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sexybbstar:
Real problem is when you write "a father that is not rich like Dangote,is that one a father?" On facebook....and lo and behold ,you father like the post!


On a serious note,we guys should stop pointing accusing fingers at our fathers(parents) ...words like"i wish mr x is my father", "where was he when others were making money"?

I saw a comment made by someone on a front page thread. He typed "my father is as useless as my left hand"!

Your father may be more hardworking than those rich men but nature didn't smile on him.Some people's nuts are being cracked by a benevolent spirit (an Igbo adage), things just happens to fall into place for them.Most of these rich men dont work as hard as the rate at which money fall onto their laps,but life is just good to them.

Think of it,there are some of your mates out there that are not as hardworking as you but are living larger than you.So,how would you feel if someone tells you that where were you when your friend was making money...obviously,you wont feel good.You will feel like"but i am hardworking".

I do not dispute the fact that some parents are actually useless in terms of taking care and providing for their children. If you happen to fall into that category, all you need to do is to forget about them and show them that "I CAN DO IT WITHOUT YOU". Never blame them for your misfortune, see at as how it has been written.


So,lets respect our parents,and appreciate the fact that they brought us to life and nutured us through thick and thin.

Appreciate your mum for not aborting you before you came into this world.Respecting them alone is a key to long life.

I drop my pen!

Going through posts shared with me and I happen to read yours. You are a darling for writing thath. So on point and insightfull. Whoever you are Damsel, may you never be in distress.

MissRaine69:
Your love life is more complex than trying to negotiate peace in the Middle East.

You made me LMAO!

Presh900:
X^2 × √y = Z .... Idiot!! You think if I wanted to think about x,y,z , I don't have textbooks for that

As in I got so confused that I began to wonder which of the 3 alphabets came first.

gprincead:
Op Im not sure if there is a woman behind every successful man but I'm sure there is a woman behind every unsuccessful man

Have you watched the movie 'The Gambler' ? In it there are two women in the life of the character Mark Walberg played as a chronic gambler, one is his mother and the other is his student-turned-girlfriend, both of whom who tried to change his life for good but his waging addiction always get the best of him just like the protagonist in 'Wild Card'. How should the failure of such unsuccesfull men be attributed to women ? There are guys from super-rich families in Nigeria who continue to be failure in everything because of their uncontrollable obsession with narcotics and/or being a chronic womanizers. So no I disagree, not all unsuccesfull men has a women behind their failure.

pinkpant:
Albert Einstein, yanni, Michael Jackson, Marvin gaye, Leo DiCaprio, Larry king etc... getting married doesn't mean the women was behind them, in fact some of them shouldn't ever been married at all.

How did you came about the knowledge that these men you wrote never had a female figure attached to their success ooner achievements one way or the other, even the gay CNN anchor 'Anderson Cooper' can't say he had no female associate attached to his career pique, much less of the insane and crazy dictator Adolf Hitler who also had a wife.

Oyindidi:
Face front

Will do once you turn yours backward.

I can't believe this is working.

As far as NL traffic is concern, at all, at all na im be winch.

funmisticqueen:
What of your mum, your sister, friend, coworker, or even that female boss that drops advice once in a while

Perfect rejoinder.

pinkpant:
Many successful ladies made it without a single man behind them, so surely many successful men don't even required the presence of a Lady at all to become successful, so the mantra is not very true.

I hadn't guessed as much, can you give example of such men...Richard Branson ? Marshall Matters ?

y3mi:
Seun Lalasticlala Farano Rocktation. This topic deserves to be on the frontpage.

I appreciate it you guys rock. Now I get to read so many divergent views.

Tahrah:
Na wa o

Make we no read your black rose, why?

Oyindidi:
Sharrap!

Oh! Sorry I didn't realize he's your crush. Ma bi nu.

ikeepitreal:
Vagina!

The source of all human creation. I like to call it inlet, there are minors on NL.

Amarabae:
you look good and ok.

Thanks Damsel.

hodusglobal:
Abeg, leave the boy alone ooo, no be him fault, Na because he still dey collect pocket money from mama Yemi to buy data on his Android phone...@OP, O-Boy, no worry, I go report you to mama Yemi when next I visit her...

