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Donaldoni:
Reasonable Nigerians love Trump because of his conservative cum godly values... No to LGBT, No to abortion etc

Why is that so difficult to understand

It's very difficult to understand how someone who sleeps with prostitutes and then pays them to keep silent, boasts about grabbing them by the pussycat, has so many sex abuse allegations by women including underage, has godly values.

Agboriotejoye:
Perjury is a serious offender that attracts jail time. It doesn't matter maybe it's lying about having lunch or detonating bombs as long as you lied under oath, you're guilty of a crime.

Congress approved aid was held by biden as well and no one raised dust about it. Besides, the fiscal year was not ended before it was eventually released as a matter of fact, same month as the previous ones so, again that is not a factual thing to say.

Perjury in a personal affair? Why not bring Trump under oath and ask him if he had sèx with stormy Daniels? The Republican house had no business investigating Trump's personal sexual life. Besides, people lie in court even second after swearing under oath, how many had been jailed.

Biden could not withhold approved aids, only the president can do that. If anyone should be held for withholding aids, it should be Obama. The withholding of aids by Obama was official US policy and not for personal gains of Obama. Everyone was in the loop - congress (or else the Republican house and senate would have asked questions ), the use consulate in Ukraine, the state department, the justice department, everybody. Here it was only Trump and Gulianni (and maybe Bill Taylor that was aware.

Sunnycliff:
Not only perjury Bush, committed sexual atrocity which is unbecoming of POTUS but wasn't Impeached by the leftist democrats because he's one of them

Sexual atrocity kwa! Which one is sexual atrocity again? Even G.Os and pastors commit sexual atrocities every now and then, and the congregation and other Christians vehemently defend them.

Agboriotejoye:
Go and get informed. Clinton lied under oath to the special counsel. That's perjury a federal crime.
Tell me what law says that you don't ask a foreign country to investigate someone cause he's a perceived political opponent.
Trump denying it is not even a crime as long as it's not under oath

And the perjury of lying about your personal sex life is so serious to the US constitution that it's an impeachable offense?

There is no direct law that says that you cant ask a foreign country to investigate someone cause he's a perceived political opponent, after all he asked Russia to find Hillary's emails. What you can't do is to withhold congress approved aids to blackmail the foreign government to do so.

ehissi:
Mitt Romney's political career is officially dead. He cannot ever, ever, ever come back from this ever.

He finally backed the wrong horse and he will pay for it with his seat.

His children's children will never ever forget the wahala that he put them through today......

So in democracy under Trump, one is not allowed to have a different opinion from his party? Maybe the US should adopt the Chinese political model or better the Korean one, which allows the leader or the party to think for everyone.

Agboriotejoye:
Clinton was worse!!
He committed perjury which is a crime but still got acquitted by a democrat controlled senate.
Foolish CNN said at least he was contrite!!
Same democrats now expect republicans to impeach their party's president based on a contentious phone call which is not even a crime per se

You mean lying about a Mouth Action by an intern (after a 2 year fishing expedition for crimes) is worse than trying to blackmail a foreign country to help you bring down a political opponent, and lying about it.

Sunnycliff:
In Nigeria today, the actions of Buhari is it not enough for impeachment? His nepotism and disregard for rule of law, insecurity and economic downturn? We have a greater canker worm here

You guys would have canker snake next. Luckily for you guys Trump is not evil. He may be greedy, he may be crooked, he may be egocentric, but he is not evil minded. Imagine what would happen if an smart evil minded president comes along.

I am not even saying Trump should be removed, but he at least should have been told his actions were wrong and warned by his party to desist from such abuse of power actions, instead the Republican party gave him a free pass.

fortran12:
Not true, the quran is different from the bible, read both and see for yourself. So agree that Jesus does not promote terrorism but Mo' does

You avoided my question. I asked are Christians to accept only the quotes of Jesus and discard all other verses in the bible?

Now, tell me one bad thing in the Koran and I will quote a similar thing from the bible.

