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Bia PCMadu, I know a real life P.C Madu from Imo who lives in America, is that u by any chance?? or perhaps your dad?

I stopped taking calls that come up on my phone displaying the word "International" cos of girls calling from naija who i dont know from Adam!
They get my numbers from my cousins especially but then they bug me to death with professional flashing. Now i just keep it on silent at nights and have myself a nice sleep, IF ITS IMPORTANT LEAVE A VOICEMAIL!!

No Air - Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown, how can i live without that?

Daxbiz:
So what's wrong with being materialistic. We all are!!! If not, then go date the beggar across your street.

Nothing wrong with being materialistic but when it comes ahead of love in a relationship, there is something wrong there.

If the girl is shy it usually follows naturally, shy guys at a mature age of over 30 is a bit of a concern.

If i remember right then sisterwoman is married - happily

Power is nothing without control, that is the key. If the woman wants to be in control and you don't like the way she runs things, find a way of changing things or discharging her early enough before the power gets out of control .
If she controls stuff and is doing it the right way, i think that takes away some burden from your shoulders but in all things there should be a level of control from u as the man.

@Topic:
I think yes, I know i am getting more and more randy
I wasnt like this last yr when i was sticking to an invincible love thought that i never had, so it must have got worse since then.
I think its part of being social and mature, as long as u keep a tab on it.

To put it gently, I think white girls are more affectionate, but can react gravely when problems arise [and problems arise in many cases because of the different cultures involved]. 
I think our black girls already know our culture and can understand us more in the long run of things.

Ujujoan:
Pretty Woman!! _{But I'm not a prostitute oh}

I'm probably like that dude from 'Maid of Honour', I love his principles. . . Absolutely!

If u trust your dude, he will respect u for that, u have no probs. If u decide to get insecure, then u might lose him depending on how sensitive he is to such feminine deficiencies. The guy wants to marry u, free him to use his church mind, dont even as much as interfere or bring in boundaries regarding his friendship with his ex or her family. . . That can bring in tension.

Busy_body:
Ujujoan has probably been spreading the message that you hate women

Ujujoan needs to get out of that train before i start spreading rumours as well
Damn right, i don't like premature thinking or attitude, especially girls who don't know their responsibilities in a relationship, but to say i hate women generally is a no brainer, truly

Uju just likes me but doesnt know how to come out with it, but i get the drift

Why wiould i wanna register? With stats like this?

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Missy B:
Mehn!!!
I agree with every single word of this post.
I couldn't have said it any berra.Kudos to you Bizi
Posta, I feel your pain but if you adhere to this particular advice. . . I'm 90% sure
you won't regret it.

Are we talking about a guy who still wants u or a guy who's as good as gone here?
If i follow your own words, he's already stepping backwards, u go there thinking u want to use him but instead u're helping the dude out with some extra bangs
When its time to discuss your probs, he turns away and says he's not interested, will u fight him?

Always think about the other end before u jump into the ocean

tutcy4u:
lexi or whateva you call urslf, y do u have 2 judge me like this, on a more serious note, what was i supposed 2 do? jst sit n watch what evidence do i need again? ok, y is my galfrnd actn up 2?
anywys i dnt blaim u at all, u reason jst like him, n like i said, i know you the type that would do such a thing, s**ker

My friend, the truth is bitter but we all identify with it from time to time, it is the first stage of growing up. . . I can understand your anguish, and i want u to understand that i dont hate u, i have no hard feelings or anger in my head. . . I'm just placing myself in the different shoes available and wondering how i'd react.
My screen name on NL is Whitelexi, but if u choose to call me Lexi - i'll let it pass. I am not judging you, but looking at your application for help from another angle. I wouldnt say i expected u to sit down and watch, I expected u to ask both of them in a good way, and then to drop it there if they say there is nothing between them. You dont have any evidence yet so what u should've done was just ask and let go. It is only when u disagree with what he tells u that he starts to see that you dont trust him and he will most likely react to that, abi u also expected him to sit down and look? I imagine your girlfriend is acting up because she probably cant believe u r constantly suspecting her with your bf. Who wont stay away from someone who keeps suspecting them with her guy? Now she stays away, u say she's acting up, when she was there, u accused her, and with no evidence at all except your insecure obsessions, what do u want the poor girl to do?

And finally, i'm the type that will stay the hell away from a suspecting partner cos i'm not ready for the drama, I've seen it happen and i wont get involved, sorry

frankolium:
I WILL LIKE TO NO U
BETTER

What the. . . ?

Okija_juju:
The thing no even reach 10g, na like 7 or 8k

I bow oh

I think sisterwoman is mentally and emotionally mature, your hussy will surely value that.

Damn! I pity Maximus
The guy really shit for church this time

Girls don yab themselves tire and for what? 50Euros! how much is that? like N10,000, 10G ohhhhh!

izi-n-bizi:
tutcy4u
this is no time for blames, read my immediate post above, thats the best thing u can do for yourself now, u don't need furthjer turbulence, i think you have had enough. don't get into was I wrong or not, it will not help so much now.

