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Fine face, wide shoulders - small waistline. . .  Nice complexion and skin texture, nice hair, slightly short and bow legs. . . Too many high heels, quite short sha

@Poster: Sending someone to her was a mistake, however all is not yet lost. . . Women tend to call guys "small boy" when they want to make themselves feel mature or superior, yet it is common place for a small boy to be humping them. Dont be shocked if that particular girl is being constantly shagged by some guy younger than she is.

In a relationship, as long as u can hold your own and have the needed muscle, financially and otherwise, u can have them call u a small boy as long as u're the one doing the big boy stuff on them later in the day. I've had girls who called me small boy come back and recieve their own annointing later on, one even had to beg for it, u only need to be superior in at least one angle. . . My edge was 'being brilliant'.

I did a woman who was 5 yrs older and she still thinks i'm 3 yrs older than her. . . I didnt even have to lie about the age, she only asked 'how old are u?' and i answered, put me in an age bracket and take it from there.

ElRazur:
Where have you been? I see you got scared of me whipping your arse.

I will pay you a million dollars not to date her jare.

I'm a businessman and my priority hierarchy is money. football, women. . . Show me your goodwill and we may start the negotiation immediately

I've watched her, but dunno much about her, wont date her right now but hey. . . u never know what the future holds.
Right now she's on a C-list. . . Time'll tell whether she'll make it upwards. Topsy, Titsy, and Toks. . . You know 2010 is our year, dont ya?

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pritybevx:
Well, the guys are too.

Complete that statement ohhh!

tosyne007:
thought you were scouting for people's opinions but it seems u are taking sides with the ladies now. U are supposed to sit on the fence and if at all u've got some contributions to make, you should be doing that from a guy's perspective not from a lady's.

I don't know if u get my drift.

I get your drift my friend, its just so hard to understand why a wedding should hold when there's an objection in church. I always thought the priest was required to halt until the issue has been sorted before continuing with the service.

Wed first and then return to the matter? This is an issue that can tear your marital home apart after marriage. . . I dont think it has anything to do with trust oh, she needs to get him to do some serious explaining before anything happens because with the child in the picture, the whole thing has escalated.

Do u think he can accept the child and let the mum go? There are many solutions to this problem but it will be hard to implement in a country like naija.

Mind your business lady, nosey peoples gets it too

Moyola:
I am! Yu think I'd hear that n face the altar to say "I do"?
I'd rather not continue than file for divorce months later.

Why would u wanna put a hold on everything though? What investigations would u wanna carry out here? Put yourself in the bride's shoes - even u can see the resemblance in the child. . .

Personally i think things should be put on hold but i cant speak from a woman's point of view cos i'm a guy.

tosyne007:
Anyway, in my own opinion, i will suggest the wedding must hold cos the couple-to-be must have come a long way

Moyola:
A lady in d right mind shouldnt proceed wiv d wedding. . . mahhn! is she dhat desperate to wed?!

You know, those were my thoughts exactly. . .  I guess its different strokes for different folks then?

tosyne007:
it's really a crazy thing to imagine oneself in such an appalling situation and u will all agree with me that we can't say for real what our reactions will be except when we are experiencing the REAL THING!!!, God forbid anyway.

Anyway, in my own opinion, i will suggest the wedding must hold cos the couple-to-be must have come a long way but if the "ex" insists that she still loves the guys or/and he should consider the daughter, i will then suggest he marries BOTH of them, if it's possible. If any church or pastor will condole that.

Bottom line is, the wedding must hold. Anything aside this, the guy should forget the bride-to-be cos she would never consent later on to marry the guy and if she does, the bride's family would not.

Ok, to the ladies in the house. . . If u were the bride here, would u want the wedding to continue? Do u think he should marry both women immediately

hbabe:
Any self respecting man will go ahead with the wedding, all issues can be resolved later!

The the desperate bride-to-be would want the groom to go on with the wedding. . . What if, like @ibkaye pointed out earlier, the bride wants to pause until she feels mentally and physically able to continue with the wedding? The groom can only be willing to proceed with the wedding, the final decision will rest with the intending bride.

nikkykay:
Sorry for my words o.This is nonsense and silly talk!!!How could she come on the wedding day to disturb the ceremony?I like what happened cos the wedding still continued despite her silly action.Tell her to continue to hug the dude pix may be he can still come back to her.A guy didn't talk to you for 3yrs,he didn't know u had a kid for him,she didn't bother to visit the family or draw their attention that she had a child for their son.How are we sure it is the guy that is responsible for the pregnancy or she just wanted to spoil the guy's day.She is a very silly ,senseless and wicked girl.She cant deny it that she has not dated another since the guy left.To even show how gullible she is,she was expecting the guy to come and beg her after how many yrs.She is so proud and a loser.
The issue is since she has been taking care of the child for the past 3yrs that shows she is capable so she can continue with that her single mother way of life cos she is a disgrace to womanhood.

d.diamond:
why did she tell him him that she is pregnant before, 3 yrs agooooo and so what to heelllllllll with her, my wedding

continues. in fact i fit go have my honey moon near their house.

