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 Family › Re: 2 Relationship Pitfalls Older Unamrried Ladies May Not Tell Younger Ones by Woged2005(op): 7:54am On Mar 26, 2015 |
Tallesty1:Gbam! you nailed it! Karma plays a role in most things people pass through in life but some don't want to believe it because they are still enjoying whatever it's they are doing. Karma is one thing repentance does not wash away. U'll be forgiven but it wont be forgotten. U've to pass through that natural cleansing process and server ur time under karma...  13 Likes |
| Family › Re: 2 Relationship Pitfalls Older Unamrried Ladies May Not Tell Younger Ones by Woged2005(op): 7:50am On Mar 26, 2015 |
iPopAlomo:I guess ur mindset is why u're still a 'boy' despite being a successful Engineer according to u. Who told u every lady needs ur money? There are men who are naturally attracted to poor needy girls they control with little stipends & gifts of fairly used clothes. Such men see every girl as needy and dependent. I suspect u belong to that group. There are also men who are not scared of successful ladies. They can never question the contribution of a woman in a family bc some of their wives earn more than them yet remain married to them. Bros, "he finds a good wive finds what is good & will receive blessings from God". Pray u find one like that. 56 Likes 5 Shares |
| Family › 2 Relationship Pitfalls Older Unamrried Ladies May Not Tell Younger Ones by Woged2005(op): 6:40am On Mar 26, 2015*. Modified: 8:00am On Mar 26, 2015 |
In my recent interactions I observed that most single ladies who are getting anxious about marriage due to age have one thing in common - Almost 70% of them were once in a relationship that wasted their time, blinded them to reasons, and later disappointed their expectations. This included: 1) Sugar Daddy Relationships: This is practically a No1. on the list. Most of today’s desperate single ladies were once involved in a relationship with a sugar-daddy who simply kept them for s*xual purposes while lavishing them with gifts, money, travels and lodging in expensive hotels. They got carried away by the eupohria. It’s even more shocking that despite the gifts and money most of the ladies received, some have nothing today to show for such relationships than regrets, anger and bruised emotions. You can even see the trend today on Nigerian blogs (including NL) as young ladies of 'easy virtue' brandish expensive gifts from their affluent sugar-daddies to justifying their ‘hustling’. But what many people don’t read is what happens to them later as they age. These are same ladies littered in churches later in life crying “Lord, why has thou forsaking me”, while others are enmeshed in various frustrations. A sugar daddy never loves a girl. Just face it! They enjoy a young, beautiful body they can experiment their s*xual fantasies on. They keep their own daughters safe under secured environments, but waste another young lady’s opportunities, sometime derailing her future. In the end, they return to their wives & kids, while the sugar-baby is left in emotional bruises and negative spiritual consequences. 2). The Immature Boys: Obviously, boys don’t marry, men do. Here I define a 'boy' as a male human not yet ready for the responsibility of marriage (he might be rich, grownup, even has a job). ‘Boy-friend’ is what you do when u're a teenager, experimenting with life, not as a adult. Once you hit social maturity and wants to settle down (except you are rising & maturing proportionately with ur boyfriend) hanging on to a mere 'boy' at the expense or real, potential suitors is a waste of your time. He might be cute, sings well, athletic, funny, has six-pack muscles, or may one day become an Engineer etc, but sista, after 25 a lady should get real. I don’t expect a smart lady at that age to wait for another 3-4yrs for a boy to ‘grow-up’. Knowing a man who is a marriage material: - He is Single- Because married men are not available except in cultures/religions that permit polygamy -Emotionally matured – If he still fumes, gets into open fights, feats of jealousy, & possessively controlling, abeg apply ur brakes. He’s a time-bomb -Has a stable means of livelihood- otherwise, how will he pay ur dowry & feed ur kids?  -You know his close friends –They are either married or getting married, so he’s under peer influence. It’s irresponsible to date someone you don’t know his/her close circle of friends to determine if u fit in. -Most time you are his only girlfriend- The more the competition, the less could be ur chances. -He has asked you- Until a man pops that ‘M’ question, don’t predict his intention is marriage. He may like you as a person but there are other reasons you may not end up his wife (individual differences, religion, culture, s*xual incompatibility, family resistance, health issues) Be smart. May God not allow anyone to waste your time this year! 147 Likes 24 Shares |
