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CareerRe: Can't Complete NIMC Registration,pls Help !!! by xier: 11:51am On Sep 30, 2021
If you have been issued a NIN and they say it is not verified yet, kindly send an email to including your name, tracking ID & NIN to nimccustomercare@nimc.gov.ng and ask them to validate your enrolment. I had similar case and was advised to do that and it was resolved. Just try and send before 9am anyday that you are sending and a Monday is also a good day.
FamilyRe: My Baby Is Just 4 Months And My Wife Is Pregnant Again, I Want Abortion by xier: 10:24am On Oct 12, 2019
I wish I could speak directly with you as to advise you against what you are contemplating. An act today has a result tomorrow...
PoliticsRe: Electoral Bill: How PDP Plans To Rig 2019 Elections - Lauretta Onochie by xier: 2:28pm On Dec 09, 2018
Can this woman just SHUT UPhuh
FamilyRe: "My Wife Wants To Bring Her 7-Year-Old Girl She Had Before We Met To My Home" by xier: 8:00am On Aug 06, 2018
The baby did no wrong coming into this world. Love her and who knows what tomorrow would be. You are not her biological father but you may end up being the father she will ever know and value. Let your good deed speak tomorrow for you.

It may be difficult adding an extra mouth to your struggles but remember that all good gifts comes from God. Trust only in Him and totally cast all your cares to Him.

I submit by saying, care not about what others will say or think, open your doors and your heart for that child. Watch God pass thru her and bless you
Technology MarketRe: Fairly Used 6kva Petrol Generator by xier(op): 9:20am On Jun 29, 2018
Location is Lagos. Price is very negotiable.
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FamilyRe: My Wife Spat On My Face This Morning, What Should I Do? by xier: 7:41am On Sep 13, 2016
nameerfhtennek:
It's more than 20minutes, I'm still unable to put words together to begin this story. I will try keep it simple and necessarily detailed so everyone will understand the true picture of what happened, why against my belief that writing personal experiences on social media is immature, I had to still write mine. Let's just say I'm not thinking right now, maybe I'm so upset but truth is, I need your advice.

I'm writing this thread seated at the back of a Hilux truck just outside our apartment. Yaa, that me in the picture. You see, today is EID and believe me I should be resting in the house since I'm not working today. Days like this only come by 6times in a whole year and more than anything, I would have loved resting than being out here.

It was yesterday evening, she called and said she her driver were headed to my office. She wanted to pick some stuffs around my office. Yaa, I forgot to say this is Saudi Arabia. If you know Saudi quite well, you will agree with me that a husband will definitely get exhausted running errands for his wife or the family. I was not in the mood for shopping but she wanted to shop. She got upset that I didn't want to accompany her shopping.

She did her shopping alone and returned few minutes before I closed from work. We headed home. Unknown to me, I forgot my internet router in my office because I was rushing to get home and continue with my FIFA 16.
Her internet service expired some days back so we were using mine.

While playing game, she walked into the seating room and demanded for my router. Mine, not hers. With her tone and facial expression demanding the router, I didn't respond because there was an indication that she was warming up for a quarrel. I wasn't just in the mood. The thing is, she is very skilled in extending her anger phases. That is one thing I can't understand till today. Believe me, it was not like this while we were dating. Sorry, I forgot to tell you I married my university girlfriend, she years my junior and the same department. Ya, I'm one of those guys that dated and planned for the future with their girls at the same time. God blessed that plan but at this point I don't understand everything that has been happening for the past one year plus since we got married. She repeatedly demanded that I handed over my router to her but I was quiet. Meanwhile, it occurred to me that I forgot the router in my office the minute she first asked about it. Truth is, I actually needed to use the internet that night for my online FIFA.

After several times of asking for the router and no response from me, she took the TV remote and switched off the TV. She walked straight to the kitchen and hid the remote. I approached her in the kitchen and told her I was not ready for any kinda quarrel. We have had enough for the past one year of getting married. I then told her I forgot the router in my office, I didn't have it. I guess she didn't believe me, she never did. She told me to leave her alone. I returned back to the seating room with my heart beating fast. I knew she wanted a serious quarrel that night. After some minutes, I returned to the kitchen and requested for the remote. Then I figured out she hid it in her pant. Pretending I was passing by, I swiftly went for the remote from under her short gown and grabbed it. She didn't expect I knew where she hid it. She followed me behind and ceased the game console, second indication she wanted me to react. I do have a problem with my temper just like every human, male or female. I have also learnt to deal with it by walking away at times I feel I was going to lose it. The same reason I'm outside at this time, 9:55 pm Saudi time. She knows I have fought hard to tame my temper issues but most times, she makes deliberate efforts to have me overreact to her nags and rants.

