mrbenjame:
I think I need matured minds to advice me because I’m very confused right now. Please take pains to read my story.

I dated a lady called Susan (not her real name ). For 4 years. I loved her so much and she did too. I met her when She was preparing to enter the university. 6 months into the relationship I went for service. Came back and it was already clocking 2 years. Whenever she visits I always try to make her comfortable. So she took advantage of my care and always wanted me to serve her all the time. Even when she visits from school she would be operating her phone and watch me do what on a normal terrain she should assist me do. As a young guy I try as much as I can to let her know that at least once in a while it would be nice to get my meal served by my woman even if I prepared it (since she doesn’t like entering the kitchen). Most time I overlook it because probably she’s very tired and all that. Sometimes I thought I was just being selfish but I really wanted to feel that woman attributes but I wasn’t seeing it.

Each time we fix time for a date she comes very late and that piss me off to my bone marrow. She never keeps to time. I endured this for a long time because she never turned up early in any appointment. She calls me at late hours and when I try to explain to her that it’s late she gets angry ( I’m talking of 12 am or there about) and I’ll go to work the next day. Anytime she offends me she would want to be romantic so I’d forget her wrongs just to calm me down. But I was suffering inside.

I felt very weak emotionally and decided to take things easy.

Until I met this lady called Benita (not her real name). I liked her. I admired everything about her. So I approached her while we were going back home from work. We had good conversations and I was happy because she was fun to be with. We exchanged contact and we started chatting. Forgive me because I became happy again just talking to her. Whenever we say goodbye when she gets off the bus she times when I’d get home and immediately I step my foot in my house she calls.( already I’ve told her when I’d be home). I invited her to a date in an eatery and she turned up 10 minutes to the time. I was shocked.

I became more involved with her. I invited her home. She went to my kitchen and she said “ your plates are not washed why? I just smiled and told her I’ll take care of that. Before I knew what was happening she’s started washing the plates. I begged her to stop because I didn’t send her to do that and besides it’s her first time in my house. But she refused. I let her (though the plates were not much but I was happy). She started visiting often with food items to cook. And I obliged to assist her. She refused again. We argued until she had her way. I just sit with her in the kitchen and gist while she cooks. To me I felt I was punishing her because all I wanted is that things of such can be done by her once in a while. (I sabi pity person o. Lols!). And secondly I’m not used to a woman doing things for me for a very long time now.

She calls all the time. Talks so lively and very funny. She’s not the miss romantic type but very smart and reserved.

After a while, you can’t cheat karma. Susan found out. She came to know about Benita. And since then it wasn’t easy settling between two of them. But Susan won’t just give up and I think I’m cool with Benita.

Today Benita is in her 100 level while Susan is about going for her service.

Now I’m trying to be responsible to settle down. I talked with my mum and some close friends of mine but they’re tipping Susan for me because she’s out of school and it would make things much easier for me than settling with Benita. But I love Benita now. She makes me happy. What do I do?

My little advice to you.....

So your mom and friends chose Susan because she out of school which you are not going to spend more money again on far right?.....

But didn't consider your happiness, how your future gonna look like? But that is up to you can you compromise that because of she is already made? Ask you sef

Ok am not saying that Benita is God sent that she is angel because of how she takes good care of you and your home any time she is around unlike Susan but even devil sef will chose Benita over Susan because it is clear that you will always feel pain being with Susan and if you marry her it will be forever unless you quit the marriage halfway and for Benita you know change is constant and women can't be trusted with that early wife material showing but you have seen how and what she is good at and it most thing that interest you in a woman, the only thing now is for you to pray to God and wish she will not going to change in future and if she continues like that you will live a happy man forever.

soobaba:
Hi guys,
So I'll be very direct and summarize this as possible. But please bear with me if I get carried away...

I've been been dating my girlfriend for a year now and we are very serious and I'm even considering proposing to her, but we are not based in the same town.

So I called her with another number last night, she couldn't recognize my voice cause I sounded different, so I decided to play around cause we gist and make fun of each other a lot. So I acted like I was someone who got her number and is trying to toast her.

She asked who was speaking and I said Victor, that I got her number when I saw her in the bank, we were on the same queue, so I copied her number from her teller, she laughed and all, so after all the lines I poured out, she was just laughing and flowing along, so I asked if we could see that night, but she said it was late but I had to persuade her, so she agreed that I instead come to her place to see her. "This is someone she hasn't met before and she agreed for him to come see her at her place, in the night for that matter".

