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SOPRANO:
[/b] lol, this just prove my point that most women marry men for "comfort and Financial Gains", like a friend always say, 90% of women has a price-tag.

@ OP
       
         It's a sad predicament indeed. You indicated that your buddy read sociology, If he's in Lagos, I can make a few calls if he does not mind working for the state govt in Alausa, Ikeja. I'm not promising anything, but some high echelon of the govt owes me a few favor. Things might turn up. All the best.[b]

Dis is help. @OP, U better not pass up on dis offer. Check if dis guy is serious. Dis could be de answer to ur friend's prayer.

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Y r u still buzzing around me?no i can not be your baby mama.[/color]

whistling[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=604611.msg7730363#msg7730363 date=1297705923]
Pweety4me <<<<<<< Bush woman [/quote]Lol. . .[quote author=Mr, Cork link=topic=604611.msg7730290#msg7730290 date=1297704998]ok since u my chick, will u be my baby mama, gademmmit? [/quote]coming from a 'black women persecutor?' . . . Disaster.

Pls, for those asking her to stick to de man. . 'caring' is not a sensible enough reason to marry anyone. We don't know wat made her allow herself to be rushed into marriage- maybe because she felt she was not getting younger or whatever pressure. Now de one she loves has come back, her heart is calling out to him & him her. . . The danger in marrying dis second guy she does not truly love is feeling empty/inadequate anytime she sees her childhood love in future,maybe seeing herself in de place of his wife & so on. And probably regretting why she did not take her time before finalizing. That wil make a huge mockery of de man she calls husband & their marriage. So de earlier she follows her heart & takes time to think de situation through very well, the better for her. @op, if u truly luv ur childhood man, then go ahead. There's no point following sentiments or wat people will say, and in de process lose something valuable, and probably find yourself later regreting ur marriage to de caring man. Better to get it out of ur system. Dis is FOR LIFE. Not some experiment. When u enter, dat's it.

chaircover:
The truth from aunty CC is this;

1. One's first love always makes an impression & very difficult to forget them but you learn to move on and get on with life

2. Very few people end up marrying their first love

3. A man/woman you do not live with always seems like a saint until you start living with him

4. If he was meant to be; he would have put a ring on your finger

5. True love cannot be bought with all the money in the world; so if you have found someone who genuinely loves you i,e the father of your child then stick to him

6. Any greener looking grass on the other side is a photoshopped illusion. Grass on the other side is burnt yellow and patchy

7. Mothers cannot afford to be selfish and it will be selfish of you to just dump your child's father on such a frivolous whim so please think about your child.

8. Last but not least, please get off facebook

@poster, if u are wise, listen to dis advice. . U're no longer a small girl but a woman,a wife & mother. So think and behave like one. Respect yourself and ur loving husband by not behaving foolishly. Cut off every ties wit de so-called ex boyfriend. It will not fetch u anything good. If u can at all help it, for ur own sake & ur loving family-get off facebook. And reject any further contact with him. Talk some sense into yourself. Don't incure the wrath of God by any foolish action. Marriage is serious business, so don't bring shame on yourself.

@veradove, pls marry ur childhood love. Dat kind of love is not de type u find everyday. Dont lose a lifetime of happiness just because of a misunderstanding on ur part. Besides from ur posts, u're only staying with/considering marrying de second guy just for his 'caring' attitude. Pls & pls! dat is not enough reason to marry someone! Don't make a monumental mistake by marrying him. It is NOT too late. When it would hav been is wen u'd gone before God to finalize it. For de traditional, u just showed people ur husband. It is better to be single than marry someone when ur mind & spirit is with another. Pls & pls! Dont employ pity here. For de second guy to have told u to relocate to another place just to take u far from de first guy goes to show he is not a confident man. He should know within himself dat ur heart is wit another man. Wit dat knowledge, i wonder why any self-respecting man wil want to go ahead wit de marriage if not for selfish reasons! Lady, it is not late yet ok? Better to make some much needed adjustments now even though some people might be alarmed FOR A WHILE, than TO LIVE UR WHOLE LIFE REGRETTING.

Sibe007:
SAYS WHO,

Oh!! Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

fstranger1:
OP: come try me

Is your boo Ibo?

