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when she works overtime to show she hates u so badddd

Every man has a good and a bad side, some show their wild sides more than others and i think thats what the girls like to see. . .  A guy who lives his life without trying to be overly good or create an image that is soooo innocent. When u're yourself girls will like u. when u present yourself as overly good, church girls will like u

Thats life for u. . . Deal with it!

lone:
Men are like that, you know. You can never tell what they base their judgement on. Quality or quantity

Wrong

Whereabouts are u in the UK?

@Poster: Some strong words up there - where it hurts most.

I know a good number of girls who are from good families and who are abroad, i have also seen a number of girls who sadly fall into the description above.

Long as she aint my wife yet, friends come first - she'll get more of my respect ahead of friends though.

Free the kpanshing or get yourself involved! Haba!

Difference between a playa and a non-playa:

Playa will constantly sleep with both girls without losing his authority. . .  In other words, your babe's friend will not control u with a threat of exposure - u will make her get addicted to u so badly she wont want it to end by exposing u!  How do u do that? i'll leave u to find out.

Non playa is the direct opposite of the above, he allows fear and shame to take control of him so much that even without an exposure, his babe can tell he has done something she'll consider silly

diasporian:
fok her, and keep foking her, letting her beleive you like her, and when you are done foking her, just leave her dry and sorrowful, you dig?

I think thats wrong, matter of fact - i think u should keep avoiding her or at least keep her at arms length

@POSTER:

Your story is a reflection of society and what it has turned into, it sounds very real and i know it happens everyday. . .  I understand your frustration at hearing such a story or maybe even knowing the people involved but deciding to call all guys "fools" and expecting us to agree with u!!  Even i have to admire your courage, if this was a face-to-face situation, i doubt if u would have the guts sha

meexteriox:
The answer is simple.
Emotional insecurity, wickedness, greed and above all, love of money.

Girls know if a man is able to provide for his family then he must be able throw the occasional tit-bits around at on-lookers. . . Unfortunately though, the down-side to getting involved with a married man is you present the risk of breaking up this once happy family. . . And if the laws of karma really do exist, then u can expect similar treatment if not worse.

CodeRED:
@topic
OF COURSE THEY CAN. We all know guys think with their "third" hand, instead of their brains. As a result all we, ladies, need to do is work on that handicap of theirs and we can get them to do ANYTHING we so deem fit. It's that easy.

Some women have that girl power but some men are principled to the core and will take responsibility for all their actions, therefore, that action has to be properly thought out before it comes to light.

tkb417:
seduce me at ur own peril. . . .

Expantiate please

H2O2:
It happens. Body no be wood

So u go just oblige any woman because body no be wood?

Just wondering now because i have this really hot black babe in my office who has almost all the guys [black and white and yellow sef ] at her fingertips. . .  She's the toast of the place and can get what many cannot even think of - and she doesnt have to sleep with anyone to get it.
I've recently been paired up with her and we sit opposite each other and i have to say that it is a bit intimidating to look her in the eyes sometimes because she is so confident about her abilities. . .
In a recent debate about girls with other team members, i took sides with the guys and stood against the women, and obviously, this has created a challenge for her - she's trying to prove me wrong by seducing me - in the same way as she did the entire office!
The issue here is that its all very psychological, and sometimes i feel like she might mean it but because of that thought that she might be trying to prove a point, i've stood my ground.

This little tug of war between us has made me wonder whether any woman can just seduce men even when we don't want it.

Eduardo anyday anytime, berba is just one lazy heap of shaite that can only shine when given enough room to operate, dud will create space out of nothing and make his mark, someone that scored nearly 40 goals in his previous league before arsenal snapped him, how many did berba score? Even before his leg break, he was dusting berba on goals scored in the season so there is no basis for comparison!

sistawoman:
@deeplo

I just want you to really understand the pain that you will be causing her.

i don't think you guys get it. Everything done in the dark comes to light; God makes sure of that.

She will feel this pain for a long time to come.

Not a very intelligent statement because it is not always the case. In 20,000 yrs, some of my actions will still not come to light - with all the technology in use

deeplo:
I will tell her this weekend and will let you people know by monday what the outcome is, I sincere grateful to all that have offer constructive advice and to those who think this is a playwrite, i say thank you too.
am an Optimistic person, i look forward to an happy ending and hopefully invite some of you here to my wedding in April, thanks once again

If u plan to tell her this weekend, then sit with your parents [mum especially] tonight.

Moyola:
me too!