So I asked for her address and she gave out her real address, asked if she has a boyfriend and she said yes but we ain't in the same town.
I got upset and had to open up and ask why she's cheating on her guy? At this point she was mute and ended the call. I called back but she didn't answer anymore.

So I just dropped a message on WhatsApp that I was disappointed.

Her reply was devastating: she wrote;
"keep your disappointment in your pocket.
Don't even get me more angry.
Just do yourself a favor by not ever mentioning me in your mouth again.
Remove everything that has to do with me in your phone and life.
Rubbish.
No be only disappointment.
Grow up.
Comot for my front make I see road jor..."

I haven't replied her yet, don't even know what to say to her right now, thought about calling her but my brother told me not to, that I should just free her. Please guys what should I do?

Moderator please help me move this to front page...

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Am glad that you have a reasonable brother just take his advice, trying to talk to her again will Bleep the whole thing, haven't you seen now she is playing victim and trying to twist everything to get you begging? That's how they fool us but only the foolish one will fall for that, just act like you careless i know it hurts but with time you will get over it. Don't be a weak ass

ogabentley:
I have been good friends for 5 years with a couple who live in one of the 4 self contain apartment where i reside.
We do hang out during weekends and sometimes in the evenings. recently Frank travelled and his wife asked me to come over and fix their Dstv that it wasnt working. it was an easy fix just needed to place a wire which was out of the decoder and it was done.
as i started to leave, she asked me why i had never made advances at her.
"i told her because you are married"
"married yes, but i do see the way you stare at me, i know you want me" she replied.
then she let the wrapper she tied fall off her body, i was shocked seeing a married woman stark naked before my very eyes.
i told her it wasnt right and hurridly left before someone sees me
since then i havent spoken to her.
what should i do, should i tell her husband?

For the sake of say make you no go hang your sef if we no comment because we know you are lying ���

Thanks caption though ''handsome'' may be she refering to his pocket because if its other way around... I go just leave this country for am.

prince985:
I've been engaging in morning jogging for some weeks now, and I noticed some joggers usually clap twice when we cross paths. Is it a kind of greeting? How do I respond?

Hahahaha it happened to me the first time i started jogging but i get to use of it when i discover it joggers way of cheering others up or greeting.

But wait ooo... Where is your location or Is this clapping of a thing everywhere because i thought is only practice by people around here.

Marriage no dey this girl/lady/woman mind so oo...

First you said she is soft with guys that one alone is a red flag bro, a lady like that will cheat on you at any slight mistake she might not do intentionally but do to vulnerable lady she is, she will not have that strength to resist any sexual advances especially from her ex because they might still be around her and the worst will happen is you ever travel and leave her behind like a month plus.

This guy's arrest is the only news that aunty Kemi posted that's actually truth.

This guy's arrested is the only news that aunty Kemi posted that is actually truth.

Guy you such a weakling pussy worshiper, I personally hate guys like you with passion always getting emotional for a mere pussy damn.

My advice is that as the deed is done because you f*cked up big time, what is left for you is for you to man up and never f*cking call her or give her attention just forget her and move on with your life and never you do that mistake again because many girls hate weak guys they don't feel save being with weak guys,

Naturally women don't value what they can have easily they love what they find difficult to have or can't have, just count your loss bro and move on, but believe me she thinks she is smart but she made a big mistake when she told you that you are the best guy she ever met and don't know whether she is going to find any guy like you again, that statement will turn out to hunt her in future, she will never find any guy like you she must come back to you when she realises that but it might be late then.

If you like throw away my advice but you will realise the power of my wisdom i passed to you now.

This Americans sef I wonder why someone will just go inside a far place with no body living around and build a house with only trees around, don't they get scared living there all alone.?

mildteddy:
Start with JavaScript

You might start and end your whole career using only JavaScript. It is relatively easy to learn, you can easily get support online (StackOverflow) when you're stuck and it is a movement in the industry.
In 2018, I would have said Python, but the truth is that with NodeJS and the Various frontend and backend frameworks, JavaScript has dwarfed most of the other languages, because unlike the other languages, you can be a full-stack developer (frontend and backend) with only JavaScript. And with React-Native around, you can also develop Mobile apps for iOS and Android with JavaScript only.

Please Can a person with no idea on what problem mean just that he/she has passion for it lean programming?
And how can he start?

