₦airaland Forum

kestolove95:
The wife failed him, he wasn't fucqing him well

There is no proof the wife failed him. Sex and love are sometimes confused as being the same, they are not. Some men love to keep their wives fresh, while trying out all their crazy fetishes on hired help.

Jarus:
This explanation is adding insult to injury. I think they are better off keeping quiet and dismissing it as a figment of some people's imagination as Nigerian PR people do.

Releasing of the video by the police without their consent was very unprofessional and wrong. It's an invasion of privacy of the family and the lady involved.

What did the police hope to gain by releasing the videos?

Revolva:
Liar the most blessed nation and opportuned nation and you won't go even for a visit

Nigga see the sky skysapers of NYC or die

You don't know anything about America

You are just a sadist toward the greatest
nation on Earth

Na to carry this shit hole nation for head u sabi

People r trying to get American citizenship to make their future better you are here condeming d nation

If you term the US the most blessed nation and opportuned nation, what will you call Norway, Sweden, Finland, Kuwait and even Australia. These countries have a higher standard of living than the US. You talk as if there are no poor people the in the US. The US has the highest number of poor people among the industrialised nation. The income inequality in the US is the worse in the world.

No everybody like the US. I for one I'm not crazy about the US, and I have been to the US.

The US is 70% propaganda and 30% reality.

BiafraforTrump:
I repeat you are mentally unbalanced!!. Am I the one that made the law!?? and by the way you sound Gay asf maybe you are one that's why you are comparing it to prostitution.

Prostitution is no crime by law but Homosexuality is!! especially in Nigeria..
QED!

See the username of someone calling another mentally unbalanced.

So what if I am gay? How is where I decide to stick my dik any of your business? Whether it's in an ass, a mouth, an ear, it's not of you or the government's business, as long as it is with a consenting adult In my private space.
This is one stupid law that needs to be challenged at the Supreme Court, just like the Lagos environment law or the igbo customary law that forbids women from inheriting their parents properties.
I have no doubt that one day the law would be considered an affront on privacy and fundamental rights. The government should have no rights dictating who I can have sex with or how I have sex, as long as it's done in my private space.

kevotek1000:
Yes it is a sin... Whatever religion you hold strong condemns it. But all the same there is always a second chance for forgiveness.

Sharia and other religious laws should have no place in a secular country. These laws should only be enforced in churches and mosques and not on the streets and our homes.

BiafraforTrump:
You are not sense enough sorry!
Why would you put prostitution and gay act on the same page?? Gay practice is spelt out boldly in our law and laws of many countries around the world as illegal but prostitution is a job people to legally and are even dully registered in civilized countries of the world AND THERE IS NO LAW THAT FORBIDS PROSTITUTION IN NIGERIA...

Just like striping is also a profession so is prositution and they are known as call girls..

You are the one that is senseless. Why enact a law that criminalises two people from having sex in the privacy of their homes and don't make laws that criminalises the soliciting of sex for money in public, all of which is based on moral and religious beliefs. That you are homophobic and we live in a homophobic society does not still give it any sense.

Prostitution (and abortion) was and it's illegal in many countries. It is recent times that women rights activism has grown that these gender based laws are being challenged and repealed.

BiafraforTrump:
Please show me which law that is??

Honestly, I have no idea regarding the law against prostitution, but in a hypocrical religious society like ours where there is a law against gay sex, I assume there there must be law against prostitution, just as there must be a law against abortion.

SultanOfPuna:
Prostitution is not a SIN..
It's just Demand and Supply
Husband pay "Bride Price" inorder to OWN his wife and get unlimited supply of Puna from Wife..
Is that one not Prostitution?
Our Elders are like Pimps Collecting Cash and list of stuffs just to trade their daughter.lol I can go on and on
You want puna, she supply puna
Chekinah
Did they put gun on the Man's head telling him to fvck them??

It is the Men that brought out his money to fvck, no body force am..
So why arrest Single Mothers hurstling instead of to rehabilitate them.. since it's poverty that is the main reason for their action

Will arresting them decrease the rate of Prostitution??