YanshmasterGee:
Mitt Romney too and lest I forget the whole fcking CNN crew.

YanshmasterGee:
Mitt Romney too and lest I forget the whole fcking CNN crew.

Sunnycliff:
Pelos and Schiff and all leftist should kiss the ass of Trump

I was the first to say this idiom on nairaland during the Jonathan administration, what goes around comes around.
The way Jonathan's supporters were supporting all of Jonathan's wrongs - like marginalisation of a section of the country in terms of political appointments, harassing of the press, harassing of national assembly members, raiding of politic opposition offices, turning a blind eye to allegations of corruption against his close aids, etc. I warned them then that once a Northerner takes over power, he will use Jonathan's actions as his starting point and would do worse that Jonathan, and no one will listen to their cries, because precedent has been set. Is Buhari not 10 times worse than Jonathan?

Now, same thing with Trump.and Republicans - what goes around comes around.
A democrat will definitely take over someday, whether next year or 5 years time, and believe the next democratic president would be worse than Trump, because a precedent has been set. Trump has said and justified that under article 2, a president can do anything, and once you have the support of about partisan 33 senators, you cannot be removed, no matter your crimes. The Democrats will also protect their President the Republicans protected Trump, a US president don't have to fear or respect the congress anymore. He or his staff and appointees can ignore sophenas without fear of any consequences.

Youngzedd:
Hahaha, She said she earns 5 digits which is below 100,000 NGN, now it's close to a million.

I never knew that Lai Mohammed's daughter is a Nairalander.

A million naira a year, that's about 80,000 a month, which is a five figure sum.

The way she writes, I doubt anyone will pay her a million naira a month.

fortran12:
Be truthful did you quote Jesus words? Just post a comment by Jesus and i will agree with you. But because there is no you are trying to change the narrative.
Your Qur'an and hadith are filled with words of your prophet and his actions in the tafsir.
Answer the question I asked then I will respond to you or accept that u are wrong and we can change topic.

Are you implying that only Jesus's quotes that should be regarded in the bible and all other quotes and verses should be discarded.

I see the difference between the bible and Koran like the difference between 6 and half a dozen. Nothing specified in the Koran that a corresponding verse cannot be found in the bible, except of course 75 eternal virgins for martyred believers.

[quote author= post=86390037]The real reason US suspends Immigrant travel Visas on Nigerians.
It has little or nothing to do with Boko Haram,
has nothing to do with Buhari,
has nothing to do with arrest and detention of journalist, has nothing to do with Nigeria’s ban on gays and lesbian, but has everything to do with absence of a workable system in our identification and verification processes.

The main reason Nigeria is suspended from Immigrant visas category is because Nigeria does not have a credible background investigation system that groups like Interpol can rely on to vert and certify originality.

What that means is that if someone commits a crime in lagos and relocates to Kano, there’s no system that can be used to track crimes and people across state lines.

Virtually all African countries have such systems even Ghana has it, Cameroun everyone has original birth certificates but nigeria prefers to have multiple identity cards not because they are interested in monitoring and tracking people but because they want to make money. Our country is a transaction society, you can buy anything even the human conscience.

Most responsible modern states in the world have tracking systems, but nigeria does not.
A typical example, if you are about 40 years, if you go to your primary school to get your records they don’t have it. Principals and headmasters do not have computers in the 21st century.

Now only states that are considered rogue nations or failed states that do not have workable systems.
Most nations in this category are nations at war.
Nigeria is not at war but the irresponsible nature of our government from the beginning till now makes Nigeria a war zone.

Now, back to US suspension, let us make it clear that only Immigrants visas are affected.
Non immigrant visas are not affected.
An immigrant visas is a type of visa that allows you to stay, work or even become a US citizen after you travel.

This category involves the type of visa you get when you marry an American citizen and have to relocate or the type of visas given to parents when their American citizens file for them or the visa you get through lottery.

