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My wife slap me, i reply the letter very fast.

spikedcylinder:
How did you guys go from chest to third leg?

Help me and ask them ohhh

Gamine:
What sorta generalization is this

Hairy ko.

Gamine must love a hairy chest

Your friend needs Jesus

odare24:
Are you sure you really love me or you are just deceiving me.
Are you sure you love me when there is no money in my pocket yet.
Are you really really sure.

Today you are falling head over heels. I am the only one in your life. Then what are you doing with the Aristos.
Suddenly your beauty will disappear so will all the Aristos - but I will remain.

Today you are sobbing, I love you, I wont let you go, don't you love me anymore? bra bra bra
, but all of a sudden you disappear! You say I'm sorry I don't love you anymore.

Then I would say, YOU DONT LOVE ME IN THE FIRST PLACE, BECAUSE LOVE IS EVERLASTING.

Brothers, Let us be wise, let us love only as Christ love the world and gave himself for it.

Was that an error or did u really mean it

emenma:
@whitel[b]e[/b]xi

You generalize a bit with the things you say, most issues you brought up are true but you say them with an inner anger or a deep pain that makes people feel you are fighting a gender war. When you expose our ill-behaviour, do it in a subtle way because we will not be too happy with you already.

I'm just being myself luv, i try not to generalize, and i dont have any inner hatred of women, i just dont like the general behavioural degredation i'm seeing around in society. I pride myself for saying the truth, and exposing the bad things we do with an aim to contributing to their correction. Thank u

@ Whitelexi

You be heavy woman wrapper.
You comment on every statement the ladies post.
I am sure u are one of the men that Nags.
Why don't u just KEEP Quiet and be a Gentle man for once.
Mr Nagger and Talkative.
If woman talk one u go talk 10.
You and them who come better?

This another one of those guys forming to be women, who the freaking hell are u to tell me who i am when u don't even know me? People like u should keep your bloody opinions to yourselves when u don't know what to say. . .  Dont drink panadol on another woman's headache oh, it wont favour u. If u're gay and hate women wrapper, there is a gay section on Nairaland

Its hard to believe that since i kept shut there's been no constructive contribution to this thread, and you'alls want me to honestly believe that Ujujoan is not just waiting for me to say the next thing so she can come in and give her take on my comments?

topup:
[color=#cc0066]Good OP .

On this Earth there are few spectacular women, who tick all of the boxes or points mentioned above, it just takes time for men to realise that if a woman is able to complete the majority, then that could be more than enough for them to have a happy future with her. They too must realise that they are not perfect. I think a mjor problem is self-denial, not realising that they themselves are not perfect. Ok, whilst it is not a crime to aim for the best, to look for a woman who does none of these man-chasing points, it is also sensisble to understand which of the points that you are willing to tolerate to a point.

[b]I have never met a woman who nagged for the sake of it, usually she nags because the man has slacked, since she started going out with him, don't get me wrong, there may as well be some women who simple nag out of habit, but they aren't as frequent, women will tend to nag when thye are getting fed up with the situation of the relationship or where it is heading or the balance between what she does and what the guy does.[/b]In most of the relationships where a man leaves because of the stated reason, it is only realistic to understand that these are not the only reasons, if a woman does not wish to participate in sex during the course of the relationship (which I can completely understand and sympathize with), then usually people will point at that as the reason why the man left. Well, I believe, it was merely a contributor, I believe what truly happened is that the bond between the man and woman was not strong enough to compensate for the lack of sex in the relationship, whether she did any of the other man-chasing points also, doesn't matter, my point is that a man will rarely leave because of one point/incident, a relationship in which a man leaves, is usually due to accumulation of various things. Only a truly sex-fueled man will allow his hormones to dictate his relationships in life.

