is a virgin. So she said: Virginprincess

virginprincess:
Oga, I don't like him,I can never like someone that sees nothing good in women except sex.

All that red pill you dey see the guy display is "shakara". He will be handled by someone like you. Thank me later when he falls all over for you.�

Kriss216:
Thanks...I'll take that as a compliment.

@Virginprincess likes you!

Serial48:
So after 6years of illegal cohabitation and plenty of sex, Babe took me out last night and asked me to marry him. Guys i was too into the moment that i forgot to take pictures.

Congratulations.

The first shall be the last and the last shall be the first.

Miner13:
is it not better to breakdown the family to breaking down the woman whose acceptance of going through the rough tunnel with her man.but to wake to a surprise diverse of course.. a very selfish man finding a way to impressing his sidechicks.rubbish alphamale

What makes you think the car is about impressing his side chicks?

ObamaMessi:
A woman in the area where I recide reportedly divorced her husband for buying a car instead of building a house.It was said that the divorced husband failed to listen to the wife to build a house and bought a car with the money they both raised.

What is our society turning into?

LadiesForever Jeon

I can't understand why he chose to buy a car rather than build a house as discussed and planned with the wife.

However, there must be a reason he chose the car over a house, at the moment. You don't know his plans and the wife should have listened to him on his plans going forward since he has used the money for the house to buy a car.

The most stupid decision is to divorce the husband on this basis. I keep saying:

Marriage is the plan and design of God; God is the head of the Church and the man is the head of the family. He is accountable and responsibie for the home, he is expected to love his wife and kids completely and the wife is expected to love and submit to her husband completely.

Imagine me asking, working and praying to God for the blessing of a brand new house in Abuja and God chose to give me a car. Then I start questioning God and get angry with God and separate from God.

Do I know the plan of God? If God shows me his plan, however incomprehensible for me or difficult to understand or see happening, do I just wave it off and cut God off my life? Am I not being disobedient, disrespectful and unsubmissive to God.

The orientation of couples to marriage is fast becoming a shame and different from the plan and purpose of God.

Biglittlelois:
They don dey change mouth small small
E say the line nor straight, e curve small

Very predictable lots, when faced with valid logical points, they sha must look for a way around it to justify their usual nonsense lmao

Try to marry a man who will not share bills with you.