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whether low or high key, none is a crime. Let's not try to cast aspersions on any,. Christ himself attended a wedding feast. Just cut your cloak according to your size. Marriage is no competition. The world is looking at the marriage, not the ceremony.

for those supporting the boy, that shows the level of moral decay which abound in the society. Will you carry all the stolen wealth you make to the grave- even any? One thing is sure: no matter how we try to console and deceive ourselves with below bar standards, God's own sstandard has never and will never change for anyone. You will still answer to Him

a real pity. Many parents will indeed answer to their misdeeds on that day. Ha!! Nobody asks small boys that suddenly become rich questions! You parade yourselves as 'papa & mama rich boy'. Shame on you.

good thing you've buried the feelings you had for her. Now, look back at the words you used to describe your girl in your last post. My dear, NOBODY is perfect. We have done one 'unbelievable' (your word) thing or the other- even you. If God can forgive you, then who are you not to? And why do you talk with certainty that she must have slept with the man- why condemn someone you knew as decent so outrightly? Yes, it culd be painful to you that she sent the video & msgs, but assuming that was wisdom in playing the man without giving him wat he wanted, and maintaining her result without an F? I have told you before: put away the jealousy and think clearly. If you dont really like the method she used, tell her. But make sure you discuss another strategy with her in taking care of any future occurrence. That's why you are her husband-to-be. If you leave that girl, the one u might meet next might be too sharp for you. She might not have any mails for you to see.lol. Decent outside, something else within. Dont lose your pearl Mr Man, else someone will help you cherish it.

@francisj & co, too bad to see such words emanating from you. What is the big deal in sleeping wt a lecturer? You have unwittingly condemned your girls as cheap commodities that must sleep with anyboby just to get something. And you have become the invisible spider that knows what transpired between his woman and the lecturer just because you think all girls must surely do that? Very terrible.
@goodsegs, you know your wife or you should know her well. You know the level of her truthfulness with you in the past. You know her moral values. Dont think with jealousy still beclouding your senses. Keep that aside and think straight. You know her. Nobody here does. Never allow strangers or immature minds instigate you or be the ones directing your r/ship or marriage. If you are indeed ready to be called a married man, you should grow in maturity. We should be the ones learning from you. So quit rolling around in sheets with girls you should be teaching responsibility.

@OP, first of all, take a deep breath. Have u done that? Good. Cos ur head was up in smokes a while ago. Let me ask you: did you sleep with that ur ugandan girl? Can you sit your girl down and tell her if you did? What would be her reaction if she got to know? Since you got back you have not breathed a word to her concerning the other girl in your life, so most probably she thinks you're a good man, while you left the books you were supposed to be reading over there and was busy looking at girls, while she was bak home waiting for you. On the other hand she told you about a lecturer that was pestering her, who stupidly asked her to send a video of herself after she succeeded in deceiving and running away from him. She for the second time, cunningly sent one with her fully clothed. And when you came back, being a girl that has been open with you from the beginning, asked you to help her send some mails- from her own account! If she was a 'sharp' girl, she'd have deleted that long ago, but no, she left it, even knowing you would see it. Yet she asked you to open her account- giving you her password. Now that you have seen it, your thoughts have been whether she slept with the man(forgetting u are not a saint with your ugandan girl & any other one you dealt with). Forgetting that a deceitful girl would never have given you access to her account in the first place. That even if she was too busy, she would have waited to send those mails herself, knowing what you could see. But here is the trusted fiance waiting for us to give him the go-ahead to break up with her. OP, if you know you have no skeletons in your cupboard, open your mouth and condemn her. You dont even have the courage to tell her of your affairs, but she who did let you know about the man you want to condemn. PLS if you want to leave her, do quick. There are plenty guys out there looking for truthful girls to marry. It's not something you find easily these days. You mess and might continue to mess yourself up with your girls when you go back, and maybe even after you are married. Yet you dont want any person of yours to do that. Are you truly mature for marriage? Do you even understand what is required of people that want to enter it? Because if you did, you would respect yourself.

