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Bornbiafra:
I thought she is from cross Rivers State and also a politician there

What stopped her from voting in Cross Rivers State

The same thing that stopped Olukemi Olufunto Badenoch née Adegoke from contesting in Lagos but instead chose to contest for prime minister of UK and is now the Secretary of State for International Trade.

If you guys have become racist/tribalists just because of politics, don't fret when others around the world take a cue and drive you guys back to Lagos.

optionalY09:
Yes they are Yoruba

And you think Lagos can contain all the Yorubas in this world?

What about me an Itsekiri just like Remi Tinubu, can I claim Lagos?

optionalY09:
all Yoruba are indecent to Lagos, mafor

So Yorubas from Togo, Benin and Brazil can claim Lagos?

omohayek:
So now you're telling me that the families of returnee slaves are more "original Lagosians" than mine that actually have been ruling Lagos before their slave ancestors were even abducted? In your hatred for Tinubu and the APC, you seem to have gone off the rails, first endorsing the "Amoda Ogunlere" nonsense, and now this ...

There is definitely something not adding up with your worship of Tinubu. For you to claim that you are from the ruling family of Lagos but at the same time a worshiper of Tinubu - a non native is something of a paradox. Ironically I am closer to Tinubu himself than you. My mum knew the Mogagi and Tinubu families as she grew up in Isale Eko. We all knew Bola Tinubu was adopted. Tinubus wife's family house is very close to my paternal family house in Warri.

Now the returnee slaves have as much rights in Lagos to you and morally more rights than Tinubu. They definitely have more rights than an Ambode, Fashola or Gbajabiamila.

To me Tinubu is like an imposter, just like Ptolemy in Egypt, Joseph in the Bible or Alimi in ilorin. He through shear luck, political machinations and collaborators captured power and impose himself on the people.
To claim Tinubu is responsible for the development of Lagos is like saying Joseph was responsible for the development of ancient Egypt. Lagos was already the most developed city in Nigeria before Tinubu became governor in 1999, before then lagos has had some decent governors like Marwa, Jakande, Mobolaji Johnson, etc.

DenreleDave:
Obi is in court already.. Why going to media out to say rubbish as usual?


Barking like a dog as usual.. Obi is a national disgrace

Freedom of speech and expression as enshrined in our constitution. Buhari and Atiku had rejected the election victory of their opponents in the past, and no one threatened them with arrests.

fford:
This came as he asked the national Broadcasting Commission NBC to caution television stations against granting access to Obi to delegitimize the presidential election.

‘We also advise the NBC to caution TV houses giving Obi the platform to de-legitimise a free and fair election, when he has taken his case to court”, he stated.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2023/03/tinubu-asks-security-agencies-to-caution-obi-over-inciting-comments/amp/

Ominous times ahead in Nigeria for press and general freedom in Nigeria. President Tinubu would make military head of state Muhammadu Buhari look like a Saint.

Till today Trump is still denying the 2019 election victory of President Biden and no one has threatened him with arrest.

Once Tinubu resumes power, anyone that denies his election victory will be arrested and locked up extrajudicially.

Freethinker87:
The Igbos have been on the side of Lagosians for decades. We'll continue doing what is right until the true owners of Lagos repossess their state.

That's because the original Lagosians are not tribalistic, they have a long history of interactions with people from all other the world apart from all over Nigeria. They we're part of the Bini kingdom, they were repatriated slaves, they were British subjects, so there is little room for tribalism/racism, and that's why they intermarry without issues. The real tribalists are the immigrants from Ijebus-igbo, from Shaki or from Ede, they can't imagine marrying another tribe. They are very intolerant to others.
I did both my primary and secondary education in Lagos Island. I school with the Fernadez, Oshodis, Ojoras, Phillips, Fahms, all original Lagosians. There was no atom of tribalism in the children of these families.

Iamgrey5:
I know when he stared referencing Ijebus as strangers in Lagos.

I know he doesn't even know anything about Lagos.

He is saying others won't be given the same opportunity in other states.

He doesn't know their is place called Eko-tedo In Ibadan.

Ibadan was a war camp created to assemble Yorubas from all over Yoruba land to confront the Fulani jihadists. So what's your point?

raskymonojendor:
All of Ojodu, Akute, Ajuwon, Alagbole, isheri border towns of Ogun/Lagos are Aworis that speak with the same accent/dialect as their Awori kins in Lagos Island.
All the Epe, Ikorodu and area that border with Ogun state are Ijebus.

