obiaguna:
Op. If you had basic education, then you'ld know that there are differences between facts, non facts, assumptions and outright stupidity which I think your reasoning belongs to.
There is no data to back your claim up and you are probably a jobless person that went to church for sinister reasons. Modern day olofofo. Your thread is dead on arrival. Do something useful with your life and while you are at it, refrain from making useless generalisations.

Well, the last time I checked Bill Gates and Warren Buffett don't waste their time bantering words with unemployed people on social media. The fact that you are here doing just that means you are in the same condition as you criticized above. If you are busy you too won't be here abi? So chill bro, and enjoy NL gossips with us till you get something serious doing.

Gaborone:
I wouldn't know why a frenemy of Christian ladies would open a thread aimed at getting 'help' and proffering 'solutions' for them.

Going by your trail of threads on virgins, Christian men and women, we all know your love and concern for them is pseudo, and it's this fact that keeps me wondering why you would continue opening threads to mock them, while hiding under the façade of trying to help.

Sorry ma'am, but I don't get you.

You can't drag me to your level, girl. You either have something to contribute to a discussion or get a good Sunday sleep. If the topics somehow hit home to you the best thing to do is not to lunch a distraction or attack...that strategy never worked, and will never work on a strong educated woman. Rather, make your point or open 3000 counter threads, I will read your opinions too. Writers don't stop writing because good authors have written on all topics...do they?

fromnigeria:

Are you saying that Marriage ceremonies are not happening all weekends, sometimes week days any longer.

it depends on who is getting married every weekend and who is not...normally, women wed in their husband's church, all the brides are not from that church or some just started attending during marriage counseling sessions as a condition to wed in that church. check their backgrounds. the topic is about a subset of the global. if 500 people went to war and 20 came back as Heroes, even though the war was won, should we celebrate or not? it's an ethical question. Churches are filled to the brim with eligible spinsters, yet brothers are marrying outside.

Let's not trivialize this. If you know why someone did not marry the sister in church he dated for 3-5yrs please share with us.

What makes modern religious girls (born-gains) unattractive for marriage?

Please I am not judging or rushing to conclusion. But I visited a church and had attended many churches and it shocks me to see the number of educated, beautiful, working class ladies in their late 30’s trooping to answer alter-calls, sometime crying openly in church to find a husband. Sometime I wonder what part of them don’t men (even brothers in the same church) see? These ladies appear to have it all -shape, education, career, beauty etc. Why are they not getting married despite their credentials? Does it mean these ladies only trooped to church when things have already gone wrong in their lives? Are they being rewarded for past lives? Do men (even Christian men) not find them marriageable? What are they doing wrong?

Please pour your mind and experiences out here. Let’s help people understand. Let’s offer practical solutions.

You are not worthless dear, but you might wanna stay away from social media (FB, Whatsapp, Twitter, blogs, etc), as well as too many extra-curricular activities, including parties, lengthy Sunday services, fellowships and concentrate on your studies.

Most people had poor GPA in first semester yr1 including me and bounced back later. but you have to find out what's distracting your attention and deal with it. The only way to make good GPA's is to study. Sit your assz down and study. remember you have to hit almost 3points now n 2nd semester to stay in school. it requires a lot of concentration. Go and befriend smart students in each course you are taking and make them study mates. steady 4 hrs study every day for the next 3 months, will get you there.

Tapout:
op u seem to know so much about their personal lives u sure u ain't the hacker that started the whole ish?

My dear, there's one principle I believe in that has stood the test of time "those who merry and laugh at other people's misfortune will surely get their turn one day"....you may be single and young now to understand, read btw lines and pray for people in situations like this....

Tiwa and TB Love Each Other.


Friends please do not react out of anger, don’t text when you are still boiling, don’t speak when you are hurt, don’t post any family quarrels on social media else you give your enemies advantage to devour you. Resist the temptation of social media ‘Likes’; by lazy teenagers who should be doing their homework, it doesn’t mean anything to your life -most are from people who only want a piece of you anyway. It’s still a wicked world out there.

