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Also, if she told u she wasn't interested in any relationship wit u BEFORE u told her about ur lack of job, then suddenly wanting to see u is scary. Definitely. Or has she suddenly 'recovered?' . . . On de other hand, if she told u AFTER, then she didn't dig u (in de sense dat job/no job, if she loved u she would hav stayed/at least cald occasionally till she got over her past hurt) OR she might not hav seen u as a 'responsible'/'serious' guy, hence an imaginary story 4 a quick get away. Just my 2 cents. Lol.

NnamdiN:
U put d cart b4 d horse, u shouldn't have told her bout your new job, me thinks u should have given her another test, definitely if she fails twice, then she's just after d owo. I bet u she'll pass any other test u give her, with a simple "it's not like that or it's not what u tink, all I wanted was a man that cud take care of me". or then I was still heartbroken and I wasn't ready for any serious relationship".

Dis guy sabi girls well well. Obviously de OP doesn't. @OP, At dis stage, any other thing u wanna hear, is wat she's gonna tell u. U can't do wrong by her. . . U can tell her u were just kidding(about getting de job). Dat it's a big dream of yours. Because, my dear, if she knows 4 sure u've landed de job 4 real, i don't think any 'supposed' offence by u will deter her. . . If she was real she would have called @least once in a while during ur period of joblessness, @least to know how u were faring. This sudden 'remember me'/ 'include me in ur kingdom' get k-leg.

bilms:
Wow,i no many grls wl chck in 2 see my hatred,bt nevr mind,i do nt hate women,4 dey re d bst tin 2evr happen 2 a man.I only hate som of your act.Girls dnt cal wt dere money.If u toast a girl 2day,d next day,she askn 4 card b4 she cal. Y do u always flash?

Have u ever thought that maybe you might be attracting your kind?

Brownteeth:
Even as am reading this thread a girl is flashing me to call her. Why can't she call me for once?

Na us abi de girl u suppose dey ask? If u no like am, don't call dem then, or u tell dem to stop. Or u be sissy? Lol

Creamish:
Poster. . She flash u, u de vex. . . U nor know say some guyz no even get d privilege to b flashed after d 1st date? *hiss*

My sista no mind dat one.

freecocoa:
Op e be like say owu dey blow you,tell the girl to stop flashing you naw.AFTER TOASTING,abeg the girl na bread?

ha ha ha! De 'toasted' bread dey 'flash' am light for im belle. Lmao.

GNS202:
If i'm going to choose:-
(1) Hausa: Majority of the Hausas' most especially the Fulani, take good care of their family and Staff, But majority re poligamous. (I love working with Fulani)
(2) Yoruba: The Yourubas' take good care of their family the most, and carry others along, But can go all the miles to fetch money 4 party. (O wa n be)
(3) Igbo: The Igbo man would rather stick to is buz (Container) rather than take care of their families. The igbo man will marry one woman, but ve as many concubins around. [/i][/color]

DUMB. Either u don't know them well, or u just wanna be mischievous. Igbo men re jealous where their wives are concerned, u don't play wit them reach dat side.

Well, i guess to some it depicts strength, others see it as sexy. Personally, I don't see anythin special about it. I mean it doesn't make de guy automatically a nice person or add anythin to him. Funny how some guys do things dey neva did before just to impress girls.

As your best friend since ur childhood, u must have known when he didn't have a girlfriend, when he later got one-became serious about her & must have talked to you about marrying her. You must have known when he set a date for his wedding. YET DURING ALL THIS, YOU KEPT QUIET. ONLY TO COME ON HERE NOW CRYING. For goodness' sakes girl! He was ur BEST FRIEND since CHILDHOOD! Even when u saw him becoming more serious about her & TELLIN U ABOUT MARRYING HER, U STILL KEPT QUIET? NOT THAT HE WAS A STRANGER TO YOU TO TALK ABOUT DECORUM. Lady pls u can as well leave them alone. Thank u.