Girls, ok free the guy please. . .  I'm not praising him for his actions but i feel the milk has already been spilled. If he's telling the whole truth here, then we have to understand how he must feel at this point in time. . .  Having assisted someone and ending up in their trap - its not a very good feeling and you know as well as i know that it takes some doing to actually resist strong temptation - especially when the mood is right. Who knows whether she even jazzed him, afterall women go to such lengths and he has said he doesnt even know what led to the whole fling.

Concentrate on the problem at hand which is:

1) What happens to his fiance? - he obviously doesnt want to lose her.
2) what happens to the unborn baby - if its his?
3) How can he stand up and be counted as a man amonst family and peers?

deeplo:
One last thing, when do you think i can tell my fiance as at this moment, i really don't know. I go to work simply bc am the boss and tried as much to hold mysef bc i wouldn't want them to know anything but i can't coordinate well, i get annoyed when am not suppose to be, i leave office just driving around when am suppose to be in the office, please advice

Dude: Like debosky said above, NOW is the time to tell your fiance!
Make sure you tell your family first so they can help stand by u when your fiance flips her top, but make sure that girl doesnt beat u to the race to tell your fiance before u.

One more thing, DONT DO THIS VIA TEXT or on the phone!  She wont find it funny.

Dude:
u messed up so u need to clean it up.

Dont ask her to abort the child, it could cost her life. However, try and make the gravity of the matter known to her. I would tell her bluntly that having a baby for me wont guarantee her any marital ties with me.
I would make it absolutely clear that after birth we shall go in for paternity tests and if i'm the father i will make my regular paternal donations for the child's upkeep.
I would explain things to my fiance and family before they get to hear it from her, and i will make peace with them. . .  If my fiance is strong [like i know she will] she will handle it with maturity, otherwise, she is free to move on.

Life teaches people to be strong, experience is the best teacher. Always bear in mind that u r not the first one to get into this sort of situation. . .  It is a shameful one but u have to hold yourself in one piece. . .  It is not the end of the world!

Guys don't talk, we act. . .  and a woman who knows her man should recognise those acts from a distance.
What did she think when their relationship became stiffled, for God's sake - what did she think when a brother was sleeping on a different bed for so long
Such a woman irritates me!

Mitchelin:
I'd say,quite a few really do,but they are a fast dying breed. Right now,love has been sacrificed on the alter of compatibility and stuff. Compatibility in the sense that the guy has to be compatible with the money needs of the lady,looks dept,style et al.
But loving a guy just for him,I think it's close to impossible to see a lady who'd tell you that. Either the guy is loaded,looks like an adonis, or a complete dolt that can be manipulated. Take a look around you,look real close,you'd find nearly all relationships fall into this genre, and the funny thing is the ladies don't even know they don't truly love their man,one can live so much in deceit that it becomes second nature. And before the ladies start blowing a fuse,ask yourself this: Should he become less handsome by virtue of a freak accident would you still be there? and for those that are quick to say yes, for how long will you care about him in his not so appealing state,probably he's now crippled or something,or burnt, or whatever,so the looks that always turned ur feet into jelly is no longer the same will you still care? How about this scenerio, he's no longer well paid,maybe he lost his job,bad business move or whatever,and now he's broke as fk,how long will you hang around when all the outings,money,allowances,clothings and the like stop coming?, let's call a spade a spade, only a select few,I repeat,frightfully few,really love their man,others, it's just a game,that could go on for the rest of our lives even when the kids start arriving,sad don't you think?.

You know, they say wit is educated insolence, i think you've exhibited great wit; and this coming from someone who is not male, very well put with mindstorming scenarios, is an example of a woman who reasons within the realms of reality. Keep it up, you've just been added to my list of admired NLanders

emeraldbee:
oh no you didnt! lexi, don't even get me started with you!
Did i say anything that should affect you if you're not guilty of it? You need to start seeing the truth, and someone had to say it out before you get lost, and thats the truth!

You know what?  whatever!
Just get off my back please, haba! All your posts now are about slagging me, wetin i do u naaa?
Abeg free me o, i don't bug u like this naaa! Chai, oh, Chai!

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emeraldbee:
of course we love men, problem is some of them are so blind, they just can't see what we see. Trust me, i've met a few who are worse than bats when it comes to sight.

Why do women often get sooooo grumpy when they cant have their way

@Topic: The average man loses control after about 4 pints of alcohol. . . The average woman loses control after 4 kisses. It all depends on what rocks your boat but dont mistake lust for love, they have similar symptoms but are very different.

Babe is different from wife. . .  My guys first oh, because if things go wrong tomorrow, i wont be losing at both ends. . . Until after marriage sha.
Girlfriends need to learn to accommodate your friends who were there before her. Besides, in some towns, a wife if married by the entire village, so how can she not mix properly?

JJYOU:
there are loads.

Come oh, why are u fronting virgins like this sef? You be virgin?