₦airaland Forum

Nuellavanz96:
When a Nigerian man wants 50:50, he wants 50:50 in only bills. And if you as a woman agree to such, then you are a phool dear.

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Do I like the 50:50 arrangement in marriage? ABSOLUTELY NO!

Try to marry a man who would not share bills with you.

superCleanworks:
you call it fumbling when you fail to see how i answered over and over again. did you fall asleep while reading? I expected it . I would have accorded you very high respect had you been able to read and understand what you prematurely called an epistle but I will revel in the thought that there are many other people of superior understanding who would grasp every word without neuralgia, unlike you who has come back to get explanation for what has been explained, and that is the beauty of Nairaland. Thank God for those few.

Once again, your question would have been set on the right path and received the desired answer if you had mentioned your stance on my comment rather than sending your question unaccompanied leaving your standpoint of hostility or comradery unclear. Do you think you are talking with a SIMPLE man? Fortunately for me, I am not. Anyway, your inability to comprehend bears no fingerprint of fault that can be traced back to me. Should I inquire as to how old you are or what level of education you have attained that makes disinclination so big for you to discern? No I will not, even though it is relevant to this situation because I would want to be sure I am not talking to someone far below the literacy line, but I choose to leave you in your web and have no further discourse till you show me the relevance of your question and unshroud its intention and also that you have understood without dizziness, my first and last reply.

So, till then or never. Have a good weekend.

How did you pass examinations with this approach to answering questions?

You need to work on your communication skills.

superCleanworks:
you seek to validate points, or the lack of it, based on the social or marital status of the commentator. You want to know if I am qualified to write such undiluted truth based on if I have a wedding ring or not.
If i should quote from the bible you would ask me if i am a pastor.
If i should decide to polish my shoes you would ask me if i was a cobbler.
I will not satisfy your curiosity with an answer due to the utter irrelevance of the question because my comment was in broard spectrum of relationship choices in general and not limited to marriages. But what do you care? My marital status is more important to you than the truth.
It would have been appealing if you had commented in agreement or disagreement before the erupting with the question. Or perhaps you can hardly decide if you agree or not and you need my answer to that question as a prerequisite to your decision making on the comment. What else would you like to know? How long i have been married? How many wives I have? Or am I just another single fellow who is only writing because he has the prowess? Do you ever wonder what the frame that encase the monalisa is made of before you like or dislike the picture? I guess not.

Cheers.

I asked you a simple question which you did not answer but wrote an epistle that still makes it difficult for me to make an informed opinion about your contribution on the topic.

Answer the question and stop fumbling around it!

superCleanworks:
any man who has to wait till he sees a bible passage before he knows that beating his wife or babe is an activity that shows how low he has fallen mentally, really needs a mental check.

i don't need a bible verse. i don't have time for such. I rather not tie myself with a temper provoking woman. if all your steps has brought you to the level where you ended up with such a woman then that is your problem. most men see all these signs and still choose to RIDE OR DIE with such a woman.

if as a man you grew up in a home where the sadomasochistic nature and activities of your father made you grow into such a nature where you feel it is very okay to live a life where you have to keep beating up women to get your desires met, then you have been cheated of your sanity. you need to get a room in yaba left.

women get bad mouth, women get bad mouth.... but you saw her and refused to run very far from her because you think the solution is to show her you are a man by resetting her brain with slaps. you really have time oh. Now you are stuck with her and you now have the lifetime job of resetting. it is all your fault Mr Man.

Are you married?

wis3:

Indeed, he dodged a huge bullet

inspirator1:
Some kind comments on Nairaland makes me wonder. How on earth are we good at twisting a stupid behaviour and calls it betrayal? I know of a lady, who if she confirms that the guy played such a huge joke on her, will codedly kill him and cry more than anyone else.

Why will someone support such an irresponsible guy and tag his friend an enemy? This is why humanity is fast eroding from us. Someone helped you when you are in need, then you turned her into an office, not just that, you brag about it.