goldmond:
Not 2 bad: one man's pet is another man's MASS-KU-RED. Thank God 4 blood of Jesus and Holy Ghost Fire. Adim well covered.

ha ha ha ha. Kai! @op, nwanne nwere ya nwayo biko. Ochi emee m ife ebe a.

maasoap:
@Poster, I think u're a fool, silly and immatured guy. Let's agree that u're a Yoruba/Christian man dating a Hausa/Muslim girl. Don't u think u're being childish to have come and posted affair wt d girl on NL and still described d acts using such phrase and sentences whether d relationship is real or ingenuine. How many of your admirers on this thread can display this act of irresponsibility of urs? I think u need to grow up. May be u think u're a player when I can't even take u as student. To u, d poster's admirers who don't see anything insultive in d words "Hausa/Muslim girl". Can u remember d effect that d words "putting lipstick on a pig" had on d presidential campaign of Barrack Obama when he used that sentence?

And ur point is?

muteeu:
, if you wanna marry muslim girl you have to go and meet her parent direct either by yourself or intermediary. not boy friend and girlfriend. and kissing in public is not part of Islam and not reasonable. Islam tells us how to use all our life in religious way. you can also visit tis site;http://www.islam-guide.com/, nice brother

Though some of dat is true, i think some hausa men are great pretenders. I advocate discipline & good morals, but in all honesty are we to believe ALL of their men are virgins by the time they get married? Just because there's no PHYSICAL way of knowing makes it possible for dem to deceive the girl & everyone. But funny thing is they'll be de 1st to go on rampage wen their girls follow suit. Talk about the kettle. . . . .

LMAO!!!!!! THERE'S NOTHING SOMEONE WILL NOT HEAR 4 DIS WORLD O! BLACKBERRY PARTIES? NEEDLESS TO SAY SOME PEOPLE NEED TO GROW UP. I DON'T SEE ANYTHING BIG ABOUT DAT PHONE. EVEN THOSE THAT MANUFACTURED IT HAVEN'T GONE CRAZY. Very funny.

To make it clearer/cut it short, WHAT HE JUST DID IS CALLED DEFENCE MECHANISM, or maybe i should call it PREVENTION TECHNIQUE. . . To prevent/guard his heart against any possible 2nd blow. My dear, he could still very much be in luv wit u, but he doesn't just want a repeat performance of u leaving him along de way for somebody else. Simple. U can either try & mend it wit him, get him to feel secure wit u-and be truly secure yourself o! OR u move on. Don't mind de finality of his tone-could be an act to make u believe he's serious. Wish u well.

Long stories here. There's only 1 way out of 2 to take: KEEP REMINISCING ABOUT WAT WAS, WAT COULD HAVE BEEN, WAT U DID/DIDN'T DO, & A WHOLE LOT OF WHYs??. . Or. . U MOVE ON! If u check yourself & feel/know u did nothing wrong, then i guess he should be de one worrying cos it ain't a good quality to be overly jealous concerning anyone- It's not healthy. I guess he feels dat way cos he thinks someone else might carry u off just like his ex. He needs to work on that cos where there's no trust, why should a relationship exist?? It's not a crime to be beautiful. Guys u need to come off it jare! Your partner only has to try & rebuff unwanted admirers, but u don't need to run temperature cos she's attractive. LMAO

surwiluv:
hi all, i think is time i come open, and tell u all who i really am, I AM DYT, yes u heard me right, i hv feeling for seun and der is nothin mobo or mr cork or any other NL member can do about it. yes i had smal stuff with madukaelle but it is over nw. Seun , i want u to know it was becos of u i broke up with madukaele. luv u honi.

[b][/b] Are u sure?

folex:
this is really an issue in some quarters, however while it should not be a generalization, it is a factor i feared so much that if possible i will rather get married to a lady whose first i will be.