You're here talking about taking her under your roof, is she not taking YOU into her life too? Na so u go dey lust after every other ugandan babe and her likes. Talk of double standards. OP, repent and forsake your ways. Otherwise you might get in future wat u do to others. And also tell your girl all that you did overseas, so she can consider if she wanna take you back too.

You can tolerate Ugandan babe turning your head and probably having fun with her, but you can't tolerate your girl paying even a small attention to another man? Let this teach you a lesson. Wat u know you can't tolerate, dont do it to another person.

Get a life of your own. Keep yourself occupied. Go out with friends. Give him a wide gap. Stay away for a while. If he comes back to his senses and grows up & you still love him then, you can go ahead. But if not, honey move on. You will find someone who will totally love and respect you. And hey, since you know you are weak where he is concerned and easily fall, you should consider quitting the phone calls and stop picking his.

@OP, If you keep doing that honey, he would NEVER RESPECT YOU NOR VALUE YOU. You would just be a rebound. Someone who he knows will always take him back whenever he messes up, so long as he can always pretend to be sorry. In marriage, this is the kind of situation the guy could even openly do it with no qualms toward the wife- even bring the girlfriends home. By the way, the forgiving wifey will overlook. In my opinion, for the fact he was your best friend is even enough reason for him to give you the highest respect. But obviously he knows you too well. Time for you to show him he doesn't know you anymore. Stop taking cow dung from him!

He needs to stop being a boy, and grow into a man. That's what.

Ambrose Ali Uni too. huh? Lol. Students don see fire. Nawa for some administrations oo. So after wasting 5yrs, wetin those students go hear? '' Sorry your school is not approved. We can't employ you''. Ha! 9ja. Where is due process?

what is evil is evil. if you know you no longer love someone or think toward marriage with them anymore, simply tell them so and cut it off. what you know won't be good to your taste if you are on the receiving end, dont do it to another.

@claremont, we know all that. Lol, dont know why some of you are taking this topic so serious. Nobody is a dundee here. U forget this is nairaland (funland). Hmmmmmm. U fail to understand the humor on this thread. You guys should loosen up. Everyone has a valid point- whether for or against.

For my friends that don't understand what I meant, let me come clearer. I did not say or mean that a man <male> cannot be successful when single. Go to my comments again- i stated that somewhere. A friend told me, '' I understand what u mean, but try to explain to them''. Well I said, '' I want to play them a bit''. LOL. Pls I am talking from the society's perspective, ok? How the society we live in views it. Like my beautiful Igbo. Being a man is not something given to boys. A young guy, no matter how wealthy, is not truly called a man until he has assumed responsibility. More is expected of him. Note: First of all, 'Man' I mean here doesn't necessarily mean just a male. It has a different tone. It connotes someone complete, responsible, no longer seen as a boy or too young, mature. In our present society, even if he's all that as a single guy or has achieved much, nobody will really accrue it to him to call him a full blown MAN the way they view 'man' to be. To them he only assumes that when he finally says, '' I'm moving up a notch. I'm old enough & mature enough to take responsibility of another other than myself. To obey the commandment, '' Be fruitful and multiply''. He is patted on the back and brought into the fold. That said, adding 'successful' to it, of course only a good wife can help him achieve that. No husband can move forward with a cantankerous or disagreeable wife. Now talking about the Lord or apostle paul- cos peter had a wife. I'm not saying they were not men. I'm using our own society as an example, don't know what was the norm in theirs at that time. But you'll agree with me that in most societies, it is almost the same. A certain respect comes with assuming responsibility. You might be praised as a successful single man(male), but never complete or seen as a full blown man when it's just you. And yes, mothers and sisters can contribute to motivating a man to achieve more, but nobody will really see them. They are mostly seen as 'by-the-side' women. They would want to see your chairlady. BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL MAN IS A GOOD WOMAN. That saying was made by society- with the woman in mind being a wife. They were looking at the marriage institution. We can't fully digest it if we tackle it from an angle outside that which they had in mind- as single for instance. Hope I'm clearer now. If i am to say my own view, i might include all. Both single and married.

asha 80:
forget it.she is boxed to a corner as it is.

