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nickkylawve:
Dear future husband...
please I beg u, m also praying for you..
please if you know you wouldn't love me purely, truthfully and faithfully, remain where you are. If you know you would go chase after girls that look hotter than I am, please remain single..
If you know you will lay your hands on me, I can help you find contract at a wrestling company now..
I beg you! I have a fragile heart.
I will try my best to be the best wife in your world if you play your role well.. Thank you!

If you are ready for marriage then let me marrry you.

lurlah2014:
There's this fellow that wants to marry me but I am not in love with him, I do not even find him attractive but he's a catch, asin he has a good job, he's well behaved and he really loves me. My family and friends say I should accept his proposal, that love will come later. If I don't feel anything special for him now, will it come after I marry him? I don't want to be in loveless marriage so I am wary of entering this union. Please advice

Yes you will love him latter.

Thats the way our parents married.

prettyjo:
which one will guys ever like

Natural looks

prettyjo:
which one will guys ever like

Natural looks

nikkypearl:
Nice write up

Nice curve.I no mind you o.

But make your head no swell o but i hope you no dey do any of the 9 things Op wrote sha.

AfricanApple:
thank God you said one man's food is another man's poison

Before you start feeling cool with yourself,as the op suggested,ask your man to sincerely tell you his mind then come back to write this.

My bae has a crazy habit of putting earing on the upper ear but i have been overlooking it and she might be thinking im cool with it.

One day i go voice out and she will be amazed.

pretydiva:
See as she resemble ram with dat her nose ring. Some people nor no wey tin fit dem

I hate nose rings with a passion

JUST OVER BROKE Syndrome will forever remain the problem of Nigerian youths.

Apparently if the Job pays 200k you wont need any advice but then where is the place of passion? Passion is everything. If you are passionate about the job then the money wil be inconsequential because as long as you love what you are doing,progress is sacrosanct.

Kakakino:
Nollywood actress Daniella Okeke won the Most Fashionable at the Lagos Fashion Awards last night.
This is her outfit to the award event....

Hit or Miss?

SOURCE: http://www.topwaysng.com/2015/09/sexy-or-trashy-actress-daniella-okeke.html

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Shebi na woman,she must recieve many likes. Even naked ladies get many likes

Toks2008:
Philandering is an act that is predominant among men and women alike.To some men this act seem normal due to the erroneous belief that men can be polygamous, but some women experience philandering due to narcissistic or even sociopathic mindset.

But as they say,it is a cruel world of men and often times the women are at the receiving end of this reckless act so this write up is directed to men and women alike but with more focus on the men and this write up will list 5ways you can prevent philandering or reduce the act to the barest minimum.

1.Accept that it is a reckless and destructive act to you mentally,physically,Financially and spiritually: Yes as sweet as philandering may seem to be, it is a very destructive act because it can lead you to eternal destruction of your soul as the Quran and Bible suggested and i believe your soul is worth more than the flimsy passion of exploring many death traps in the name of women. Asides this you can readily contract deadly infections and many men have had sexual encounters with different spiritual beings in the name of women and not forgetting the fact that in most cases,the act of philandering tend to make you spend excessively as you will need to spend on the side chicks from time to time just to satisfy your lustful desire.


2.Understand that Philandering is more than a regular bad habit but a demonically influenced act: I have always counseled many ladies that they can not nag a man out of philandering but can only pray him out of it because most times,the men who indulge in it are influenced by demonic spirits so if you are a man who wants to stop or prevent this then you must be willing to pray to GOD to prevent the spirit from possessing you and to help you cast it out of you because this is one act you can not stop on your own.


3.Go for a lady that turns you on physically:I always have a slogan that i will rather remain single for life than marry a woman that does not appeal to me physically. Yes they say choosing a wife is more than the physical attributes but nevertheless i believe you can always get a lady who has a good attribute as well as a good physical appeal.