AND WILL SHE BE YOUR FIRST TOO? Dam.n hypo.crites

And these players are to face our women in the finals tomorrow? Salimata simpore, Bilguisa simpore & Team captain Genoveva Ayonmang have been accused of being men! Link: http://sports.peacefmonline.com/soccer/201011/103972.php

This is preposterous! Are men really playing in the supposedly 'female' team of Equatorial Guinea? Salimata simpore, Bilguisa simpore & team captain Genoveva Ayonmang have been accused of being men! And these players are to face our girls on sunday??! MEN IN FEMALE FOOTBALL Link: http://sports.peacefmonline.com/soccer/201011/103972.php

I don laff sotee tears comot 4 my eyes. Kai!

[quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=535633.msg7104707#msg7104707 date=1289250791]Chineke, this is one funny post. .

You guys cut this innocent girl in almost every possible spot! I feel like it is easier to get a girl in California than it is in Nigeria. Of course, except for the threads on this site and my personal experiences, I have no tangible proof.

When I first came to America, I was making, on the average, $280 a week. That is, after paying all my bills, I was essentially broke, but I still had women pursuing me. I am neither the most handsome guy nor the funniest guy around, but I still found women of substance, and money was never the issue. Don't get me wrong, there are lots of demanding women in California; however, they demand your affection, time, loyalty, and--most especially---, honesty.

With what you guys constantly say about Nigerian women, I have come to fear them. Even when I see them now, I do not approach them, not because they are worse than American women, but because, as a broke student, I fear that I might be judged based on my pocket's depth. As a student, I have suffered(and still suffering), toiled, and worked extremely hard; so if I become well off tomorrow and some lazy parasite demands anything even half as outrageous as the OP's parasite, maa gbe ejo e lo si odo awon iya mi osoromoniga, awon atapa je ori, awon atifun je edo. [/quote]u don't have to be afraid. There are always exceptions to every rule. U just have to take ur time & look well, k? Don't be put off by wat u read on here- written by some guys like mobo444 who re either non Nigerians or have obstructed their faculties wit weed. Naija ladies re de best. Get yourself an industrious and faithful woman.

Zaynee63:
My girlfriend made a post on facebook: 'u r so special to me', only to tell me later when we talked abt it dt it was silly of me to think she was addressn it to me. It hurts. what hurts more: i dont earn much but i earn more than a lot of my friends. I buy thngs regularly 4 her and i ensure she is fine in her moments of need. Yet my girlfriend has d temerity to tell me dt i am loser cuz there i are many guys earning far more than i am earning @ my age, I fill like shooting her!! God help us

Pray, is she stil wit u? Sorry but she doesn't respect u. Don't see how a girl can vomit such & stil cal de guy her boyfriend.

TRUSTEDGUY:
wise 4 let

you dey find who go marry you?

No sweetie. Dis beautiful lady's already hooked. Look elsewhere. Lol!

[quote author=~Small-B-Mighty~ link=topic=546771.msg7098837#msg7098837 date=1289175224]is dis how u do advises in nigeria? am shock. i have difrent opinion abt nigierains too bad.[/quote]What has this got to do with anything? Don't make us think u're a baby too! U can have any opinion u desire- it's a free world my dear! Lekwanu Ifeanyi o!

It depends on the individual. Though culture has gone a long way to affect several beliefs and practices of different kinds of people. Example, for the Igbo, it is a monumental shame 4 any lady to do anything frowned upon or to smear mud in the face of her family. So no one wants to dare. Its people take great pride in faithfulness. Notwithstanding, on an average scale, u find faithful people in EVERY tribe.

Maybe u need to slow down. Having dis 'hot' love 4 her ain't helping u. True love doesn't drive u out of ur mind/give u high blood pressure 4 goodness sake! When you re in love, u learn to trust. U dialogue with ur partner, get to know each other and establish that confidence & understanding, and respect!. I am a beautiful lady-been told dat a lot of times. But i can tell u it doesn't bloat my head, my man trusts me. We are not close to each other geographically, but we have gotten to understand and respect each other. He knows i ain't messing up, same way i know he isn't. Talk it out wit her, ok? Tell her your fears. Talk it out with her ONE ON ONE. Cos u need to establish a foundation devoid of lusts, obsessions and insecurities. It's NOT HEALTHY at all to be obsessed. It would sooner break u guys up than anythin else.