| Celebrities › Re: Wole Soyinka As A Kid With His Parents & Siblings In The 1930s by Woged2005(f): 9:01pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Lesson: -Don't throw away any child, because you can never tell his/her future -Don't abuse any child, you may harden him/her and be his/her victim some day -Don't judge by looks, it's very deceitful -Don't discriminate against anyone, Angels appear in different forms -Class is from within, and not outward appearance -Useful education is not the ability to recite quotations, rather what you can contribute with your knowledge -People who make the best speeches, pack less action. The great thinkers built the world In all, looking at little Wole Soyinka who was not smiling from childhood and still doesn't smile, one would never think he's fit to be a celebrity, yet he is not just one, he is an institution and force to reckon with. Where has positive role models gone in Nigeria recently, and not people showcasing naked bodies, sugar-daddies, baby-mamas, and ill-gotten riches to youths? 14 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: Was I Wrong To Have Moved Out Of My Parents' Place? by Woged2005(f): 4:29pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Once he becomes a 'Man'. Then the question is who is a 'Man'? Not all humans with 'ball's standing on two legs are men. "And for this reason a 'Man' shall leave his mother and father and join his wife and they two shall become one" 31 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: I Tried To Correct Her, What I Got Were Three Slaps, Husband Tells Court by Woged2005(f): 4:22pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
How people start out as best friends and marriage turns them into worst enemies baffles me. What is the cause? - fake love, love for money and materialism and desperation to be married to just anything blinds most people to the reality of living together under the same roof with the same person with his/her personal weakness yet vowing to make love only to him/her despite how his/her body turns out after 10 years. When you take what does not belong to you by hook and crook, it's difficult to enjoy it. Please say No to LOVE = MONEY. it's leading to divorces, kids growing up in broken homes, and homicides (men killing their wives). Love is not equal to money and gifts. It's a genuine felling for someone without material gains. Re-orientate your children today to be less vain and start believing in love 27 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: Should I Sell My Body For Promotion? by Woged2005(f): 4:09pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
Did you just write this or you are just bored and looking for something to keep ur hands busy? You mean if the story is flipped, you won't mind if your wife slept with your Landlord in exchange for a rent? Please check your productivity at work. That's what's costing you your promotion and not s*x. No employer can short-change a formidable staff else he will quit and the company will go down. If you are just marking time there and looking for gossip of who is doing who, you don't get promoted. Improve your values at work and get your promotion. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Igbo Men Are The Most Caring In Nigeria by Woged2005(f): 3:58pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
I like your write up but I have problems with equating care for woman with giving her money, gifts and materials. Women are not domestic animals abeg. It would have made more sense if you highlighted the fact that Igbo men are prepared to to put up a lengthy passionate custody battle for their kids rather than let go, sometime loosing their wealth, which shows their love for their children. Moreover, they are very proud of their daughters and show them off. They also sell property to give their children good education. I simply don't like insinuations that suggest that all we Igbo girls want in relationships is money and gifts. We want stability and family too. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: My Wife Is A Thief : Must Read by Woged2005(f): 3:53pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
This is why I have stood stoutly against the norm in Nigeria that a woman must depend on a man whether a boyfriend or a husband. When a woman works hard to have hers, she does not need to steal even if you kept it on top of her chest. We must start a new era of re-orientation to raise our daughters to see themselves as able creatures created in God's image too. The current mentality that love=money because a woman does not have is needy, degrading, and a demeaning mentality. It reduces the dignity of womanhood. That's why an average Nigerian man is very disrespectful to ladies because he believes every woman has a price...and some of us act like we actual do belong to the highest bidder Abeg...stealing is stealing and means when you take what doesn't belong to you without permission. Let's not justify it. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: My Defense: Does A 'cheap Girl' Mean A Lady Who Dates For Love? by Woged2005(op): 3:44pm On Mar 23, 2015 |
amaprincess:  .....LoL! |
| Family › Re: My Defense: Does A 'cheap Girl' Mean A Lady Who Dates For Love? by Woged2005(op): 3:55pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
