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Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Xmen149(m): 8:35pm On Mar 02, 2021
hairbyuj:
1hp Midea Ac available for sale with Wall hanger and remote
Ac has Never been loose before and less than a year used.

Location Ibeju
Price 60k

What is the fault with this madam.

Will you take 45k ? should I chat you up?
Education / Re: National Open University Of Nigeria (NOUN) Students by Xmen149(m): 2:12pm On Mar 02, 2021
Samisha500:

YES

hi brother,.I got my project topic last year November assigned to me and have rounded up already with my supervisor signature on the completed work.

I want to know,. are there changes now in the procedures for submission of completed projects because they are not not receiving completed work in study centres (with no reason attached) and I have not been able to upload completed work to the online platform too.

PGD program
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 1:43am On Feb 22, 2021
it will be nice if someone will take out time to list the available Satellites and their stations. That way some learners will limit Ghost hunting(finally nailing a sat to find out how uninteresting things there are).

It will also help people that want to employ services of installers here pick SATs they like due to associated packages.

mr digitman and all what do you think
Romance / Re: An ugly Girl With A Big Booty Or Preety Face And Dry Booty ? by Xmen149(m): 11:50am On Feb 21, 2021
habsydiamond:
are u serious!!!!

dam serious.

kido wey inherit bum and waist from her mama you will be guiding her like "guided missile" embarassed ,.The one i saw the other day even girls dey look am 3times..if you be her papa you no go sleep well embarassed
Romance / Re: An ugly Girl With A Big Booty Or Preety Face And Dry Booty ? by Xmen149(m): 11:37am On Feb 21, 2021
ass for dating, wink

pretty face if am aiming marriage (man has gat to have pretty kids you know grin)

Big booty girls transfer it to their lil kids too,at very small age kid will just carry hips and bums like adult sad i dnt want.... undecided fine face all the way,..when they grow up and want bum they should exercise for it undecided

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Romance / Re: My Experience With A Virgin.. Please How Do You Guys Cope by Xmen149(m): 2:53pm On Feb 14, 2021
Patrioticbreed9:
lols .. Mad o .. No joy for yankee be that o,

dnt marry a lady just because she (has hot pants for you,if it's only you) or because she is a virgin.

get your purpose right bro.

also define your relationship and make sure she is ok with it,dnt go taking advantage of a poor soul.

Everyone should be sure of what they want oh,.if not I sorry for you because different plenty things can go wrong..

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Romance / Re: My Experience With A Virgin.. Please How Do You Guys Cope by Xmen149(m): 2:50pm On Feb 14, 2021
Patrioticbreed9:
lols .. Mad o .. No joy for yankee be that o,

dnt marry a lady just because she (has hot pants for you,if it's only you) or because she is a virgin.

get your purpose right bro.

also define your relationship and make sure she is ok with it,dnt go taking advantage of a poor soul.

Everyone should be sure of what they want oh,.if not I sorry for you because different plenty things can go wrong
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 8:47pm On Feb 04, 2021
dlollyboi:

Do you understand how surges work in decoder?

let me get

the lnbf for 45E is directly abobe 42.5E while that of 51.5E is dircetly above 45E right?

can you give strong tracking TP for 51.5E and 45E please i dey learn embarassed
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Xmen149(m): 11:29am On Feb 04, 2021
BoboKush:



U sabi any engineer make i kukuma fix m.... Lol

trying to get good one for mine via a contact,.if i cnt i will do it at my free time. will let you know how it goes sha
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Xmen149(m): 9:24am On Feb 04, 2021
BoboKush:


Exactly today e go work tomorrow H on normal voltage..... Dat why I'm selling as bad

heard it's something heap to fix if you are crafty. The over voltage relay is messed up or a component is bad sending it wrong signal.

