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Thank you @freecocoa. Some people here pretend not to understand. Even if you like build 100 duplexes, have 50 cars, businesses scattered all over the world, etc. ALL THOSE ACHIEVEMENTS DONT COUNT FOR ANYTHING IF YOU'VE NOT BEEN ABLE TO SUCCESSFULLY MANAGE A FAMILY ALONG WITH ALL THAT. Ask your elders cos it seems most of y'all are either pretending or were not raised with our culture. For those naming all their achievements, You never for one day wondered why your parents, elders and indeed your society do not see it as snuff as long as u're still single? Why do they peek to see if there's a family behind the man or continually encourage you to do so? Why is the wealth insignificant in their eyes? You are seen as complete & a full grown man when you have a home to add to all that. A man is never made a BISHOP UNLESS HE HAS SUCCESSFULLY MANAGED HIS HOME. Search ur Bible. And who helps to determine that success? A cantankerous woman? No. Reason why a 'good' woman is behind his success as a man.

Looks like each word from the topic is being dissected separately. We're all talking about different things. Not saying a guy cant be successful before he gets married. Depends on your definition of success. But that does not make him a MAN yet.

Looks like each word from the topic is being dissected separately. We're all talking about different things. Not saying a guy cant be successful before he gets married. Depends on your definition of success. But that does not make him a MAN yet.

My dear, having the courage to take up that responsibility alone qualifies a man. Not all males walking around have reached that maturity or have the courage to take the step. Whether he fails or not is another matter. Cos the Bible says, 'A MAN who cannot feed his family is worse than an infidel'. It only makes him a far lesser man than he should be.

I have said mine. U can ask your elders. Being a man comes with responsibilities- not just yourself.

Hmmmmm. The measure of a MAN is his ability to successfully manage a 'home'- marriage. A single guy is not a man yet. So the saying is for married folks! For MEN. There's a special blessing attached to getting married, call it God's own gift or treat. If u're fortunate to marry a 'good' woman, measure & compare ur success from the point she came in.

Hmmmmm. The measure of a MAN is his ability to successfully manage a 'home'- marriage. A single guy is not a man yet. So the saying is for married folks! For MEN. There's a special blessing attached to getting married, call it God's own gift or treat. If u're fortunate to marry a 'good' woman, measure & compare ur success from the point she came in.

Make the present U-21 team our senior team, and hunt for outstanding players from the various local clubs to be the new U-21

Not trying to cause them any harm or suggest anything. But it seems it's you guys that can't read in-between lines or just choose to deny the fact that the woman is indeed weak to her ex boyfriend. The earlier he calls her to order and severes ties between them, with her willing to do so, the better for them. Else they are living a lie.

A HUSBAND calls HIS WIFE & she cuts off the call as soon as she recognized it was him?. I think u already know what is happening with your wife- with her confessing and crying on an earlier occasion. What would make a woman disrespect her husband by sleeping with an ex? @OP, Sorry i wont give any advice. I think u should be man enough to take charge of ur home and life. Are you too soft for ur wife to dare continue with her behaviour even after the confession? Then it is time to man up. Unless she wants to destroy her marriage. Dont accept any nonsense from someone that vowed to be yours forever. If she doesn't want to remain a married woman, she should say so.

Fickle:
Keep your stinking thoughts to yourself. It is a free forum and I can decide to write whatever I want. Its not compulsory you pass by, you should have stayed away if you knew you were so damn sensitive. Maybe you are the Ijeoma in question. Authentic indeed, do you show your real identity here or expose your dealings with guys here, No. I don't want to have any fight because I see thats your plan but in my current condition, I suggest you stay clear of me because sometimes I am quiet but I know too much. Leave me to my grief. Thank you.

I will glad to read an authentic story from you though, it would be refreshing and entertaining to the people who like the truth or should I help tell your story, you know I have a crazy imagination and I can imagine what you have been up to here.

Know enough indeed. Pls help us with the facts. I dont have anything stupid here, so pls do. Glad you finally went back to your other ID, the one you responded with went silent, so i knew it was a matter of little time for you to think of a comeback. And for your info honey, i dont take this place serious. Ijeoma indeed. Sorry i wont grace you with a story just because u requested. I write real happenings-if & when they do happen. I aint picking any fight with you ok? So try to save the embarrassed, trying-to-cover-up facade. And dont worry, i wont expose you. Lol. You can grace this with another fake comeback, ain't gonna waste another second replying you.

Nayah:
You can call me aunty if you want too

Lol. Funny gal. Abeg drop dat thing jare. Many people re fake here. Dont encourage them.

Nayah:
wow  if this is a real story, well I don't think this is the perfect place to talk aunty

Aunty indeed. This is an anonymous site, yet some people are calling aunty? When the character they are thinking someone is, is indeed false? Lol. Calling their age mates aunty. Funny bunch. Wonder who is more incredible & unbelievable- the OP or this.

Another attention seeking thread. U know, it gets annoying when some people continually try to use double ID to seek attention. You post as one, and respond with the other. Nairaland is surely not what it was before. Seun u better watch it, cos a lot of people are losing faith in this site. Loads of crap, some even making the front page. THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE A PLACE WHERE PEOPLE COME WITH AUTHENTIC PROBLEMS OR INFORMATION , AND SEEK OTHERS' OPINION OR HELP. And not to write unfounded, imaginary, untrue stories. If u want to learn to be a suspense writer, look for another avenue.