TooNoisy:Why would it? in a country where girls show off flashy cars we don't know how they got as birthday gifts given to them by their boyfriends, every girl wants to get her own car gift from her boyfriend too and we wonder why men are killing police officers to rob banks and engaging in rituals to meet up? Our Nigerian blogs promote evil in the society. Somewhere else when ladies gather they talk about their jobs, vacations they had with family and friends, accomplishments and investments they plan to make with their own money. At the rate my beloved country is degenerating, i doubt we will get out of this mess in any time soon. We tell ourselves lies too much! 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Does Telling The Truth Really Help? by Woged2005(f): 1:51pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Infomizer:absolutely right. It's actually an economic theory...."...best economic policy is that which leaves more people better off" |
| Family › Re: I Am 27, She Is 20. Can I Wait For Her? by Woged2005(f): 1:40pm On Mar 22, 2015 |
Yes you can, and you will IJN! Don't just use her and dump her. If you love her, she loves and it's God's will don't bring human permutation into it. There are many young people who die earlier than older people, so that argument the older will die and abandon the younger, is rubbish. There are even older men who perform s*xually better than some younger men, therefore age plays no role in s*x. What matters is the level of mental maturity in her and you, love, and financial stability. You can also marry her and delay childbirth till she gets her first degree (many people did that). In all God has the final say, not Nairalanders. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: Does Telling The Truth Really Help? by Woged2005(f): 5:44am On Mar 22, 2015 |
There's a common sense rule in everything. Even Abram told a king lie that Sarah was not his wife in order to save his life. There's another place in the bible a lady told lies to save the life of Israelite spies. If a pregnant woman with her 3 little kids ran into your house pursued by a band of 30 religious fanatics wielding knives and clubs to kill them during a religious riot. The fanatics came to your door and asked you if you know where the woman and her kids ran to? You know they are hiding under a bed in your house, will you tell the truth and have them slaughtered? There's a commonsense rule. But being a chronic liar to, cheat, deceive and have your way all the time is outright bad. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Is It A Sin To Bet? by Woged2005(f): 5:18am On Mar 22, 2015*. Modified: 5:33am On Mar 22, 2015 |
But every business is gambling including some church business (investing on ventures with some level of risk and uncertainties. Sometime you win, sometime you lose). Pastors open churches not knowing how many people will be converted and join the church (risk). People may join or may not join leaving a 50-50 chances (gambling) So who really has the right to call another a 'sinner'? Sometime I feel that the way majority of Africans have hard time comprehending how a cellphone works, how Airplanes fly, and how a spacecraft is launched, same way they don't comprehend foreign religion. Therefore they simply use it 'cut & join', and out of over over-zealousness over-do things. If we Africans really grasp the concept of 'God is Love', there will be no outrageous level of poverty, corruption, wars, militancy, massacres and wickedness on the continent. Honestly, call me naive, I don't let an African preach to me. Does a liar have the right to call a thief a 'sinner'? 12 Likes 2 Shares |
| Family › Re: Is Your Spouse Living In Another City? by Woged2005(f): 2:53pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Long distance relationship is not easy and not meant for everyone. But let's not make it look like it's impossible. After all aren't some ladies successfully married to career soldiers and diplomats who are always on the move and may not come back in one piece? There are couple who see and live in the same house yet are miles distant apart emotionally because it's fight everyday. Despite living together they still cheat on each other. A cheat is a cheat and should not justify it by long distance absence. 1. With social media and real-time communication via FB, Skype, Facetime, Whatsapp, people in long-distance relationship have learned to stay in touch and close the gap. 2. Planned vacations: Rotate visits. During his vacations he visits you, and during yours you visit him. Make good use of the time and not fighting and quarreling. 3. keep yourself usefully busy either with career, education, or volunteer work in the community or the church. 4. Keep amebos and nosy 'know-it-all' friends away. They will cause you more problems than good making you see problems where there's none or even advising you where and how to cheat and get away with it. They toy with your emotions and brain. 5. Finally, plan to collapse the distance. With time plan to live together. Let the separation only be temporary maybe while he's looking for a better accommodation, or trying to file papers for his wife. Knowing that the seperation is only temporary only helps to reduce the frustration. 4 Likes |