Another category of visa affected is birth visas, these are medical tourism visas to come to America and have a baby. It is those categories of visas that are affected. Some waivers do apply. However, non immigrant visas like visitors or business visas are not affected, however going forward it will be difficult to get

What America is saying is that we cannot continue to give immigrant visas to your people if our investigators have no tools to work with to verify the true identity of your immigrant populations.

Example, someone who wins lottery or marries a US citizen, the investigators will want to check him up to primary school, but we have no records. Our government should be ashamed that we do not have a reliable working system to track Nigerians instead of deceiving the people to assume it is unfair what US has done.

All our previous and present government should be ashamed that today we are grouped with countries like Eritrea and Sudan.
A sensible country, what they should be doing now is to put such a system in place.
Last year, two of our American friends visited Nigeria and came back with Nigerian international passports.
That can never happen in Ghana or even Liberia.
But with money you can buy a man's conscience in Nigeria.

With as little as three to five hundred dollars people are ready to subvert the law and do the unthinkable.
With just Ten thousand Naira anyone can get local governments origin letters, worst still, today traders who never stepped their legs in universities are given degrees and people even serve youth service with fake results.
If you are America will you continue to give immigrant visas to a country you cannot verify a simple certificate?

If you are America will you continue to give citizenship to immigrants whose entire documents for relocation to your country may have been forged?

We forge ID cards, we forge bank statements to get visas, we forge birth certificates, we forge marriage certificates, we forge election results, what is it that we do not forge?

We should not blame the US, the truth is we have failed as a nation.
May God help our darling country.
God bless Nigeria.[/quote]N10,000 Ke? Dem gba you very well. When I went to passport office to collect passport for my wife last year, local governments origin letter, affidavit for age declaration, online registration, registration and all other required documents was about N10,000, and I got all within one hour.

Thanks for taking your time to explain the issue at hand in detail. Our brothers from the east who have a no love lost relationship with Buhari say it's because of fulani herdsmen, boko haram (as if fulani herdsmen or boko haram will ever apply for an immigrant visa), insecurity, corruption and Buhari that made the US to ban Nigeria.
The US don't give a shit about these issues, what the US want is information on people entering America for internal security reasons and Nigerian government don't have information on its self not to talk of its citizens.

BOFREJO:
I no fit laugh....

"I am a Christian, I supposed to be a pastor but I want to bomb myself in the name of Allah.
WHO AM I?"

I might be mentally challenged, I might be hypnotised, I might have been under threats or my family is under threats. I might even be a very new convert of Allah
Only a proper Police investigation can reveal the motif for my actions and not speculations.

Witchersunited:
Lie against a pastor suspension


Lie against the president, you are promoted

If buhari made all the editors that have printed lies about him to be suspended, same oyedepo will be shouting tyranny in his church

All these feeds into the ego of oyedepo, last last his time will come and he will die, chapter closed, history wouldn't remember him, given the way his church is, there will be crises to choose a new leader, church will end up like church of God mission.

If the editor that published "the fake wedding" between Buhari and Sadiya Farouq is punished in anyway, the same people supporting the punishment being meted out on these this thisday journalists would be screaming tyranny. Any attempt to regulate or sanitise fake news has been met with resistance by these same people.

rowrowland:
It's not about Christan vs Muslim matter. This is about public security. It's sad that there are too many low-lives on nairaland. Imagine most of the early commenters. FFK is not a believer; he's only playing a game of relevance and he found religion useful. Too bad for all of them.

Everything in Nigeria is Muslim vs Christian matter, if not then it would be igbo vs HausaFulanis/Yoruba matter.

They just are not patient to wait the investigations before concluding based on prejudices. Even after the police report comes out, Nigerians will accept or dismiss the reports based on which sides of the divide people stand.

The police too are not helping matter, they are fond of playing to the gallery instead of carrying out proper investigations. Why not finish and conclude investigations before making public statements. The parading of suspects on live TV (after serious torture) should be declared illegal.