I watched her hide the console in her pant yet again. I shuddered in obvious fear because I knew what the woman wanted, a fight. Unable to deal with it,the intimidation and the shame, I went for the console and squeezed it out from her hand while she was trying to hold it tight. That was when the trouble then started. She wanted a buffer to help her spill everything she had nursed in her mind. "You are a violent person!! You can kill, idiot!! You were not shown love by your parents, that is why you will squeeze your wife's hand to collect the console. They allowed you to grow up in the street without parental guidance and love." Then it came....pwaaaaaaah!!! She spat on my face!!!!! God knows, I have never been spat at before, not by my parents, not by my siblings, not by anybody. " I agree I was not shown love by my parents but your Dad is a coward for running away from your mother without being there for you guys when he needed to play his roles as a father. That explains the reason you are like this", I said and walked back to the seating room.

I managed to play a few games which I lost mostly and then slept off around past 5am this morning. Around 3pm, I woke up and went to the office. Not like I had work but I needed to clear my head away from the house. If only there was alcohol in Saudi, I would have been somewhere in a hotel drinking away the shame. When I returned home by past 7pm, hungry and tired. I needed to continue my game but I could no longer find the game console and the TV remote. I asked for it and she ignored me. I managed to eat and then left the house to this truck.

You see, I love my wife more than anything, more than anyone. She is one person in the whole world I could go any length for. I love her, that was why I forgave her when she broke up with me after I left Nigeria for Saudi Arabia. She broke up with me few months after I came to Saudi and started dating another guy twice her age. She says she never expected I would come back to her after she left me but I did. I did because I saw a future with her, a future I imagined, believed in and worked towards its reality. Today we have gotten to a level where most people out there would want to be, our colleagues envy is because they believe we are privileged and blessed but what they don't know is that in the truth, I have no peace. This marriage has become my legacy and my curse.

I want to send her back to Nigeria in few days time and I hope I'm not making a mistake!!! Spitting on my face, nah nah....am so fed up!!!!
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My advise is you forgive her and talk to her. Sending her to Nigeria won't solve your problem cos it may be you who actually is the problem and not her. Talk to her and tell her what you don't like and what you like about the union and events so far. Learn to sacrifice for your wife even when it's very inconveniencing and when you may not be able to accompany her to a thing, endeavour to convince her thoroughly on why you cannot follow her and see to it that she understands with you and don't just assume she does. Women are not wired as men are so there is need to always understand them. You need to be a man and control your home
Car TalkRe: Why You Need To Run A Scan On Your Vehicle Before Repairs by xier: 12:34pm On Sep 01, 2016
Can someone please advise of a good place in Lagos where I can scan my car and possible price. You can also help with their number if you have it please
Car TalkRe: Why You Need To Run A Scan On Your Vehicle Before Repairs by xier: 12:25pm On Sep 01, 2016
AutoJoshNG:
Car troubles are inevitable, Cars are machines, machines breaks down...today's cars are more like computers on wheels. There is a computer that controls most car functions ranging from the ignition, spark and other engine components to the body system. When you encounter a drivability problem, like engine jerking, under-performance etc, it is always better to run an auto scan on the engine or any part you may suspect is the cause of the problem.

Advantages of the scan includes the fact that it would help you save money, your mechanic won't have to do guess work as he can now pin point exactly where the problem is coming from, some faults are majorly computer electronic in nature and only a scan tool can fix it.... So Guys, running a scan should be the first step in fixing so many car problems.

http://autojosh.com/why-you-need-to-run-a-scan-on-your-vehicle-before-repairs-by-muizz/
Do you scan cars and if yes, where I your location and how much? I have had this 'maintenance required' on my dash board for more than a year so will like to check it out
FamilyRe: Best Way To Show Your Wife You Are Not Happy With Her by xier: 2:36pm On May 13, 2016
That is the act of an ideal man and an ideal woman in a marriage relationship.

Please keep it up and for you man, if your wife is like Evina just as my own wife is, hold her tight no matter what wrong she does. Marriage is all about saying sorry even when you are not wrong.

