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Its not funny oh, this is the USA's 2nd crash in 2 months. The first could've wiped out hundreds of people if not for God taking control - and although it was a case of birds hitting the engine, i still think that should've served as a warning to them. Now an unprovoked crash into a house [and could've been worse] killing 49 or 50 people is not funny again. . . In short, i am cancelling my plans to go there until they tidy up their mess!

I think the right question should be 'how do we avoid it?', and the answer would be to ask girls to dress up and know the limit to flirting with strangers. . . Statistics show that girls who dress scantily or who are too relaxed with strangers, have more probability of getting raped. Of course there is the odd case where its not the girl's fault, but u need to understand that there are many irresponsible and sick people out there who dont take responsibility for their actions, who will want to do a robinho on u and still get away with it by claiming they are mentally retarded and didnt know what they were doing.

Take a cue, dress up to impress.

sistawoman:
Husband Material:


It may be different in Nigeria but one of the first things I look for is a man that is not still living in his mothers basement, unless he is saving up for a house.

A man with a job, good paying job, a job that pays more than or almost as much as mine.

A man that pays his bills on time

A man with good credit.

A man that is faithful

A man that see the value in me

A man that is romantic

A man that loves, adores and treats his mom with the highest respect (the way he treats her says how he will treat me)

A man that does the above to his sisters

A man that understands I am independent and also dependant

A man that understands I too have a voice and respects that voice

A man that stands behind his decisions and deals with whatever fall out there is behind them.

A man that respects me ALWAYS

A man that would never dream of disrespecting me in my presence or behind my back.

A man that can cook and clean

Be back lata

Is she trying to say i'm not husband material cos of some financial issues she mentions in the beginning, and some respect issues she mentions in the middle, or some cooking/cleaning skills she mentions in the end
All this talk no get head. . . There is nothing like husband material, all men are husbands when they want cos they do the marrying. Women just have to understand that everything can never be as equal as they wish it. . . It has never been, and it will never be oh, thats how God created it, and thats how it will remain!

My thoughts. . .

She loves u, but there is someone else. . . Who probably is more established than u. She feels her personal terms will be better met by this guy, but doesnt want to hurt u by telling u she doesnt love u.

My Advice. . .

Move on, there will always be someone else. It is quite likely that she can come back when the bubble bursts but u must stand your ground. If she did it before, she will do it again.

Another one bites the dust

Me thinks "Abe" coulda been an error. . .  She may've been trying to say "Abeg", or "Babe" or even "Abel" as the poster has said, but i would call for calculated reasoning here, the text message doesnt quite sound too bad, it could've been to a friend. . . and remember girls call themselves "Babe" too.

Hopefully i'll be working on Val's day. . . However, in the past, i remember sitting at home having a drink + some meat, and watching nice movies on val's day if i was single. In the evenings i'd lie in my bed with the lights off and curtains drawn, listening to kenny G and yanni. . . Instrumental music has a unique way of opening the mind up, and it helps with my reflections on the past and what the future holds.

I like to console myself with the thought that if a girl is not presently with me, then she probably doesn't deserve me

showbobo:
Tgirl don turn hotcake here ooo. . . . . . . E be like say we go auction her out sef. . . . . Nairaland needs some revenue

Sounds like a good idea, i kuku know say i go win

I think mouth odour is a cross gender thing and it only happens to be a guy this time around, refusing to date someone cos of that only means u dont love the person - if u did then such issues wont bother u. There are simple ways to get rid of mouth odour, run a search on google - that cant be too hard.

No chicks during Val's day

I didnt cause the credit crunch

Dont like chocolate complexioned, hot-filled club girls

Tomorrow when the heartache starts, they will say the guy was evil, he cheated on his girlfriend and took miss poster for a ride. They will not consider such sudden feelings that are rising now and forcing them to try and topple another woman's govt!

They that have ears, let them hear. . .  If a guy has made it openly clear that he has a relationship, stay away from such feelings, dont come back to say he used u and cheated on his babe cos u knew from scratch what u were trying to get him to do, Got him in a moment of weakness, ensured the mood was right, and then raped him!

She will play ball oh
When the time comes. . . Equal rights is just 2 words, even in its current popularity it is still a man's world.
As i always say, thats how God created it to be. A woman is only but 1 rib and was created to help man and keep him company - not to enslave him

Hate the fact that u love someone so much?
That can only happen when that person is playing with the love u r offering and u cannot stop offering!
If it happens in any other scenario. . .  Then its not healthy love.

If u r more mature than your age, chances are u will be attractive to older girls. . . It helps to date them because u learn a lot about women and relationships with them. Enjoy it but decide in ur mind [in good time] whether or not to go all the way with her because such relationships usually turn out to be very good [especially if she doesnt know she's older then u]

The Playa's Creed states clearly that after she mentions the M word more than once in a week, u need to dissembark the journey - if u dont intend to go all the way.

Parents definitely play an important role. The things adults see while sitting down, kids dont see even from the top of the iroko. . .  If they dont like her, there must be a reason, if that reason is good enough - then she has to go.

Crude Oil:
Are you in Cameroonian?

