₦airaland Forum

d bigrod:
[size=16pt]omg.this is so cruel.may god forgive all those dat took part in this crime.sure they didnt know these pple were human being.if they knew,they wouldnt have done it.[/size]

obiem:
According to him, all attempts to get the policemen to rush Efenji to hospital failed.

He said, “Instead, they cocked their guns and threatened to label me an armed robber if I failed to get into their vehicle. It was later we heard he had died after losing so much blood.”

rabzy:
Itumo owe ti epa bros, who be source, who be stream.

4 Play:
Are we getting Capello or you think anyone who shares similar skin pigmentation as Capello will take us to football glory?

kshow1:
Mathematically :
IF: Lagos donated $1M and Nigeria donated $1M
THEN: Lagos = Nigeria
THEREFORE : the Governor of Lagos can equally rule Nigeria.

olalekan1:
I think Yardua can speak for himself, they should let him talk to Nigerians. Nigerians are no fool.

Timehin:
This your request dey tough o but i'l bet on our super chickens cos at least their whereabout is public knowledge unlike our dead/dear? president

benlay:
I think part of re-branding should include NTA being equipped and improvedI don't expect a Nigerian to ask me what i was doing on NTA's website. ehen!!

babalawo:
its the OLodo himself -Ibrahim Idris of KOGI, this is a governor that:

1.Inspected an ongoing market construction in Lokoja and promises that on completion the market will be a great eye sore!

2.Only signs documents whenever He's under the influence

3. wrote "disapproved" on a greetting card sent to him-still under the influence!!!

GNBohr:
Cost from zero to infinity, depends on so many intrinsic and extrinsic factors. Marriage is the greatest risk you can enter into. Wedding is the most sentimental ceremony you can celebrate. My reservation is the often senseless manners people go about celebrating weddings, particularly in Nigeria. In as much as I do not disagree with how anyone wish or want to or plan to spend on his/her wedding, my concern is that most people go aborrowing or exhaust their life savings just to please their silly ego. The reason is that they want to impress but no, they are wrong good impression is not in the wedding but in the marriage. The poorest celebrated weddings survive marital challenges whilst the best celebrated weddings pack up at the slightest touch of marital challenge.

In Nigeria today, wedding has been bastardised that we dont even know what wedding is all about. Typically, a couple engages in three to four level wedding ceremony:
Introduction
Engagement
Court Wedding
Church Wedding or Nikhai

Traditionally, wedding is all about introduction and engagement. These two rites are combined as one ceremony and couples are blessed and sanctify to start a family. Colonial rule introduced court wedding as an alternative and in those days those who felt some reservations for traditional mode opted for court weddings. Christianity and Islam brought their own wedding rites and injunctions and the respective practitioner of the two faiths celebrated what is called white wedding amongst Christians or Nikhai amongst muslim faithfuls.

But over time these wedding options have become a sine qua non to tying the nuptial knots. That is my worry and it leaves distaste in my mouth. How on earth can anyone explain celebrating wedding going through four different types of stages. A friend of mine just wedded and spent about six months concluding the his wedding ceremony. He invited me to the traditional slated for March in Kogi State and told me it was not compulsory since I resided outside the country and said he preferred I attended the main one which is a court wedding in Ikoyi Registry slated for April. I attended the beautiful ceremony and played my part and forgot about it. In June he told me he was having another ceremony, this time a church wedding slated for July. I was shocked and asked him why he was celebrating four different weddings to one particular woman. His answer was that his in-laws want it that way.

If you can afford to spend billions on a wedding, please go ahead but decide which type you want and do not go about celebrating four weddings to a single person. In UK and US, wedding ceremony no matter how expensive is done their usual way - white wedding and reception where they entertained invited guests. Family introductions are without pomp and pageantry associated with our own in Nigeria.

The problem is as Africans, we want to wed the African's way, as elites, we want to wed the European's way, we also want to wed as per our faith. We end up running out of the way budget and unduly stressing our finances beyond limit. By the time we finish the ceremony, we were in financial distress and labour without end to provide for the marriage. Ludicrously most people cant really afford these things, they will even borrow cars to transport the bride and the groom in. What is the essence of riding in an Escalade during your wedding and end up moving around in your rickety Toyota Carina after the wedding. Some don't even have personal cars.

So your wedding the way you like but don't end up hating and fighting each other for creating wrong impression of life after marriage for overdoing things.