The Imo State Government is set to sign approval for minimum wage with Labour today, Monday 24th October. Just that this time, it is not the Federal Government approved #18,000. Instead the government is to pay her workers a minimum of #20,000. This governor Rochas Okorocha says is to help alleviate the sufferings of the people.

@OP, u have to determine the 'treating right' before finalizing anything. She might be receptive of you now and may want u guys to go ahead. But make sure u watch carefully for any reference to age if you guys have any misunderstanding, or frequent mood changes on her part. If these happen, then pls save yourself future heartbreak by looking for a woman that is completely ok with it. Make sure you use your head and eyes. There are women that will treat u like a king and completely respect u. You might be older than her or she will. That is the one you need. And remember, never beg any woman to accept you. You will have a life of misery if you do.

ndi be anyi ekelee m unu o!!! Ubochi oma. Igbo na enweghi atu!!

@OP, U know very well it's ur age that's making her change her mind toward you. So, tell us, ARE U OLDER OR YOUNGER THAN HER? And by how many yrs? You have to ask her if she has changed her mind toward you. Don't guess. Women are complicated. If you think she might be wanting you to chase her, then don't be surprised if you go to see her one day & find she has a new boyfriend. If she doesn't wanna see you, ask her over the phone, so u know your stand. If she don't wanna, move on.

kpolli:
my advice: her real bf has dumped her. . . do likewise

This comes so close. @OP, ask her if u did anything to annoy her. If the answer is in the negative, then it's either she's pulling ur legs, or,, hmmmmm, kpolli just hit the nail on the head- 2go boyfriend. Besides 2go is one nonsense site, i must say. Look at the rubbish stories trailing it. No matter wat we may say here, ur heart is already divided. Only you can advise yourself. Only a girl knows who her boyfriend really is. It's a really bad trend that some have chosen to be polygamous in their r/ships- no trust anymore. Pls can we be faithful in our r/ships??

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=785400.msg9380568#msg9380568 date=1319105549]^^Shakespearean English ke? lol. All is well Miss Cocoa. The thread reeks of High-Self esteem patients.[/quote]I think everyone(or most) know the question is vain. That's why I included God after replying. Don't act all high handed girl. Some people are just humouring the OP. I almost never answer such question in real life,, or I jst suffice it to 'GOD'. Loosen up. If everyone shd be stiff or over serious here, no one will log in here to laugh or loosen up.

magnetic personality, sense of humour, intellectual, some bit of knowledge of current affairs - can hold a conversation on any sector, humility,. When it reaches fiancee stage, i might add good cook,lol. Mature, independent, confident (na im go dey fear to lose me, nt de other way round) hehe, etc.etc., ALL glory to my Daddy(GOD). Na im hand work am.

slapping a man is not right, though some men lack self respect. E.g insulting another's whole family, or calling a girl names (especially when she doesn't deserve such). Wat do u call a guy who continually pesters and harrasses a lady with his advances? If the lady is provoked more than she could chew, hmmmmmm. Where are the men and women of yester years? I'm always inspired whenever i hear our grandmothers and great grandmothers talk about discipline. How beautifully they raised their children. This present generation- God help us. Women that slap men, men that are no different from bulls in behaviour. I will always love old school. Men and women of honour, men who respect women- who don't see them as sex objects, mature, men who command respect even from their mates,. I pray to meet and marry such. The present breed of women need to go back to the drawing board. Too much 'civilization' is causing more harm than good. Rebellious kids and adults all over the place.

goodsegs:
I think HIV is more pronounced even in Nigeria than Uganda? she is a descent girl too,

There is a saying, '' He that the gods want to destroy, they first make deaf''. See you defending yourself. If you knew so much what to do, why ask for our opinions? Go ahead and marry your miss lust, Oh Mr Wise. If that girl was decent as you claim, why invite an engaged man to her room? Some of you men don't deserve faithful wives. What you sow, you reap.

i find it difficult raising my hands to anyone (even kids), so IF ever i do, everyone wuld be against de offender., cos am nt known to exchange words,not to talk of violence. Slapping a grown man? Even a male relation few years younger than you? That is total disrespect, ,although the men should exercise self control. Cos a beating in anger could turn out to be devastating. Anger not controlled is short madness. A man's pride is important to him, and in the process of giving a 'practical' lecture in future occurrence, emotions will be at fray. Kirikiri is no respecter of persons oooo. So watch the testosterone.

@restless dude, what makes you a man? Ur muscles? Prick? Not every male that have those is worthy to be called a man.,,,. if your fiancee were to be in your shoes presently, what would you wish her to do? Tell yourself the truth. You do not want to add blackmail to your collections when you return. SOME SWEET THINGS CAN KILL,,.Ask your fellow men regretting their excapades.

[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=784175.msg9365856#msg9365856 date=1318941399]Whaaaat? I will summersalt 3 times in the air and land wit a backhand slap on her jaws [/quote]If no be you, who else? Abeg somersault am 50 times, so dat by de time u recover, she go use ur bombom do football-----> straight to pluto.

sexkillz:
[color=#000055][size=14pt]Oboy! Na Pidginating levels i dey na! Haba! Your oga no sack you dat day? [/size][/color]

dearie, culdnt continue. Network no gree.

I choose No1(b) and No2(a), Hey, dont contend dat. hehehe.

Now where is Ileke-Idi when you need her? Nothing to say? Probably cos it's not 'Igbo' related? This one comes close to home abi? Lol.