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Lol@y'all, de lady must have moved on & probably gotten married to de other man. Chill.

Naijagal12:
My husband and I are expecting our first child and the way he’s acting already is insane. He is extremely overprotective. I can't even get out of bed or off the couch without him standing behind me trying to steady me & I'm only 2 months pregnant! You’ll think he knows better because he is a doctor but nope he’s like losing his mind  . He calls me every hour to check if everything is ok. It’s truly heart warming.

I also love how he rubs my little belly and feet. He also listens to my heartbeat and the baby’s heartbeat when I’m sleeping and I act like I don’t see him. Whenever I stop by the hospital to give him food, he tells everybody to come and say hi to his beautiful wife… it’s so cute.

I love! . . . . Awww so many sweet stories. I pray i'll have a truly lovely man in my life too! None yet. Enjoy ur marriages! Really Cool.

@daduke, how ur wifey? U stil ex?

Talkin dirty and denying it? Wel if her hands wer clean she could hav at least admitted & told u she was kidding. . But hey! Wit up to 15 guys? Wat kind of image is she giving herself? Duh

Tel him to pick up his shoes and keep running till he reaches de end of de earth(if he can find it). Since it's not there, he should continue till he clocks 100. By then she'd have 4gotten about him. Hahahahahahaha

Nice one. @190, u smart. Good

[quote author=baby.me link=topic=583997.msg7513748#msg7513748 date=1294818954]Boy---- Mr Cork, 190, D-sense
Girl---- Ms. Potatoe, aminalib, Mzdark
[/quote]disaster! LMAO

Erm. . .none @de moment. Looooolest. . . . . ,@Mrs eve, congrats on ur pregnancy. Sweet.

@OP, There's a very simple solution. If u're sure u don't luv her anymore, kindly compile all her money & give them back. Then u can tel her. I bet it would be easier 4 her to digest if u do that. . Then u can have ur ex all to yourself- so long as u dont come back here wit another of such threads to disturb our ears. . . . . Warning: ladies, never spend so much on any man. Pity dey'll always come here to throw stones at women, but they do worse! . .Guys answer me: I guess de girlfriend is de golddigger here eh? Lol

Wen he didn't have de money, de ex-girlfriend was nowhere to be found. . Wen he graduated wit no job, she was nowhere to be found. . And now, wen he has made it courtesy of someone's sweat & dedication, she springs out from nowhere to cozy up to u? Wat made her ur ex in de 1st place? Wer was she wen u were suffering-if she 'soooo' luvs u? I would like to see if she would still be wit u if ur present girl would retaliate, divest u of her money & leave u wit dat girl. I bet we would see a thread 'help! my girl is cheating on me cos i hav no money'. Bonkers.

Look dear, it's better to decide now which of them you want to date. Her not being ur fiancee officially does not mean u can take her 4 a ride-she's already ur girlfriend. So u either give her dat respect by getting rid of de other distraction, cos her mere presence wil keep being a temptation to u, or u quit wit ur girl 4 her. Dont two-time and don't pay any mind to her 'i'll die if u leave me' talk. Dat's manipulation. U got to talk to her frankly cos wat u two re doing is not wise. U re adults, and need to think like one. She shouldn't waste her time chasing a lost cause. And hey! U gotta start thinking wit ur head and not wit ur privates. In dis time & age u need no soothsayer to tel u dat sex wit a random persn & no protection is dangerous. And for her to allow u do dat, her thinkin faculty is questionable! Dont regret a whole good life ahead of u over a moment's excitement. Choose one & let the other go.

pappy4real:
@Wislet, must u be abusive in your critisism? poo happens and it cld be any1, i came here cos im confused and need advice not to be nailed to the cross. my girl has never had reason to complain about me so y hating on her behalf

Young man, if u check my posts, i'm almost never abusive in my replies. So if i am, then something must hav resulted to dat. If only u could read ur post by yourself, u'd realize it makes no sense. . Yes, i agree wit u, poo happens. Definitely. But de difference is in how u handle that poo. In ur own case, u are not lookin 4 any good advice, but one dat wil help u cheat more on ur fiancee, and play to de gallery of a so-called lover. . . Pls 4 ur info, am not hating on anyone's behalf. She probably isn't complaining cos she doesn't know who u really are. I'v got no time to waste advising sb dat wants de easiest way to destruction. Ur life is yours, and ur girl's hers. So be our guest.