Be the reason why people believes in humanity, love not evil even if na your papa dey do am.

If I were the friend, I would even break off from the irresponsible guy once I notice such attitude to people's benevolence. It is rare and shouldn't be taken for granted or make mockery of.

PS: Brother's code does not justify stupidity. It is all about being on watch out for your pal against danger. The friend didn't even break any code rather he kept it. Have you imagine the kind of hell that will break loose should the lady find out such by herself? The friend will be involved in the fiasco.

A good name is better than stupid, irresponsible friends that feels entitled, that I should guard/guide their stupid behaviours.

Let us groom a responsible society and not support evil under any guise. To the far end of it, don't support an evil system because it favours you, bandwagon or to appear good.

Now on the flip side, if the lady marrying her ex friend is a personal vendetta, to me she got it wrong. Yes! Birds of same feather flocks together, though there's a white sheep most times among them. If the now fiance is one, good for her but she should had looked very well before she leap. It could also be a format from this circle of friends. It all depends on her judgement.


Saleh.

That friend is a rebound guy in the life of the lady. However, the lady should have just taken some time off relationship to refocus and get another guy rather than the friend of her ex no matter how excellent he is.

I think the lady is trying to hurt the previous guy by dating the his friend. I am not sure what the friend of the previous guy is thinking.

I think this move will end in regret for her.

Wallade:
I know 2 guys - Benue state men; father of 2 and 4 kids respectively, who have been locked up in a detention facility, for more than 2 months, for an offence they allegedly committed.

They are good people who left their children behind for over two months. They are christians and they will endeavour to sin no more however they are to be released on bail and they will need to be reunited with their families.

I am down on cash as I speak but I would like to encourage anyone who wants to help them out to do so. They need that help today to facilitate their bail. Please assist if you can, especially because they will need fund to bail them out and transport them home. They only need 10,000 naira.

I can provide you the account detail of one of them if you wish to help. Just send me a message.

This message is only valid for today, before 4pm. Kindly assist.

Nevermind people, I have sorted it out. Thank you.

I know 2 guys - Benue state men; father of 2 and 4 kids respectively, who have been locked up in a detention facility, for more than 2 months, for an offence they allegedly committed.

They are good people who left their children behind for over two months. They are christians and they will endeavour to sin no more however they are to be released on bail and they will need to be reunited with their families.

I am down on cash as I speak but I would like to encourage anyone who wants to help them out to do so. They need that help today to facilitate their bail. Please assist if you can, especially because they will need fund to bail them out and transport them home. They only need 10,000 naira.

I can provide you the account detail of one of them if you wish to help. Just send me a message.

This message is only valid for today, before 4pm. Kindly assist.

KOPArespect:
I will like to be brief, I joined this new company April and I am still within my 3 months probation period but I will like to leave due to the fact that I got to know there is inequality in payment of staffs even in the same level. I think that is one of the reasons why they claim salary must be kept a secret.

The issue now is that I have undergone several trainings and issued about 3 professional certificates. Will I have to pay for the training as indicated in the bonding agreement whereas the termination clause states that either party can withdraw having given 2 weeks prior notice.

*Note: the present job is roughly 220k without accommodation in Portharcout and my new offer is 250k with accommodation in the same state

You signed a bond agreement so you should rather opt to negotiate your exit rather than serve them 2 weeks resignation notice. If they don't let you go, you may just have to manage through the agreed number of years, gather experience and more professional certificates and then move on.

The other company trying to poach you off the first company too may have to back down if the first company threaten litigation on the strength of the bond agreement that you signed.

I will advise you to stay with the current company, gather experience and more professional certificates, then you can be highly valuable when you want to move to another company.

Be careful brother!

DaddyFabooluz:
Many people are just criticizing Russia for the Ukraine invasion but they don't really know what is at stake here and why USA is acting a chicken.