Na me u dey call boy? I no blame u, na cos say I look way younger than my age. Nairaland took off 2005, I discovered it '06, registered '07 and started commenting and trending with great threads, some of which has graced front-page. Only if you know my other monikers then you'd know I'm an 'agba-awo' on Nairaland whose impact has being felt across positively, and to which you will realise I'm not in the same league with a 10th generation joiner like you who registered 2015. Besides, if you know one of the few creative disciplines I'm into, you'd be asking me to school you better so you can come up with a much better logo than the kitsche you are so proud of creating you had to upload it on your NL profile as your DP instead of your face which your less proud of.

NairalandCS:
What is this now ?

A thread where Nairaland rejects meet up to catch fun.

arleck:
choi!
Lele Emi ka peugeot405

Thanks bro

Oluwasaeon:
Are you not too old for this ?

Oluwasaeon Are you too old-looking to post your pic on NL ?

...And so it began

If you are a certified troll, a post stalker, a jobless derailer or even a forum troublemaker. Here is the thread for y'all to make it out and catch fun.

Enjoy while it last.

Seun Lalasticlala Farano Rocktation. This topic deserves to be on the frontpage.

Fadman4real:
What happened to love?
What happened to faithfulness?

This is nothing but poverty mentality which is most prevalent among our Nigerian ladies. The most important thing they look out for is how much is a guy worth forgetting everything else.

Let me tell you something you don't know we live in a poor country relatively. Most of us youths who finish school with a good grade find it difficult to get a good job and settle for a little job to put food on d table and keep hustling for a better job and even when you eventually find it. The pay is much smaller than what your peers receive in developed countries for doing the same thing you do. So relatively it would take a young man 10 years to achieve what his mates would achieve if he were in a developed country. Being broke here is not as a result of lack of intelligence or laziness but as a result of the type of situation he/she has found himself.

If you are lucky as a lady to get a good job and have a pretty good life that doesn't mean you shouldn't be humble enough to let love have its way and date someone who loves and treats you right. If someone that really loves you approaches you and is one of those struggling you won't even give him a chance and even if you do it would be with an ultimatum. Make it or I leave.

What happens if in d future the big boy you married loses everything and is broke. You would treat him like shit cause u are d one now paying the bills. I pray to make it big one day but my most important prayer is to avoid materialistic women like you.

Yours is by far the most befitting response to this thread.

hibiscus76:
its a pity no one talks about Love anymore... marriage shouldn't be all about money oo OP..

Same thought here....

Financial and material wealth has long being officially declared as the accepted substitute for love by the likes of OP and her advocates throughout the federation, we blame them ? NO! Na over-exposure without self-check remoulded their mentality.

At times when I come across arguments like hers on NL romance sections, I always can't help but to think what if we live in a world where no such things as money exist, where only wealth is determined and measure of how capable humans can acquire resources, I wonder where these caliber of bandidas would fall into in such a world.

When I become a trillionaire, I will tone things down just to avoid ladies like her when seeking for those who want to be involved in a true loving relationship.

Apina:
After going through your write-up, I must confess that you made some very valid points but just what if the said financially buoyant guy losses all he has, would he still fit into ur category? Are u also saying ones financial status at a point in time should be the determinant for going into a relationship? All I see from ur long epistle is money this, money that. You still do not understand the basics of life, you still cannot see beyond the end of your nose.

What valid points ? The more I read her posts the more I visualize her face as that of Andrea (Sanaa Lathan) in The Family That Preys. She kept emphasizing how intellect can result to true financial success, I say with all her highbrow tastes and qualities [url=nairaland.com/Lubyna]Lubyna[/url] would dare not date an illiterate brute in celebrity's clothing like Floyd Mayweather if he wasn't rich in his pugilist profession ? Shebi intellect equals financial success na, or would she even stoop to consider a billionaire like Al-Waleed bin Talal if he hadn't inherited all his wealth through royalty. Shebi intellect equals financial success na, for her mind. Well, like someone said - make their type kuku just tok say na multimillionaires/billionaires their standard begin from.