Ibos have small dicks

Come try me: I be real Yoruba man. I am hung like a horse!

shame don catch u now abi? Next time think befor talkin.

yakoyo1:
No be Ibo guy na youruba, both of us are yoruba

'He work in an aeroplane'. Priceless! Lol lol lol. He he he he

MOBO444:
Look you have never earned my respect, Nigeria women and complex issue, why will a lady have 1,000 friends o facebook,,so she can feel popular and feel good about her self, she does not even no most of them by name, this is the problem with you women, you never take correction, now when you grow old and single you cry, cry, cry.

Look mobo, am not looking 4 ur 'on-net' respect. U dont know me in real life, so pls dont bother. I guess dos dat hav earned it re dos dat lap up everything u dish here.lol. Dont sweat it brother. Wat i'm tellin u is dat decent ladies will continue to be decent ladies even if they have 1 million friends. How many of those do they know? They might just be keeping it at that to make their facebook page more fun, and not de dullness of few friends dat might be boring. Besides it affords them de opportunity to make new friends & connect wit people they might never have met if they were secluded in their small world, and who might be of help in future. U never know wer ur help wil come from. . . But hey, above all, not everyone u see on facebook is interested in ur backside. Not all join looking 4 boyfriend or girlfriend. So get a hold of yourself.lol

1one:
@wislet
She owes him no duty whatsoever in helping to salvage the relationship or weed his lustful seeds.He doesn't love her.All he has for her are sympathetic ties,It's like working  a job you don't like but instead of quitting you stay there because the job comes with a free apartment.

What's the use of marrying someone you don't love,sitting across the dinning table looking at your wife and thinking of the house maid in the kitchen.He should apologize to her and let her go.

Well, only him knows if he still loves her or not. And if he doesn't, he should let her go. Regardless of wat she said. He can do it coolly cos it wont be easy 4 her to accept, and also to avoid any wrath. Keeping a relationship out of pity is not advisable. He can only apply my advice if he is still in love wit her.

Lol. Can't believe mobo is feeling inferior. If u can't handle such ladies, den take de back door. I dont know wat some of u guys take ladies for? People dat have to do only wat u think is right? People dat have no mind or freedom of their own? It'll surprise u dat most of them dont even associate with half of dos 'friends'. And they're very decent girls. It takes only a man wit balls to figure that. And of course real men stil go for wat they want regardless of any seeming intimidation. So zoom! Chicken. Lol!

Lol. Can't believe mobo is feeling inferior. If u can't handle such ladies, den take de back door. I dont know wat some of u guys take ladies for? People dat have to do only wat u think is right? People dat have no mind or freedom of their own? It'll surprise u dat most of them dont even associate with half of dos 'friends'. And they're very decent girls. It takes only a man wit balls to figure that. And of course real men stil go for wat they want regardless of any seeming intimidation. So zoom! Chicken. Lol!

[quote author=ik_moore2 link=topic=250923.msg3625124#msg3625124 date=1237633979]my man u are a mugu when u keep donating to girl that do not cherish u.
forcing her to to collect the phone shows that she does feel anything for u or that u are practically forcing  her to love u or trying to buy her love over. see it does not work that way.

what u have achieved in doing is to open free access for other guys to  woo her and she will continue giving out her number and the calls will keep coming and by then u cant do anything about it.

mind u that u will be the one to keep buying the recharge card.

so tell if u are a mugu or not?

infact, i certify u the 1st class mugu!!!!!




ekwu chelem, gbam!!!!!!!
ndi igbo ibem kwe nu, kwe nu, kwe zuo nu ooooo!!!!!

biko kam juo, nwoke obu nwa afo igbo, ka obu onye ofe mmanu?  na uche nkem obu onye ofe mmanu!

ndi igbo ibem, obu ako na uche ka eji agba 190!!!!!!![/quote]kai! nwanne m, emerukwala mmadu ahu ebe a. Ha ha ha ha ha ha. Eziokwu, ya buru nwa afo, o di mma ipia utari ka ako n'uche ya biaghachi. Lol

U can start by tellin her u luv her & knows she does too. And u'll want ur relationship to be a lasting success. But u have a weakness & u need her help. And be sincere wit her. . . . . Also, hope u know God? Pray & ask Him for forgiveness & strength to overcome ur weakness. He'll do it 4 u. Wish u well.

paris10:
Aah, your words are too strong o. You almost brought tears 2 my eyes. Don't know what 2 say again. Can't stop her from bringing her friends to my house, she would definitely want to know my reasons.