Damn i can't and can never allow my sister to travel to Dubai a week of business talkles of my wife traveling to Dubai... du watin? Most our women that travel to that country for business use to do ashawo work before coming back, like they will go with a month visa to buy goods with no extra money to buy goods sef but before that month runs out they will hustle good money to buy goods and come back.

All this Edo big girls that's what dey go do and come back just in an interval of a month or 2, if you have visited Dubai deira precisely all you here from our brothers there is Edo girls this Edo girls that.

Ellatee256:
Hi everyone,
I'm 23 yrs and currently running my HND program.
I have a bf and we have been dating for almost a year.

We do almost everything together and we see each other every single day...
But now am irritated by him.

He comes to my hostel from his office everyday but now seeing him irritates me the more.
I just want a break but I don't want to hurt him.
This isn't the first time its happening to me,
I've had two boyfriends before I met my new bf and same thing happened with them.

Its just like I meet a guy I like..,we love each other and I get excited and then few months later I get irritated by them....

I told my elder sis about it and she dragged me to church saying I have spiritual problems but that's not the issue....

Sometimes I just want my time alone but my bf doesn't seem to understand that.
Have tried to ignore him and all but he doesn't get the message am passing........
He wants me to meet his mum but have been giving him excuses....

I don't know why I feel like this with only the guys I date cuz I don't feel that way with my friends and family in fact I want to be with them everyday but its different in my relationships...
I want to end things with my boyfriend without hurting him cuz I can't keep acting and I can't keep wasting his time.

I think I have a problem and I don't know what to do.
I don't want this to affect me when I get married cuz there won't be a break in marriage...
Pls kindly advice
Thanks

I think we share the same problem here, my own is that if I see a girl i like i will be seeing her like she all and my last if a get her, but if i shoot my shot and she say yes I will feel super excited and wanting to show her off to anyone that cares but it will only last for few months. My own worst sef i have never be in a relationship reach one year, this issue gives serious thought till i decided to break from girls till i meet the one i will cherish forever because i don know whether it is because the types of girls i met or whatever, some times i worry over this but never have the courage to seek for advice.

But i never believe is something spiritual and most of my fears is can i get married with someone and live with her forever? Because am someone that likes privacy very well.

When village pipo is always cooking a mod pot for you,...... Car washer de do testing?

This country is in big problems, just legodu what a police officer is wearing.... Very disgusting.

It's well known that women always craving for what they can't have

Ndi ntu wetakwa ya eeeh

Lazy ass youth

Money over everything, if not because of that money who will care about her way about.

So this is our own version of Ghana must go... Nigeria must go�

Karma

Francisayo:
My life has always been going well until I lost my dad when I was in year one in university, it shocked me so hard but I still manage to graduate...

I graduated and served d nation.

I have always been an extrovert and I like places that are lively...

I have a lovely gf who is so understandable even though I'm not taking care of her as expected cos of my lack of job

I served and returned home, I have spent 9 months at home since after my service, I looked for job everywhere but no job in sight, my uncle looked for job for me but d job is too tough with little salary ( they call it sales representative but d description is of sales boy), going to work from Monday 8 am to 6 pm Saturday with 18k salary which 6k will go for transport fare in a month.

I know I won't be able to cope with it so I rejected it, but it now seems I'm becoming a burden to my family as they look at me as if I don't want to work.

A woman told me to come and be teaching in her school, jss1 and jss2 only typically a new school, the school location is typically a village, but d pressure from home is much for me and doubt
left me with no choice than to accept d offer, d pay is 25k per month... Though out of it I'll be d one to pay for rent and furnish it, house rent is #1500/month....

I traveled to d place today and I can't believe what i met, d place is a very local place and everywhere is just so quiet and boring, i have 5 students in my class.

My gf is already serving and we've not seen each other for months which is already having a bad effect on our relationship...i got home this afternoon and having deep thinking with tears in my eyes if this is how i will continue to live my life...Im 27yrs of age and seems no direction in where my life is going...

Pls, i need mature advice from mature people pls...

It's looking as if i can't survive here at all and my gf is complaining cos better things are not looking to be forthcoming soon.

I'm typing this with tears in my eyes, pls pardon d errors

I was laughing my off my ass here not in a mockery but is just that i find some of your of the things you stated here funny
[/size]they call it a sells representative but you call it sells boy
And
[size=8pt] teaching in a school that you have only 5 students to teach
It got me cracking ��� but i fill your pain bro.