Why should a man who loves a bootilicious lady settle for a flat ass? and if you love a big body lady why settle for a slim one?I remember having an affair with a lady while i was in the university and at a point i began to pray that GOD should make this lady develop some sexual features..
"can you imagine?"

If you love a busty lady and you settle for a small cup size then you just might fantasize about huge bust-line whenever you make out with a wife with a small cup size and to me,this is perpetual self inflicted bondage because there are billions of ladies out there single and ready to mingle so why pick the one that does not turn you on just by her physical appearance.


4.Accept the fact that no lady has the monopoly of beauty:No matter how sexy or outwardly beautiful your woman may be,there will always be a lady sexier and more attractive than her out there and you are bound to meet many of such so if you are the type who can't take his eyes away from every sexy damsel then you just might be on a fast track to your grave because you can never outdo these daughters of eve who are always willing to show you the fastest way to hell. Just make that choice and do your best to maintain your choice by helping her retain her sexy figure in anyway you can.Learn to appreciate and be content with what you have because in actual fact,its the same hole and same pleasure,just that it is the skills that differs so teach her the skills rather than seek for a facade in the name of varieties.


5.It takes the fear of GOD and great discipline to do away with philandering: It is practically almost impossible for a man who does not fear GOD to desist from this pleasurable but deadly act so as a lady you must pray and try to lead your man closer to GOD because if a man fears GOD then apparently he will make you happy and for the man please understand that you must practically go closer to GOD so that your love and fear for him will keep you away from this act.

Yes the act of philandering is a strong one that tends to enslave any susceptible person and it is not want anyone can just wish away but with GOD i believe that it can be prevented.

GOD HELP US. and I hope this helps

Nice one Ehbon.

But for those willing to change o. Some men are just hopelessly lost in the act.

Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room a.k.a FACE ME I FACE YOU?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

Oga toks i must commend your dexterity in trying to let us all see the truth concerning deep issues as regards relationships but these naija ladies are like the proverbial dog that never listens to the whistle of its master until they are totally lost.

Most Nigerian ladies are the architect of their own destruction and i just saw a throw back pics of 2face and Annie and i come to realize why 2face chose her over the remaining side dishes.

Most Nigerian ladies don't mind to be side dish to a made guy rather than be the only woman of a struggling guy and this is why many rich guys are using them like tissue paper and turning them to shameless baby mamas and dumping them to marry the love of their lives.


I am ashamed to be identified with Many Nigerian ladies.

Interesting. I personally know two lady divorcees who ended up with married men and i kept asking; who dey fool who?

You left your marriage claiming your hubby cheated on you and you now end up with a married man who now cheats on his wife with you.How foolish?

Nice advice but i hope they learn.

P square my number one Nigerian artistes Ride on nohing do you.

When our mate dey bubble we dey dey hustle
from one competition to another,mama use to tell us not to bother
cos we dey sing we dey dance we dey play for the same show at the same time
(hard work 40% God's favor 60% = 100% success

NegeduGrace:
Hope it will put more money in her account..this one that pple re just dying anyhow I wonder why some certain pple has refused to turn to God in repentance...lord jesus have mercy!

Just the sight of Hell and she will never remember how sweet she looked on earth.

Iranu and one guy wil be wowed by this trash.

timilehing:
EAT

Na serious eat lol!

Toks2008:
lwkmd! you are definitely a bad brother

i send am?
Shebbi they want a man that will do all the wedding they can imagine, white purple blue reed and so on but they are ok allowing a man wey no ready to do all these type of wedding dey shraff them so no wahala na to continue the shraffing.

When time comes sharp guy go open eye pick another young babe.

You dey pity these women.Tarrr!

Toks2008:
LOL! How you go feel if one guy dey freestyle your sister for many years in the name of dating and courtship?