All these non Yorubas know nothing about how integrated the Yorubas are. Their posts are hilarious.

Is it only Aworis or Ijebus that are Yorubas that have migrated to Lagos? Is it only Aworis or Ijebus that occupy all political and appointive positions reserved for Lagos indigenes? Is it only Aworis or Ijebus that take scholarships, employment opportunities and other benefits reserved of indigenous Lagosians?

a4cube:
That is exactly what the writter want to let you people know. Their is nothing like Pan Yoruba, those behaving like such exist are trying to colonise Lagos in disguise. The Bankole guy is clear about that.

Below is am interview by Alhaji Olufemi Okunnu, an Awori.
You will see that the real indigenes themselves are feeling oppressed by other Yorubas. That feeling is just simmering beneath the surface because of general greater animosity towards the igbos. If the igbos should leave today, that animosity will bubble to the surface.
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/awori-are-the-original-inhabitants-owners-of-lagos-okunnu/%3famp

Olabukola11:
Lagos is a Yoruba heritage and as such owned by every Yoruba irrespective of your state. As far as you are from SW.

The same can be said for Nigeria. Lagos can be said to be Nigeria's heritage and so is owned by every Nigerian irrespective of state. What did other Yorubas contribute to make it Yoruba heritage. If you are talking about Ile-Ife Oyo or even Ibadan no one would argue.
Now, I don't buy the stupid IPOB "Lagos is no man's land" mischief, but it is annoying Yorubas from Kogi, Ilaje or Oyo is claiming the same rights to Lagos as the original inhabitants of Lagos - The Aworis, the Eguns and the Ijebus. The original Lagos that gave Lagos it's fame and importance was Lagos Island, where the Portuguese, the Benis and the British established their headquarters, from there Lagos expanded to its present size. With the influx of Yorubas from all over the old too Empire and other tribes in Nigeria, the original indigenes have been subsumed.

alcuin:
But you celebrate "stupid" western culture.

Learn to appreciate your culture, that alone defines your identity. I'm sure you don't know the importance of identity.

These cultures have outlived their usefulness. They contribute nothing to the progress and development of their society in the 21st century, instead they are retrogressive. Most of these so called cultures are usually oppression and exploitation of women, children and non natives.

We might as well bring back the killing of twins.

mymadam:
The Oro festival was NEVER planned for election day anyway. The announcement specifically stated that it was gonna take place between 11.30/Midnight and 5.30 the next morning... each day. The last time I checked, Nigerian General Elections only take place during the day, right? 😏

During the last presidential elections voting was still taking place at 12 midnight in many polling stations in Lagos Lekki axis. INEC officials did not arrive until 4:00 PM on Election day. Then what happens if counting of votes is not finished by 11:30 pm? INEC officials are to physically transmit the results appart from electronically to the Local government and state headquarters.

Scheduling an Oro festival on Election day will be the height of irresponsibility. If allowed to pass, then every other tribes will put their cultural/traditional festivals on Election days to drive away people - both indigenes and non indigenes.

Kobojunkie:
1. The average Nigerian in Nigeria is unable to critically reason his existence and that of others around him is what. And it is indeed hard to reason with such minds who are sometimes completely disconnected from logic on many issues. The problem is worse with the Nigerian man who is convinced in his mind that by virtue of being born with an outie he is endowed with a brain more logical than that of a female when the truth is not males and females are pretty much born with the same brain — no gendered brains from nature — yet is unable to string one logically reason his own reality even if his life depended on it.

False claim! Men's brains are slightly bigger than women's brains on the average. Even the heads of males are bigger than those of the females. The difference in brain capacity or intelligence is not much, but it's there. Women cannot defeat men in chess of the same class.

Martinsmine:
If this story is real.. please keep d pressure on... Keep on calling and texting... Also texting him not to listen to friends for advice even if u you are also seeking for advice also...
Do different things from what you have been doing....
Beg him to keep the relationship that anything was bound to happen...
Even if he doesn't agree tell him to punch 👊 or slap you if you disrespect him... Your words should be your leverage... Show him respect also.. he needs it.. and always be playfula ND polite when talking to him even when explaining...

