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Why not? When Nigeria have become dirt cheap. So foreigners can buy Nigeria's asset for little or nothing.

Devaluing your currency when you have 2% export, 98% import and zero incentive for reverse the trend is tantamount to economic suicide

Privacy is Key.

Has she broken up with Eazi? Why girls in relationship keep flashing is beyond me. Respect your man and put some clothes on.

SHiNJA4RMDWEST:
Other countries are boasting of technologies ,new inventions ...

This head slamming cow is boasting of rearing cows like him ...

No wonder this country is going backward..

Anyway God bless the good people of Southsouth and Southwest..

Is it technology/new inventions that you will eat? The man is doing well for himself whilst provide food for Nigerians. He is Ranching his cattle unlike those that destroy other people's farmland.

The level of hate on this platform is unbelievable.

Jman06:
While the Southerners, especially SE and SS understand, criticize and avoid marriage until they make money, northerners like op marry even while still poor and breed like bedbugs. With this, the north continues to grow in population and the political class use this to maintain political dominance in Nigeria. No wonder they organize mass weddings for poor people over there!

To what end? Political dominance for poverty?

There is no correct answer to this. It's all about the priority of the family. The priority could be fame, economic freedom, or family. Most times when an individual is on his/her deathbed, the first two doesn't really matter.

Purvan:
The day my wife choose to become a house wife than career woman is the day she stops becoming my wife and moves back to her father's house

Imagine nothing beats marrying a career woman especially if she works in healthcare or tech

After she had a stressed day from work , she came backs home to you and you prepare a meal for her while she takes a bath then you can give deep sensual massages that'll have her begging you to bleep her

Where will you get the energy to do this everyday especially after working 9-5 yourself?

The parents should get good lawyers and sue the agency of every last penny they can get.

Nice car for daily driving. Good fuel economy. Low maintenance cost as parts don't breakdown frequently.
However, the handling is terrible if you are transitioning from a German car. This has been my only regret.

KingintheNorth:
Guys I'm asking for a friend , if you are based abroad and earn 2.5 million naira after tax, what would you invest in Nigeria??

If he is based in the US, let him save up 3 months salary of his yearly income for 5 years and invest same in Apple|Google stocks for long term. Or he buy real estates and hold them for long periods as well.

But starting a business on the side of the pays better though it comes with a lot of risk

OP, pray no one of your family or Friends in the east don't have a medical emergency on a day designates for Sit At Home. Then you'll know the devastating effect it has on the society.

No person/group should be able to restrict our freedom of movement

Foodqueen:
Bought a cartoon of broiler last month, loss 20 out of it. The weather I guess.

Though it hurts, but still, I rise 😭😭😭

That's the mindset. Much respect. Just hope more people will learn from this thread

Whether they approve it or not. My philosophy is to stay away from processed foods and drinks as much as possible.

Anytime I see news of marathon competition in Nigeria, I get taken aback. Personally, to me Nigeria has no business organizing Marathons for East Africans to come win all the prizes.

Just imagine, for this competition alone about $200k pocketed by East Africans. Why not use the money to sponsor football competition for under 13 boys across schools in the country and the winning school gets $50k while other top performing schools share the balance $150k.
Image if this was done annually by 2 or 3 States. The level of transformation would be unprecedented for the kids, the schools and for sports generally.

Almunjid:
For this period of hunger, somebody wan pack 4 Million go buy car. This life no balance wallah.

It's about time and seasons. Not necessarily about balance. It doesn't rain everywhere at the same time. Continue to grind, your season will come.

Since January 2022. This sounds more like something that can only happen in a less developed country like Nigeria.

Children of these day don't seem to understand the meaning of privacy.

If you know what's good for you take down that picture before you create unnecessary issues for yourself

BrighterThanDay:
As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.

After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.

Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.

After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.

Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.

I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.

My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.

I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.

She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.

For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.

Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.

Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.

Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.


When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.

My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.

I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.

Still looking for where marriage failed you.

Just imagine the disgrace to the family of the victim. So everyone don know say their daughter na olosho.

When you tell dem do proper traditional marriage rites, dem go say no "we are Christians" na the result be this.

The people of old did not come up with traditional rites from the blue. They were created as safeguards to arrest events that were probably prevalent in their day.
Now we abandon those rites and expect the issues they were curbing not to resurface.

The man should move on. Next time do the rite thing

Danisaint112:
After Catholic church, Jehovah witnesses. forget condemnation you will find good women there.

Infact Jehovah witness is suppose to come first but I'm picking Catholic church because of population.

Good girls dey everywhere.

To the young guys out there reading this abeg, plan for your retirement wella because somethings wen I dey read here still dey fear me

OP, you're a weakling. you need to toughen up and put you wife in check.

That said, don't condescend to the level of your wife. Let your mother in-law stay. She is family.

If the baby's mother feels deceived, that is an issue between the both parents. She shouldn't mess up a child's life for that.

Bro, if it takes going to the court/police/military to get access to your child, please proceed. What ever you can do to make sure that you and your family are in the child's life, go ahead.

Also, continue to develop yourself to become the man your child would be proud to call father.

all4zionlover:
What would you advice in a situation where a husband loses his job due to gambling and decided not to make any effort in search of another job or business or any legal means of making even little money.

He just wakes up in the morning, have his bath, put on the AC and go back to sleep. Only expecting any little thing the wife can cook to eat? He wouldn't pay any bills, provide anything but very humble helping out with house cleaning and washing.

Knowing that the situation is not funny on the wife and two children.

The wife must struggle to make food available no matter how little for the children, because she can't watch the children go hungry.
In a situation like this, when men goes out looking for means of making food available for their children and family, he is comfortable not having anything to offer all the time.
Is this the character of a father and husband that loves?

Is this not enough reason to divorce him?

The bolded cracked me up.

Your husband has been providing without complaining. Now that he has a little setback, you are already talking of divorce. Embrace Equality my foot.

siofra:



Lord! I'm weak in the knees. My insides are like jelly. He's so hawt😩😩😩

I just saw him on Facebook, I hope he isn't married 😏

Please vote Mr. Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour. Lagos needs a hot young and innovative governor. Thank you.

He's even an architect, like my mom🤩🤩🤩 please vote him abeg. I see potential in him.

Nigerian are still in shock with the level of rigging being carried out by INEC, Security personnel, and some state Governors, you are here talking about "Jelly Inside". Abeg enta house make thunder no fall for your head...

Alanama06:
My vote is for Tinubu tomorrow by God's grace. Now I need to find a good hotel in Lagos and rest after this long journey before I proceed home tomorrow

Who can recommend a good hotel in the mainland

Go to Oriental.

kingreign:
Why?

Because it's buywahala

Chi133:
Lagos Tinubu?? Dey play. Thanks to God for electronic voting

APC's plan to win Lagos by vote buying and intimidation have been thwarted. I see them loosing Lagos state.

PDPdestroyer:
I don't have sense, I'm voting Tinubu. Obi's records in governance doesn't convince anyone but his kinsmen and a few brainwashed youths who don't know their left from their right. Listen to both of them here, make your voice without bias


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rlnv_hqafZU


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbSZyz2EPmc

Town hall, different from bala-blu

No level. Abi no be the lions and tigers wen no for deliver Pst. Iyamu even after dem collect Capt. Osa money?