@paris, am a girl, and i'm telling u dis to help u. Ur girl deserves to know. If she wants to know de reason, sit her down, just between two of u & tell her. Believe me, she'll so much appreciate ur sincerity. No lady likes being made a fool of. She would rather protect her relationship wit u by curtailing her friends' visits than leave her man to such temptation. Pls tell her. She wil help u. Don't be scared. Since she could have left u long ago but chose to remain wit u, dat means she has made up her mind dat u're de only man she wants. So she cannot be mad at u or break up just because u told her ur weakness & asked for her help. I'll bet she'll want to keep u more than she'll want to maintain those friends. Don't keep quiet & regret later.

ragdollz:
SHE IS PERPETUALLY INCOMPETENT; SHE CAN'T HELP HERSELF IT'S IN HER GENES!!!! BLA BLA BLA JUST TO BE HEARD, BUT NOTHING WORTH KEEPING COMES OUT. LOW-LIFE DRYO OF A JAMO.

war start! He he he he he. Abeg una o! No fight.

ThoniaSlim:
@Pinky

True no one can teach U about your Husband but Him! But trust me it'll do you a lot of good to make friends with Nigerian girls who have your genuine interest at heart! I know why I say this cuz I speak from experience. I have a close Zimbabwean friend who's seriously dating a Nigerian Man n who helps her with complicated issues arising from cultural difference n all that? Her Nigerian girlfriends! You come here abusing Nigerian women but you seem to forget your "beloved Nigerian man" was brought into this life by a Nigerian woman. You about to get married into a Nigerian family "Yes I said It" maybe in your culture you get married and your extended family doesn't get involved, that's not so with a Nigerian man! You marry him n your marrying his family! With this attitude I see you having problems with your in-laws and trust me your in-laws are the last peeps you wanna have as enemies cuz they'll frustrate the living day light outta of you! You cannot alienate yourself from a man's people n expect to be happy! It might work for a while, but his people are his people! So if you know you wanna have a blissful marriage with this Nigerian man, you had better start adapting to his culture and women(cuz his sisters,mother,cousins,aunts if not all, majority are all Nigerian women)!

May ur days be long. Tell her. I say it again-most of them re just clueless! Playing Lovey dovey wit no wisdom. Probably things de man will disown his family because he's getting married to them. Maybe their eyes will open after they tie the knot. U can insult Nigerian ladies all u want. U will still get to meet them in real life-probably have some of them as ur relatives. And wit dis attitude, i can tell u u'll be put in ur place in no time. All de rants is for de internet. Try insulting one in real life, then come & tell ur story.

ZimbaDude:
@Wislet

I wouldn't be able to key in anything on the board if i were in the Pub. Please
be nice for i know you are

(Giggabyte)

u actually got me LMAO there. He he he

ZimbaDude:
Identity theft amongst Naijas is another thing that's worrisomely disturbing. I'm one of the big margin
pf intelectuals who find it hard to righteously associate with these brothaz and sistaz. Wft??
You steal passports, birth certificates, fake Degrees and all these hallyboos
even a normal bus pass.

(Giggabyte)

But don't muck it up wit this. Quit ur generalizations. Re all ur people saints?

joyblinks:
wey that useless MOBO444 wey Nija girls don abandon because him nyansh dey smell. MOBO444. na u been start all these comparison things for other threads abi? no worry your cup dey full


@ZimbaDude

if na only you dey this world sef, no worry becos my naija sistas no dey find your type

Leave dat mobo from Niger Republic. I personally dont c him.

ZimbaDude:
Interesting this is, Nijah girls love us Zim men to bits. We pay serious attention to these sistaz. But above all, our Southern African
girls have such big arses. God good Lord! Nevertheless, we appreciate all our black sistaz. Regardless of geaographical background

Does someone out there concur!?