Tiwa Is A Well-raised Girl
It’s amazing how people who cannot even find a steady date in their lives have turned into marriage counselors to Tiwa Savage and her estranged husband TeeBillz, reeling out poison to both sides as advice. If you watch Tiwa’s interview, anyone who have any tiny experience in marriage could see the Love she has for her husband, the respect she has for her marriage, the hurt she has about the whole drama coming out on social media. Put pride aside, Tiwa is truly in love and doesn’t want a breakup.

TB Loves His Wife
TB on his part loves his wife. Only a man who loves his wife (call it obsession) can get frustrated to the point of trying to take his own life for his wife. I give him thumbs up -despite the challenges-no one has heard of any account of physical abuse and battering of his wife throughout this saga. Why hasn’t the ‘Uncertified Unpaid Social Media Counselors Association of Nigeria’ noticed that the problem of this duo is financial crisis degenerating into insecurity and power-show, which in turn created apathy between them? Where are the ‘men of gods’ in Nigeria when you need them? What Tiwa and TB need is an experienced marriage/financial counselor not public judgement. The ‘poor’ girl is hurting and at breaking point please, people -save your judgement!

What They Need Now

Please someone who knows them should encourage them to delete all their social media accounts now and leave all announcements for their trained publicists; they should stop talking, get away from the public eye, travel out of Nigeria, subdue their pride and seek the services of very experienced Christian marriage counselor (separately first). Tiwa is a well-raised girl and she’s truly in love with TB. TB, like any African man, wants his wife’s attention and submission despite her success. That’s all I can see. They are two good people passing through challenges/ rough times. Pseudo-feminist and marriage wreckers should please get a life of their own. We all have out sh*ts too.

Enemies will hate to hear that Tiwa Savage’s marriage to TB will not breakup if they take my advice but rather serve as a reference point to others to find strength in time of storms. May they receive their healing now, may the God of peace and love restore their joy IJN!

Tiwa and TB Love Each Other.


Friends please do not react out of anger, don’t text when you are still boiling, don’t speak when you are hurt, don’t post any family quarrels on social media else you give your enemies advantage to devour you. Resist the temptation of social media ‘Likes’; by lazy teenagers who should be doing their homework, it doesn’t mean anything to your life -most are from people who only want a piece of you anyway. It’s still a wicked world out there.

Tiwa Is A Well-raised Girl
It’s amazing how people who cannot even find a steady date in their lives have turned into marriage counselors to Tiwa Savage and her estranged husband TeeBillz, reeling out poison to both sides as advice. If you watch Tiwa’s interview, anyone who have any tiny experience in marriage could see the Love she has for her husband, the respect she has for her marriage, the hurt she has about the whole drama coming out on social media. Put pride aside, Tiwa is truly in love and doesn’t want a breakup.

TB Loves His Wife
TB on his part loves his wife. Only a man who loves his wife (call it obsession) can get frustrated to the point of trying to take his own life for his wife. I give him thumbs up -despite the challenges-no one has heard of any account of physical abuse and battering of his wife throughout this saga. Why hasn’t the ‘Uncertified Unpaid Social Media Counselors Association of Nigeria’ noticed that the problem of this duo is financial crisis degenerating into insecurity and power-show, which in turn created apathy between them? Where are the ‘men of gods’ in Nigeria when you need them? What Tiwa and TB need is an experienced marriage/financial counselor not public judgement. The ‘poor’ girl is hurting and at breaking point please, people -save your judgement!

What They Need Now

Please someone who knows them should encourage them to delete all their social media accounts now and leave all announcements for their trained publicists; they should stop talking, get away from the public eye, travel out of Nigeria, subdue their pride and seek the services of very experienced Christian marriage counselor (separately first). Tiwa is a well-raised girl and she’s truly in love with TB. TB, like any African man, wants his wife’s attention and submission despite her success. That’s all I can see. They are two good people passing through challenges/ rough times. Pseudo-feminist and marriage wreckers should please get a life of their own. We all have out sh*ts too.

Enemies will hate to hear that Tiwa Savage’s marriage to TB will not breakup if they take my advice but rather serve as a reference point to others to find strength in time of storms. May they receive their healing now, may the God of peace and love restore their joy IJN!