Walahi she is on her own.

dmostcheerful:
Hello please u guys shouldnt mind any grammatic blunder but just see through this and give your advice.
my cousin sis that is 23years of age has been proposed to by upto 13 guys for marriage right from when she was 17 years but the problem is thus, any time she accept a guy and an introduction goes through the guy in question happens to disappoint, it has already happened with 7 guys in total.
Now she happened to go for a faith clinic on the 5th of march and the man of God who was a guest speaker called her out when she went to give a faith offering told her about her proposal disappointment and the person who did that to her, which happened to be her grandfather's youngest brother who happened to also have killed the girls father when she was 11yrs old. the man of God prayed for her and anointed her and tell her that the man( grandfather's brother) will confess of his atrocities and die dey after and that before the end of march she will get another suitor who is better than the previous but that she should promise God something she knows deep down her heart she would keep for God, dey and then standing in front of the alter receiving such prayer she made God a promise she will abstain from sex till she white wed.
Letter on it happened just as the man of God predicted the uncle confessed and died and she met this guy from Germany who is very rich and a couple of years older than her, she loved him at first sight and he proposed, [b]they did the introduction and the traditional marriage on April and kept the white [/b]wedding for December since the guy in question will be going back to Germany to come back November in respect of the white wedding in December.
Now the problem is thus as Igbo's after the trad my cousin is suppose to go home with the groom cos based on tradition she is now the grooms property.
it happened that the night when dey reached the grooms place the grooms dad who happened to be a bishop proposed a different room for the bride but the groom disagreed to the proposition saying he will sleep in the same room with the wife, it was dragged till after dinner. my cousin sis taught the groom was joking till after dinner. on her way to take the plate to the kitchen and wash them her bags was taken from the room reserved for her to the grooms room by him. when she got back to take her towel and sponge for a bath she noticed her bag was no longer in her room. on her way to check out if she kept i5 some were else she met the groom by her door. he told her the bag was in his room. Now everybody has gone to sleep except both of th3m. she had no alternative but to oblige and go to the room with him. when she went to the bathroom she locked the door because she noticed he removed his cloth with his towel on the bed, meaning h3 was planning to bath with him.
after bathing instead of putting on the night wear she came with she wore the jeans trouser she was suppose to ware tomorrow because she sensed intimacy might follow.
he tried to have her that night but she dragged and pulled till dey both fall asleep owing to the days exhaustion at around 5:00a.m she noticed that at the far end of the bed were she was lying he was already there touching her, kising and carressing her with his manliness protruding and d struggle began again she dragged and pulled till around to seven when the mother in law have to knock to check on them. that was when she was free. after the issue her sister who was suppose to go with them owing to tradition but couldn't because she have to stay with they mum to organize things came the next day, that was how sh3 was fled because she will be staying with her in the sam3 room.
after the incident he has not been cheerful with her. pet name was a no no from him all through her staying the house for a week he barely speak t9 her, any massage at all was through whatsapp with name like wife go añd take that ice cream im my room, wife doñt look for me I will b out with friends don't look for me.
she said she nearly give in to making love to h8m that night because no one has nearly beg her for sex like that b4 but each time she keeps hearing down in her heart remember the promise.
he will be going back to Germany in a week time and the massage she got from him tonight was "I will never forget those things you did to me, when its your time to give come few months I will make sure you cry why giving it you have but a few days to think about this" he sent the massage after transferring her 300k for he4 school upkeep.
she had been afraid since then and he refuse picking her call.
what do u think she should do, should she give in or linsist?

Yawns and goes back to sleep.

This story lacks substance because the promise the lady made to GOD was the most foolish any sane lady can make.

Arrant rubbish.After traditional wedding she is waiting for white wedding.

Where is white wedding in the bible that she is making such vague and foolish vow? Nonsense story.

Toks2008:
You don't need a pretty face or a curvy body to make a cute responsible man fall in love with you.

Any man whether responsible or irresponsible,good or bad can get attracted to a curvy pretty chic at instant glance but that is where the danger lies because even when most men are only willing to have a taste of your curves,most outwardly pretty ladies tend to fool themselves with the fact that they are getting attention from many men because indeed that is where it mostly ends.ATTENTION.