Yes prostitution is a Sin among the 2 major religions in Nigeria, and soliciting for money for sex is also against the law.

The ladies were arrested because the hotel management reported them for constituting a public menace.

If they were sitting at the bar sipping a bottle of star and men came to approach them, that would have been acceptable, but going from table to table harrasing customers with the flabby bodies and boobs is sickening.

SilasNwude:
do you know that folding money in some countries is a big crime?

now you commit a crime on top of your own hard earned money
now tell me if she has the right to tear a government recorded speech whether it's her copy or not.

Btw what makes it her copy
did she print it herself ?

The US is slowly but gradually slipping into a dictatorship worse than Russia or north Korea. Tearing a copy of the president's speech is now considered a crime because it was a speech by Trump, what of if it was a copy of Pelosi's speech that was given to Trump and he threw it into the gutter?
what happens if a portrait of Trump is torn up? Would the person be jailed or worse executed? Small time Republicans would legalize the worship of Trump's photos like is done in North Korea, where you can be jailed for not honouring a portrait of Kim Jong un.

27Pushing30:
Actually it’s what democracy is about ...

I’m referencing the ideology! Sadly you do not understand, it’s not a conscience thing ... did you not see the pic I posted? Romney naturally loathes trump QED

It's you that doesn't understand democracy, Romney does not have to like Trump. Romney is representing his senatorial district and not Trump. He is not an appointee of Trump. Politics is not about whether you like or loath someone, it's about interests, compromises, negotiations and ideas. Two politicians that loathe each other today can become best friends tomorrow and vice versa. Even Jesus could not get all his disciples to like him, God the creator of heaven could not get all his creations to obey him, who is Trump that everyone must like and obey him?

27Pushing30:
Yes ... if you’re loyal to the party and America you’ll support

I only attached the pic to show you say e don tey wey the man dey envy trump

That's not how democracy works, that's primitive monarchical or authoritarian style of governance, where the leader equates the country, and loyalty to the leader is equal to loyalty to the state. In a democracy, the loyalty is first to the constitution and then to your conscience, before the party or the leader. Democracy doesn't say everyone must agree, it is a rule of the majority . Majority might be 51% as seen in so many elections and decision makings.

MartinsD12:
It doesn't matter what matters now is he is free from impeachment

False he is never going to be free from impeachment, he remains impeached forever. He was never at risk of being removed from office. He knew it, that why he hired TV lawyers instead of brilliant ones, who brought some stupid arguments in the guise of Defense. He knew the whole impeachment issue was a battle for the soul of voters.

Lilbest3:
you think Romney was ever going to support Trump? Or it is because of integrity that he voted against him? Check the date of this tweet

Every member of the Republican party doesn't have to like Trump, it's not the communist party where dissent is forbidden. Even in third world quasi democracy like Nigeria, some party members disagree with their leaders.

MartinsD12:
I have also known that trump will triumph no matter what, darkness can never be likened to light, democrats are only dramatic actors.

You guys are just making a mountain out of a molehill, nobody in their wildest dreams expected a Republican dominated senate to remove Trump from office with 2/3 majority votes, the fact that one Republican senator even voted to remove Trump was a feat in itself. The Democrats just wanted to highlight Trump's crimes to the voting public toward the next elections.
It is after the results of the elections will we then know if the Democrats were successful or they failed.

Donaldoni:
Reasonable Nigerians love Trump because of his conservative cum godly values... No to LGBT, No to abortion etc

Why is that so difficult to understand

It's very difficult to understand how someone who sleeps with prostitutes and then pays them to keep silent, boasts about grabbing them by the pussycat, has so many sex abuse allegations by women including underage, has godly values.

Agboriotejoye:
Perjury is a serious offender that attracts jail time. It doesn't matter maybe it's lying about having lunch or detonating bombs as long as you lied under oath, you're guilty of a crime.

Congress approved aid was held by biden as well and no one raised dust about it. Besides, the fiscal year was not ended before it was eventually released as a matter of fact, same month as the previous ones so, again that is not a factual thing to say.