Casalinda:
This will be the last reply I will be giving here.. I got my own money. I got my own job I earn close to a million I dnt need most of the things he gave me, I fell in love for God sake was it a crime I committed Me falling in love means I am losing my self worth and esteem In as much I’m hurt by this reply.. I didn’t fall in love because of his money and I have taken both of us on all expense vacations trip all from my purse.. please I am not fool here, all I did was love and for what it’s worth it was never script. I was genuinely happy and it was never scripted

You asked for advice and you are getting annoyed when someone offered an honest advice and opinion. You want people to tell you exactly what you want to hear, abi? OK, continue begging him, carry your whole family including your mother and grandmother from the village to his house to beg him to marry you. Shebi, that's the type of advice you seek.

No one is saying you are poor, what they are saying and to which you alluded to in your very first paragraph is that you love him because he was tall, handsome, smelt nice and rich . So the rich is part of the reason you fell in love. Even the Kardashians, would never fall in love with a poor person, even if they are wealthy.

The guy poured out his heart to you, that he doesn't love you anymore, what's else is there to beg for? He never said, the quarrel you had was the reason for not loving you anymore, that's you trying to rationalise the issue. You want to beg someone to love you?

Yes, it's hard to let go, but you have to. That's all part of life. Most of us have lost someone we love dearly one way or the other. You cry for a while, pick up ourself up and move on with our lives.

So my honest advice to you is cry for a while, pick yourself up and move on.

Femsyn:
Mr Martins, would you allow a man speak and treat your daughter, the way you treat your wife?

Now, you said you won't abuse her verbally again. I put it to you Mr Martin's, you will do it over and over again, cos you still don't understand. You can't give what you don't have. It's an upbringing problem. I can't imagine calling wife, whom I claim to love and cherish, an idiot or stupid. Unimaginable!!!

Mrs Martins, try and be independent and stop relying on your husband for most things. He will respect you more, since money is often the cause of your problems.

To other men, treat your wife the way you would want other men to treat your daughter.

Soon, we will father-in-laws. Hopefully by then, we will understand better.

Not easy for a woman in a new marriage trying to raise children properly. If you want your children to grow up properly, balance and imbibe good values, it is better for one parent to be home looking care of the children, until at least the last one is about 6 to 8 years. Nothing wrong with the wife taking care of the home front, while the husband takes care of the financial front. Sometimes the reverse is the case. MKO a abiola was at home taking care of Kola, while simbiat was working. Cooking for the family, cleaning the house, doing the laundry, preparing the children for school and helping them with homework, has as much value as going to work to earn money. In fact if all these services offered by the wife is monetized, I am sure most husbands will be unable to pay. That's why it's called a family, each act as one towards a common goal. The wife can then pursue a career or go back to school after the children are fairly independent.
Hiring nannies, househelps and even family members to take of my children is a no no for me. I am just not ready to take the risk.

martin231:
Initially I did not want to comment after my post, I only wanted to read but now i have to....Well, I think most of y’ll here got it all wrong I didn’t come to Nairaland to fight her or make her start feeling bad again ,I begged her promised not to verbally abuse her again that was after she forwarded me the messages she have been saving on her phone , those words was actually September 2019 but she saved all of it on her phone and i was surprised when she forwarded all of it to me this January and I begged her and gave her my word not to repeat it again , also y’ll should know that something actually triggered those words even though she didn’t post that part here, but still nothing to justify myself for saying those words to her.......Like I said, I begged her and made up with her, so we sure not fighting more ...... So the reasons why I actually came to nairaland is to seek if there is need calling her father since i have not gotten any calls from him about what happened (My Father in-law) in Quote for those that did not understand “ Now the problem is that my wife doesn’t want to go anymore but she doesn’t have the courage to tell her family that we have settled our misunderstand and doesn’t want to go anymore . She wants me to start calling every member of her family including her father to apologize and reassure them my love towards her again but to me I don’t know how to start the conversation with the father more especially because i believe having issues in marriage is normal and everyone understands that fact and since I have made up with her is their any need calling her family again“ Also why i mentioned about the money part was coz i wanted people to understand the gravity of the misunderstanding that is not really something serious...... All I wanted was advice or how to start conversations with the Father since I and my wife have already made up because she keep insisting that I should call the father, if not she will leave but sadly I don’t know what to him” ( Like should I tell him that I had a fight with my wife and we have made up? That I just wanted to tell him that we had a fight but we’re fine now? �) My captions says it all “I’m inexperienced “