Have you ever bothered to ask why the not too outwardly beautiful chics are getting married quickly and also getting hooked to super cute responsible men while most sweet looking chics keep jumping from one man to another?

Have you wondered why many ladies with costly Brazilian hair and sophisticated looks keep losing their men to ladies on low cut with simple looks?


Here are some reasons and i hope it makes sense to you all.

1.Arrogance: The supposed not too beautiful ones with simple looks are humble.submissive,non abusive and level headed while the supposed outwardly beautiful ones can't just seem to pipe down and be serene with the men in their lives because they always have the subconscious believe that men will always come for them just to realize too late that most of the men that come for them do not actually come for them but for their body and of-course after having their way with them will likely dump them and move on to the next available sweet chic around.

2.Highest bidder: Many ladies with hot bodies tend to have this subliminal feelings that they are too hot for just any man with little cash to have so they tend to hope for a rich dude to buy them and they unfortunately realize too late that a rich man has enough money to buy as many hot chics as he can afford and once the guy has spent a ample sum on her if she is lucky to find one, she will be relegated and a new chic will definitely come on board.

3.Excessive body flaunting: When you flaunt your body as a hot girl,you are simply acting like a decoy and we all know how people treat sample products,they are showcased for people to see,touch and test and when its time to buy the actual product, we tend to demand for the ones sealed in the carton so the more you flaunt that sexy curve the more you are passing an indecent message to the guys.

4.Attention lovers: Yes its quite fascinating to be admired and wanted by many men and this feeling can keep many hot chics unmarried for a very long time because the admiration they enjoy from men is so overwhelming that they can't just imagine giving that up to be with a man.

5.Being too picky: I will not blame any hot chic for this but then many of them just don't know when to back down as they wil be bent on having a dude to compliment their hotness but unfortunately it does not work this way in the real world and they tend to realize too late and just pick any available one and this is why you see many hot chics ending up with guys that do not match up at all and this is because they have given up sweet guys hoping to get drop dead gorgeous ones.


My advice to ladies generally whether hot or not is Just to keep a level head and be humble and trust me, even the most handsome and responsible men will come begging to have you for keeps.

Its never about outward beauty but its all about the beauty of the mind and even a man who have sworn to date or marry a super curvy chic will melt if he comes across a humble,submissive,non abusive straight shaped lady with a quality of a real virtuous wife.

Guys are wiser now and a reasonable man will not mind to marry a humble respectful ugly lady rather than have a manner-less and sharp tongued sex symbol as a wife but would rather bleep and dump such.

Hope this helps

So so spot on and that last point is so true.

I am not a guy who is an average lady's man and there was a day i approached a very hot chic and the way she looked at me made me so angry that even before she said any word i lashed out at her

Toks2008:
Having a child out of wedlock is not ideal in anyway and ladies should do their best to avoid this not by the sinful and babaric act of abortion but by been careful to open up to a man who will love then enough not to abandon them and the child should pregnancy occurs.

Nevertheless,it is no longer a big deal that we have baby mamas who are never married and we have a growing number of this set of ladies due to many factors too numerous to elucidate upon.

The sad twist is that it is generally believed that such ladies usually find it difficultt to find a man that will eventually marry them due to the stigma of being a single mum out of wedlock.

In my opinion,being a single mother is no deterrent but most times,it is the approach of these ladies who find themselves in this situation that really makes it hard for them to get a man as fast as they would love to.

Here are very important list of advise that will be beneficial for you.

1.Be confident; Many men are very skeptical about fertility status of many ladies these days so as a single mum you should be proud of yourself that you are fertile and capable of procreating so carry yourself with dignity and be proud of yourself.

2.Look sexy: Get rid of that after child-birth pregnancy(protruding tummy) many Nigerian young mothers are known for. I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH.I guess this link will come in handy for you and other mothers because guys love flat tummies even after you have given birth toi children.http://www.findhomeremedy.com/12-wonderful-home-remedies-for-getting-flat-tummy-after-delivery/

3.Be selective: This might sound strange but if you have your way,look away from single never married guys. Yes this does not apply in all cases but i will be frank with you on this. You will be more appreciated by male divorcees,widower as well as the married men while single never married guys may just want to cool off with you. While you may ignore the married men,widowers,divorcees,or a never married single dad will make a better pair.