Deadshot:
How true is the question right?


Not so true is the answer

Elucidate us on why you think it's not so true. You can't just drop that and run off as if the thread threatens you.

Lalasticlala Farano Rocktation

purem:
my mom always told me 'any man that chase woman b4 his dream is doomed'

women has been the problem of dis world since day 1 ax ADAM

The topic isn't about chasing entertaining women or frolicking with them while his dream is left hanging, but about whether or not, if it's true one must at least exist in the life of guy or man who is determined to succeed ?

To start with...most Nigerian girls/ladies/women/babes are seriously confused, many of them don't really understand what they mean when they say they want a 'good guy' which is why I tabled it out long ago, there are the good-good guys(lions), the bad-bad guys (Wolves), the good-bad guys(Hyenas) and the bad-good guys(Leopards), the same descriptor applies for the females too.

ikeepitreal:
And good guys don't approach girls with enough confidence. They are either nervous or twitchy and girls can smell nervousness a mile off.

You NL teenagers with the mentality that any guy with enough confidence to approach a girl is automatically a bad guy. As in I taya.

As for the topic, truth is the female human cannot bear a life without controversy. They are naturally a controversial creatures. Every war ever fought by men can be traced to women. Why did Bob Marley sang No Woman No Cry? Why did the world of good guy 'Adam' came crumbling ? Simply because Eve got tired of living in a world of boring eternal paradize which Adam was contented with. I'm not a misogynist but the bitter truth is women/girls are *too PG-18 to reveal*. It's psycho-sexually deep to explain.

I know several first-hand account of babes who despite being maltreated still stuck to their mean and nasty boyfriends boyfiends while they continue to toy with...well I won't say good guys but okay, well mannered and goal-oriented guys with promising future ahead, who believes they can ultimately win them (controversial beings) over. But usually turns out as a waste of time and energy.

Okay, alright I agree the woman behind the succesful man could be any female such as a fierce and powerful mother, or the highly-placed aunt, or his sister in Qatar, or the loyal, dutiful and reliable wife, or his well connected mistress or even the rich sugar-mummy. But this thread isn't about any of them but just about one paticular female - the girlfriend.

I am referring to an imaginary guy/young man who haven't just got the potential to be succesful but is also focused (not over-ambitious), dilligent (not misguided by yawu-yawu or soccer gambling), and determined (not desperate) to give whatever it takes to realize his financial-making goal as when due but as it said, that no matter when and how he eventually excels, there ought to be a female in his life!

Therefore...I'm actually asking from a perspective that seek to

RECONCILE the argument that:

Should a guy becomes succesful without the aid, assistance or input of any females whatsoever but gradually develops 'trust issues' while looking for 'true love' as he becomes skeptical because of how hard it is for him to determine which of these babes genuinely loves him for his personality, despite his flaws and not because of his financial success

WITH

The argument given by a lady who argues that it would be safer to have multiple potentialists but more of already-made guys/men as 'boyfriends' or 'suitors' rather than risking being faithfully attached and patiently waiting for one prosperity-certain guy, all because of love, who, after breaking through at the end of the day, may decide to ditch her for someone prettier, sexier, curvier etc who did nothing and without him considering all the time, sacrifices and efforts given.

I have for long given this dichotomy some serious thought and now decide to bring it to your honored attention...so ladies, guys, fiends and friends..how valid does the saying ...behind every succesfull man, there is a woman applies in our Nigeria society ?

hinky:
dat was wat my sister said not me, i dont lyk loud music.. Prefer blues nd songs wit heartbreak lyrics

I hope you aren't referring to hard rock genre as 'loud music' ? Anyways I prefer 'violets' and heartmending music. May I recommend you go listen to Kevin Gates 'Satellite'.

MsRoe:
I absolutely agree. But that's a whole other kettle of fish.

Actually, a whole kettle of 'piranahs and barracudas'.

MsRoe:
Yes, I agree with you. We are bad at imitating and the industry doesn't conform to any standards.

But we copy what appeals to us a human beings: if it is sagging pants, tats, disrespectful language and a value for paper and bling that appeals to us, even when there are other things on display from western cultures, then sadly that's who we are as people.