Enjoy your weekend

I don't believe I read that. She should encourage him to punch and slap her for disrespecting him? What should he do if she actually slaps him or spits on him - stab her with a knife? I am appalled you are encouraging violence on the weak. Can he try such rubbish off a fellow man like him tells him to fùck of? What will he to to his children if they disrespect him? If a man is not ready to be disrespected in the slightest manner, he better remain single for life.

As I said earlier, if this little misunderstanding just after 2 years of marriage is threatening the marriage, then the marriage is not worth it in the first place. I have been married for over 15 years, and I did get occasional disrespect in the beginning, but dwe have learnt our dos and donts over the years and learnt to respect them. Separation had never been an option not to talk of divorce.

@ OP
You are the only person that can assess the true situation of things and the next steps to take.
There are lots of variables in this issue. We have to consider the basis of the marriage in the first place. What is the marriage based on? Is it based on love, money, convenience or other extraneous factors. Are the two families involved and in good terms?

This anger must have been brewing up for a while and it's boiling over. You have to try and find out the true cause of his anger. Is it these few isolated cases of disrespect on your part, or are there other sinister issues. Is there another woman in the background? Where exactly has he gone to? - to a family or friends house or to another woman's house.

Give him some space and time for things to cool of. If he doesn't reach out within a week, then assume the worst and probably the end of the marriage. Reach out to his family and close friends to get a feel of what he intends to do. If he actually wants a divorce, then you need to conclude the divorce before leaving for the US. Because if you don't, you will need to come back in the future to finalise the divorce. In the divorce settlement, you should get some assets and compensations for being a legal wife for 2 years unless there was a prenuptial agreement.

If he comes back home, insist you both needs to see a Councillor. Maybe your church counsellor or pastor. Becareful lots of pastors are sheep in wolves skin. They might try and milk you guys for money.

If the marriage breaks as a results of this small misunderstanding, the marriage is not worth it in the first place.

FisifunKododada:
No need for long irrelevant story. Yorubas are the indigenous people of Lagos. Yorubas were in Lagos before the arrival of portugese, before bini established a trading post or the arrival of the british. QED. Anything else is just irrelevant to the fundamental question.

The word Yoruba was meaningless at the time of the arrival of the Binis and the portuguese. It was the Fulanis that coined the word Yoruba.

FisifunKododada:
Are you the Edo person that claim Lagos belong to your village headmaster? Tell you village headmaster to come and collect it. What is he waiting for?

You are just being emotional. Lagos has changed hands numerous times, and by Lagos I mean Eko - Lagos Island, parts of Lagos Mainland bordering Ebutemeta, Apapa and Yaba. The Aworis were recognized as the first settlers there, the Benis took it over and named it Eko, the Portuguese took control and renamed it Lagos, then the British took over and made it their administrative capital. After independence it was handed over to western Nigeria.

Now there is even another animosity brewing between the original inhabitants of Lagos and other Yorubas who feels that they have been cheated in the politics, economy and land allocation in Lagos State. Since independence no indigenous Lagosian had been Governor of Lagos State. Most political offices allocated to Lagos is being held by Yorubas from other villages and towns, grom Kogi to ondo to Osun.

CBR100:
and aworis are igbo or togoleses abi ??

is just lyk saying ekiti ppl owns ekiti state not yoruba (ekiti ppl ar wat ??)

aworis, egba ,ijebu, egun, osun all are yoruba

The eguns deny they are Yorubas. Yoruba was a derogatory term coined by the invading Fulani jihadist to describe the people of Oyo. It means people that slippery that can't be trusted. Later the term caught on and all other tribes with language close to that of Oyo accepted the term except a few like the Eguns.

Iamgrey5:
Mention the bini villages in Lagos?

Idunmota, idumagbo, iddo.

BOLATINUBU01:
ASIWAJU is loved by many sensible Nigerian, only the hated soul people from the region of potopoto is hating who God has blessed

Tinubu is loved by many sensible Nigerians but there is no jubilation whatsoever over his election victory as announced by INEC.
Tinubu is loved by many sensible Nigerians but even Tinubu is not celebrating his victory.