Perjury in a personal affair? Why not bring Trump under oath and ask him if he had sèx with stormy Daniels? The Republican house had no business investigating Trump's personal sexual life. Besides, people lie in court even second after swearing under oath, how many had been jailed.

Biden could not withhold approved aids, only the president can do that. If anyone should be held for withholding aids, it should be Obama. The withholding of aids by Obama was official US policy and not for personal gains of Obama. Everyone was in the loop - congress (or else the Republican house and senate would have asked questions ), the use consulate in Ukraine, the state department, the justice department, everybody. Here it was only Trump and Gulianni (and maybe Bill Taylor that was aware.

Sunnycliff:
Not only perjury Bush, committed sexual atrocity which is unbecoming of POTUS but wasn't Impeached by the leftist democrats because he's one of them

Sexual atrocity kwa! Which one is sexual atrocity again? Even G.Os and pastors commit sexual atrocities every now and then, and the congregation and other Christians vehemently defend them.

Agboriotejoye:
Go and get informed. Clinton lied under oath to the special counsel. That's perjury a federal crime.
Tell me what law says that you don't ask a foreign country to investigate someone cause he's a perceived political opponent.
Trump denying it is not even a crime as long as it's not under oath

And the perjury of lying about your personal sex life is so serious to the US constitution that it's an impeachable offense?

There is no direct law that says that you cant ask a foreign country to investigate someone cause he's a perceived political opponent, after all he asked Russia to find Hillary's emails. What you can't do is to withhold congress approved aids to blackmail the foreign government to do so.

ehissi:
Mitt Romney's political career is officially dead. He cannot ever, ever, ever come back from this ever.

He finally backed the wrong horse and he will pay for it with his seat.

His children's children will never ever forget the wahala that he put them through today......

So in democracy under Trump, one is not allowed to have a different opinion from his party? Maybe the US should adopt the Chinese political model or better the Korean one, which allows the leader or the party to think for everyone.

Agboriotejoye:
Clinton was worse!!
He committed perjury which is a crime but still got acquitted by a democrat controlled senate.
Foolish CNN said at least he was contrite!!
Same democrats now expect republicans to impeach their party's president based on a contentious phone call which is not even a crime per se

You mean lying about a Mouth Action by an intern (after a 2 year fishing expedition for crimes) is worse than trying to blackmail a foreign country to help you bring down a political opponent, and lying about it.

Sunnycliff:
In Nigeria today, the actions of Buhari is it not enough for impeachment? His nepotism and disregard for rule of law, insecurity and economic downturn? We have a greater canker worm here

You guys would have canker snake next. Luckily for you guys Trump is not evil. He may be greedy, he may be crooked, he may be egocentric, but he is not evil minded. Imagine what would happen if an smart evil minded president comes along.

I am not even saying Trump should be removed, but he at least should have been told his actions were wrong and warned by his party to desist from such abuse of power actions, instead the Republican party gave him a free pass.

fortran12:
Not true, the quran is different from the bible, read both and see for yourself. So agree that Jesus does not promote terrorism but Mo' does

You avoided my question. I asked are Christians to accept only the quotes of Jesus and discard all other verses in the bible?

Now, tell me one bad thing in the Koran and I will quote a similar thing from the bible.

YanshmasterGee:
Mitt Romney too and lest I forget the whole fcking CNN crew.

YanshmasterGee:
Mitt Romney too and lest I forget the whole fcking CNN crew.

Sunnycliff:
Pelos and Schiff and all leftist should kiss the ass of Trump

I was the first to say this idiom on nairaland during the Jonathan administration, what goes around comes around.
The way Jonathan's supporters were supporting all of Jonathan's wrongs - like marginalisation of a section of the country in terms of political appointments, harassing of the press, harassing of national assembly members, raiding of politic opposition offices, turning a blind eye to allegations of corruption against his close aids, etc. I warned them then that once a Northerner takes over power, he will use Jonathan's actions as his starting point and would do worse that Jonathan, and no one will listen to their cries, because precedent has been set. Is Buhari not 10 times worse than Jonathan?