You are the villian here and you have no excuse whatsoever for your behaviour. You are wrong on so many levels.

First of all you do not seem to love or care for your wife or daughter. Your daugher has been going in and out of hospital for 3 months, and you seem unconcerned. Your only concern was the 400,000 you gave your wife in November. What will you then say, if your daugher requires a medical procedure costing millions of naira? I can't go to the office today because my 11 year old son is sick and undergoing treatment. I can't leave him alone at home.

I think you don't love the woman you married. how can you go a full year without speaking to or swing the woman you claim to love? If my wife is late from coming home for up to 24hrs, I call here to know if there is a problem. You then project your anger on her by verbally abusing her.
I am not sure that you don't have another relationship going on in your base. I as a man knows that suffering konji for a year is not easy.

If you are really concerned about the financial prudence of your wife, you should have demanded a breakdown of living expenses including food, utilities, housekeeping, medicals and pocket money. You then give allowances based on needs and not based on what you feel like giving. In Nigeria a lot of unforseen expenses crop up unexpectedly.

The father is right to demand to talk to you concerning the welfare of his daughter. You went to him to ask his for his daughters hand in marriage, with a promise to take care of his daughter. If he feels his daugher is not happy he has the right to ask you if there is any problem.

Call him to discuss, man to man, father in law to son in law. Even if there are no issues, courtesy demands you call your father in law from time to time.

Danteeee:
Well said and thank you very.. but lemme make one thing clear and final.. my parents are happily married and would never want their daughter to be a divorcée.. most times u just have to look beyond what’s happening now and focus on the latter.. do u think we just work up and say “oya pack up” Don’t u think that this abuse, toxic, lack of respect, insecurity, immaturity and childish behavior has been lingering for a long time!? Do u know how many times the said young man has been given the opportunity to clean his mess?? How would u feel if ur sister, daughter or loved one is the subject of discussion among friends every god dam time there is a misunderstanding at their home Like she’s some sort of a property or what?? Do u know what it means for ur spouse ( man or woman) to keep talking down on u until u loose ur self worth, confidence and emotions Have you ever dealt with an indecisive person before?? We can’t be that stupid to want her to leave her home just for mere misunderstanding cos we really don’t care what goes on in her home.. but when u see that things are getting out of hand then u can step in and save a life since the dude doesn’t want to charge of his home. now take a look a the rampant domestic violence we having these days.. it’s not a day or one time thing.. it’s an anger and abuse that has been building for a long time and it only takes a trigger before it blows out of proportion.. now do u say it’s ok to make “ur wife” a subject of mockery with friends?? And she, rather than doing the same resorted to family?? Honestly we want her to be happy, confident, treated with respect and not a hell in a marriage all because of what society will think of her.. for sure we can’t keep giving her money but will definitely set her up financially more in her growing business.. once again, thank y’all and ur sincere advice well noted!

My brother I support you 100%. I can't stand men that abuse their wives. If it's my daughter that is being so badly abused, I would go to the house to pack her loads.
Anyway, I train my daughter not to tolerate any abuse from anybody.

TEYA:
Your great grandchildren will be Nigerians, infact some of your daughters will marry Fulani guys from sokoto. Maga!