See below an example of someone loved by many sensible Nigerians. See the jubilation when it was announced that Peter Obi won the polling unit in front of Tinubu's house

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8EUp9BCFUk&feature=shares

Now imagine the celebrations and jubilation that would have taken place if Peter Obi was announced to have won the elections. There would have been more that the jubilation on the streets than the news of Abacha's death.

Kobojunkie:
1. What you described is near impossible for a majority of women out there to do, why? Because a woman's libido is not something she can turn on and off as she pleases. No, these things are hormone-driven and as such beyond her direct control. She could maybe load up on aphrodisiacs to get herself wound up but even the effect of that wanes over time. So, it is a thing of excuse for a man to claim ignorance of whether or not he is sexually compatible with a woman he has been having sex with.

2. If you believe the stuff you cobbled up in the first part of your response, then it makes no sense that you agree to this other part of my response then given that you are convinced that women are able to trick you into being they are sexually compatible with you during the dating period.

It's not what believe, its what I know. A very good childhood friend came to my office about 20 years complaining that he is sexually frustrated, that before he married his wife, they did it every other day, but just 2 years after marriage he only gets in once or twice a month. He said he is considering getting another wife, and truly her got another luckily he is a Muslim. His father who was a very senior Imam in Lagos was against marrying another wife. His father remained faithful to his mother until he passed away.

Another example is my dentist. He married a very fine South African lady. But he got a side chick to make up for his sexual frustrations. And the side chick didn't come cheap. He has invited me to a bar to introduce his side chick to me. I know the wife very well.

I have been around this earth to see a lot. Because of my nature people tend to open up to me.


Look unless we don't like to tell ourselves the truth. Sexual problems are responsible for a lot of broken or split homes.

See this report of the percentage of women that fake orgaism just to deceive their partner.

Kobojunkie:
1. That is only in your head abeg. Reality is instead that many don't even marry for purpose of sex but companionship.

2. You cannot squeeze your kind of gold out of stone. Given that most couples become intimate during the dating period and also understand each others sexual stamina from then, it does not then make sense to expect that stamina to suddenly increase, simply because you you it so, after marriage. If you then decide to get your needs met outside you pretty much violated your marriage agreement at that point. So a better way to avoid a repeat of what is witnessed in over 83% of such unequal unions in Nigeria by picking and marrying only that woman you are sexually compatible with? .

You are obviously very young and not so experienced in women matter. A woman that's desperate for you to wife her will satisfy all your sexual fantasies, she will give you cowboy style, reverse cowboy style, helicopter style and even deep throat style. You will expect to live in conjugal bliss for a long time (at least 10 years), only to wife her and she metamorphosize to a log of wood a few weeks after the ceremony. I have seen it multiple times. Up to 65% of women fake orgasm with up to 15% never ever experience ogasm

The man is either forced to get a side chick, patronise olosho or marry a second wife.


I am in agreement with the blue quote. The problem is that you might not know her sexual incompatibility until its too late. So moralists insists on no sex before marriage.

blacksam01:
i.believe INEC has caalled tinubu and informed him they wantto be fair this time around because of the so much pressure on them after the presidential election...

tha is why sanwo olu and all the state governors are actually now doing campaigns...

Imagine Sanwo-Olu jumping from church to mechanic workshops, from Arise to channels just one week before election. Sanwo-Olu has interacted with ordinary Nigerians more times in the past one week than in the last four years. They have realize that their rigging structure is being dismantled by the masses, it's not guaranteed to work 100% as seen by the result of Lagos state in the last presidential elections, where dispute rigging Tinubu still lost.

If INEC has uncompromising in the conduct of the presidential elections, Tinubu would have been jumping from church to mosques, from bus stop to markets and from Ajegunle to Okokomaiko begging for votes.

Helgreenluv:
He is willing to refund her money. I've engaged him. But there is conflict of difference in the amount involved but we will surely reach a conclusion

God bless your sir for helping a anonymous stranger on the internet, without asking for anything in return. You type is rare in Nigeria. If just 10% of nigerian law enforcement officers have your attitude, Nigeria would be a better place for us all.

Obrigardo:
I'm not going to lie, I shed a little tear when I realized he actually hates his blackness and every black person. It's quite deeper than propaganda.

Imagine him comparing the treatment of Tony Timpa with that of George Floyd. Tony Timpa was treated with respect and was always asked if he was alright. Tony Timpa had only one knee on his back the whole time and not four as in the case of George Floyd. At no time was the knee near Tony Timpa's neck, but George Floyd pleaded with Derrick Chauvin to remove his leg from his neck.
This guy just hate black people.