(Giggabyte)

who is this? Are u in a pub on ur 100th bottle young man?

somebody:
Okay, pinky17 don't get too excited. I have lived in Jo'burg and visited several times and have loads of SA friends. The honest truth is that most of the Nigerian guys that date SA/Zim girls are never great guys anyway. Most of those guys are not really the most sought after by Nigerian girls. They settle for SA/Zim girls because they know certain Nigerian girls will not date them and they just settle for less. Now as for Nigerian girls hating on you guys, that is news to me. I remember a Kenyan friend once telling me her Nigerian bf at the time did not like or date Nigerian girls. I chuckled to myself because I knew that guy could not pull any decent Nigerian girl but he was obviously a prince to this Kenyan chic.

I am also curious if these Nigerian guys that are so in love with SA/Zim girls actually live in Nigeria or SA. If they live in SA, then you'll be very silly not to understand the dynamics of demand and supply. How many Nigerian girls are in SA? Infact, how
any decent guys live in SA anyway? You really need to take a chill pil - I doubt Nigerian girls care much bout the very few NAija guys that choose to date SA/Zim girls.

Guess it was very bitter for them to swallow wen i mentioned dat. Truth is, dey re either clueless or prefer to leave de wool over their eyes cos dey re scared to see.

tai2:
@OP

Truth is only Nigerian men can actually cope with the demanding nature of Nigerian women, where the problem lies is when a Nigerian man sees he can get thrice what a Nigerian woman will give him for less than half the effort with some SA or Zim woman.

When Nigerian women see their men moving on to calmer and saner pastures, then they begin to direct their aggression at these women. Ask Nigerian women why within their own country they are so scared of Calabar babes.

guess someone is trying to get comfort. Calabar girls? Am sorry but de wonderful, fine, boxed men u'd die for have dat part erazed from their book.

pinky17:
I am getting married to your naija and he proposed, You were the ones who insulted us 1st. If you want you are welcome to our forum http://forum.newzimbabwe.com/forum, You will see we are civilised and are welcoming,

am surprised ur insult ceased. Thanx anyways.lol

Atreides:
But why is this girl attacking everybody na? BEATS ME.

This southern woman of a poster, wat is ur issue wit Nigerian women? I think u have inferiority complex plus a jealous streak in you. Of everywhere u could be, u chose a Nigerian site. Pray wat are u doing here if not looking 4 de men? Or ur country dont have any? Bet u just signed up now to spew ur insults, stalker. Nigerian women are too big for u & ur likes. And pls stop trying to make yourself look good. How many of our men go after u & ur kind? In case u dont know, it's just a tiny percentage. Have their industrious women finished? They dont even like other men coming for their women cos they're a tad jealous! They know our value! Lmao. I bet u stay up most times wishing even one will propose marriage to u cos u dont want ur own men. Lol! Anyways continue to spew de misinformation, insults & folly in ur mouth. Whatever makes u sleep at might. Be our unpaid entertainer. Gate fee is free everyone!! Come in! Come in! Lol

pinky17:
@Atreide,   Your fellow forumites are the ones who generalise about southern african women, I am only telling it as I hear it from naija guys,    is you by the way

Whats with you fools and silly insults,

As u heard it 4rm 9ja guys? Pray tell, which ones? Am sorry lady but u must be stuck wit those rejected by even 9ja women. Broke backside dat might be too lady to work. U can have him, thanx a lot. Done us a huge favour. . Road clear to see serious ones.

pinky17:
Orton1 ! where are your manners are you suffering from a mental illness or you got dumped by a southern girl cos you are a bush boy,  You are so angry , you need to bleep more often or you are ugly and a broke backside nigga ! you know a hungry is an angry man comes to mind about you,  why should i be scared of you online you silly fool,  Take a chill pill or kiss my volumptious arse

wonder wat a sane Nigerian man saw/could see in de body dat made dis statement. Serious case

paris10:
Too late 2 let her go darlin. You want her spirit to taunt me 4 the rest of my life abi. I've twice drove her away in the past but she kept coming back to me. Wedding is fast approaching and have resigned my faith in marrying her. She claimed she's got a strong spirit and that if I left her I might regret it for the rest of my life. Can't joke around with that! Besides that, she's using the innocence thing as an excuse to want to be with me for the rest of her life. She can't see another man touching her. Just a bit confuse.