LMAO

Honesty - yes, but don't give out all the information.
I prefer not to tell than to tall a lie
It has worked for yrs

Honestly speaking. . . If i have enough money, i wont mind one bit. A woman can be educated and pass it on to her kids by ensuring they have answers to all they ask, as well as a role model right from that early stage in life.
Plus, a wife at home means no worries about so many things

The only thing I can say is that they are no-nonsense people. They are not going sit by and let you “walk-over” (take advantage) them.

I am a no-nonsense man who was raised in a no nonsense home where no male was allowed into the kitchen for whatever reason. The only reason why i cook is because i am a bachelor and have to cook for myself. . . Cooking is not hard and having done it now for like 10 consecutive yrs or more, i can only say that only the lazy woman will complain about it.
Truth is, a woman must prove to me beyond reasonable doubt that she can cook better than me (Those who have tasted my cooking know it is a challenge to anyone).
The same goes for laundry, house-keeping, and every other task that a woman can possibly complain about. As a bachelor i sweep my house, dust and keep the whole place clean, why then should a woman complain?

This talk is not even necessary, when the time comes - all these shorties will learn to buckle up

Guys are different, i would like everyone to speak for themselves.

I will find it not only disrespectful but offensive if a woman asks me to get into the kitchen and cook, or do her laundry, or other stuff she ought to be doing. My mum didnt ask my dad to do any of those and she is very well educated, my sisters cant do that either. There are instances where she cannot handle that like when she's heavily pregnant, but aside that, no level of luv can bring me to that level where i will live like someone from the west. . . Why else do u think i'm travelling home to get married when girls are everywhere in the UK

Its not a very good defence but if there was any truth in it, surely u cant blame the dude

Besides the woman was young and very attractive - in his wife's view

She came home early and found her husband in their bedroom making love to a very attractive young woman. The wife was VERY upset!

"You are a disrespectful pig!" she cried.
"How dare you do this to me - a faithful wife, the mother of your children! I'm leaving you. I want a divorce straight away!"

And he replied: "Hang on just a minute luv, so at least I can tell you what happened"

"Fine, go ahead", she sobbed, “but they'll be the last words you'll say to me!"

And he began:
"Well, I was getting into the car to drive home and this young lady here asked me for a lift. She looked so down and out and defenseless that I took pity on her and let her into the car. I noticed that she was very thin, not well dressed and very dirty.

She told me that she hadn't eaten for three days! So, in my compassion, I brought her home and warmed up the enchiladas I made for you last night, the ones you wouldn't eat because you're afraid you'll put on weight.

The poor thing devoured them in moments.

Since she needed a good clean-up I suggested a shower and while she was doing that I noticed her clothes were dirty and full of holes so I threw them away. Then, as she needed clothes, I gave her the designer jeans that you have had for a few years, but don't wear because you say they are too tight.
I also gave her the underwear that was your anniversary present, which you don't wear because I don't have good taste.

I found the sexy blouse my sister gave you for Christmas that you don't wear just to annoy her and I also donated those boots you bought at the expensive boutique and don't wear because someone at work has a pair like them.”

He took a quick breath and continued:
"She was so grateful for my understanding and help and as I walked her to the door she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said

'"Please, do you have anything else that your wife doesn't use?'

tkb417:
Lexi
since ure not in 9ja, can somebody else have Uju? im just asking

I'll be in naija soon, i aint spilling anything else

MrCrackles:
I cant get my head round the madness!

Imagine oh!
Especially when the madness is soooo damned sweet

Tgirl4real:
What do u have brewing

Ask her to spill oh

debosky:
@ Lexi

why you London peeps dey always like take picture inside train station? Na rite of passage or what?

Lol, that was a shot taken at the London city airport. I had just gone to pick my guy who flew in from spain and he snapped my pic


@iyalode why the sudden change na? i go soon dey fear u oh

Its gotto be Empress Njamah. . . without make up she'll be something straight out of a horror movie

I dont answer any calls on my mobile with no caller ID or number displayed. . .  I dont even answer any international call on my landline because if the call is from outside the UK the bloody phone displays 'international'

Mmuo:
Pls try pik calls cos it might be some one calling from a pay phone that has something very important to communicate. It may even be a life-saver call.

If its that important, they can leave a voicemail.

MoneyRule:
Tell them!
For christsake,even the world would one day come to an end!!

Lmao

If u ask me, i'll say. . . this is beauty, the kind of beuty that stops u in your tracks! forget what all them girls have said before my post - they're just envious. Its good to see a black girl looking this pretty, it has made my day today

izeek:
dude girls actually measure their guys before deciding how much details to relate to their partner.
what i feel is you should let her past be in her past, afterall u do have a past don't u?

i guess the only one upsetting u is because she did her m.d. and apparently she still works there. what can convince u she is not still doing him right?
well that is where [size=14pt]trust[/size] comes in.

I dont know what planet izeek lives on but we obviously dont seem to live on the same one! Let's forget her past for a moment, the issue here is that same trust which one single lie of monumental proportions [if i may add] has blown right through the roof.
There is no guarantee she is not still doing her MD [even if she stops working there]. . .
The dude in question will find it hard to trust her ever again - for a guy to leave his house for u as a woman and run to a pal, means he doesn't even want to touch the rug u step on. . . means she must disgust him right now!
I feel for the woman because this could be the begining of the end. You dont tell such lies if u cant shield them properly, her marriage can be mended now - but for how much longer?