I think she knows she blew it
I think the guy himself is tired of her suspicion and i think she also knows that.
I think the best thing for her is to learn from this experience and to use it in future, if u think your guy is still there for u, then u are assuming stuff.
Candid advice? Move on and learn for future purposes. . . Nothing kills relationships more than a suspecting partner who has turned insecure.

tutcy4u:
@ whitelexi
am really surprised at you man, how could u reason like this? [b]you certainly must be the kind of guy that could do such a thing.[/b]first, i heard smtn about my boyfriend and stupid girl frnd, what was i supposed 2 do? jst sit n watch then die in silence? i did d right thing by askn and they both denied it, is that a reason for the attitude? this stuff happened like a month ago and i thought everyone of us shld have 4gotten the issue but NO, the girl changed, my boyfriend changed, non of them wants 2 tlk 2me again, wht other evidence do i need?

well thank you 4 ur contribution, its bad enough that am about 2 get dumped 4 my galfriend,
dnt complicate issues.

I simply love the first line of your post because it answers all your questions:
1) am really surprised at you man: I expected u to be surprised, because girls like u r so engrossed in thoughts regarding what u want and what u think, u forget that guys also have a thought of their's and also want stuff in their own way. When u learn to start thinking from different perspectives, things will start getting clearer and maybe then, just maybe, you'll not be surprised at me anymore

2) how could u reason like this?: The answers to this one are clearly represented in the 1st question as highlighted above, but for clarity sake, i reason the way i reason because i reason from both perspectives and therefore, normally get a clearer and more wholistic picture of the situation. . .  Did u ever hear of that saying that what an adult sees while sitting down, a child will not see - even if he climbs to the top of an iroko tree?

3) you certainly must be the kind of guy that could do such a thing: There u go again, first it was your bf u accused without any proof, now me? Damn! and i thought u were listening and learning!

ima1:
how about putting yourself in the woman's position, like you said if the tables were turned around, what the hell would you think.

I would not think, i'd investigate properly and reach a a verdict before coming out with accusations that hold little water.

ima1:
In this case even without the outside influence, this guy might be actually cheating, read what the poster said

That is the poster's side of the story, if u call her bf, he'll most definitely give a totally different story. I like to put myself in the shoes of the accused. The poster's story is not definite because she doesnt say for sure that he is doing anything. People are not guilty until substantially found guilty. For this reason, i think we have to implore a level of scepticism in this issue at this stage.

Ujujoan:
So the fact that she suspected him justifies him acting like a jerk

Whats wrong with asking a guy question to clarify issues Its either you are cheating or you are not. Infact if you ask me, I'll say they only get upset about it when thay are at fault. because the guilty are always afraid.

She's not just acting based on what she heard outside, she said the guy's attitude towards her has changed. That substantiated the rumor and if you ask me, there's no smoke without fire.

Its difficult for her to remove the doubts from her mind when the guys is not acting right.

Why am I even wasting my time, I wouldnt put it past you to come up with something . . anything to justify you guys' irresponsibility.

Wake up love, men have got a heart too, turn the tables round and she'll feel the same way he currently feels. girls like u just run your mouths without using any brains. . . Certain circumstances call for a stop and think situations, you don't just listen to anything u hear outside, thats why its called a relationship! Its got to be between the two of u and u don't let outsiders influence your thoughts. Its a wonder how people like u even talk of relationships, let alone give advice about it.

Talking of people who r afraid, well, i'm not the one afraid of sleeping at nights in the dark.

The should stay however they wish, alone or with 20 men, no shaking

sesman:
so what about the girl sleeping with her bestfriends man, so she is exempt from all this, is she?

well poster, ill recommend you still take Ujujoan's advice, just ignore the "Thats why I say guys are a**holes" part,

It has not been confirmed that they're sleeping yet oh. This is all make belief until adequate proof comes up.

Girl, if i were your bf, it would be as good as over by now. You dont even trust your man, how do u expect him to feel? The source was reliable but now you've lost him!
As a guy, i'll tell u, when gf starts suspecting me wrongly, no matter how good the source is, my thoughts will zero in on the fact that she doesnt trust me and would prefer to accept what she heard outside rather than believe what i say.
That is like the beginning of the end.

Right now it is difficult to say where u stand, if the damage is done, expect to lose him, and expect it soon. . . On the other hand, if the damage is not much start changing your words, tailor them to remove the doubts about your-lack-of-trust from his mind.

They wont believe it when i mention names
But they know themselves

spikedcylinder:
I remember the movie. I also remember that when she stopped giving him any attention, he was th one crawling back to her.

Don't get me wrong, too much of anything is bad and I understand that men (and women!) need a partner than can stand on their own, be their own person and defend themselves when the need arises but sometimes, women feel the need to pamper when they are in love.


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