I think u re one miserable young man, wit a very miserabl thinking pattern and life. You have a fiancee that's probably serious about u, & beating her chest to everyone dat cares to listen dat she's engaged. . . And here is her so-called husband-to-be insulting himself, her & their future family by sleeping around wit a small girl. . .a girl that's busy manipulating him to do whatever she likes, a girl wit no self respect. If she likes, she can do whatever she wants wit herself-she's pathetic. Young man u re a disgrace. I almost neva replied u cos ur thread is cow's shi.t. I only pity ur so-called fiancee. What a laughable relationship.

lagerwhenindoubt:
I suspect Seun was involved

L M A O!

Joke section(not) activated.lol

Mobsync:
So, who was talkin" about NAIRALeAKS

lol lol lol.

Girl846:
@poster, Going from situations I have seen;
I am going to be bluntly honest with you, with all due respect, It is probably your fault that you are stuck in this situation because you have made your man too comfortable in his current state as just gf and bf!

Ever heard the saying "why buy the cow when the milk is free?"

Your man is probably getting all the "milk" (household help, sex, help with funds etc) for free and is content with that, so he does not see any immediate benefit in buying the cow (marrying you). You have been doing wifely duties when you ARE NOT THE WIFE!

(^ please correct me if I am wrong ^)

If you want this man to propose to you, he has to see an advantage or benefit that he is not currently getting from you as his gf that he would get if he makes you his wife!

Play your role as a girlfriend and if he like what he sees and wants the full package - he would marry you!

Thank u. Some ladies think giving all would make de man realize wat good marriageable material they are. Foul. Girlfriend should have its limits. If he wants a wife, he knows wat to do. Simple.

@banom, congratulations dear. Have a beautiful married life. . . . Now we're waiting 4 u 190, madukaele, mr cock & our wonderful mobo444. Abeg mak una do quick jo, esp u mobo (and mak sure she Nigerian!). He he he he he

Djhon:
u r supposed 2 sympatize wit im@wislet

Hmm.

daduke2k:
ehrm, single. Searching, complicated and heartbroken. Wot a damnable 2010. . . . . . . . . .

Bro, erm. . Accordin 2 ur signature, u made her former bf turn ex. Well, maybe someone else has turned u to an ex too. Take heart. At least u can be in de best position 2 tel how it feels. One luv bro. LMAO

Good one 190. Just wish people wil get to know wat relationship & love really means, instead of giving one another high blood pressure & heart aches in de name of love. . By God's grace, am gonna be dat great woman 4 my husband Beautiful one

@topic, dunno. Lol

seyigiggle:
I read through some peoples' opinion and I cannot but laugh, maybe they are either a player or they are immature.
I often ask people this question and no one has been able to give me a satifactory answer. The question is "what is privacy in a mariage or a certified future marriage relationship? You see when i first meet my girl, she was very cautious with her fone whenever she is with me and time to time she check my fone and i allowed it. one day i decided to check her phone without her consent and i discovered she has some case to settle after few days i confronted her without letting her know i got it from her fone and she actually confessed and afterward it took me a very long time to check her fone but mind you dont ever tell her you want to check her fone she will feel unconfortable and if something is wrong she will definitely hide it. I have experience your case and logically i found out the truth, she was dating someone else, infact what i say was unfortunate all my messages was been deleted. i had to end it instantly. it is not an easy decision but you have no option

she was neva into u my dear.

Okukk:
I really feel for this poster because I knw how it hurts.
Going through the different posts, I like to point this out.:
1 r/ship - be it marriage or friendship is peculiar to the individuals involved.
2. Quiting a r/ship of over 4yrs bruf is not very easy.
3. Screwing up the naughty woman out of her is not decent.
My submission
R/ship thrives on trust, love & total commitment. No one is perfect, if she's good on other areas & you feel secure with it go ahead but if you thinks otherwise & don't c a change coming soon let go.
Gurls, Watin d do u na sometimes self.