Now, same thing with Trump.and Republicans - what goes around comes around.
A democrat will definitely take over someday, whether next year or 5 years time, and believe the next democratic president would be worse than Trump, because a precedent has been set. Trump has said and justified that under article 2, a president can do anything, and once you have the support of about partisan 33 senators, you cannot be removed, no matter your crimes. The Democrats will also protect their President the Republicans protected Trump, a US president don't have to fear or respect the congress anymore. He or his staff and appointees can ignore sophenas without fear of any consequences.

Youngzedd:
Hahaha, She said she earns 5 digits which is below 100,000 NGN, now it's close to a million.

I never knew that Lai Mohammed's daughter is a Nairalander.

A million naira a year, that's about 80,000 a month, which is a five figure sum.

The way she writes, I doubt anyone will pay her a million naira a month.

fortran12:
Be truthful did you quote Jesus words? Just post a comment by Jesus and i will agree with you. But because there is no you are trying to change the narrative.
Your Qur'an and hadith are filled with words of your prophet and his actions in the tafsir.
Answer the question I asked then I will respond to you or accept that u are wrong and we can change topic.

Are you implying that only Jesus's quotes that should be regarded in the bible and all other quotes and verses should be discarded.

I see the difference between the bible and Koran like the difference between 6 and half a dozen. Nothing specified in the Koran that a corresponding verse cannot be found in the bible, except of course 75 eternal virgins for martyred believers.

post=86390037:
The real reason US suspends Immigrant travel Visas on Nigerians.
It has little or nothing to do with Boko Haram,
has nothing to do with Buhari,
has nothing to do with arrest and detention of journalist, has nothing to do with Nigeria’s ban on gays and lesbian, but has everything to do with absence of a workable system in our identification and verification processes.

The main reason Nigeria is suspended from Immigrant visas category is because Nigeria does not have a credible background investigation system that groups like Interpol can rely on to vert and certify originality.

What that means is that if someone commits a crime in lagos and relocates to Kano, there’s no system that can be used to track crimes and people across state lines.

Virtually all African countries have such systems even Ghana has it, Cameroun everyone has original birth certificates but nigeria prefers to have multiple identity cards not because they are interested in monitoring and tracking people but because they want to make money. Our country is a transaction society, you can buy anything even the human conscience.

Most responsible modern states in the world have tracking systems, but nigeria does not.
A typical example, if you are about 40 years, if you go to your primary school to get your records they don’t have it. Principals and headmasters do not have computers in the 21st century.

Now only states that are considered rogue nations or failed states that do not have workable systems.
Most nations in this category are nations at war.
Nigeria is not at war but the irresponsible nature of our government from the beginning till now makes Nigeria a war zone.

Now, back to US suspension, let us make it clear that only Immigrants visas are affected.
Non immigrant visas are not affected.
An immigrant visas is a type of visa that allows you to stay, work or even become a US citizen after you travel.

This category involves the type of visa you get when you marry an American citizen and have to relocate or the type of visas given to parents when their American citizens file for them or the visa you get through lottery.

Another category of visa affected is birth visas, these are medical tourism visas to come to America and have a baby. It is those categories of visas that are affected. Some waivers do apply. However, non immigrant visas like visitors or business visas are not affected, however going forward it will be difficult to get

What America is saying is that we cannot continue to give immigrant visas to your people if our investigators have no tools to work with to verify the true identity of your immigrant populations.

Example, someone who wins lottery or marries a US citizen, the investigators will want to check him up to primary school, but we have no records. Our government should be ashamed that we do not have a reliable working system to track Nigerians instead of deceiving the people to assume it is unfair what US has done.

All our previous and present government should be ashamed that today we are grouped with countries like Eritrea and Sudan.
A sensible country, what they should be doing now is to put such a system in place.
Last year, two of our American friends visited Nigeria and came back with Nigerian international passports.
That can never happen in Ghana or even Liberia.
But with money you can buy a man's conscience in Nigeria.

With as little as three to five hundred dollars people are ready to subvert the law and do the unthinkable.
With just Ten thousand Naira anyone can get local governments origin letters, worst still, today traders who never stepped their legs in universities are given degrees and people even serve youth service with fake results.
If you are America will you continue to give immigrant visas to a country you cannot verify a simple certificate?