Don't mind them. If paraventure Nigeria splits tomorrow and all igbos are asked to go back to Biafra, most of the alaba, ladi ladipo, ASPANDA, etc traders making a living in Lagos and shops all over Nigeria will be looking for ways to stay behind and become illegal immigrants.

Many igbos born and bred in the west and even northern nigeria will refuse to relocate.

oyatz:
Nairaland is a faceless forum. Some guys that haven't even bought a plot of land will be giving expert opinions on massive construction contracts.



I just completed a personal housing project in my hometown in Osun State.

I deeply regretted the parts that I gave to local artisans to do.

One guy collected my money for digging soakaway pit, dug like 1.5 meters and disappeared.

Even in my hometown, I had to go to Sabotage and recruited Ayuba Takai and Danladi (both from Kano State) to complete the digging of soak away and waste pits. Many manual jobs were reassigned to these Hausa labourers.

They don't resume for work until around 10:00 am and they like to close by 5:00pm and will be expecting daily payment.

Some days, they may not even come giving silly excuses that they went for chieftaincy meetings or there were ceremonies in town for them to attend.

They will force you to work at their own pace (slow and more expensive) because they are in their own town, they are never in a hurry to meet any target.
They don't live in rented apartments, their foods are mostly sourced locally and their costs of living is very low.

Above all, they are also part-time farmers. They will use your time to go to farms and only come for your work at THEIR convinient time.

My brother, some people sit in their homes or their parents home and give advice on issues they have no idea of.
Anyone that has experienced the trauma of working with locals (and this applies to everywhere in Nigeria ) would not blame people that import workers to do their civil works. Some even prefer to pay the locals for doing nothing than hire them.

mynaijaforumcom:
Are you saying that all the contracting companies from the North have integrity while none from the South and even the middle belt have intergrity and so all TETFUND projects will be awarded to Northern contractors, consultancy and management firms?

No. I am saying that heads of ministries and parastatals in Nigeria don't factor in integrity when awarding contracts. They award contracts based on selfish interests, nepotism and tribalism. This apply to parastatals headed by all tribes and regions in Nigeria. If a Yoruba heads a parastatal most appointments into that parastatal would be from the Yoruba tribe and most contract would be awarded to Yoruba contractors. Ditto for igbos and Hausa Fulanis. It is we minorities that is a bit more liberal in political appointments.

myobjective:
Do you think you are talking to a novice here?
I am in the industry, I'm a registered structural engineer with more than 8years site and project management experience so don't bamboozled me with fake integrity. Northerners are as dubious as anyone and most contracts work [color=#990000]these days are sold to cronies

reasons why people from the region of Tetfund chairman will get most of the job.[/quote]This is not an integrity contest, you have your own experiences in the construction industry, I have mine. You ended up agreeing with what I said, where your are mistaken is where you said these days. Nepotism and contract selling did not start these days, it had always been like that. Ministries and parastatals headed by northerners would award contracts mainly to northerners, those headed by easterners would award contracts to cronies, friends and families. That's why appointments into political offices are such a big issue in Nigeria. People lobby for their tribes men to get political appointments. Some of these cronies simply sell the contract papers to anyone willing to pay (who most of the time are unqualified). People have been selling contract papers at Abuja from time immemorial. I had a friend that got burnt buying DESOPADEC contract. He lost all his life savings buying a N50 million contract for 10% of the contract sum.

I know have a company-owned by a man with no engineering or construction background and they 're currently working on more than 20 projects across the federation, most of their engineers are bearly qualified, are you going to tell me that his the best qualified for the job?

This is very common at state, local and federal levels. The main road in Odogunyan was awarded to a political with no civil engineering experience. The road did not last 2 rainy seasons.
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myobjective:
That is the nepotism we are talking about! All those universities project you see going on are Tetfund project and the past chairman of tetfund was from Bauchi, the present on is from Gombe. 99% of the contracts are given to unqualified northern contractors.

I am a civil engineer in the know of how most of these works are given to less qualified companies all because we have an irredeemable bigot as the president. There are companies handling more 20 companies when others more qualified don't have.