All the same na strong product,. happy sales

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Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Xmen149(m): 9:17pm On Feb 03, 2021
BoboKush:


Lagos.... Agege.... 20k...it need repair o.... It displaying high voltage for all light

its like that thing is a course for thermacool digital stablizers.. mine has been coming on and going of while showing H at will on normal voltage input

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Properties / Re: General Topic Thread-To Discuss Anything And Everything in Building Construction by Xmen149(m): 10:52am On Feb 03, 2021
who sells blocks and sand in Enugu ,.9th mile to be precise.

quote me asap
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 10:07pm On Feb 01, 2021
[quote author=Digitman post=98634704][/quote]
thanks alot brother,i appreciate alot. thank you
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 11:24am On Feb 01, 2021
harizonal123:

?
I mean channels on 45e
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 6:51am On Feb 01, 2021
oloet:
42 primary, 45 secondary

please what are the channel list for 45e

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Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 10:34am On Jan 30, 2021
Ourtvng:
Ourtv Nigeria is on Polarization H.

OurTv is the first Nigerian DTH platform that offers absolutely FREE-To-View Channels. No more monthly subscription payments, no bouquet selection, all channels are absolutely free-to-view and can be viewed from anywhere in Nigeria.

See the installation details below

Position: 42.5°E

Frequency: 12545

Symbol Rate: 6166

Polarization: H


that's the direction mbc2 is fa
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 10:33am On Jan 30, 2021
Ameboperoo:

He said Ourtv Gh but you are using style to advertise Ourtv Nigeria. I know you did that deliberately

All these una up and Dan casting sef like rookies

nawa oh
Satellite TV Technology / Re: Free To Air Satellite Tv General Thread by Xmen149(m): 10:51pm On Jan 26, 2021
dlollyboi:

There's nothing to fix, is it the name u watching or the channel

is it back on? mine has been off for more than a month now cry
Education / Re: National Open University Of Nigeria (NOUN) Students by Xmen149(m): 3:12am On Jan 24, 2021
sircatherine45:


Yes, but if a student goes back to write it again, simply replace the F with the new grade. Then recalculate your CGPA

The F will still be added in the calculation.

Eg

Gns101 2cr load = A
Gns 102 3cr load =F
Gns 102 3cr load =C


they will do ((2*5)+(2*0)+(3*3))/8 this will drop the persons cgpa.

in conventional school they will simply remove the F and replace with the new carryover score

here everything is included you get.

alot end up not graduating mostly after existing all the available Elective

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Education / Re: National Open University Of Nigeria (NOUN) Students by Xmen149(m): 6:48pm On Jan 23, 2021
Enskynelson:

PG requirements include minimum of 3.0CGPA. Some students meet minimum TCE and passing all CORE courses yet don't graduate because they don't meet the minimum CGPA requirement. In such a case, if the difference is not much, the only way out is to pick other electives and get a good grade that can boost the CGPA back to 3.0 otherwise, it ends up being a waste of time and resources earning nothing on the long run.

mehn!!! this is information that should be made public.

someone told me today they include all the F in calculating the CGPA including the new scores from the carryover too. this makes students CGPA to drop drastically
Education / Re: National Open University Of Nigeria (NOUN) Students by Xmen149(m): 10:25am On Jan 23, 2021
Anyone can help please
how do noun decide their students final Graduating CGPA.
noticed surge in non graduation of students mostly pgd and MSc bcs of below 3.0
anyone with info can help
Family / Re: What Will You Do In A Marriage Like Mine? by Xmen149(m): 3:33pm On Jan 20, 2021
Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please

madam naija men in marriage are always naturally trained to detect emotional blackmail but how each reacts to it depends.

always come to table with reasonable points with your hubby and avoid he said them said. and weigh in options from his side and struck a balance.

Lol,. crying, nagging and shouting is emotional too blackmail for a man to accept something he is not comfortable with hian! ,You will only end up making him ignore you and will slowly creep into important things.

allow him be and learn from davido s song "fem" if not you will drive him far away from you everyday.Dude will come around.
After all he is still doing everything man of the house is supposed to.

And dnt be telling your self you are right by insisting it's your mother that should be there or else you want to do it with your own cash and by your self including the running cost.Allow my guy to plan his home and support him.

My causin his wife behaves same way has learnt this same thing. and it gets bit worse by the day.dnt try to run the family no matter the support you are giving please.

based on visiting Native doctors. You are supposed to know that far earlier b4 marriage. it is a religious practice wich can't be masked that well b4 marriage. well,.talk him out of it.