Is it only me that feels that a bunch of teenagers fascinated with celebrity pictures have taken over NL MOD recently? Gone are the days of matured educative content on the FP. There's nothing bad in flooding the entertainment section with these pictures, but to flood a news blog with such pictures each minute is a turn-off for serious readers. No responsible adult with a busy workload is going to waste time viewing pictures of some people showing every activity in their home. That's what Youtube, tweeter and FB are meant for. I thought NL is a news blog.

Please not all web traffic are useful traffic. The traffic that advertisers want are 'Click through' traffic. (Ads resulting in purchases. Only people with purchasing power click through. Don't turn them off.

But still baffles me how two married man and woman of God slept in one hotel room. Is that they didn't have enough money to book separate rooms or there are no cheaper hotels she could afford? ....a lot of questions to ask God about men of god, religion, deceits, and judgement day.

RIP sista, and hope the younger ones are reading and learning.

Fellow Parents, with all this recent and frequent news of female church members either getting caught with pastors or even dying in a hotel room:

1). Do you still feel comfortable seeing your fully-developed teenage daughter visiting a male pastor privately?

2). Should churches setup monitoring/ vigilante units for its pastors?

3). Should churches institute regulations that only female pastors (or clergy) can counsel female members in privacy?

4). Should parents place a blanket ban on their daughters attending all night vigils, and private sessions with male pastors?

We can no longer be fooled by such quotes that pastors are untouchables. Recent happenings are proving that modern-day pastors are not living above aboard like olden days prophets and priests. So leave that your quote in your house. Parents are responsible for the safety of their wards and answerable for that. Nothing can be taken for granted anymore.

Suggestions please on raising a young teenager daughter who loves these church activities.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
Thanks but no thanks, I have seen it all.

Pro!..... . Nice to know

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
Once again an irrational, pea brained femi-NAZI blames men for the gross over stupídity of her fellow fish brained women

Just an advice. Don't wait till you fall for it and come here on NL to rant abt what ladies did and did not do to you. I wish luck!

I hate to read when men come on this forum to lament this and that about what they passed trough with some ladies, when they saw these signs but still remained naive. What did they expect?

1). Dating a Facebook Queen
When you have a girlfriend whose permanent home is FaceBook and Whatsapp. She’s always online from 5am to 1:30am every day. She claims she’s either charging her phone and forgot to log out or she only reads educational posts but don’t chat with men. Ol boy, the chase for greener pastures have shifted ground. Who doesn’t like to get Moneygram and western Union money transfers these days especially from a long distance ‘Mugu’. But it only shocks me you believed her lies.

2. If You Don’t Give Her Money, Dude, You Will Lose Her
Who told you there’s a Nigerian girl who doesn’t love money? Do you wonder why educated girls are willing and ready to either be the fourth and Fifth baby-mama of a rich celebrity out-of-wedlock or marrying their rich ‘grandfathers’ but yet won’t settle with their long-time boyfriends with average income? Dude, If you don’t give them money you will soon lose out. Na u sabi which girl doesn't like money.

3. Taking Her As A Saint. Saints Indeed!
You met a pretty girl the first time at a restaurant and she introduced herself as a born-again student, a banker, or a civil servant etc who just broke up with her boyfriend of 4yrs (the only man she’s ever slept with) yet you took her to a hotel only 30 minutes after introducing yourself as either a rich bizman, a senior banker or from abroad. Within the next two hours you are already on top of her making love and even convincing her to spend the night with you (a total stranger) yet you are keeping her as a fiancé? Dude, she just cheated on her boyfriend with you and you expect her to be faithful to you? Wake up!

4. Her Phone Habit Tells You All You Need To know
She’s with you, her phone rings every minute, she either refuses to take the calls, or just keep responding “yes”, “No”, “Same here”, “Ok”, or even switch off her phone to avoid in-coming calls. But convinces you they are calls from her mom, uncle or boss. Wake up dude, there are many of you. You are probably number 13 on the list.

If you chose to waste your time and money, stop lamenting and face your mistakes!