If you are America will you continue to give citizenship to immigrants whose entire documents for relocation to your country may have been forged?

We forge ID cards, we forge bank statements to get visas, we forge birth certificates, we forge marriage certificates, we forge election results, what is it that we do not forge?

We should not blame the US, the truth is we have failed as a nation.
May God help our darling country.
God bless Nigeria.

N10,000 Ke? Dem gba you very well. When I went to passport office to collect passport for my wife last year, local governments origin letter, affidavit for age declaration, online registration, registration and all other required documents was about N10,000, and I got all within one hour.

Thanks for taking your time to explain the issue at hand in detail. Our brothers from the east who have a no love lost relationship with Buhari say it's because of fulani herdsmen, boko haram (as if fulani herdsmen or boko haram will ever apply for an immigrant visa), insecurity, corruption and Buhari that made the US to ban Nigeria.
The US don't give a shit about these issues, what the US want is information on people entering America for internal security reasons and Nigerian government don't have information on its self not to talk of its citizens.

BOFREJO:
I no fit laugh....

"I am a Christian, I supposed to be a pastor but I want to bomb myself in the name of Allah.
WHO AM I?"

I might be mentally challenged, I might be hypnotised, I might have been under threats or my family is under threats. I might even be a very new convert of Allah
Only a proper Police investigation can reveal the motif for my actions and not speculations.

Witchersunited:
Lie against a pastor suspension


Lie against the president, you are promoted

If buhari made all the editors that have printed lies about him to be suspended, same oyedepo will be shouting tyranny in his church

All these feeds into the ego of oyedepo, last last his time will come and he will die, chapter closed, history wouldn't remember him, given the way his church is, there will be crises to choose a new leader, church will end up like church of God mission.

If the editor that published "the fake wedding" between Buhari and Sadiya Farouq is punished in anyway, the same people supporting the punishment being meted out on these this thisday journalists would be screaming tyranny. Any attempt to regulate or sanitise fake news has been met with resistance by these same people.

rowrowland:
It's not about Christan vs Muslim matter. This is about public security. It's sad that there are too many low-lives on nairaland. Imagine most of the early commenters. FFK is not a believer; he's only playing a game of relevance and he found religion useful. Too bad for all of them.

Everything in Nigeria is Muslim vs Christian matter, if not then it would be igbo vs HausaFulanis/Yoruba matter.

They just are not patient to wait the investigations before concluding based on prejudices. Even after the police report comes out, Nigerians will accept or dismiss the reports based on which sides of the divide people stand.

The police too are not helping matter, they are fond of playing to the gallery instead of carrying out proper investigations. Why not finish and conclude investigations before making public statements. The parading of suspects on live TV (after serious torture) should be declared illegal.

Casalinda:
This will be the last reply I will be giving here.. I got my own money. I got my own job I earn close to a million I dnt need most of the things he gave me, I fell in love for God sake was it a crime I committed Me falling in love means I am losing my self worth and esteem In as much I’m hurt by this reply.. I didn’t fall in love because of his money and I have taken both of us on all expense vacations trip all from my purse.. please I am not fool here, all I did was love and for what it’s worth it was never script. I was genuinely happy and it was never scripted

You asked for advice and you are getting annoyed when someone offered an honest advice and opinion. You want people to tell you exactly what you want to hear, abi? OK, continue begging him, carry your whole family including your mother and grandmother from the village to his house to beg him to marry you. Shebi, that's the type of advice you seek.

No one is saying you are poor, what they are saying and to which you alluded to in your very first paragraph is that you love him because he was tall, handsome, smelt nice and rich . So the rich is part of the reason you fell in love. Even the Kardashians, would never fall in love with a poor person, even if they are wealthy.

The guy poured out his heart to you, that he doesn't love you anymore, what's else is there to beg for? He never said, the quarrel you had was the reason for not loving you anymore, that's you trying to rationalise the issue. You want to beg someone to love you?

Yes, it's hard to let go, but you have to. That's all part of life. Most of us have lost someone we love dearly one way or the other. You cry for a while, pick up ourself up and move on with our lives.