In this country I don't advice anyone to look for job after graduation because first you will be frustrated and disappointed which can lead you to some extent of going extra mile to make money illegal and frustration can make you accept a low life job, bros why can't you go and learn a skill where is many life saving skills (handwork) that can make you a great person tomorrow if you're smart and brilliant enough, and also make a boss just in interval of two years, brother wake up and stop being weak. Don't let your condition today to limit you tomorrow.

Michellekabod2:
Many people are congratulating me for leaving feminism. I never stopped being a feminist and never will! I only stopped advocating for women to be feminists(except they chose to) since most of them don't understand the concept.
I , personally am a feminist (one who believes in equality of both genders) but henceforth will stop speaking up about it....

Although wicked humans like Ubunja deserve to be called out for what they are,I will be stop canvassing for equality as it's giving ladies the leverage to be male haters and not serving it's purpose which is equality of both men and women.

Who cares if you like be a feminister dumbass

phidipe:
Hello pals.

Please i need your honest and sincere advice advice please and i will be very happy if you help me out of this silent desire of mine. i attend a church with this woman. She is a lecturer and a widow. She lost her husband some years back and she has two beautiful children a girl and a boy. since i started worshiping in this church my desire is always towards her most of the time i will be staring at her she knows am always do that.

Sometime she will lock her eyes with mine she is older than me a Phd holder and working in a federal university. Please it seems i like this woman. but i don;t want to mess up myself and get disgraced. So please how do get my intention known to her, i asked the Pastor about the pastor said she is free and seriously needs a companion but my pastor is not someone to discuses the intention with from my observation he is not good in that aspect.

So please my fellow nairalander help me out please i am dying in silence, i am not married but i have kids from a woman that has remarried she left when i have nothing then. I am of age too but not as old as her Honest advice please

So we should help you get a sugar mummy, is I may ask will you standard his dead husband spirit confrontation if it occur? Can you?

Mima6:
Good day all.
When I first came here, the first word I noticed was 'Shiloh' and any unmarried lady above 25 is headed there according to them. Now what I'm asking is why do you people think like that?
First of all, not all ladies want to marry early. There is no particular age limit for marriage. What works for you might not work for another person.
Also, everybody has goals that they want to achieve in their lives, even women. I know those goals might seem trivial to the male folks but they are actually important to females. Failure to achieve them could lead to unhappiness and dissatisfaction later in life.
Marriage comes with a lot of responsibilities for men as well as women, especially when they start having kids. By then, the woman would be weighed down by house chores and kids making it difficult for her (especially without help) to start any sort of business or pursuit.
On the other hand, don't be surprised that there are ladies out there that don't want to get married at all. They have their reasons and we need to respect that.
I know this is a faceless forum and all but we need to improve on this behavior of judging people because they think or act differently from us.
Thanks for reading.

Feminist spotted..... We know them by how they talk, always projecting gender equality.

Bluehill1051:
#She likes playing with my balls. I feel it really really deep in me, very scary. I was always scared she could twist them .
#Her tongue in my ear
#Veejay lets sounds out like fart sometimes
#Veejay can get so wet, it might even drop to the ground. At first I thought she peed but it was all slippery.
#She always moan loud. So loud that at some point I had to stop n tell her she was really loud. She said, "this is akwaibom, nobody really cares"
#Which other one again.... I'll tell you when I remember

Hahahaha... I really had similar experiences of all you just said.

She moans very loud that i stop and tell her people could hear us and we will laugh it off and continue again, sweet memories though.

And when doing doggy something she will shout at me that i put it in wrong hole and i like that wrong hole because it is so tight, am still wondering where is that wrong hole.

TundeeednuT:
Lies

Don't believe and keep getting bigger until you are unable to move.

Men see you as sex object because the way you dress shows that sex is the only thing you can offer and i wonder how one can penetrate this with a dick sef.

somto10:
I wonder y some countries are at liberty to build nuclear weapons while others can't....
World class marginalization.....
Datz one of the reasons America thinks they are super power..
Let everyone develop their own nuclear weapons and u'll c most of ds dia gra gra go stop...
Datz one thing i respect d short man of North Korea for.
He Strongly bliv another man can't stay in the comfort of his country and dictate what happens in his country..
Today North Korea is respected military wise..

I just pity Africa cuz we no get..
South Africa dat wanted to develop theirs later shut d site down fr d fear of US sanctions...
Rubbish

Haha the almighty America who don't fear them?