Acidosis:


I think we need to educate more people. Illiteracy is still very high in Nigeria.

Hmmmmmm! @Acidosis, don't let Nigerians make a mince of you this night . Last time I tried to argue this i nearly came back in pieces. . I guess you mean being educated doesn't necessarily mean being learned. we have a lot of educated people Education makes people to figure out solutions to life problems, but obviously we don't. Even a Professor of Micro Biology at Lagos still believes in 'Miracle Babies' while his colleague is a fertility expert in US and thinks 'miracle baby' is crap.

thelish:
A very good topic.
I personally would want my kids to have d white girl's mentality. It gives liberation.

You are right...but I will rephrase it. I want my little girl to grow up a strong black woman. I try to teach her she needs God for guidance, but God gave her brain, hands, and legs for a reason otherwise God would have made her a helpless cucumber or strawberry. She's got to use that brain to think out solutions to her problems and ask God for strength. I teach her how to pray but I also take her science projects very seriously. . she also must accept that everybody cannot look, and behave like her or believe in what she believes in. Those who look differently from her are not 'Witches' and 'wizards' rather they are different. She should neither be afraid of them nor disrespect them.

Acidosis:
Well, different strokes for different folks.


Religion is the reason why some of us shy away from bad things. Who nor like premature s e x? yahoo money? Or abortion? It is just God, not Buhari, our redundant constitution or a bride-inclined police force.
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I agree with you to some extent...but while this could help personal values, I haven't seen any direct correlation with national development. In countries like USA, residents and citizens commit 3x all that you mentioned yet they have very strong work ethics, value system, and personal responsibility than most people in Nigeria. I don't see Americans trooping to Nigeria to look for better life like we do. Religious discipline as you described in your post is good for strong values yet our people lack it. research has proven that almost all poor nations have weak institutions, faith-based values, and tribal allegiance. Therefore religion sometimes can do more harm than good.

My little niece and her friend who's white, both 8yr old's came over to my house. Their parents are friends attending event together and dropped them off in my house since I was home that day. I heard the little girls scream at the patio. My niece was more hysteric than her friend and announced to me panting "Aunty, something was trying to attack us" I rushed all charged up with a broom in hand. But i met the little white girl in the patio pointing her phone at a corner, apparently video-recording the 'attacker'. When i asked "what is that?". My niece was still screaming "oh my God, blood of Jesus', back to sender" etc. But her friend calmly explained to me: "I think it's a tree bat, they don't have good vision in the day. I think it lost its way". I was even puzzled when she begged to keep the bat. The little girl dowsed my own tension. We later opened the door and let the bat out. I gave them assignment to google info about 'tree bats' just to keep them busy. But i was surprised the next day my sister called me and told me her daughter told her what happened, started charging me to pray, and don't underrate it, that I should sprinkle anointed oil and don't let my family go to the patio for now till a man of God comes to sanctify the place. she even prayed for me over the phone.

-I have been wondering what accounted for the way the two little girls reacted differently to the same situation and does this explain anything?
- Are we Africans exposing our children to too much faith-based life, and religion?
- Does this have effects on how our African communities turn out?
- Please if you have little children, how much religion do you expose them to?

that's what happens in a country where everyone wants the easiest way out. The hunt for miracles, the search for quick-fixes and news of easy ways out hit the front page of newspapers and blogs. When are we going to start reading that Pastor prayed and an African man invented cell phone that makes free calls or a light bulb that uses neither battery no power supply ? because those things can't lie, and can't be manipulated - if it doesn't work, it won't work. That's why we Africans shy away from Scientific inventions and prefer miracles...because you will have to prove it before experts. Yet I still love Mama Africa!!!!!!!

Wake up Africa!!!

Oooooh Please another Nigerian-Nurse-in-the-USA story? Aaaaaaaaah!!! Na wetin abeg? What's going on? Is it a curse to be a Nigerian Nurse in USA? Why not other professions? God please intervene for this profession abeg. This is becoming tiring and worrying.