And standards, while they can censor unacceptable trash that may corrupt impressionable minds, cannot invent quality where it did not exist in the first place. Our society is mediocre. Whether it is as a result of our education or leadership, it just is mediocre. Granted, we have some excellent minds amongst us, but the average is not impressive. Therefore the production of art, and the consumption of it are both disappointing.

We have some really good artists like Asa and Timi Dakolo but what percentage of our population would choose those over Runtown?

And inadvertently we've all become products of our society, no matter how hard we resist - it's a vicious loop of mediocrity.

Bam! Would you agree that all of Nigeria problems from politics, governance to entertainment and education can be traced to one thing - RELIGION ?

Lordtunji:
That's why guys like Mode9 ll never sell

Yeah right but Mode9 the pure lyricist is too self-absorbed, no be every hip-hop/rap fans go buy NAS album for yankee na. Feel me? Personally, as I didn't feel M.I. when he reigned, but he sold and made money as he ought to, not just because he is as tight as Mode9 who came before him but because he managed to bounce his lyricalism on what moves the market in Nigeria, and that's groovy beats and instrumental which is what Mode9 unknowingly didn't do, and thus his works only appealed to the fringe minority of lyric-analyzing rap addicts.

hinky:
who cares about lyrics anymore

I still care, which is I stick to my favourite; ill/gangster rap and hard-rock music for their meaningful lyrics appeals to me. Others loves the lyrics of R&B, Country, Pop, Contemporary etc and you and your sister the Beats & Instrumental 'ke dum-dum dum - ke dum-dum dum..oya wa je banana' Lol!

praxisnetworks:
Checking Onyeka owenu
Fela Kuti
Ebenezer Obey
And co...
To
Davido 30billion
Terry G run mad
Dorobuchi

And co....

What are the effects on our society?

Ask them lazy artists and their noise-making prooducers and they'll both tell you "commercial lo n'ja wo".

MsRoe:
It's not just music. Not just Naija music. It's a systemic cultural deterioration.

Since the coming of the smart gadgets (phone, pad, etc) human intelligence is being willingly offloaded into these tiny devices. People don't care to be creative or cognitive anymore. Everything is being unlearned: proper speech, spelling, reasoning, so that the gadgets can be optimally employed. Soon they'll remember our own names for us.

It's okay to be dumb these days. Everyone is only as smart as their phone's efficiency, anyway. If your internet service provider is slow you're bound to stammer.

Because we don't need to carry the important stuff in our heads anymore, some of us are so criminally empty that we should just stay silent. But no, we must open our mouths and spew the trash that is left, for public consumption.

Trash celebrated on reality television. Forty year old women mimicking the empty, annoying speech patterns of brain damaged teenage girls. Obsession with body parts and money and sex. It's all superficial now. Grunge humans living a grunge culture.

Mmn! Well said...but resting all the blames on gadgets (and technology), as Isaac Asimov foretold would dominate our lives, overrule our existence, dictate our intentions and eventually becoming enslaved by them - our creation, doesn't tantamount to a reason as to why the Nigeria music domain is in a 'sorry state'.

As much as I agree with the points you made, you however implied the distortions seen in the entertainment world is a global thing to which I disagree kindly, not just because the question was posed in regards to the music industry in Nigeria but also because you overlooked the determining overall factor which is the root cause.

Nigerians are even more terrible at immitating the vilest part of anything foreignly immitable. The Jews still remain the domineering power controlling and directing the entertainment industries of the western world, from Hollywood to pornography and all kinds of show-biz where the reality shows spuns from, they never came up with BET to express love for the negroe race but to capitalize upon the exploitation of mass viewership from the black populace by steady supply of appealing contents.

Okay, maybe I'm just ranting off-point, what I'm trying to say is - with the introductory emphasis you briefed on how 'over-dependency on gadgetery' is disabling people's intellect and rendering their creative output 'unoriginal' and 'bland' I'll like to say not only is it only peculiar to us alone but also do such nature of arguments provide leeway to fanatics to capitalize on, by drawing conclusion as interpreted based on their religious doctrines such as, that it's all part of the anti-Christ agenda, '666', 'mark of the beast' 'NWO' bla bla bla baphomet/megido masterplan to claim all gadget-owing souls kinda trash talks.