4.Don't discuss your child excessively: I have heard many single mothers say stuffs like..a man who will want me must want my child..

Well no man will ask you to forget your child but most guys are not interested in hearing you sing about the child,remember its not his child so in as much as a mother's love towards her child is strong,please try to avoid making it a subject matter even if the man also has his own children. Discussing your child excessively will take the shine off the affair.

5.Don't take up the responsibility: This is one big mistake single mothers do. Except the man absconds or his family bluntly refuses to accept the child,DON'T EVER TAKE UP THE RESPONSIBILITY OF TAKING CARE OF THE CHILD.

In most cases,the baby daddy and his family are interested in the baby but not interested in the mother so many times these ladies usually hold on to the child because to them "if you don't want me,you can't have my child"

No matter the stress you go through in bringing the child up,you can never erase the paternity of the child and a day will likely come when the child will look for the dad or visavis and when the day comes,just one prostration and im sorry from the dad will melt the pains of neglect of many years so why insist on taking care of a child of a man who may come back to claim his biological child.

Please give the child to the father's family,after-all nobody in this world can contest the maternity of the child.Abeg free yourself because its a turn off for guys when they want to woo a cutie and discover that the baby you are with is actually yours...its better to know latter.

Or better still give the child to a family member of yours and be free to rediscover yourself.

6. Be financially independent: Please understand that many men these days are struggling and it will be very unrealistic for you to expect another man to automatically take up another man's responsibility.

Yes some men will not mind to take care of you and your child or children but try to be financially independent in the little way you can so that while you expect some form of financial succor from any man that comes into your life,you will not stress him too much by wanting him to provide for a child who is not his.

7.Don't be a dumping ground: Many ladies have been enmeshed with self pity and condemnation that they just rush into any affair with guys who they will ordinarily never date all because they see themselves as after one as they call it.

There is a saying for single mothers in my dialect "omo bibi ki n se arun" meaning having a child out of wedlock is not a disease.

8. Be bold,be confident never allow any man love you out of pity or take advantage of you.

Hope this helps.

Just reading through these and i must commend your fantastic overview.

Nike must see this.

Toks2008:
When a man shows interest in a lady and tells her that he would love to know her better,most times in his heart this is exactly what he is saying: "Hi lady, can i get to have a taste of your goody-bag and have the feel of your body to know if you are good enough in bed and decide if i should keep you for long or dump your ass in a jiffy because i don't really care whether we end up together or not".

I honestly don't believe in dating and even as courtship sounds more reasonable,it is still not really necessary and i will try to list logical reasons why ladies should avoid this lie from the pits of hell called dating or courtship and i hope you learn a great deal from this.


1. A man usually knows if there is a huge possibility of marrying you or just want to use you to pass time the very first day he sets his eyes on you and a man who is really interested in a purposeful affair with you will give you the sign almost immediately with the body language except you refuse to be vigilant.

2. Many Men use dating and courtship as a means of exploring you sexually and probably after he realizes that your bosoms are not as firm as he wants them to be or your sex performance is below what he wants or after he has really used you to his satisfaction then he tells you it can't work out because his mum does not want him to marry from your tribe or just brings up any lame excuse and decides to walk away to get another lady to "date"

3. An Angel can turn to a demon: Many people have argued that dating period is a period where you will know the type of person you have but this assertion is very funny because a good person can turn terrible and most times even if the person seems bad many ladies will still go on and marry him with the hope of changing him.

4.Dating and courtship is a disguised miniature marriage because in many cases when a guy starts dating or courting you,you will be doing some stuffs that wives do and i keep wondering why they still see the union as dating or courting when he is practically having all the benefits he should get from a wife hence the need to continue dating and courting and dating and.. until you suddenly realized you have spent your honey years married unofficially to a man who will probably dump you to marry another lady still in the name of dating.