Please not another 'pull-her-down' cub. Who really cares how she got there? She is there anyway. Would make sense if OP shoots for his own success and leave others alone. The time some people are wasting thinking and worrying about her sudden success could be productively put into building their own. if you think it was staged, then stage someone tomorrow to success, we will cheer you too. Please some people should get a life of there own....honestly I taya for the attitude of Nigerians towards one another. Too much animosity.

To many, yesterday was just like any other day, while for others it mattered. It was a day to test out people who have been lying, faking, multi-dating, coasting along, and people with absolute flawed relationship skills. Some of the tales I heard yesterday were:

1. People who switched off their phone all day on Sunday February 14, but their line suddenly came on Monday morning
2. Those who faked illness with bed-ridden fever all day on Val day just to avoid being disturbed while they were with another person.
3. Those who could not received special-delivery packages mailed to their house because they were not home to collect it, but only came back this morning to give excuses
4. People who received ‘alerts’ for money transfer but neither acknowledged it, nor said ‘Thank You’
5. Those who never cared to call, send text, even send free you whatsapp chats yesterday February 14, but suddenly came alive on Monday morning to chat.
6. Those who claimed they travelled yesterday to look after a sick relative but posted Val pictures on FB on Monday.
7. Those who collected gifts or money from a less-favored lover, but tried to re-route it to another most-favored lover but got busted, etc
8. Someone more special calling out & tagging your so-called long-distant lover on FB (Happened to many 'mugus' living abroad & keeping so-called 'fiance's in Nig)

If you are smart, this past Valentine’s day gave you lots of clues about the person you have been dating. Hope you got the signals? You may need to stop wasting your time if you shouldn’t.

If you were a victim of one of these above, how do you proceed afterwards?

sethken:


I know there are two sides to every story. Remember the State Attorney's office in Texas must have investigated the house help's complaint prior to any arrests. They will not arrest unless they absolutely believe they can prove that the law has been broken. I know Nigerians. Our people can atimes be heartless. The general notion is this: we assisted in bringing her to the US. She should be content with whatever we provide. Her life in the US is better off than what she had in Nigeria. By the way, she has no valid papers. Be best believe it, a crime was committed here by this couple. You don't have to travel to Nigeria to find people who can legally assist with household chores. Those that venture, try to cut corners. If you employ anyone in your home, you must play by the rules. There are no cutting corners when it comes to the violation of the rights of a vulnerable person. The complainant here will qualify as one because she is an illegal immigrant.

The system is not fool-proof though. It's their word against hers. All they need to make an arrest is for an officer to interview her privately and she insists those things happened. The rest is left for lawyers to argue out in court. Remember, the state has not presumed the couple guilty. they simply say they "believe those things happened" based on the victim's statement and let the court decide. US courts/laws are a very different from Nigeria's court system.

Complaint was probably filed by another bad-belly Nigerian. That's the way they live in Texas -(pull him down attitude). Who on earth will believe these in the USA? Food is probably the cheapest thing in US that even American rats are well-fed. If they stopped her from using hot water, did they seal the tap with a lock when they go out? I knew a story like this where a lady did everything to come to USA. after one year on arrival her relative who wanted her to move in with him promising her a better life but was resisted by her hosts filed criminal complaint against her host alleging unprintable things.

One lesson I must teach people: call me any name if you like; If you want peace of mind, keep Nigerians without a legal visa at arms length when they come abroad...don't rent your room to them, not even as extended visitors. Nigerians are generally kind and happy people, but very few terribly bad ones can cause chaos and turn your life into misery. forget about the 'church' they carry on their head...na for mouth

Until we hear the side of the couple, don't judge.

damiso:


As an aside I have wondered asked how money rituals work? Where does the money come from? is it from central bank or is there one bank in the spirit realm that supplies the money ? I don't get how the tongue of another person= money

Many things people believe in and die for are absolute craps. But the mind of a desperate person is gullible and easily manipulated. Such a person is dangerous.

damiso:
let me answer the question..

Nobody can force any principled person into money making rituals.

As for your other comparisons OP women wanting to get married, praying at a pastor, buying a red shoe and bag the main and significant difference is those things don't hurt anyone. Money rituals tend to hurt other people, innocent people at that.