Maybe u need to slow down. Having dis 'hot' love 4 her ain't helping u. True love doesn't drive u out of ur mind/give u high blood pressure 4 goodness sake! When you re in love, u learn to trust. U dialogue with ur partner, get to know each other and establish that confidence & understanding, and respect!. I am a beautiful lady-been told dat a lot of times. But i can tell u it doesn't bloat my head, my man trusts me. We are not close to each other geographically, but we have gotten to understand and respect each other. He knows i ain't messing up, same way i know he isn't. Talk it out wit her, ok? Tell her your fears. Talk it out with her ONE ON ONE. Cos u need to establish a foundation devoid of lusts, obsessions and insecurities. It's NOT HEALTHY at all to be obsessed. It would sooner break u guys up than anythin else.

It was fashionable in years past for mothers to stay at home and take care of their children, at least till they attain the age of 12, some 14, and so on. . . . But as time went on, it was abandoned. But interestingly, people seem to be gradually going back to the old practice. An increasing number of men are interested in their wives being 'stay at home moms', at least until the kids have been well grounded. Talk about old fashions being renewed! Even my mom supports it. And i daresay elderly women. . . . Well, stil gonna see if my 'future future' is gonna say anythin about dat! *wink*

safarigirl:
I'M AN IBO GIRL, AND I HAVE TO ADMIT, THE WHOLE MARRIAGE WAHALA TOO MUCH! HABA! IF YOUR FADA ISN'T A PALMWINE TAPPER DON'T MARRY BECOS THE KAIN PALMWINE WEY YOU GO BRING PERSON GO FIT USE AM DO STREAM

IF I WERE A GUY I NO GO SMELL EAST FOR MARRIAGE, EVEN I CAN'T UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS.

RUB.BISH

Is there no other good doctor or hospital on the surface of de earth? If she ain't comfortable, then find another. Simple.

MOBO444:
^^^ You are a Black lady and nothing more and i knoew you cry yourself to sleep everynight, you fustrated woman.

Do u know me asswipe? Don't be an ass in here ok? I'm a fulfilled lady & don't have people like u around me. Am i glad!

MOBO444:
^^^ You are a Black lady and nothing more and i knoew you cry yourself to sleep everynight, you fustrated woman.

Do u know me asswipe? Don't be an ass in here ok? I'm a fulfilled lady & don't have people like u around me. Am i glad!

[quote author=omo_to_dun link=topic=546771.msg7093885#msg7093885 date=1289104108]You have absolutely nothing to worry about; the solution to your problem is as easy as adding one and one. Go to where she lives and politely ask for your heart back; if she refuses, then administer a severe beating that will leave her hanging between life and death. Then repeat your question. If she still refuses to return what belongs to you or she claims to not know where it is, simply beat her into a coma, but do not kill her. Now call any member of her family to demand the location of your heart, while warning them of the predicament that will befall them should they not provide a satisfactory answer. This is where you send them a picture of what you did to their relative.

Worst case scenario, just take her heart and use it as yours.

You can thank me later. [/quote]ROTFLMAO!! Kai! Nairaland abeg o. @OP. . If u do dis one, na 4 kirikiri u go find ur heart. Ha ha ha ha ha

SAME REASON I BID #0.01 ON HIS HEAD. Mr man, did u have an ugly experience while growing up or a failed relationship? Wat would make a supposedly full grown man turn around to castigate his mothers, sisters, and daughters (cos ur future daughter- if indeed u are black- will be a black woman too). Pls u can as well change ur skin and become a white man. I don't think we need someone like u amongst us. U'd be surprised de same 'boy' saying all dis would turn out to be one who can't see a black lady pass without ogling after her. Lol. Grow up my dear. IF U REALLY WANT TO RIGHT SOME WRONGS, DO IT IN A CONSTRUCTIVE MANNER, AND NOT BASHING.