you're planning on marrying her & starting a family, yet u have already started insulting yourself, mocking ur girl especially wer her friends are concerned & disgracing ur future family. Young man u are single handedly bringing shame to both of u even before u walk to de altar. It's a pity-a real pity. . If u know u have a weakness where girls are concerned, why dont u tell ur girlfriend to stop her friends coming to ur house & spending de night. Talk to her. Am sure ur behaviour might be causing her shame outside, but she's sticking wit u cos u broke her virginity. Is it a crime 4 her to love u? There are men like u looking 4 de love of a good woman, but u have it wit u, yet u can't appreciate her & give her deserved respect. Wat morals are u going to pass on to ur children? To behave like goats anytime they're close to any girl? U beta tell ur girl ur weakness. Am sure she'll do everything in her power to help u overcome, cos no right-thinking lady will share her man wit another woman. But u must be ready & willing to help yourself too. Am sure u'll not like anyone of dos girls to hear about u in future & tell de person closest to them, ''Ah! Dat man is a goat. I know him'', Or ''Dat family is nothing to write home about especially the head of de family''. START ACCORDING YOURSELF SOME RESPECT BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE!

silvasurfa:
@op, abeg by the mercy of GOD leave the poor girl alone,GOD will give her a man that truly deserves her.

I say this for those times when there is no NL forum to bring you to your senses,are you sure you will not betray her again?
I disagree with those telling you to confess to her.If you do i think she will leave you.
Work on yourself,your s3xual urges;as for your ex gf,if you truly want your relationship this girl to work then severe ties with your ex for good.
The love of a good woman is becoming a scarce commodity these days,if you've got a good thing hold am tight and treat am right!!

May ur days be long.

Pls Nigerian men are wonderful and make great husbands. Just find yourself a good one. . And pls pay no mind to some of de rants and stereotyping going on here. A bitter heart can do wonders.

@yakoyo, i ve done a search 4 u. Fortunately i've found the natural method it could be done. This makes no use of pills, pumps or any harmful method. Completely natural. U can open de site & give it to ur guy to read 4 himself. Visit here http://www.pimpmysize.com/

@OP, I think this topic has been treated before here on nairaland. Just do a search & u'll find it. Suggestions & possible solutions were offered. I think a guy had de same problem but has a big dick now.lol. U can help yourself wit de search since u dont seem to be getting any useful yet.

@OP, So after all des arguments, wat u gonna do?? Looks to me like u re seriously defending de guy.lol. Dont know wat to tel ya, really. . . U're an adult so i guess u should be able to sit yourself down & ask yourself some questions: Can u live wit this in de long run? Do u want happiness & peace of mind, or do u wanna test drive i.e try & see if it!s gonna work? Whatever decision u take, try not to be fooled by dem tears. Those come easy. De difference between love struck adolescents & adults is de adult's edge in de field of experience, & maturity bestowed on him by age. So quit de confusion.

MOBO444:
You are bigger than all this talk,ok.

Is this mobo Somebody pls pinch me! Bros no vex but . . .is it u speaking coherently? lol! I guessed der was a sane man in there somewhere. Well done actor

harakiri:
This is why i have totally lost faith in marriage and only planning to have a child in 5-8 years time before i hit 40. Women are so freaking unreliable and unstable. It's always about their "feelings" and emotions. When they get bored with the marriage, they will find one thing or the other to blame the man for. If the man is tolerant and doesn't give in, she will manipulate him with continuous nagging and heartache until he is forced to do something that she can hold on to and say "he did this and that to me". Time and tide have shown that the success or failure borders mainly on the woman. Even if the man does all he can, if she isn't on the boat. . .it will crash but the situation isn't the same if it's vice versa.

This link explains why men should not make the mistake of getting too attached to their wives in order to live long and healthy :

www.womensinfidelity.com

Am sorry but i think u got it all wrong. In her case, her husband was de one dat didn!t seem to want de success of their marriage. He cheated on her & had a child wit a white lady. Even staying wit de lady & only came back to their house anytime he wanted to see their daughter. U guys should really have taken out time to read WELL before commenting. . . Dont always appoint blames to women. Most of de time, ur fellow men are the problem.

Some Men are such hypocrites. . I'm not condoning sex b4 marriage. . but Wen a lady refuses sex & insists on abstinence u cry murder. And wen she does, she becomes a cheap commodity. Such idiocy. . . . Ladies, some/most men can be pathetic. Dont allow yourself to be deceived or carried away by their sweet, lying tongues. Dey might praise u in ur presence, but beware! Keep ur dignity.