It is painful to have a country structured in this manner where crude oil tax revenue from the south is used to fund northern excesses, reasons why we must restructure or divide this country.

Your argument is neither here or there, as long as the companies pass through the tender process and the company is competent, then I don't care whomsoever they award the contract to. I will only have issues if the contract is awarded and paid for but not carried out or according to specifications.

Besides, locals don't have a good track record of completing projects. There are hundreds of projects awarded to locals all over the Niger delta by NDDC. The locals abandon the projects after collecting Mobilization fees. Many roads in the East and even west are awarded to powerful locals, they simply vanish after collecting mobilisation fees.

mynaijaforumcom:
Might be. But I cannot quite see bringing people from Kano to carry blocks as a cost saving move.

It is. When I was doing a project in ogwashi uku, I brought all my labourers from Lagos. My bricklayers were mainly Yorubas, so are my carpenters. My tilers were igbos, as well as my POP guys. The plumber was a local introduced by my client though and he did a terrible job. I had to change most of the fittings as they were fakes.

When doing a project, it is best to employ people you are familiar with, that you know their competencies. Hiring new untested hands can be risky, and besides locals are usually troublesome and lazy due to entitlement mentality. Those you import from outside has no other distractions than the job at hand, so they work harder and faster.

In addition :
Oil is being drilled in my community right now by NPDF and due to community squabbles, most of the workers employed to work in the rigs are Igbo. Boys dey vex say igbos came from East to collect jobs in warri.
Me, I no send, because most of my brothers and cousins are not ready to work.

lilioj:
Op it seems to me a game is being played by your hubby and ex. You have to tread lightly and be smart.
Dont confront your hubby over this issue, dont even express your displeasure to him again.
When next your ex comes do NOT open the door for him and tell him not to come to your house again.
Sit back and wait for your husband's reaction. The truth will unravel. Remember to stay calm .

I concur 100%. When next he comes to your house when your husband is not around, do not open the door. If he refuses to leave, have him stay outside and wait for your husband to arrive before you allow him in. Having your ex and you alone in your house is awkward. Even if your husband insist you open the door for him still refuse. Tell him that as a Christian, it's not proper to be alone with man that's not a family relation in your house. Have him wait outside.
If your husband causes trouble because of it, then involve a third party - a pastor or a family member. Let him come and explain why your ex, who has now become his friend is more important than you.

SifonAbasi:
When I met my husband my ex was oversea. He came back after my wedding so nothing like double dating. To my knowlege, he doesn't have a fiacee yet. He's not in a relationship.

I just read you stories - both threads, and I was impressed you and your husband handled a very delicate issue. My grouse now is the current attitude or should say scheme of your husband. He is testing you to see if you would fall. He is going to extremes to court a relationship with your ex, and then arranging scenarios where you are alone with him. I am certain he has cameras hidden at home to catch you guys if you have sex with him.

Sorry you say, but you are in a catch 22 situation. If you tell him to stop your ex from coming to your house, especially when he is not around, he will say you are uncomfortable with your ex around because you still have feelings for him. If you get to cosy with your ex, he will still accuse you of still being in love with him.

You need to talk to him and make him realise that it's not appropriate for him to be friends with your ex and inviting a man into your matrimonial home when your are alone (ex or not), is inappropriate. Any business he wants to do with him can be done at the office.
If he does not change, you may have to report the matter to someone he respects and listen to.

OgbanjeProphet:
Trump did the right thing. Here in Nigeria, some misguided fanatics burnt the US flag. So why wouldn't Trump place us on a travel ban?