Deepsight, you see what we have been dealing with. He has brought up another conspiracy theory he must have just gleamed off a white supremacy conspiracy site that it was excited delirium that killed George Floyd and not asphyxiation from sustained pressure on his neck and back as confirmed by the autopsy.

benalvino3:
The problem with you is onesidedness. That document I presented shows conclusion from both sides. I clearly stated that with a link to the document. See where you did not screenshot.

“AB (Andrew Baker) said that if Mr. Floyd had been found dead in his home (or anywhere else) and there were no other contributing factors he would conclude that it was an overdose death,” he said people have been pronounced dead on OD with less than what was in Floyd's system. Couple that with multiple disease Floyd had, including covid.

grand read the handwritten part of the document I presented.

Chauvin did not wake up one morning and decide he will kill a black man in front of multiple cameras.

Andrew Baker you are basing your conclusion that Floyd died of drug overdose never inferred that, he just stated an hypothetical position. He said if , I hope you understand what if means. He went further to state "and there were no other contributing factors". Dr Baker conclude with a caveat "I am not saying this killed him" How you conclude that he said that Floyd died of drug overdose is beyond belief.

Your blinkers did not permit you to see in the handwritten report where it was written "sternum fractured & a rib fracture appears to be from medical ....." how drug overdose can cause a fractured sternum and rib is a mystery.

DeepSight:
OK, thank you so far.

@ Wirinet: I have interrogated the suspect and so far, I am not sure he is saying what you suggest he is saying. To be clear, I don't agree with his suggestions, but they are not on all fours with what you have depicted. Let me place the caveat here that I have not read his past posts in this matter so I may not be as well informed as you are.

We all know benalvino3 and his alter ego basilico here. They are ultra white nationalists and anti anything black. They elevate ultra right wing propaganda to a religion. His last past says " Floyd took drugs period " meaning he believes drugs killed George Floyd and nothing can convince him otherwise.
Why not go through his post history to get a glimpse of his doctrines.

He insist Derrick Chauvin is innocent and was simply negligent in kneeling on a man's windpipe for 9 mins but his previous records showed otherwise. Not that facts like that will change benalvino3's beliefs.

The reports that was released 2 days ago by Louisville Police Department after the killing of Breonna Taylor in 2020 indicted the Louisville Police of racism against blacks, but the guy had been insisting that there is no racism at all in America, that whites are killed by police as much as black and that blacks are generally criminals, and so they deserved to be extrajudicially murdered.

The guy is loco.

benalvino3:
The medical report also ruled otherwise.

Floyd took drugs period.

https://www.mncourts.gov/mncourtsgov/media/High-Profile-Cases/27-CR-20-12646/ExhibitMtD08282020.pdf

Are you sane at all. You pasted a medical report certified by 2 doctors confirming Cause of Death to be Asphyxia due to neck and chest compression, but you interpret the report to mean cause of death is drug. How? Did you see anywhere where drugs was mentioned as the cause of death?

DeepSight:
Sorry I have not followed your posts in the past so I don't want to make any assumptions. Just as small question - Do you believe Derek Chauvin was right to kneel on that man's neck for almost 9 minutes?

The guy has been making a case for Derrick Chauvin's innocence and George Floyd's guilt, with a stupid argument that Chauvin was doing exactly as he was trained to do and that his over reaction was due to poor police training and not racial bias.

Berankis:
Average of 10 times in 3months is not too bad, that's like once a week.
Well, for the newly Weds, it could be more. But with time, sex frequency gradually declines

For newly weds? That's just too low. Newly wed should do it at least 7 or even more times or more in a week to establish strong long lasting bonds in the marriage. That's the purpose of honeymoon. Some people call it the 7 day challenge, where the couple are expected to hammer everyday unfailingly for 7 days. Some highly sexually motivated people go for the 21 day challenge.

It's after a few years of marriage that the sex is expected to dwindle to once or twice a month.

Femmyfamous4u:
I am very good with fore plays but she is the only lady i have been with that after kissing and sucking for minutes she will still not be wet. it puts me off the sex mood.

Was she circumcised? Women with highly mutilated clitoris tend to have very low sex drives.