Again dnt go around telling externals things about your husband..You will only be cooking strong beans the day it will done it might be only you that will eat it.his immediate family is enough only in special cases.

and yea,.You should pray too.. dnt ever stand in front of your man,allow him lead then offer support..men no like am even if you come with tears to achieve that

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Politics / Re: Chief Of Army Staff Vs Chief Of Defence by Xmen149(m): 10:05am On Jan 16, 2021
Tranquill:


I said TROOPS. look at it this way, there are some generals in the defense headquarter who are higher in rank than the GOCs but what makes GOCs more powerful is that they have troops under their command. Defense chief has no troops under his command.

funny enough he has...but not as large as the ones under the army,navy and airforce.

its usually a collection of troups from the 3 and usually seen as elite

the elite troups function under dhq only i guess....dig well

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Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Xmen149(m): 10:56am On Jan 14, 2021
Onego:
the wall clock has different prices depending on the one you want, Abeokuta and Lagos.

am interested in your pots.

can I get pics with prices attached
Romance / Re: My Boyfriend Stopped Calling And Picking My Calls by Xmen149(m): 3:59pm On Jan 12, 2021
Habby222:
Advice needed pls.

I've been with this guy for close to four years now and its not really been a perfect relationship. Lots of ups and downs due to what I can term insecurity. At some point we're cool and the next minute issues arises just like every other relationship.

He's a good guy to some extent as he showers me with love ( my thoughts)and a lot of times he gives gifts not money though. I've had to give financial assistance to him alot of times, he returns some if he deemed it necessary and doesn't return if he so wishes. I've never complained about this and still always willing to help him out whenever he is in need. Pls note that we're both financially ok.

This gesture of me offering him financial help stopped when I realise he doesn't do same to me. I've had to test him on serval occasions that I needed financial help and he has never for once helped out on those request despite knowing he has. I never needed the money though, I made those request to know if I could actually fall back to him if I'm in need.

Last year October, I told him about my plans of getting a new car as I got tired of the one I was using. Pls note that I did not request him to buy for me neither did I ask for any support whatsoever. I contacted my source in the US with my budget and spec, was able to find one in a short time and I paid for it. All of this moves were known to him. By December, the car arrived and cleared accordingly with every expenses incurred payed by me. He gave some moral support though.

A week after getting the car, he called me one morning and started apologising for not supporting financially in getting the car which I told him I had no issues with that. I told him I wasn't expecting more than moral support from him since I could afford getting the car on my own. I also made him realise he doesn't owe me no apology as I wasn't t his responsibility since we weren't married and that even if we were married, ill always want to get my stuffs myself as long as I can afford it. The next I heard was him ranting on phone that he doesn't expect less from me, said I'm a proud and that he knew I wasn't going to be a good wife. He said he has always known I wasn't going to be a submissive wife and a whole lot of other derogatory words despite not having issues whatsoever prior to that time. I ended the call as I was so surprised he could say those mean words to me.

All through that day he didn't call back and I did not as well cos I was expecting him to realise I was hurt by his actions. A week pass and still no call from him so I decided to call him and he didn't pick. I'd sent a lot of of messages to him and has not replied to any. I'd gone to his house to check up on him and not met him too. Its been three weeks now and we haven't spoken and seen despite all of my effort to talk to him and or see.

Guys please I'm confused and do not know how to handle the issue. Pls advice.

reply this I will tell you.

is he an igbo guy ?
Family / Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Xmen149(m): 6:38pm On Jan 11, 2021
Shokoloko:


Great question. Its the love languages that let you know what your spouse will consider "been taken for granted". I didn't know these until I saw it play out in my marriage.
I love (acts of service) not really gifts or words of affirmation so my spouse couldn't understand why I was NOT tripping for the human hairs, and watches and shoes and Lexus he bought me - I really don't care much for them.
I found him rather kind and sexy when he was washing dishes in the kitchen with me or joining me in my little farm or in the gym (he hates the gym grin).