Evina:
When my husband is angry with me, he still eats food I cook, he still assists me with domestic shores. Replies when I speak to him but doesn't necessarily initiate conversation.

When I see his acts of kindness towards me inspite of being angry with me, I feel so sorry and sad and angry at myself for ever offending such a wonderful man.
LiteratureRe: In Love With Her Pastor-episode 1 By Angelsss by xier: 3:42pm On May 09, 2016
Which of the books is out please, is it still on this story or another? How can one get the book you are talking about? Looking forward to hearing from you as we are hitching to...

Angelsss:
Good news...the full book is out....if you're interested....Oya dab
Thanks for the comments....I appreciate...
your corrections and all...
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FamilyRe: I Feel so Angry With My Husband. Help! by xier: 5:51am On Apr 04, 2016
You just have to be very prayer if not, yo will find your self seeking comfort in the arms of another. This is what has broken a lot of homes and is still breaking. Lack of communication, connection and not feeling wanted. God is all you need now
Satellite TV TechnologyRe: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by xier: 4:20pm On Feb 09, 2016
Please can anyone advise on any other cable tv provider in Lagos asides DSTV. These DSTV guys are seriously milking Lagosians and this isn't sustainable but man has to watch football to relax over the weekend or some evenings. Someone please help!!!
Satellite TV TechnologyRe: Metrodigital, A New Cable Service Provider In Nigeria by xier: 5:37pm On Feb 06, 2016
Please is Metrodigital in Lagos? What is the contact address in Lagos, if yes
RomanceRe: Advice Urgently Needed! by xier: 7:00am On Oct 13, 2015
You seem to have the solution to your problem hence my wondering why you brought it for others to advise you when you have contrary response to all their views. Well, Letter writing is still in vogue and it depends on what you write. If you are as smart as you sound then you would not find a big deal in letter writing. Just pen down something with bit of romance but don't be too forward so if she values you or not, you would still be you. I also believe you can address your hearing problem so make effort on that sir and also remember that the right woman for every man is always out there. As you desire this lady, work on yourself and at the end, you will be glad you did. Finally, your motive for desiring the said girl is bad. You contradict yourself when you say you want her for keeps yet its to satisfy your sex desires that you want her. Well, if you want her for sex, I bet you may regret your action in the long run but start out with her as friends and dating would be easier if she finds you attractive and even the sex will come naturally if she is not still a virgin and sworn not to give to any man except her husband. Wish you well sir.


Olayinka8793:
thanks bro.I think letter writing is no longer in vogue this days,more so them ladies eyes don open well that they considered men toasting them indirectly via letter and text or call as a sign of lack of confidence.moreover I don't know her enough to know how matured she is as she might laugh over a love letter or read it with her friends.
AutosRe: Respray / repaint And Oven Bake your Vehicles to look brand new[with pictures] by xier: 6:11pm On Sep 28, 2015
Mr Pristine, I have a Toyota Camry 2008 grey colour I will like to respray. I will like to know what your cost is and how many days as well as what guarantee you give after spraying client's cars. I know that Lagos roads and drivers can be wonderful but what if the car colour pills on its own. What is also cost of I am changing current car colour say from grey to brown or something. Please direct me how to get to your place if I am coming from Maryland.
MrPristine:
Premium quality oven baked respraying.
AutosRe: Respray/repaint Ur Car Making Use Of Oven Baking Technology. Pix Inside by xier: 8:55am On Sep 28, 2015
Hello Quality Oven Bake, some of your colleagues are currently on a promo so wondering why you are not too. i actually want to respray my Toyota Camry 2008 but N60k is much for now. Your work is good all the same.

qualityovenbake:
Our customers that don't have the luxury of time to bring their vehicle over to our workshop due to the nature of their job or are having problem locating my place, give me a call, I will kindly assist you. Thank you
PoliticsRe: First Sleeper Spotted In The 8th National Assembly (PHOTOS) by xier: 4:14pm On Jun 24, 2015
It is simple to note or observe from where she is sitting that she is not a legislator but maybe a member of staff or press. Let us not be quick to judge or conclude.
opmoore:
As I am trolling my own Jeje on the Ongoing Red Chamber Sitting ,Na so I spot the first Sleeper in the 8th National Assembly
PoliticsRe: Tinubu Demands Apology From Saraki, Dogara On National Dailies - Vanguard by xier: 3:01pm On Jun 20, 2015
FamilyRe: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by xier: 5:03pm On Jun 03, 2015
nickibarb:
Please help me. I'm drowning.