5.A thousand years of courtship is no guaranty that you will know the man and until you two stay under the same roof as man and wife,you will never come closer to knowing who he really is so why waste your years dating and courting.

6.Most of the marriages of our parents are great examples as most of our parents hardly knew each other before getting married yet many of them had a lasting and loving union but these days despite the celebrated dating and courting culture,many marriages hit the rock.

7.A good union is not hinged on the number of years both of you spend sleeping with each other in the name of dating or courtship but its in learning to love whoever you choose to marry and making up your mind to be with him against all odds.

8. I believe that for a man to ever propose an affair to you then he must have found you good enough to have to himself and for a decent lady to agree to an affair with a man then she is definitely ready to be with the man except she is a slut so why waste time fooling around with each other all in the name of getting to sleep with each other in the name of dating and courtship?

9. A sexless date or courtship is the ideal form of courting where both of you try to know just a peripheral detail about yourselves hence once sex comes in then its no longer dating but unofficial marital union.

10.The responsible and matured guys at heart knows the type of woman they want and do not get involved in baseless dating but simply go for the lady of their choice and marry her.

If you are not ready to marry a lady,don't make advances towards her just to waste her years sampling her and if you are a lady,stop fooling yourself thinking you are dating him whereas you are just giving him your body to be used and probably dumped and understand that dating and courtship are just facade from the pits of hell aimed at destroying the lives of ladies by becoming single unmarried mothers,losing their lives through abortions and many have contracted deadly diseases all in the name of dating.

Lets face it,a year of sexless courtship should be enough and one year is not too much to deprive yourself of sex in order to know that guy better and if a man does not start the process of marrying you within a year then it means you are either dating a small boy for the sake of having sex or you are probably with a man who is not sure he wants you.

I know that all the sermons in the world will not bring sanity to the facade of dating and courtship and if any lady sees this piece and shoves it aside,my advice to such is to continue to serve herself on the alter of sexual ecstasy for as many guys as possible in the name of baseless dating or courtship

My humble opinion and i hope this helps.

Bros maka why?

You dey spoil show for guys o habba.

Toks2008:
Can any one write on romance section without iincluding the wiomen folk?

Their is no romance without women.

Seconded bro.

Toks2008:
I can afford to overlook your comments but i would like to address your subliminal perpetual psychological and mental insecurities.

I quite understand that your IQ can not decipher what it means to have a creative writing skill because apparently all the threads you have ever created are vague as well as lack any form of intellectual prowess because all you have ever wrote is either reporting one bias story or the other.

Let me advice you mr attention seeker,anytime you come across a thread on nairaland that does not catch your fancy just do yourself the honor of not clicking on it rather than come in to make a grave mockery of yourself.

My brotherly 40cents.

WOW! Epic response.

Now the question is ;

Is this punishment for having sex at 16 or doing it with the landlord's son?

The lady na witch and if they find out very well she is not more innocent than the young lady and e fit be say na since 10years she don dey do am with area boys. smh

Toks2008:
If i may ask bro,what is stopping you from getting married to her?

It is ok to write all these to her but the question is..are you ready to marry her?

If you propose to her right now will she say yes?

There is really no right choice or bad choice of spouse but what we have is our choice and once we make that choice we must face the consequence.

The fact that you are a corper or still searching for job or source of livelihood is no excuse AS LONG AS SHE DOES NOT MIND.

Just get a roof over your head,go to her people for a small introduction and engagement ceremony,and proceed to registry then meticulously build your lives together and once the money starts rolling in do a befitting wedding ceremony.

If you know you don't love her enough to take this bold step i suggest you let her follow her heart and live with her choice.

My humble advice

Nice one oga toks.

The babe get sense die, she no wan continue to dey fool herself for one regberegbe relationship wey no get head.

Toks2008:
Man and woman relationship is the opium of life.