| Family › Re: 7 Tips For Beautiful Ladies Above 30, Good Career, Strong Finance, Yet Single by Woged2005(op): 2:42pm On Mar 21, 2015 |
Chillis:I guess you are not there yet otherwise your reasoning and post would be quite different. In case you get to that age some day, my advice is it's not how fast you get there, but what happens afterwards. There were ladies who were in a hurry and married right after writing their SS3 exams. Today they are only 27 with 5 kids, with another protruding belly, hawking water and plantain under the heat of the sun on the streets...how happy are they? That's not the same class of wife some men are looking for, dear. Life has levels and class. I guess u know what I mean.- you as a man gat to be somewhere before aiming to marry a working class girl with a masters degree, and strong equity investment portfolio. Such women are not for boys still learning how to knot ties, except they need help paying their school fees. 3 Likes |
| Family › Re: Advice On Her Husband's Behaviour by Woged2005(f): 1:25am On Mar 21, 2015*. Modified: 1:48am On Mar 21, 2015 |
It's not only your husband. Most men do that...mine does it too. I will advise you stop doing whatever you do that makes him do that if you do not want to come to NL to cry. Arguments create a negative energy in a relationship. Learn to keep your mouth shut sometimes and walk away if the mood is not right for a discussion. Master when and how to get what you want from your husband without fights and argument. Every man is different. Each man has a good time to bring up a possible heated discussion. Raising such discussions once he comes back from work stressed out and before bedtime are never good times for men to talk. For mine it's best after a good meal, or after a good s*x when nerves are calm, and I am resting on his chest. The bottom line is to gauge his pulse when he is happy and in a good mood, then test his mood with a silly joke like "baby, ur tommy is coming out, I am feeding u well" . If he reacts negatively, then he's not in a good mood to talk. However, if he laughs at the joke then try another silly joke till he gets into a discussion mode...then u can romantically drop the 'bomb'..eg "Baby, I need more money for house allowance"...or "This Omotola that's always texting you, is she the girl in ur office u talked about sometime?" ...... If u keep your voice as low and calm as possible, his response will also be low and calm. .....if his explanation is not satisfactory, end it sarcastically like "Some of this girls have no shame at all..doesn't she know u are married?". Your goal is to let him know that u know he's been communicating with another girl. He'll get the message. There's a reason why Communication is a course. If my hubby begins to flare up, I get into the bathroom and take a very loooooooooooong shower until he shuts up. Love and virtue conquers all. May your marriage be healed IJN! 4 Likes |
| Family › Re: He Is 36, Still Stays With His Parents And Wants To Marry Her. Help!!! by Woged2005(f): 11:42pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Did they tie her up and took her to the man that she must marry him? What advice does she need? Is her life in danger for saying No?. Moreover, if a man a lady wants to marry doesn't have enough money and his own house, what happened to the woman's own house and bank account -did robbers cart everything away? My point? nobody can force you to marry someone you have doubts on. Moreover, preparing for marriage should be both ways. A man and a lady should both work hard save for a future family...sistas should stop wasting their salary on hairs, bags, shoes and make-ups and expect a man to take care of them. It's also silly when a lady who has nothing want's to marry a millionaire. That's how some women became s*x slaves in the house. 18 Likes |
| Family › Re: What If Your Dad Had A Secret Child by Woged2005(f): 11:15pm On Mar 20, 2015*. Modified: 1:51am On Mar 21, 2015 |
Honestly, in Africa i feel when there's an issue we chase shadows; we shoot water at the flame and not the source. The question obviously is why do we have 'secret kids in Nigeria? Why is it possible to hide a child/pregnancy in Nigeria and not in USA or UK? 1. In Nigeria everyone is too 'holy', too religious to accept a pregnant out-of-wedlock lady and her child. Therefore they hide them. 2. In Nigeria, we are too naive to accept that marital unfaithfulness is not only limited to drunkards and rascals. Even the pastors, Imams, and white-collar professionals play 'away matches' and when such people 'score goal', unlike the rascals, they're often too ashamed to own up. 3. The Child support system is not enforced. If it is, honestly most men will either zip up or pay up, because making a child = paying money 4. We are too religious to give attention to s*x education for