I am feeling very depressed right now. My marriage has been mainly peaceful and chaos free. I did my part, cared for my husband, cooked for him, was available to satisfy his sexual needs 24/7, prayed for him, dressed like I did when we were dating, kept my body in tiptop shape even after 2 babies via c/s, everyone around me testifies to that both men and women.

In the wee hours of sunday morning, I was playing around with his phone cause i couldn't sleep. I realised he had WHATSAPP and BBM apps, it was surprising cause I had tried to get him to download them repeatedly so we can send pics to each other but he refused. He said he wasn't interested in them, so I deleted mine. Like every curious cat, I wanted to see what he was up to on it since he didn't tell me that he had finally downloaded it.

I saw that he had been flirting with almost 10 different girls, had met up with some, given money to a lot of them (even though our finances have not been in tiptop shape, but i've been persevering cause I know it is temporary - I have a great job offer with a N200k salary post-nysc but they are not ready for me to resume work yet, so I have no income for now). Before I digress too much, the chat that hurt me the most was a girl who asked my husband to be sending her N30k a month or week, i'm not sure again (my eyes were blurred with tears), and then whenever he needs her, he should just tell her which hotel to check into. Funny enough, they all know he is married with kids, they even ask him about his baby in the course of their chat. Another one that broke my heart was a girl he asked to arrange 15 girls for a political event being hosted by his older politician friend and the girls should be ready to provide TLC for them afterwards. From the messages, it was clear that he slept with this particular girl after that event because she reminded him that the money she received is not a replacement for the one he is supposed to give her (i'm guessing after a previous sexcapade).

I am so heartbroken, I don't know what to do. I feel like I gave my marriage my all, I followed all the rules of a good wife, I read books, i don't know what I could have done differently. My husband told me everyday how much he was in love with me for the 2 years we dated prior to marriage (we've been married 2 years and 6 months). I saw no trait of promiscuity in him. I trusted him 100% so I never policed him concerning his whereabouts (it's not really in my nature to be like that). I never saw this betrayal coming so it has been very difficult for me to deal with this. I had an emotional breakdown on sunday night when he went for a meeting with the new governor of our state (he is related to him). He came home at midnight to see me unconscious. I woke up in a hospital, apparently I had overdosed on pills. At that time, I wanted to die to get away from my life, but now I didn't die, i'm happy he came home in time to rescue me. I mean he could have easily stayed out all night because it was a special day (post-inauguration celebration). I don't know how I could have thought of leaving my two little kids less that 2 years old. This man has made me CRAZY. If my family hears about this suicidal attempt, they will make me leave him immediately. My fear is, what happens to my little kids, I don't want another woman to come and maltreat them. We were legally married but not in Nigeria. I don't know if Nigerian courts would recognise our marriage certificate. I don't want to lose my kids. I feel like God has allowed a trial too great for me to handle to come my way. I feel like he over-rated my strength. I am just 27. Isn't it too soon for me to face this kind of life challenge? God knows I married this man out of love, not for money, my parents tried their best for me. They sent me abroad, that's where I met my husband, I didn't even know his family in Nigeria was relatively well-to-do. Some people say if your husband cheats on you, it's nemesis for what you did to other women's husbands. God knows I am innocent. I have tried to find out why my husband who says he loves me everyday, will go out of his way to flirt with girls and sleep with them, (it's not like it's all of them that are coming on to him, he is actually doing most of the chasing). He cannot give me a reason for it, he is just begging me to let it go. I have tried but I'm still hurting, i'm still obsessing about it. How can I heal? I don't want to die and leave my children. How can I stop this pain that is eating me up?