Most unhappy ladies are in that state because of a bad relationship.
Many suicide cases are as a result of broken heart.
Many people in mental homes are as a result of bad relationships.
Most of the occupants in hell right now got their with fornicating as the main cause.

A man or woman without a good relationship will always be a shadow of him or herself no matter the exterior appearance.

In-fact i can continue to tell you the ripple effect of relationship on life.

Bros i too dey gbadun you.

Abeg educate nairalanders wella because you have a gift in this area and people like us go learn and some go dey abuse you but that is life for you. Just dey do your thing.

Gaborone:
Will he ask that if he hasnt seen the colour of your pant before?

Get pregnant when you've not come to pay bride price and do 'Yes Sir! Yes Sir!' to my dad?



Pregnant ko. Pregnant ni.

Bride price things...

Sometimes you cant blame us o.

See its like getting married to a man you no dey sure say the kini dey active so please try and understand.

Many babes don abort before and one innocent guy go shook head mba.

As i wrote before,i go do intro nut you must get belle bfore real marriage or take a walk.

Afterall its not a one way thing because if u dey sure of urself then it will also save you from marrying a guy wey no fit fertilize.

hemartins:
voluntary resignation. Maybe he is trying to avoid something.

Gbam.

My taughts too.

Toks2008:
YES YOU CAN MAKE HEAVEN EVEN IF YOU FALL INTO SIN EVERYDAY OF YOUR LIFE.

What you are about to read will change your life forever.

After reading this, you will be filled with indescribable peace that surpasses all human understanding because you will know for sure that you no longer have business with hell but guaranteed a place in paradise.

Some may call it heresy but that is exactly what the devil wants you believe it is whereas it is the greatest truth GOD wants the world to know and the devil never ever wants the world to know. This is why 99% of pastors will never preach it.

Read on:

1. Do you know that in the past before Jesus came to pay the permanent price,the Israelis which were a symbolic representation of GOD's people were commanded by GOD to make animal sacrifice for atonement of their sins?

This means whenever they fall into sins or commit sinful acts,once they sacrifice the animal, all these sins are automatically wiped off by GOD.

2.The crucifixion of Christ has taken away the sins of yesterday,today and tomorrow: Unlike the repeated sacrifices made in the past for the cleansing of sins each year or anytime they sin,the death and resurrection of Christ has cleansed us from the sins of the past and that of the future.

3. No matter how hard you try, As human beings, it is impossible to be sinless and GOD knows this.

My dear children, I write this to you so that you will not sin. But if anybody does sin, we have an advocate with the Father--Jesus Christ, the Righteous One.(1 John 2:1)

4.Many people in hell fire today have no business been there but because the devil prevented them from knowing this truth, they gave up their salvation making conclusions that they are no good for GOD's kingdom.

5. Most of the Bible heroes were not righteous by human standard.

The Bible does not attempt to conceal the foibles of the great people that adorn its pages. Abraham, Isaac, Moses, David, etc., were normal human beings. They sinned like all other offspring of Adam who have matured to a level of personal accountability (Romans 3:10, 23). Jesus Christ was the only exception (Hebrews 4:15; 1 Peter 2:22).

6.We can never become perfect through our own effort. Our sinful human nature and past sins prevent us from living a perfect life. Christians can claim God's perfection only through Christ Jesus (2 Corinthians 5:21).

Christians are perfect only through the one sacrifice that Jesus made. Scripture says this very clear:
"Because by one sacrifice he has MADE PERFECT FOREVER those who are being made holy." Hebrews 10:14

7. Anytime you sin whether knowingly or unknowingly, simply go on your kneels and ask GOD to forgive you in the name of JESUS(A symbol of animal sacrifice Israelis make each time they sin against GOD)

8.Once you have sincerely giving your life to Christ, you can't lose your salvation but you can willingly give up your salvation which are practically two different things.