teenagers. They easily get pregnant 5. Nigerians raise their daughters to be too dependent and too needy because they are women and should be pitied. It's a male-dominated world, where a woman would do anything to get support from a man even if it means having unprotected s*x with a married man, multiple abortions, and having secret babies. As long as a man gives them money to buy weave-ons, dresses and matching shoes and bags, they will do anything to please him. Even the so-called professional ladies working in banks and offices act so needy, not any different from schoolgirls - poor value system! If you address these issues above, then every child should have a mom and dad. There's no unwanted and secret child. If you make a baby, he/she is your legitimate child. Period! Any woman who get's pregnant for man should not agree to be short-changed bc the man is married. Expose the pregnancy and secure a future for your child...don't abort or live in secrecy. For me I will get over the shock and accept the reality that I have a half-brother/sister. |
| Car Talk › Re: Best Colour To Go For In A Car!!! by Woged2005(f): 6:19pm On Mar 20, 2015 |
Some colors cost more on insurance. Hope you know? Colors that hide dents and which paints are more common/cheaper like black and white cost less to insure ( I guess that's for abroad anyway) |
| Culture › Re: Our Village Masqurade Festival(odo Festival) In Ngwo Uno (pics) by Woged2005(f): 3:21pm On Mar 07, 2015 |
Rich African culture, unfortunately dying out. I haven't seen why same people who celebrate Halloween in the USA and buy their kids scary witch costumes for Halloween parades in US turn around to condemn masquerades in Nigeria. Oyibo mentality is a mind-poison 4 Likes |
| Sports › Re: Obafemi Martins Buys Brand New G-wagon For His Babymama (photos) by Woged2005(f): 3:15pm On Mar 07, 2015 |
Good to appreciate people who mean something in our lives. But sometime I feel all these advertisements helps to affect the mindset of our little sisters and young ladies to think and believe that all matters in relationship is money and that ladies must depend on men. I love and appreciate the stories of hard-working ladies who bought things for themselves. Congrats to Martins and his gf, but keep certain things to yourself. 9 Likes |
| Family › Re: 7 Tips For Beautiful Ladies Above 30, Good Career, Strong Finance, Yet Single by Woged2005(op): 6:16pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
TV01: 1 Like |
| Family › Re: 7 Tips For Beautiful Ladies Above 30, Good Career, Strong Finance, Yet Single by Woged2005(op): 4:00pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
TV01:Noooo. you got it all wrong. Check the topic again. These are ladies who are above 30, have good careers, strong investments, and some cash to spend and might be earning more than their male colleagues too. These are tips to be more open-minded and inclusive. it's not about lowering their expectations. There are unrealistic expectations in life too. 1 Like |
| Family › Re: 7 Tips For Beautiful Ladies Above 30, Good Career, Strong Finance, Yet Single by Woged2005(op): 3:50pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Evina:I be naija girl too. I was there too and I have unmarried buddies who all have boyfriends but have their eyes set on 'celebrities' or loaded politicians. I tell them, dem never wan marry. You can't eat ur cake and have it. If you are above 30 and still single, you know ur story. We all had wasted opportunities. 2 Likes |
| Family › Re: 7 Tips For Beautiful Ladies Above 30, Good Career, Strong Finance, Yet Single by Woged2005(op): 3:09pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Evina: . Thanks Sis. I still believe there's husband for every woman in Nigeria. Men are not scarce as many erroneously adduce. The economy is though, therefore the financial maturity age for men shifted to above 30 (even 40) while women are ready at 21. If our women change their mindset of depending on men, then most girls would marry their school boyfriends & build wealth together. If men are scare how come every university girl has a school sweetheart? The problem is 80% Nigerian girls have their eyes set on another man's money. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Family › Re: 7 Tips For Beautiful Ladies Above 30, Good Career, Strong Finance, Yet Single by Woged2005(op): 2:51pm On Mar 05, 2015 |
Evina:I also don't agree with ladies who say African men are scared of successful women. It depends on the quality of men you are hanging out with. If you are a woman with success in career and finances, men in ur class can never be scared of you. What do you have or know that they don't? I still give example with myself....though I earned more, he was never scared any bit rather he was cautious if I would respect him. When he found out I was humble and respected who he was and what he does for a living, he got bolder and took control as a man. If you earned more or have higher education don't rub it in people's face. 5 Likes |
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I could swear you are my clone.