I have more to say, but maybe I'll just save that for my blog. [/color]

I like your post, it makes some sense but the highlighted bits are areas of severe debate. The first point in bold is regarding making do with what is available. . .  Kinda reminds me of the old naija saying that: "when the preferable is not available, the available becomes preferable", it is quite true but when it comes to a lifetime commitment, it becomes deeper than settling for anything available out there, every man wants the best.
The second highlighted area talks about women who nag. . .  Nagging is a habit that is like smoking, it is difficult to leave that habit. A woman that nags [and many of them do] will not feel okay until she gets what she wants. She will brood over it for the whole day and as soon as the man arrives from work, it happens, she just follows him around with the same question he has probably answered a million times. Personally, i hate repeating myself more than once, it is annoying, it is frustrating, and if the poor guy is angry at the time of this nagging, it can lead to something nasty. . .  92% of women who get slapped nagged at the wrongest possible time, not to condone slapping but sometimes women induce it.

Ujujoan:
Why don't you ask your GF if you are telling a lie or not.

Me shut up?? And you still need proof that i'm getting under your skin . . .

When i say u need to shut up, the message i'm trying to get across to u is you're not contributing anything meaningful to the debate anymore, its meant to be a healthy debate eliciting points and opinions that can be examined and put into working practice - it generally helps an individual to reason logically and broaden his/her knowledge about certain issues. When all u can come up with is a weak defence for your gender that is less workable than McCane winning the elections in US - it loses that bite.
You cannot get under my skin when the bloody pilot who nearly dropped the plane didnt, the bloody hotel assistant that couldnt confirm my hotel reservation didnt get under my skin, the scheming currency exchange guys that duped me of some cash only made me smile. . . You will have to shoot my hand and stop me from using a PC before u get under my skin

Ujujoan:
You guys are really not in a position to judge. Investigate ki, investigate ni

1st u say i'm bitter with the opposite sex, then u now talk of judgement, all i'm asking is: Did i tell a lie? if yes prove me wrong, otherwise shut up and rest.

Ujujoan:
Now who's being bitter with the opposite sex ??

Its not about me or u, its about the truth. . . Tell me its a lie then we can investigate further

Not all women are like that but most of them in nigeria are exactly that way. Nigerian women are more used to being housewives and so look to land the richest person in the queue of husbands for the sole reason of comfort - love can come later.
In University u can actually count the number of girls that can speak consecutive sentences without error, the introduction of sharia during exams in many schools did massive damage to girls generally passing exams. . .  Most times, its the girls that go to sort out courses with lecturers, many go as far as sleeping regularly with these lectures in order to pass. . .  It is gruesome and gross but thats exactly how it is, even in the best universities. . .  Sad indeed.

u dont honestly expect anyone to come out here and say pretence is their style, but it happens everyday. In a woman's case, pretence is bad as it is usually used to hide the bad aspects of behaviour. . . However, in a man, it depends on either good or bad. . . A very rich man may choose to marry someone who doesnt love him for his money therefore he may pretend to be a palm wine tapper
But if he uses it to hide his evil side, then it should also be discouraged.

Cipriani:
For the love of christ, why are you all yabbing and insulting yourselves. Let me give you one simple reason why men
leave, it is because a woman does not meet up with the standards of God.
A lady that meets up with those standards will
have all that is needed to make a man stay which includes patience, hardwork, gentility, being caring and concerned,
pleasing, beautiful, truthful, honest, loyal, submissive, etc,
A lady with all these will be termed a wife material. In the case of sex, responsible men shouldn't be concerned about
having sex all day long i.e not being his main priority in life.
all the time if they have a focus and sense of decency.

Even when they meet up with God's standard, u still have to confirm whether they're pretending or being real

Busy_body:
Phew glad I am one of the 10%

u wish

I cant help but smile. . .  wryly

@Topic:

The pick of the pack has to be Nagging! I havent quite seen men that nag, and even if they existed, they'd be in very remote areas and very few too. 90% of NL females will definitely pass into that category if they were to remain like this until marriage and after

Ujujoan:
There's a good Isi Ewu joint at Trans Amadi, close to the Police Station. But its kind of too early to show up there. There are better things for responsible people to do by this time of the day, its called work

Sorry luv, I'm in Nigeria on vacation - with a little intelligence, u'd see from my profile that i'm resident in London.

Busy_body:
Has South Africa started accepting refugees and asylum seekers again?