I have read all the articles I can find online about how to get past a cheating husband, it doesn't seem to help. I asked my husband if he used a condom and if I need to go and check for STDs. He is not able to answer me directly but says we can both go and get checked out. I feel like God has forsaken me and I don't deserve it. I have tried to be a good girl all my life. I need this pain in my heart to stop. I need to be sane again.
[b][/b]HURTS SO DEEPLY I CAN SAY BUT JUST LET HIM TO GOD. VENGEANCE IS MINE SAYS THE LORD. IF YOU KILL YOURSELF, GOD WILL NOT FORGIVE YOU BECAUSE YOU KNOW ITS WRONG YET YOU DID IT. WHAT IS LOVE? CHRIST SACRIFICED FOR US (GREATEST LOVE EVER) YET, HOW DO WE RECIPROCATE THE LOVE? BE SMART AND LET GOD. LOVE YOUR CHILDREN AND ALWAYS PRAY FOR YOUR KIDS AND YOUR HUSBAND.
FamilyRe: Please Save Me From Myself, My Husband Cheated On Me, I Tried To Kill Myself by xier: 5:00pm On Jun 03, 2015
[b][/b] HORRIBLE ADVICE. DO NOT DO IT BECAUSE OF YOUR SALVATION. SAVE YOURSELF BY COMMITTING HIM TO GOD. IT HURTS BUT LET GOD DO THE FIGHTING FOR YOU. IF YOU DO IT YOURSELF, I [b][/b]BET YOU WILL LIVE TO REGRET IT.
chowlade:
Do it back to him. dont let him have a clue dat u did it
RomanceRe: He Saw A Positive Pregnancy Result In Her Room. by xier: 7:00am On May 30, 2015
kritikali:
After they started dating not before..u put chewing gum for eye?
Thank you for the compliment. It's easier to correct and earn more respect than to take delight in abusing. I won't return the abuse favour but will say thank you for calling my attention to the error I made. Thanks
RomanceRe: He Saw A Positive Pregnancy Result In Her Room. by xier: 10:57pm On May 29, 2015
Mbkite:
He was so shocked when he saw a positive pregnancy test result in the room of the lady he wants to marry. The result shows that the test was conducted 7months ago, after he started dating her. This simply implies she aborted the pregnancy and lied to him never to have had abortion. He is really confused and has lost trust in her, but he still loves her.
NOTE: He has not slept with her for even a day.
What should he do to format what he saw from his memory and continue with the lady? Is this likely to affect his attitude towards the lady in the nearest future?

Matured advice please....

Cc: lalasticlala, ishilove - Pls help us push this to the FP, the guy needs more help. Thanx
Lack of trust has made it impossible for us to give benefit of a doubt. You said the abortion, if hers, was conducted months ago before you guys started dating. Remember, it's possible it may truly never be hers. My candid advice, do not approach her directly but stylishly confront her. You could say something like, 'imagine what I found in your room. One needs to be careful with our environments before things that do not belong to us or that belongs to our past comes hunting us'. I can assure you that if its hers confession will start flowing
RomanceRe: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by xier: 8:46am On May 18, 2015
pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.
My sincere advice? DO NOT LEAVE HER. You can only know the whole truth about her past if and only if you make her feel safe to talk to you. Something must have pushed her just as something made her get tired. Show her you are angry but you are willing to stick with her no matter what. Imagine all we have done yet God forgives and encourages us to be like Him. Even if you guys do not end up together, your act will make her value you ever or not. BE WISE BRO...
PoliticsRe: Don’t Panic, Presidency Tells Jonathan’s Supporters: Abati by xier: 6:32am On Mar 30, 2015
calmbabadee:
The Presidency on Sunday urged supporters of President Goodluck Jonathan against panic over some “fake results” of the Saturday’s presidential elections, allegedly being released by opposition party.

Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, Dr. Reuben Abati, made the Presidency’s position known on his Facebook page.

Abati asked supporters of the President not to be fooled by the said results, saying the only confirmed result so far was the one from Ekiti State.

He expressed delight that Jonathan won in the South-West state.

He also noted that the Independent National Electoral Commission had addressed the issue of the fake results.

Abati wrote, “Our numerous supporters (both home and abroad) are reaching out to us and requesting that we should say something.

“We can assure you that we are on top of everything.

“INEC has already addressed the issue of viral ‘opposition’ sponsored fake results that they should be ignored.

“So far, the only announced concluded official result from anywhere is from EKITI state.”

“A resounding victory for President Jonathan! Don’t be fooled or panic. We say thank you.”




http://www.punchng.com/news/dont-panic-presidency-tells-jonathans-supporters/
Abati face reality. I am a Jonathan supporter but he is a very hard product to sell so we accept the wish of Nigerians. You too should do same and extend a hand of congrats to the wind of Change in Nigeria.
Technology MarketRe: Best Inverter (deep Cycle) Battery Brand In Nigeria by xier:
I have over 10,000 units of Absaar Battery Chargers (10 Amp, 12 volt) to dispose of. Any one interested should contact me on 08056238976.
FamilyRe: I Confronted My Dad For Slapping My Mum, And Got Slapped In Return by xier: 4:18pm On Mar 20, 2015
Freest:
It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wifehuh i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks
Just forgive your dad and protect your mum from harm's way. Be the loving child. Greet your dad at every opportunity but try not to get close to him as before. That I believe will make him remorseful and change his ways. Above all, pray for your family because it is not easy and the devil seeks opportunities to destroy us.
FamilyRe: Caught My Neighbour's Kids Having Sex...should I Tell Their Parents? by xier: 9:36am On Feb 12, 2015
mutter:
You had no right to flog them.