They should travel to Iran instead

Those misguided fanatics that burnt US flag would never apply for a US visa not to talk of thinking of immigrating to the US. The visa ban would most affect southern Nigerians wishing to immigrate to the US.

saaron:
When you have a regime that swims in terrorism, sharia and human rights abuse, and tried to challenge America's authority as world police at one time, things like Visa ban is what you get. A regime that does not give a crap about the security of it's own people will certainly not be taken serious by the international community.
Nigeria (pariah state) today is a security risk to America thanks to buhari's directionless regime, hence the visa ban.
The only way to reverse the visa ban is for BUHARI TO RESIGN! Apart from terrorism, he has NOTHING to offer.
#BuhariMustResign

Oboy see hatred. Anyway there is no love lost between Buhari and south easterners. It started even before he won his first term.

You guys can exaggerate for Africa, even the whole world. Nigeria has had sharia and human rights abuse issues even before Buhari dreamt of being president. It was because of human rights abuse during the Jonathan regime that the US and it's allies refused to sell any arms to Nigeria.
There is no blanket visa ban, what was banned was immigrant visa. Nigeria was removed from the DV lottery program during the regime of Jonathan.
The reason the US gave for the visa ban was not because of terrorism or sharia. The reason given was that the Nigerian government does not share information, especially criminal records about its citizens applying for immigrant visa. This is the reason for all the countries in this visa ban. At least you should be aware that other countries affected by the ban like Eritrea, Sudan, Tanzania and Kyrgyzstan don't have sharia or terrorist issues.

Believe me the ban would not affect Buhari or children of the elite, most already have US citizenship or other from other western nations with easy access to the US. It's the average struggling nigerians looking for a better life in the US that would be affected.

Rosskiye:
Stop talking RUBBISH. Trump's action is caused by Trump's need to appeal to his small support base of neo-nazi racist white supremacists. They form his core support in America. Their elections are coming up in November. Banning Africans is a way to appeal to his support base, following his earlier ban on muslims, attempts to build a wall to keep out Mexicans etc. Trump's philosophy is ''White is Right. Browns and Blacks, go away''. What he does has NOTHING to do with Buhari or anyone's actions or inactions in Nigeria, because he has no clue what Nigeria is about, and cares even less. ALL HE KNOWS is that Nigerians travel a lot to the US, and he wants to stop that so his base can be happy enough with him to re-elect him. Finish. That's all.

You nail the issue, point blank. Trump is only appealing to his base, who hate the bloody Africans coming to the US and doing better than them. Trump will take more drastic measures to appeal to his base to have any chance of winning the elections (on electoral college ). He needs to rally his based to come out and vote to counter the numbers of the Democrats and independents.

I am sure Trump can't point to Nigeria on the map not to talk of Biafra. After winning the 2016 election, and was getting congratulatory messages from many world leaders, Trump confessed that he never knew there were so many countries.
Read this to understand Trump has a very poor knowledge of geography - https://www.google.com/amp/s/thinkprogress.org/trump-didnt-know-bhutan-nepal-countries-55775373b574/amp/

Cherez:
I agree with you to an extent but check his tag, "EXPEDITED ENTRY" it means his entry was arranged by an authority and being recognized.
A man labelled terrorist by a country had an expedited entry where the president if another country visited.
Kanu might have realised his mistakes of attacking people and is looking out to reach out to the world.
Britain is anti-Biafra and only allegiance with the US can break that

It's good to hear that kanu has realised his mistakes of insulting everyone who don't agree with him or his mission. Yorubas, Hausa Fulanis, other Niger delta tribes, and even other igbo elders had been insulted by kanu. I want him to also instruct his foot soldiers on social media to stop insulting others as a strategy of achieving their aims also.

The US has not been known to support any secession group. In fact the US has been known to support the parent country against secessionist groups.
Trump is even worse at supporting secessionist groups. Ordinary taking a call from Taiwan president caused Chinese anger, and Trump had to withdraw recognition of Taiwan. Other groups looking for support from Trump are the Kurds, the Catalans, the Rohingya, the Palestinians, etc. Trump love supporting those in a position of strength. He hates associating with anything or anybody he perceives as being weak or in a weak position.

selemempe:
and I did not...are you happy now?

Very