So my honest advice to you is cry for a while, pick yourself up and move on.

Femsyn:
Mr Martins, would you allow a man speak and treat your daughter, the way you treat your wife?

Now, you said you won't abuse her verbally again. I put it to you Mr Martin's, you will do it over and over again, cos you still don't understand. You can't give what you don't have. It's an upbringing problem. I can't imagine calling wife, whom I claim to love and cherish, an idiot or stupid. Unimaginable!!!

Mrs Martins, try and be independent and stop relying on your husband for most things. He will respect you more, since money is often the cause of your problems.

To other men, treat your wife the way you would want other men to treat your daughter.

Soon, we will father-in-laws. Hopefully by then, we will understand better.

Not easy for a woman in a new marriage trying to raise children properly. If you want your children to grow up properly, balance and imbibe good values, it is better for one parent to be home looking care of the children, until at least the last one is about 6 to 8 years. Nothing wrong with the wife taking care of the home front, while the husband takes care of the financial front. Sometimes the reverse is the case. MKO a abiola was at home taking care of Kola, while simbiat was working. Cooking for the family, cleaning the house, doing the laundry, preparing the children for school and helping them with homework, has as much value as going to work to earn money. In fact if all these services offered by the wife is monetized, I am sure most husbands will be unable to pay. That's why it's called a family, each act as one towards a common goal. The wife can then pursue a career or go back to school after the children are fairly independent.
Hiring nannies, househelps and even family members to take of my children is a no no for me. I am just not ready to take the risk.

martin231:
Initially I did not want to comment after my post, I only wanted to read but now i have to....Well, I think most of y’ll here got it all wrong I didn’t come to Nairaland to fight her or make her start feeling bad again ,I begged her promised not to verbally abuse her again that was after she forwarded me the messages she have been saving on her phone , those words was actually September 2019 but she saved all of it on her phone and i was surprised when she forwarded all of it to me this January and I begged her and gave her my word not to repeat it again , also y’ll should know that something actually triggered those words even though she didn’t post that part here, but still nothing to justify myself for saying those words to her.......Like I said, I begged her and made up with her, so we sure not fighting more ...... So the reasons why I actually came to nairaland is to seek if there is need calling her father since i have not gotten any calls from him about what happened (My Father in-law) in Quote for those that did not understand “ Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again“ Also why i mentioned about the money part was coz i wanted people to understand the gravity of the misunderstanding that is not really something serious...... All I wanted was advice or how to start conversations with the Father since I and my wife have already made up because she keep insisting that I should call the father, if not she will leave but sadly I don’t know what to him” ( Like should I tell him that I had a fight with my wife and we have made up? That I just wanted to tell him that we had a fight but we’re fine now? �) My captions says it all “I’m inexperienced “

You are the villian here and you have no excuse whatsoever for your behaviour. You are wrong on so many levels.

First of all you do not seem to love or care for your wife or daughter. Your daugher has been going in and out of hospital for 3 months, and you seem unconcerned. Your only concern was the 400,000 you gave your wife in November. What will you then say, if your daugher requires a medical procedure costing millions of naira? I can't go to the office today because my 11 year old son is sick and undergoing treatment. I can't leave him alone at home.

I think you don't love the woman you married. how can you go a full year without speaking to or swing the woman you claim to love? If my wife is late from coming home for up to 24hrs, I call here to know if there is a problem. You then project your anger on her by verbally abusing her.
I am not sure that you don't have another relationship going on in your base. I as a man knows that suffering konji for a year is not easy.

If you are really concerned about the financial prudence of your wife, you should have demanded a breakdown of living expenses including food, utilities, housekeeping, medicals and pocket money. You then give allowances based on needs and not based on what you feel like giving. In Nigeria a lot of unforseen expenses crop up unexpectedly.

The father is right to demand to talk to you concerning the welfare of his daughter. You went to him to ask his for his daughters hand in marriage, with a promise to take care of his daughter. If he feels his daugher is not happy he has the right to ask you if there is any problem.

Call him to discuss, man to man, father in law to son in law. Even if there are no issues, courtesy demands you call your father in law from time to time.