Ditto - i dont need a south african asylum, i'll visit without a visa if i wanted to

Ujujoan:
Na wa oh, this one will now tell somebody how and when to react to a post. He wants to say it now . . . . what is that so difficult for you to understand??

Its not difficult to understand why he chose now to start - i think that bit is pretty easy even a kid will know. Now, you're getting boring, i'll run out to do some power bike riding and then stop by somewhere for something tasty. Anyone know any correct joints where i can get some really traditional meat dishes like isi-ewu in PH city?

Pataki:
All in one day?

That girl/lady/sister/nun must be damned cheap

Ujujoan:
So he's asking them now. Why are you tripping?? Be it in favour of men/women, this poster's obviously a Chauvinist

Why did he decide to start with this one?? There were threads before this one weren't there??

Ujujoan:
Don’t mind him. Of all the people to accuse someone of lack of intelligence. . . Throwing stones when he lives in a glass house.

I'm here because I soo love irritating people like Whitelexi. Why I feel like my day's fufilled already. Meet people ke?? Trust me in my line of work, i actually need a break from meeting people. And of course I'm also here to fish out psychos like you.

I'm truly flattered, trust me - i dont even know how u do it, but it always seems to know the next silly thing to say. Prove to me that u're irritating me, what if i'm enjoying this convo?? What if i want to show u some much deserved appreciation?? What if. . .  anything!??
Psychology is about questions and answers, but it is not in one direction only. . .  Learn to investigate all possible outcomes - then and only then can u become a master. . .  A master of the art and science, a master like me

outlaws:


What's up poster? You got some good points but what about ladies? Are their own reasons for leaving different? Is it gender based or what?

Whats up poster? There are thousands of similar threads created in favour of ladies discussing similar points about why ladies leave, did u ask this same question on any of them??

thendo:
@ whitelexi

my intelligence is way better than yours nigger. you are the one who is shallow. you claim your ego is stronger come on the way you responded showed otherwise. Unlike you i can admit when someone is right irrespective of their genders. try it you will spare yourself some high blood pressure.

We men should stop making excuses for our stupid deeds and act responsibly.

Please define the highlighted words to explain the context they're used in before i can respond to them, but just to explain my own comments, if ujujoan is the most intelligent person you've seen on NL in any perspective, then u r either blind or a guest on NL who skips through profiles.
Word of advice, passing comments or opinions about certain trends or behaviour does not mean your ego is affected in anyway, mine is not that easily tested.

spikedcylinder:
I think this thread should be reserved for people who are actually in relationships or marrieed.

_{*calmly leaves*}

@Ujujaon, did u see that? Thats intelligence, pure brilliance! you should do the same - i will pardon your previous rants and i'm sure th guys are also willing

Intelligent - but being used in many wrong ways - sounds more like "cunning" to me.
I have seen many more intelligent girls on the forum, girls who actually think before they punch the keys.
Destroy male egos? depends on the person, mine is so strong - people get intimidated fro miles afar

You must be one of the dumbest guys on the forum so i can attempt to understand where the problem lies

Ujujoan:
Too late, I already have

How tragic!
Its like . . . like your slogan "Sh*t happens", only this time, you're at the recieving end

Ujujoan:
Right bro, I've got to keep the faith

Trust me sweetie, i have nothing against u doing your thang - just dont make it a habit

And who else did u expect to spoil the male party? Right! I thought i was the only one that noticed.

DeepZone:
Thats what's up!!!!

girl needs serious help - this sort of help only comes when u finally become a case of wasted years, by that time, u will run and learn to cook and nobody'll still want u

Why would u wanna marry me?
I'm a monumental embodiment of husband material, too much to put down here, i always strive for perfection - one achievement leads to a new challenge, u have never even imagined anything 1000000000000000 miles close to me!

Marriage aint no joke, how come nobody has talked about being a good cook or being good with kids, or knowing how to get the work/family balance right, or knowing how to keep a home going etc?
As far as i'm concerned, none of u girls has impressed me so far. . . Think before u type, be realistic and stop living in this fantasy world, boyfriend and husband are 2 different things