My brother i no know o! Lol. If i had a relationship dat was heading towards marriage, whatever in de world would make me hide my phone or any other thing from my man? Even if random texts from unwanted peopl come in-even those u dont know how dey got ur number, all i'd do would be to tel him, 'hey! warning: u might see some things u wont like,even from dos dat refuse to respect themselves'. Simple. And hand over de phone to my baby. Chikena. He might even help me ward off dem mosquitoes. I dnt play games. . . @OP, at dis stage my brother, u're supposed to be 5 & 6 wit ur girlfriend, very free wit each other & give advice where necessary. Dis is serious relationship. No dull yourself. True, she might not be hiding anything, but TRUST IS EARNED. I hav always warned my brothers here about ur 'investment' talk. A failed relationship, my dears, is beta than a failed marriage.

Okukk:
I really feel for this poster because I knw how it hurts.
Going through the different posts, I like to point this out.:
1 r/ship - be it marriage or friendship is peculiar to the individuals involved.
2. Quiting a r/ship of over 4yrs bruf is not very easy.
3. Screwing up the naughty woman out of her is not decent.
My submission
R/ship thrives on trust, love & total commitment. No one is perfect, if she's good on other areas & you feel secure with it go ahead but if you thinks otherwise & don't c a change coming soon let go.
Gurls, Watin d do u na sometimes self.

My brother i no know o! Lol. If i had a relationship dat was heading towards marriage, whatever in de world would make me hide my phone or any other thing from my man? Even if random texts from unwanted peopl come in-even those u dont know how dey got ur number, all i'd do would be to tel him, 'hey! warning: u might see some things u wont like,even from dos dat refuse to respect themselves'. Simple. And hand over de phone to my baby. Chikena. He might even help me ward off dem mosquitoes. I dnt play games. . . @OP, at dis stage my brother, u're supposed to be 5 & 6 wit ur girlfriend, very free wit each other & give advice where necessary. Dis is serious relationship. No dull yourself. True, she might not be hiding anything, but TRUST IS EARNED.

@OP, At this stage, she should be encouraging u to save, not blow up ur income on her. If she needed anything, shouldn't it be her family that should provide it? Why do u have to spend so much on someone u aren't sure will end up as ur wife tomorrow? I don't allow any spending on me except 4 occasional gifts. I luv spending my own money on me! Gives me more satisfaction, besides am a tad independent. Guess dat's my igboness. It's time ladies quit latching unto men 4 everythin. Most times I feel like giving my brothers here heavy knocks on their heads whenever dey say 'i invested so much on her' bla bla bla. For goodness sakes, stop all des lovey dovey wit no sense. As a businessman, do u invest in wat u are not sure of? Dat's foolishness. Then by de time u're ready to marry, nothin go dey again, & de girl go don find a higher bidder. U should invest in ur wife & not a girlfriend! Until she becomes officially ur wife, she is her father's/family's responsibility and not yours. Invest in yourself & ur future. Then if she ends up becoming ur wife, u can now invest. Not sayin u shouldn't buy little stuff. U can. Guys stop being foolish all in de name of 'if i don't spend so much on my girl now, she'll leave me/people will say dis & dat'. Some even open up businesses 4 girlfriends. Smh. . . If ur ears are blocked, let me shout it so u can hear: STOP INVESTING ON 'GIRLFRIENDS'. SAVE THAT MONEY FOR DE WOMAN DAT WILL BE UR WIFE & UR FUTURE CHILDREN!!'. If she wants to suck u dry before she's sure u're serious about her, den blast everything & tell her to scat! Most times we profess love wen we don't know 1 kobo wat it means.lol.