Ukraine has a Nuclear plant which the USA and other so called world power countries have been trying to penetrate. Russian president have tried to protect their nuclear programs against the US and others which has been a big threat so the US and others decided to penetrate it by their usual brainwash strategy through Ukraine by involving them in the NATO stuff.
Now what many people don't know is that this US putting Ukraine in their NATO stuff will give US access to do their usual extortion of building nuclear weapons that will now become a bigger threat to the world thereby giving them more world power but Putin doesn't want that.
If you notice what is happening now, Russia invaded like this just to take over the nuclear plant in Ukraine so that the US and other so called world power countries will have a failed mission of getting access to nuclear programs. The US now and others can't send forces because they know it's a fail attempt already and all they will do is bring propaganda of killing innocent people. Even the Ukrainian government has seen that they messed up to fall for the US brainwash and now want peaceful dialogue with Russia because they have seen that the USA strategy was a big mistake.

Peace will reign once US and others back away and keep their respect for Russia and we can see that this will not last long.

Putin is a strong man and knows what he is doing, the US and other so called world power countries will be put to shame. He has everything planned and know all those sanctions are worthless now. Even in Africa now we can see how coup is reigning without the fear of sanction again because their eyes have opened.

God bless you all.

Brother, I think you are sick in the mind, you need some help mentally.

Raxxye:
As if he made any contribution to the discussions there or even understood anything that was discussed.
Imagine your 80 year old grandpa representing your family in your village meeting! It's a colossal waste of resources!
Sorry, Nigerians!

The Nigerian team did a good job over there. The president's contribution at the discussion on Peace, Security and Governance in the 6th EU-AU Summit, included: stressing the need to nip the root causes of extremism, conflicts and tensions in Africa at inception.

He also endorsed the designation of Nigeria as one of the six countries in Africa designated as manufacturing bases for the COVID-19 vaccine.

crispus09:
This useless man like traveling like tomorrow no dey

That man is the President of Nigeria. I wonder how that makes him useless

babaolofin:
I agreed with you 100%. Abba Kyari sentiment has beclouded our sense of reasoning and judgement that we don't even listen to the intelligent barking of a Security Dog (POLICE) drawing our attentions to something unknown to us. A Custom Officer just told me it is not possible that no NDLEA officer was aware a courier is landing at Enugu Airport. The only thing is that NDLEA officers are not working with Informant . The Courier did not beat NDLEA checkpoint at the Airport before he was arrested by Kyari's team based on information made available by informant. He said what happened at the Airport NDLEA checkpoint with 25KG drug was a normal drug deal. The counter offensive by Kyari team after the Courier passed through checkpoint is another deal.

That was what he thought happened from his 18 years surveillance experience. Only God knows the truth.

The truth is that the Police and NDLEA are both culpable on this drug deal-gone-wrong and perhaps several others.

COWBOYFAN:

I saw the relationship between A. Kyari and O. Cubanna too but I was not gonna mention it until someone bold enough puts it out there.

oluztx:
Afonjas are worst than Alamajiris in Zamfara but they use their media to always package themselves as doing well. Same way they package themselves as the most educated but facts on ground say it's Igbos. Same way they are using their media to tell us now that ritual killings is happening across the country, when we all know it's mostly in SW, as we read here everyday.

Go to Osun, Ekiti, Osun and Ogun and see for yourselves, the decrepit nature of these states, abject poverty and unemployed young men roaming around, you will be wondering where are all these IGRs coming from? I can't even find a 2-star hotel to lodge in these states let alone 4-star that are over 200 in Anambra and Imo, with people packed and no space. The day Nigeria will break, is when they will be exposed but again, they know, which is why they don't want Nigeria to break.

Do you really understand what is called 4-star Hotel?

Backside and radiant skin

greencard:
are you a manager??