Lol, i can understand your view points are from the bride-to-be's angle, and it must be crushing to experience such a scene - a strange woman claiming to have had a baby with your groom and having the audacity to claim mad love for him in your presence and during your wedding service. . .  Disastrous!

However, let me point out that the child is truly his. . .  one look at the kid and its already clear, she's his carbon-copy-in-a-female-body. . . Obviously he can see this cos the child was sitting right next to her mum when she stood to talk, he's in shock and cant even say a word, everyone's looking at him and waiting for something or anything at all to happen. . . What would u do?

Please create a mental picture of the storyline and place yourself in it, and then think of your way out of such a mess.

Why was this thread moved off romance section??

I'm not inviting anyone to any wedding oh, so please take it away from events!

@Tbk

I know u're joking

If anything happens to that chick, u know u're the first suspect them cops be visiting cos u got the motive??

tkb417:
an average 9ja gurl will slap the groom and throw the ring outside the church/court premises for concealing such an info while the courtship was on

Issue is that the dude in question had no knowledge whatsoever about the little girl.

His ex discovered she was pregnant like nearly 2 months after they broke up when her period didnt come and she went for a test but she was still very mad at him and didnt know how to go back and tell him. . .  She was actually hoping he would miss her soooooooooo much that he would come back and plead for them to get back together. She waited and waited until the pregnancy was well beyond 6months.

At this stage she didnt give up but believed he would still come back and so she had the baby and still waited many agonizing days. Year after year she would wish, but when her girlfriend came to borrow a nice dress and showed her the wedding invite, she almost fainted cos it was his, and it was scheduled for the very next day. . .

Now, she waited 3yrs for this dude and she still clings onto his pictures, how's she gonna let him marry someone else especially when she has had a baby with him??

I understand your views here, but there's a 3yr old girl in the middle of all this! Doesn't she matter at all?

stillwater:

why u dey laff??

kokonets:
@Poster,

My ex no go even know say i dey marry. . .gbao! to prevent all dis bruhaha

Dude thought he had achieved just that, he didnt know how she heard, but the child issue came as a surprise.

tkb417:
ill send hired killers to her

the act will be done 100 days after the weddin day imbroglio so no one will know i killed her

yeah, they shd kill her with the baby inside her womb

Gosh, u are one mean guy sha. . . lol!

You're on the alter saying your marriage vows to the one u love deeply. . .  The priest asks if anyone has any reason why this wedding should not go ahead, and your ex girlfriend (who broke up with u 3yrs ago) says she's got something to say. She says the wedding cannot go ahead cos u had a baby with her u dont know about, plus she's still madly in love with u!

What will u do?

Hopefully i'll be home in time this val's day to spend some special moments with a special val. . . Fingers crossed!

A guy's love is difficult to verify.

You just need to believe its there and love him back. . . Sometimes, it'll all depend on how u love him. Guys are human too, they know when u're for real, and sometimes thats all it takes to win a man over.

@Selencious

Life is a lesson, but we've gotto learn and look forward, those things happened ages ago and have faded away now. . . For me, its all about the future, i like to think i learnt something new in the past and apply it moving on.
Mentally and emotionally, i'm strong and thats an added advantage so i'll always manage somehow.

thanks for your concern though.

I only truly loved twice, but got hurt. . . Gosh! I thought i was stronger after the first but it was even harder to survive the 2nd.

Funny thing is those i truly loved were not what u call the stunning type, they just had this class and style that made them stand out. . . It always started right but ended wrongly, both were similar, very similar especially with what led to the break-ups. . . It was always that type of issue where u say "It wasn't my fault", but end of the day, u ask "Could i have tolerated it?", cos u realise that life without them is worse than living with whatever it is they did. . .

On the other hand, some girls suck up to me and its hard to know if they have any feelings cos they all say and do the same things. . . In such cases, i look at my heart and if i feel something i'll know, but it doesn't always turn out that way.

I guess life's like that, so i get on with it.

Wonderful

This one wont end well ohhhh

Mama gee, i dunno who u r, but i hear your name everywhere. . . On your birthday, i'll do what i do to every stranger - Wish u a wonderful year ahead filled with love and all your heart's inner-most desires. . . Have a good one!

Best male personalities. . .  I'm going for 2 active posters who've never been in fights. . .

MrbrownJAY and Sam Milla

They must be the 2 most polite characters i've come across.

I havent been in naija for ages but still think a respectable marriage can be planned with about N5m. . . dunno if thats right or wrong though, u will need a 2nd opinion on that.