[quote author=George_D link=topic=572082.msg7416169#msg7416169 date=1293459736]wislet,
the way your writing, don't tell me your hymen has been opened well before you turned age 16! [/quote]@George, pardon me but how old are u? Ur level of understanding leaves much to be desired. If i was a virgin, i'm sure u'd expect me to shout 4 everyone to hear or go for some test. Well sorry to disappoint u, but am not some experiment to be used for anyone's gratification. De last thing i'll do is confirm it to u. Dat belongs to my husband only. So go take a seat. . . . . @topic, keepin oneself shouldn't be done cos of some illusion, but because God enjoined each & everyone of us to be holy as He is. It is not for women alone, but for men too! Whether one is a virgin or not, God's concern & desire is for us to keep ourselves holy for Him. And not make ourselves judges over our fellow man. I have never seen where men condemn themselves, but we de women will gladly do dat to make ourselves feel good & others bad. I keep an open mind. I encourage youths to keep themselves. For those who have made mistakes, dey shouldn't crawl under, but get up from their fall, take courage & walk tall. Understand this, only people who don't know de world has moved on stil limit themselves to some yardstick.

babalawo:
CAUTION!!! CAUTION!!! CAUTION!!!

Go and ask old couples that endured and managed their marriage life-Ask if it was the wife's virginity that kept the marriage??

We should get out of our society unscientific ethics.

I married my wife a virgin and this has not saved my marriage thus far from the hurdles that comes with marital life.

Am I proud of her? Capitals YES but there are so many areas of her life which are just not 'virgin'- some behaviors are simlply off and adaptation to each other's different background is still a big issue.

The moral is that if you can be a virgin why not? But never think that this singular virtue will substitute the whole myriad of other pressing daily habitauls that is required to succeed in a marital life.

Even in marriage, times arise when Love gives way and plays second fiddle giving way to well advanced virtues such as perseverance, commitment, patience, denial, sacrifice and most often delay gratification.

Ladies.You will make hell out of your marriage if you think you have done all what you needed to do because you are a virgin .being a virgin is not enough

Men your life will be miserable if you think the best wife to come your way must be a virgin.
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I must confess this is de most sensible post i've seen so far in dis 8 pages long thread. Very good one sir. . . Virgins keep ur virginity, non virgins u're stil virgins if u refuse to be further deceived, used & dumped by our sweet-talkin guys. I am amazed the way some women have centered their lives on virginity alone. Pls & pls bein a 'virgin' does not guarantee u'll have a cinderella married life. Many men are coming to the understanding that havin de hymen unpenetrated does not automatically make a woman marriageable. The earlier we come to our senses the better. Some may have lost theirs through tragedies, mistakes & all wat not, but in their various homes their husbands can't do without them, while som of us 'virgins' aren't even marriageable cos we haven't developed ourselves in other aspects. Of course because we are thinking only 'that' will get us the best husbands. Foul! The quality of a good & indispensable wife lies beyond the physical. With all de disappointments being experienced in various marriages now & apprehension toward commitment, men are now looking for real women with whom they can build a future, and not just a closed hymen. Smh

@OP, tell her already & free her. What re u still waiting 4? There's no easy way to do it, so just tel her to her face. As for you wanting to lay many more girls before finally settling down goes to show i shouldn't hav wasted my energy replying u cos u're obviously still a kid. May God have mercy on u & ur evil agenda. By de time ur type comes to their senses, quality girls would have long gotten married. Pls let dat girl go fast! Smh

@OP, tell her already & free her. What re u still waiting 4? There's no easy way to do it, so just tel her to her face. As for you wanting to lay many more girls before finally settling down goes to show i shouldn't hav wasted my energy replying u cos u're obviously still a kid. May God have mercy on u & ur evil agenda. By de time ur type comes to their senses, quality girls would have long gotten married. Pls let dat girl go fast! Smh

@OP, tell her already & free her. What re u still waiting 4? There's no easy way to do it, so just tel her to her face. As for you wanting to lay many more girls before finally settling down goes to show i shouldn't hav wasted my energy replying u cos u're obviously still a kid. May God have mercy on u & ur evil agenda. Pls let dat girl go fast! Smh