Let me ask: are you married?

steveneche:
Boxing day of all day, I was told my girlfriend slapped my mother after a heated argument.

I had to send her packaging without a chance to explain..

Was I wrong to have ended a 2 year old relationship this way? No one slaps my mother and get away with with it right from time.

Just stop thinking about her and the development. You made the right decision.

Justkatty:
He should be aswell be a partaker, sometimes I don't know what some guys get in being foolish.
He was just being stupid and foolish likewise her.

He has no business blaming the other guy, his business is with his olosho babe

slimjohn2k5:
You would HV listened to her side of the story.

Then process it for sometime before letting her go

There was no point. The situation was so clear

ZINIX:
Why are u kneeling down in the first place .? Did our forefathers knee down to propose to a non virgin woman.? Why should I knee down to beg a bore-hole to marry me ? Must you inculcate everything whites do ? Leave oyinbo culture for them they didnt practice your culture don't practice theirs.

Does the act of kneeling to propose to your woman take anything away from you? Does it change your psychology?

It even gives you a psychological edge above her, if you don't know.

Fistop:
He has been [/b]gagged[b] and we don't even remember anyone that he is the Vice-President.

Yemi Osinbajo is my choice not necessarily yours. Deal with it.

I will honestly take a gamble with Yemi Osibanjo

The reaction of UAE indicates that they are more pained than Nigeria.

Sterope:
A good and responsible father will interfere in your marriage if he absolutely need to. There is nothing you can do about that.

When the time comes, we shall see what I will do about it.

franchasng:
Try and understand her point bro, she is talking about husbands that try to take the place of their wife's father in the name of being a hushand. Its not cool na.



Life is beautiful and simple if we all can understand our position, respect and appreciate it. Being a husband doesn't make you her father and being her father doesn't make you her husband and vice versa.


Some men get angry when their wife send money to her parents or siblings, to me there is nothing bad at all. For example me, I always make jest of my wife that when will you change your dad's car with your own money? I always challenge her to take good care of her father, unfortunately her mom is late.


Because I became her husband doesnt take away the fact that someone, some people sacrificed their years to train her to become who she was before I saw her and admired her and made her my wife. If they failed in their responsibilities to her, she wouldnt have been a lady I would admire to the extent of making her my wife.


Try reason her point, she is.not saying wives should not respect their husbands but they should not try to take the place of their wife's fathers, that's what I understand from her comment

Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. I can tell the kind of woman she is in marriage or will be.

I have got nothing to compete or drag with my father in-law but he should keep his lane and I will keep mine.

franchasng:
She is oh, you ought to know. You guys are not observant enough, she don play una tinko

I can bet she lacks respect for her husband and treats him like second place citizen in the marriage or perhaps trash.

Thank God you have such a man but not me, I will not deal. I would rather end the marriage.

pocohantas:
Better don’t have heart attack. You can always be changed in a second, but a father can’t be changed. You are nothing but a husband who came after her family has finished suffering to raise her. Where were you when they were drinking garri? Where were you when her father was struggling to send her to school? Now she has graduated, you carry your coconut head to be forming oga. Nonsense and Wallade.

Are you married? I want you to answer the question.

pocohantas:
She can have many husbands, but just one father. Please make peace with your second position at best, so that you can enjoy your marriage.

Maybe you live in a society where you can have many husbands. 95% of societies recognize one man to one wife, by law.

My wife can not have another husband until we are divorced, if need be. If she so much believes she can pick and marry and dump and pick several other husbands. Then we are of very different believes and couldn't have been married in the first place.

I am not second place in my marriage and I will not tolerate it. Thunder fire that woman that will attempt to make me second place in my marriage. It shall never be well with such woman in marriage. I will not have it and she will see a different and bad me. Good riddance to such marriage.

pocohantas:
She won’t instigate anything. You should be sensible enough to know your place.

My father in-law too should be sensible enough to know his place. My wife should care to protect the status of her husband and father.