- Ok No wahala. Understood! Though my instances were to buttress the fact that human actions can be influenced.

I don't necessarily think that people who do rituals are very principled in the first place. Most principled people have strong sometime stubborn personality. with the instances I gave in this thread in Nigerian context, such men will beat the crap of any woman who insults them.....LoLoLoLoL! women don't even dare insult such people in the first place... you get idea what I am driving at?

tearoses:
Turn good men into ritualists? . . more like the man already had badness already within him.

Will a good man cut off a females breasts and dump her on the road like a rag?
Will a good man bury his gf from the neck down for 8 months and feeding her once a week?
Will a good man use his own children for rituals?

No one can be pushed into anything that they don't already want to do.
Please let everyone be responsible for their own actions and not blame anyone else

OP are you saying that men are puppets on a string and have no brains to determine right from wrong?
That alone is an insult to men.

-I hope you did a little psychology at school. When ladies do everything to get married because their peers are are getting married, do you ask what is pushing them?

-when you buy a red bag or blue shoe because you saw it look good on another lady, do you question what your motivation is?

-When you hear the stories of miracles a pastor did and rush to him to pray for a problem you have, what takes you there?

- even in science, when you place a plastic near a heat source it melts by convectional heat even if it's not in the fire.

Lessons: Most things we do in life are either influenced by external forces or coded in our DNA. the same way an academic counselor can influence you to change your course, a sustained negative taunting and reinforcement can change your behavior pattern.

Do Some Sistas Force Their Men Into Rituals For Money?

What Forced Me To Write This Post Today?
I could not believe a married woman with kids openly criticized her husband in the public saying “you should be ashamed of yourself that I have been feeding you with another man’s money......”. Chai! This is openly telling your own husband that you've been sleeping with another man who's richer than he is. So what do you expect him to do? Of course he’s going to try and turn his financial situation around at all cost.


Understanding The Financial Psychology of Nigerian Men
I have not been married for too long but with the little experience I have I can tell a Nigerian man feels traumatized when he feels he’s not meeting up to expectation with his peers. African men like to act ‘Able Providers’ to women they are dating /married. Sometime I feel this is what pushes some sistas to be materialistic – because an able Nigerian man will love to spend on his woman to impress her. but each time a once loving, caring, husband /father is caught, I ask why such a once loving, caring, lover/ husband suddenly turned to rituals for money.

The Role Some Ladies Play In Turning Their 'Good' Men To Ritualists
While ladies should not be blamed, sometime we play a role in pushing our once caring partners to the extreme. Some sistas have mouths sharper than razor. They can taunt, berate, criticize, abuse, disrespect and even destroy the self-worth of a man to start thinking about the unthinkable. When you call your husband ‘cursed’, ‘imb*ecile’, ‘st*upid’, good-for-nothing’, ‘Useless’, ‘hopeless’ etc because he has financial set-back, you remind him of the 'fake' love & respect you gave him when he had money and took care of you. Some of us openly flirt, fantasize, even cheat on our partners with men who are richer and more powerful than they are right in their face. When you use a line such as “I need a man who can take care of me” to dump a boyfriend who has been with you for over 3yrs, you basically taunt him to go and get rich at all cost.

My Advice To Sistas:
Please sistas, I know how it is when our friends and schoolmates live big and flash wealth, while we don’t have. However, I’d rather live with a loving man with a modest income but have joy and peace of mind than live with a millionaire who has 3 baby-mamas, 7 mistresses, abusive braggart, roaming around from hotel to hotel with younger women while I hug pillow at night just to share flashy pics of wealth on Facebook. Encourage, inspire and motivate your man when things turn out bad for him financially rather than taunt him. No condition is permanent!

Please it's not a crime not to be a millionaire neither is it a crime not to marry one. Respect yourself, don’t be the next victim of ritual.
Do Some Sistas Force Their Men Into Rituals For Money?