This is the case of many people wailing in hell today. They have at one point giving their life to Jesus but because they still find themselves, fornicating, committing adultery, drinking, smoking and doing several other things they were known for, they simply gave up rather than continue to ask for forgiveness in the name of Jesus and also ask the spirit of GOD to help them stop these sinful habits.

Stop condeming yourself friend, 99.9% of believers will battle with one sinful habit or the other till they die.Its about trusting Jesus to forgive them each time they fall into this sinful act but the first step is to accept him as your lord and savior then ask the holy spirit to help you overcome these sinful habits and try your best to allow him.

This article is not to encourage believers to purposely or deliberately sin everyday as this means they are slaves to sin but its to make every believer understands that the battle of righteousness is fought till the last breadth we take and must never at anytime or the other give up their salvation if they fall into sins repeatedly.


CONCLUSION: The grace of GOD is not for us to enjoy sinning and continuously ask for forgiveness but its for us to live above the power of sins in our lives(Romans 6).

But if everyone alive today gives their lives to Jesus and hold on to their salvation no matter how hard they struggle with sins. Heaven will be a home for all.

Hope this helps

Oga toks this is very revealing...

Anyways...God will give us all the strength to fight till the end.

Toks2008:
If i disect her nature for you,you will doff your heart for me.

When my ex left,i took it upon myself to do a thorough research because no matter how hard i try to understand her motive,and everyone who spoke with her were amazed at how pointless her excuses were.

When pastor chris said we should pray for her,i understood him perfectly.

I discovered that pisces ladies are like that and i know 5 piscean ladies who left their matrimony on stuffs that ordinarily holds no water.

They are very unrealistic in nature and they have the most annoying trait of leaving their affairs for non issues that can readily be resolved.

I have heard about this zodiac characteristics but i don't know if it is really true.

adebisicutie:
Judge not so that you will not be judged. It's only the 2 people in the marriage that knows what really went on, there are many things that can cause one to fill for divorce and just because you may not have encountered them doesn't negate her feelings

Judge ke?

I was writing from another angle.

My point is that worse things happen in life and even many pastors are not innocent of the same issue she used as excuses but i still believe she went toooo far without considering many things.

Even if she wants to reconcile, she has put herself in a situation where it will take GOD's grace for that to happen. I wish them a blissful marriage.

craziebone:
exactly what came to my mind.

Secondly, i think @Toks2008 should go see a guidiance counsellor. I noticed he has some issues which needs professional help since the very first time i met him here on NL. He was always on about women's "ex factor", women keeping their virginity, etc. He also mentioned it in a place where he said he lacks confidence to ask women out. He is over 40 years old, broke, and feeling desolate. That's why he is always here on NL picking on women.

Dear Toks2008, see a guidiance counsellor. You can go to a university close to you and to the faculty of education and look for the department of counselling and educational psychology. There are counsellors there who can help you. You can be that better person again. You can also let Pastor Anita inspire you with her words. Like anita said, it doesn't matter your AGE...you can still have a good life.

Lol! abeg i guess you missed it totally.

Of recent i started following this guy and i think he is a blessing to nairaland and me especially. And having chatted him up i can say he is the best guardian counselor i have ever met when it comes to relationship matters.

Are you sure you met with him or read your own meaning to his posts?

I have gone through all his threads that has to do with relationships and i doff my hat for him so i think it is terribly immature of you to conclude that he is broke because from what he personally told me, he is not interested in money mongers and a fine dude like that can never lack confidence in wooing a lady and infact ladies woo him and yes he said he ex left him when he got broke which is not recent but about 3 years ago so please stop coming here to tarnish the image of an innocent guy who is trying to make us all learn from his experience.

The most amazing thing he wrote to me is that his life is an open book and it will be very difficult for anyone to find him wanting in one negative area or the other.

Too unfortunate this is coming from a male and i think you need professional help because im so pissed that you are here writing all these about someone you have never even met one on one online or in camera.smh.

I know when he sees this,i trust him to respond to you in a subtle and mature way that will make you wish you never wrote this because all you wrote are unfounded and unnecessary.