You should report them to their parents immediately. They are responsible for the children and need to know.
If they believe it or not is no longer your problem.

For God`s sake don`t go asking their teacher or anyone else. That is wrong because the kid`s are not in your care.
You know I was just trying to imagine you catching them and flogging them there. It is a perverse picture,

This kind of thinks happens among siblings, it actually occurs at a much younger age- not sex but the curiosity about each others bodies.

That it developed into this is because there was neglect and lack of parental care.
Do you truly understand what you said by he had no right to flog them? Siblings committing incest and you say have no right?

I will say, take them to their parents and ask them to tell their parents what you caught them doing. That will make their parents not turn back to hate you and promise their parents that you will never mention it even to yourself nor to anyone.

God bless you for disciplining them.
RomanceRe: Before You Decide To Abstain From Sex Till Marriage by xier: 6:33am On Feb 05, 2015
gilgal7:
No H.R hires an un experienced staff...
I'm shocked at your comment. So no HR hires a recent graduate? Making excuses to justify our actions even when we feel they are wrong.
PoliticsRe: SCANDALOUS: Outrage In Nigeria As Government Brands National ID Card With Master by xier: 7:56am On Aug 30, 2014
The way some people reason even confuses the devil. NIMC is not releasing any biometric data to Mastercard nor anyone else. Sagemetrics as mentioned by someone here is also a client to the success of this project. Your biometric information is stored somewhere within Nigeria. What is released to Mastercard is the same information of yours that banks release to them about you which is your name. Your password is released by you when you use the card. This project was initially supposed to be handled by Chams Plc and OneSecure but they failed to invest in the project and for your information, the said N30B from FG is still being expected by NIMC. All who have worked on the success of the e-card are Nigerians. Any foreigner you see in NIMC is from the technical partners. The DG of NIMC is a Nigerian and in his little way has empowered Nigerians by employing them for this task not as contract staff as in the case of the defunct National ID card which was handled by a foreign company (Sagem). If there was no issue as regarding payment, you obviously wouldn't have seen Mastercard logo on your card. It is an not just an ID card but it also is a payment card.
PoliticsRe: SCANDALOUS: Outrage In Nigeria As Government Brands National ID Card With Master by xier: 3:30am On Aug 30, 2014
arresa: Hold yourself, get it together and control your puerile emotions..




And they get 170 million new customers in return while we are vulnerable to American laws and regulations and even economic sanctions...

How slow can you get...
The card, though a GMPC, it's not compulsory that you use it for financial transactions. I have mentioned this before, from gathered and reliable information, it is not tied to your bank account at all. When you filled the form and did enrolment, for those who have enrolled, did you supply any of your bank accounts? The idea behind making the card a General Multi-Purpose Card is to help reduce the number of cards you carry. This card is suppose to be used to vote, used for payment (if you activate the payment solution), used as your tax card, used as your pension card, used for your housing card, have your details to eliminate duplication of information about you hence the complete finger prints, used by road safety to issue you a drivers' licence.
PoliticsRe: SCANDALOUS: Outrage In Nigeria As Government Brands National ID Card With Master by xier: 9:06pm On Aug 29, 2014
To further add from gathered and reliable information, NIMC's relationship with Mastercard is simply transactional and has absolutely nothing to do with your biometric information which is stored in a database located somewhere in Nigeria but unknown to about 99.9% staff members of NIMC because of security reasons. If the Commission will hide this information from her own staff members, why would it release your biometric information to an outsider. The card as a payment solution is not even tied to Access Bank nor any bank account. If you need to use your card as a payment solution, you simply walk into any Access Bank and they will load the card with whatever amount you want them to load it with. You will pay the bank a commission for service rendered and will walk out of the bank with your loaded card not tied to any bank account. Ask questions before you open your mouth to praise or condemn.

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