RELATIONSHIP

Resolution: Get married and settle down.
Action Plan: Quit any current relationship that has lasted more than 2years and doesn’t appear to be heading anywhere. Appear less desperate and be more friendly with the opposite sex. Date only people who appear willing/ready to settle down (old enough, have proven means of income, have mental and emotional maturity). Narrow down to only one date as soon as possible to avoid getting confused. Focus on someone who supports your goal most and brings out the best in you irrespective of his/her wealth or physical qualities. Think less of personal comfort, wealth, status, fantasies, and depreciable physical qualities. Make it clear you will like to be married right away if you meet the right person by avoiding such ego-boosting phrases as: “Let’s just be friends”, “I want to keep my options open.”, “I am not ready yet”, etc Remember also in marriage 'Opposites attract and stick'. Eg An Aggressive person cannot stick with another aggressive person, he/she needs a very non-aggressive person for marriage. So don't underrate people with opposite temperaments.

SOCIAL LIFE

Resolution: Improve your social life and relationship skills
Action Plan: Quit/reduce meeting people online. Go to events to meet more people in person. Smile more, be more out-going to make friends in person, visit and hangout with friends more than online chats.

Resolution: Change your outlook and appear a new, changed person:
Action Plan: Change your old appearance by either wearing little make-ups or changing your makeup style, change your hair style, for men change your haircut. Develop a brand for yourself by changing your old way of dressing to a new mode of dressing.

Resolution: Reduce time spent on FB, WhatsApp and other social media:
Action Plan: Turn on Whatsapp only 15minutes a day or once a week on Sundays only. spend time with real people

HEALTH:

Resolution: Eat Healthy.
Action Plan: Cut down on red meat and fried food intake (they increase your cholesterol level and chances of heart attack). Reduce sugar intake by cutting off all soft drinks, energy drinks (they increase blood sugar and make one age faster). Reduce table salt intake. Replace heavy dinner with vegetables and fruits before bedtime. Drink only water at parties and events. Take a walk when you can rather then vehicle.


Resolution: Be a happier person:
Action Plan: Get rid of old habits that have not been helping to achieve your goals all this while. Improve on areas of your life that people complain most about. Cut off annoying friends who either upset you most, or impact your mood negatively. Spend more time on activities that keep you excited and laughing more. Avoid and move away from any religious and political arguments with anyone.


FINANCES:

Resolution: Increase your income:
Action Plan: Cut your expenses especially on accessories you buy to impress people. Save at least 25% of your earning. Share room with someone if you can to save on rent. Make sure everything you have that can make money is making money for you. Reduce your idle time on bed. Add more sources of income to yourself through part-time jobs, independent marketing of goods on the side. Start producing something for sale.

SPIRITUALITY:

Resolution: Become more spiritual and less religious:
Action Plan: Spend more time on private and personal spiritual activities such as fasting, meditation. Reduce your participation in group religious activities that take too much of your time. Read more spiritual, philosophical, and life-changing books. Spiritualism is your relationship with a higher being (God), while religion is your association with a group belief and processes (no necessarily godly). Always better to be more spiritual and less religious.

cococandy:
Is 'singleness' a disease?
All this patronizing/condescending attitude towards single ladies needs to stop abeg.
Why the focus on them?

There's no patronizing/condescending attitude to single ladies who want to remain single here....I guess you did not read the post before commenting. All the scenarios used were about ladies who want to get married (they don't want to be single) but kept having break-ups in relationships. If a lady is and want to remain single I am not sure this post is for her because she already got what she wants - being single.

Let's leave the reading/ post for ladies who want to get married. maybe they will learn one or two things here

soupandeba:
I keep telling them that the okada driver you know is better than the alhaji you dont know. I believe all ladies must have been toasted by a guy throughout theor lifetime but they were too selective and that led to this...

Som of us ladies fall into the trap we set for ourselves and turn around to blame others, some can pray for 10yers but can't recognize and use the opportunity when it comes, some confuse themselves with too many unrealistic expectations. What comes out of one end of a hole is what you put into the other end of the hole. If you want the best out of life you have to give in your best to life. There's no bad man or woman...The way you treat people determines the way they respond to you. If you keep dumping people for one reason or the other rather make it work..you will remain single until you stop dumping people and make it work.