And he always complained that I took him for granted and never gave him gifts. I did give him gifts but I later realized his love language is GIFT GIVING, so the bigger the gift, the more it meant to him.
So now whenever I want to give my spouse a birthday gift I start putting it together months in advance. I would not buy a phone of more than 60K for myself cause it means nothing to him but I know his love language is gifts so I gift him some crazy unreal phones (His eyes widen like a kid's when I hand him the latest edition).
Of course he still buys me lovely gifts but my thank you when he has done an act of service is both in words and in kind.

Lol,.heard of this b4....so tried
Family / Re: Some Damaging Words My Wife Said During A Quarrel by Xmen149(m): 6:31pm On Jan 11, 2021
Lol,.I don't think anyone understands op.

there are words/statements that makes one Blunt and the butterfly fly out the window and jam trailer.

My ex once said in a street I was highly respected that she dsnt trust me when it comes to double dating(Lol) that she can only vouch for her self.people who knew me got angry and were even swearing and vouching for me she kept on. right there and then she turned stranger to me.

she later appologized but the butterfly don waka that day. I tried everything possible to feel the same again with her for almost 1yr it didn't work till I found a very minor fault from her and let go.

Guy,.give it time and dnt think too much about it. Let her her know she hurt you. then allow her walk the healing. (dnt make mistake like me concealing it,.let her know probably heart to heart talk.). when you do the healing process will come natural.

then stand up..this one your wife will do any how and you will be giving her eye..oga if woman shit test you and you don't correct it immediately e don turn culture. if not when she does it again and you get angry she will believe ua the one causing problems bcs to her that is the normal way it's being done.

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Family / Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 5:19pm On Jan 11, 2021
Lol,.single mother wey suppose calm down.
only low self esteem can make a guy take back a lady (a,single mother at that) back after shouting at him and hanging up phone on him.

Either she is lieing,the guy is a simple or dude gat some mad upcoming plans.

I will say it till tomorrow,. traditional igbo parents dnt receive gifts from their daughters boyfriend or sons girlfriend.

to Traditional igbo parents you only have one slot of your boyfriend or girlfriend visiting them and to them it's a confirmation that they are taking you to marry her. infact they will call you meeting in evening same day to know your plans as a man,.or as a woman to inquire more and when the man is coming (if they see him again its marriage list he came to collect or he is seen as unserious).or he can be there talking to them on phone.

any traditional igbo woman that allows her daughter boyfriend to be visiting the house and be expecting him to bring gift ontop is crey crey.

What girls dnt understand is that igbo tradition will tell you that,if you want to know how the girl you want to marry will behave later you should take a good look at her mother...Lol..Just saying...maybe na fact finding mission my guy go.

If you are coming to igbo land to marry please visit once and watch the family closely..then go use people ask questions while you keep communication (phone). Next you will be Seen is to collect list and start. after you have become in-law anything you want to and can be able to do for your in-law in relation to their status it's your own thing. This is the real traditional igbo way.

*
this is necessary so people don't start seeing Igbos in wired light. we don't do nonsense

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Family / Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 8:10pm On Jan 09, 2021
osazsky:
what if like 3 guys are fukking her...see plenty gift...that one na fianceenances

hahahahaha
Family / Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 12:42am On Jan 09, 2021
SweetCunt97:
Allow women to give u the Pucci out of their own volition, or enforce on them.they don't like been controlled

let me ask you small question no offence.

If you are are mother,.Will you be comfortable receiving your your daughters boyfriend to the house.

Will you be comfortable also expecting him to bring gifts when he comes.

Will you expect him being introduced to you and ur husband as the final state of their friendship and traditional marriage activities to follow or jus be seeing him around the house bringing you gifts after the introduction.

Just questions..am talking of your own daughter
Family / Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 12:17am On Jan 09, 2021
shantti:


Azin eh, coded prostitution

mothers dey run am steady for some places in the east I rather not name..coded things
Family / Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Xmen149(m): 12:15am On Jan 09, 2021
shantti:


Gini bu this intending in laws u r talking about, are you daft, the young man brought gift on his first visit,

intending inlaw is someone that said they will marry your daughter then go on having canal knowledge of her after you have known the two of them together and this can go on as long as possible while he brings you gift..

same word as fiance..or onye choro inu nwagi nwanyi

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