If you had said something intelligent, I'd have been surprised. Thanks for not alarming me.

asha 80:
forget it.she is boxed to a corner as it is.

If you had said something intelligent, I'd have been surprised. Thanks for not alarming me.

sexkillz:

[color=#000055][size=14pt]Was Jesus Successful? Was he a Man?. . .[/size][/color]

Read all my comments honey. I already took care of those questions. G'nite.

Claus:
Searching the Bible fully would lead us to conclude that Jesus, Paul and a handful of others never became men.

When u have taken time to read again, understand and see that i've answered that, then comment.

tlops:
I think winslet is single and looking for a MAN, goodluck jonathan with that!

Thanks. Meanwhile hit ur head on de nearest wall & badluck tlops wit that.

sexkillz:
[size=15pt][color=#000055] +100  [/color][/size]

Even you cannot read.

^^^ My dear i understand u. On a normal basis, it is supposed to read ERROR if it exceeds. But this is our beautiful network providers. Lol.

Geography, Economics, Government, Agric, French, Igbo, English, Biology, Physics. Lol. Sorry it passed. Hehe.

The eleven numbers are constant. Even if other numbers are added after the eleven or twelve (depending on the network you're using), it only recognizes the main eleven/twelve. E.g in a poor network area, if u add 11, , to the eleven numbers u want to call, it goes faster. Lol. No matter how many numbers u add after the standard number, only the original numbers are recognized, and therefore it still goes through. Understood?

@hakariki, i wont bother answering ur questions. Cos it's obvious you are determined not to understand wat i meant. Dont argue blindly. Take time to read well & in-between lines. Those that have done so have kept quiet cos they fully get it. Our problem still remains the patience to read well before commenting.

@hakariki, i wont bother answering ur questions. Cos it's obvious you are determined not to understand wat i meant. Dont argue blindly. Take time to read well & in-between lines. Those that have done so have kept quiet cos they fully get it. Our problem still remains the patience to read well before commenting.

@hakariki, i wont bother answering ur questions. Cos it's obvious you are determined not to understand wat i meant. Dont argue blindly. Take time to read well & in-between lines. Those that have done so have kept quiet cos they fully get it. Our problem still remains the patience to read well before commenting.

^^^ love u. Dont worry this place is full of it. I guess i'd just comment on dem topics, even if i think they're fake from now on. Nairaland has fallen in standard. But maybe someone out there will benefit from de replies anyway.

Then do DNA to determine the whether the child is yours. If yes, wait for the seven yrs. Of course the child needs to be with its mother for a time. Dont stop giving money for your child's upkeep. If you dont think the girl's heart is with u, it is not by force to marry anyone.

@2buff, i completely agree. Percentage of ladies to men in that- 80, 20. Lol. I will continue to say it, when you speak, anyone can be able to determine what's upstairs. You dont have to stand on rooftops announcing it.

@gbagbo. Haba. Read well now. I never said a man can't be successful as single. Of course he can achieve feats as one. Read well ooo. I said the society won't see you as someone responsible, mature or worthy to be trusted with certain duties until he has been able to prove he can manage others aside from himself successfully. That is my point. That is only when they see you as a MAN in the real sense of the word.

Hope u get it now? Bottomline, they ain't looking at your money or degrees. But rather if you have a home, and how well u've been able to manage it. You are seen as successful when it is above bar, cos they know raising a family is not the easiest job in the world, cos it involves a human like you- unpredictable, different beliefs, with emotions, etc. So when and if u have somehow made a success of that (instead of inanimate things like wealth & degrees), you can be seen as a man-full grown one at that. Then the applause comes. As for the lady talking about men that killed their family, that occurrence you know is abnormal. In the land of sane people, they dont count.