Nigerian music/film industry is so hogwashed the way it is because there is no working standard nor genuine cultural impact, why should the movers of the Nigeria entertainment so-accepted industry see to always capture what is originally foreign, imports it and revamps it in a way that bears effect on the mindset of the 'take-whatever-we -dish-at-you' audience who are mostly young, while they reap in profits, those are the folks to direct the blames to (not gadgets), from the kitsche musicals and bland musical videos to silly realityTV shows like BigBrotherNigeria. Bleak is the description of the future that awaits the upcoming unborns.

HelenBee:
Good for you!

I meant on Nairaland cos I've seen a lot here.

HelenBee:
Hey Nairalanders! These are some art works by my brother Tosin. Show some love pls. Holluwatosyn Teewai Teju on facebook.

Nice artworks. I see he's got an inclination for maccabre and gore themes.

I'm not bragging, I'm yet to meet someone that draws peculiarly like me.

Joavid:
I didn't bother with Dream girls, I knew it was bound to be terrible.

c'mon y3mi, Déjà Vu was great! it's about time travel. and Denzel Washington can do no wrong in my eyes.

Anyway, I guess some people don't like time travel movies.

What do you think of the movie Lucy?

Ehn! Because I don't like Déjà Vu doesn't mean I am not a fan of 'time traveling' as a concept of scientific fiction. I don't like Déjà Vu for the same reason I never liked 'Premonition'. Such films, to me, can't really define the roles Denzel Washington and Sandra Bollock played in those movie. It's like watching Scott Adkins playing the role of 'Fred' in a 'Flintstone' movie when someone like 'Jonah Hill' would have being the perfect cast. I used to be fascinated with the possiblity of time-travel so much that I spent time trying to figure it out until the day I mentally gave it up because it occured to me one day that, if time travel is actually possible, lots of folks round the world would have been receiving visitors from the past or future, and I hope you know there's a difference between travelling in time and travelling through time. Here are the list of time-travel movies I've watched:
1. The Life & Death of Ian Stone (love it)
2. Total Recall (Collin Farell not Arnold's)
3. I Will Follow You Down (emotional, very interesting)
4. Interstellar (love it but too astronomically technical to understand)
5. The Forbidden Kingdom (love it)
6. The Butterfly Effect (hate it)
7. In Time (not really time travel but involved the concept of time)
8. 13 Going On 30 (entertainingly good)
9. Predestination (complete rubbish)
10. Nemisis 2: Nebula (scared the fright out of me when I was a kid)
11. Prince of Persia: Sands of Time (entertaingly good)
12. Source Code (superb)
13.The Time Machine (Guy Pearce starred, and love it)
14. The Adjustment Bureau (just there but entertaining)
15. Lucy (superb)
16. Star Trek (The first two banged, the third one, to me is just there, not hot)

Lucy is a fantastic film, Scarlet Johansen scored it. I guess many just liked the plot and action but the premise it's driven on is what I find attractive; evolution, singularity, mental-regression, cyber-ubiquity among other elements are the things that made the movie for me, how about you ?

Joavid:
Happy birthday y3mi. best wishes!


Let me use this opportunity to add king Arthur:legend of the sword to the list.
but then, the king Arthur legend story is a folklore.


King skull island was good a bit below my expectations.

Thanks.

I haven't yet watch King Arthur: Legend of the Sword but I have seen all the trailers over and over again (I love watching good trailer edits) and I tend to think it should be better than 'The Legend of Tarzan' which was disappointing on so many level. Ofcourse King Arthur stories are all forged from myths and it survived through folklore in various versions but you'd be amaze to know that a large percentage of Nigerians season films addicts give credence to the Merlin TV series, just as there are a lot who believe human vampire exist or must exist somehow.

King: Skull Island - also haven't watched it so I can't comment on it yet, but I'm sure it's going to be far better than the 2005 reboot.

I have added to the list above, and still going to add more later