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Ginaz:
What am I reading? Please anyone should tell me.

Fake dick stories written to arouse those who are amused by the thought of it.

themayor4542:
I think Nigerian ladies are some what conservative when it comes to expressing their sexual experience and exploits. Perhaps it's due to our society and cultures which frowns at female sexual liberty and expression. Trust me, a Nigerian lady who post something like that will be viewed as been loosed, promiscuous and irresponsible. Hence, it makes them withdraw into their shell. Just my opinion though.

It's not just your opinion, it's the solid truth. Conversely, if guys express their sexuality openly in our society, they are instantly judged to be wayward, irresponsible and perverted. Before I clocked 24, whenever I express my thoughts on conversations that somehow deviate into sex related subject, both the listeners and discussants begins to view me as one hell of a bad guy but unknown to them, I was still a virgin. In Nigeria, once you openly disclose your level of information on carnal knowlede, you begin to get crucified for being so morally corrupt, especially by self-righteous hypocrites and closet-perverts who use religion to mask their true colour.

truthsayer009:
I swear, I went thru none of your post. You are obviously the one who is assuming. Stop complaining about women bro & move on.

What need is your swearing over the impossibility of a proof, evidence you went through it or not can neither be obtainable nor provable which is why I tried to avoid clairvoyants who roam from thread to thread. For each paid but failed session I've had with them they just tell me to move on once their psychic ability is in disconnection, always because it's not my thread. Now, that I've moved on by creating a thread to muse about Muses all alone and with concerned Satyrs, you still had to summon your ignominious self here to offer your perfidious service, how else do you false truthsayer009 soothsayers on NL want a Leopard/Satyr like me to move on ?

When you provide incisive comments on some religious issues, the self-righteous hypocrites and fanatics concludes and vituperate "so you don't believe in God" as though they are God-appointed defenders on earth. "...you are going to hell".

When you open a thread to muse upon how interesting women are considering their wiles and antics, the lexicographers and trolls comes berating "stop complaining and move on" as though they are NL-appointed spell-checker and soothsayer.

Funny enough when these jobless lots argue endlessly over football and political issues for hours, bashing, defending, analyzing and gnashing at each other over things they can't do anything to change...they aren't complaining, they are campaigning.

ennon92:
Average Frustrated Chump (AFC):- An Average Frustrated Chump is a guy who simply has no clue as to how to attract a female. He has very few option in his dating life and his experiences with women are few and far between. At best, he has gotten lucky every once in a while through no real initiation of his own, or has been in a relationship with a girl for a long period of time but doesn’t know what to do now that it is over.

Cc: Y3mi

I looked it up and read it all at the Urban Dictionary, and man...most of the definitions there describes the characteristics of those who aren't a wolf (bad-bad guy) or can not be one and not necessarily that of a nice guy. Even a good-bad guy could be nice to a lady. Jokingly, I prefer to go with the last definition:

AFC
Automatic Frequency Control, a device used in FM receivers to prevent drift.
My DX-397 has an AFC.

Some of guys needs to install this device somewhere within their mental faculties in order to prevent their modulated signal from drifting off from their set goals. In a society like ours it's best to leave them good-guys-friendzoning babes and nice-guys-are-only-good-when-in-need babes for the wolves to devour.

truthsayer009:
Mr y3mi

honestly you are bothering yourself too much about women issues. you need to worry less.

Don't assume to know what truly bothers me. It's one of the things I hate about Nigerians. False presumption and wrong assumption are part of the many shortcomings that shapes the mentality of so many ignoramuses in this country.

If you know me enough to realize the things I bother myself with, you'd wonder if someone like me could possibly find women interesting much less of finding time to bother about their issues.

You probably went through my posts, threads, noticed I only follow females, and voila you've got me figured for a conclusion; I "need to worry less"

Your deductive ability is remarkable.

Keep up the good work.

ennon92:
In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least..the AFC re usually @ the receiving end.
Nice thread op

What does AFC means ?

ruzell86:
A very nice post OP. I concur.

And, you don't really have to prove a point to anyone... Just let it pass.
i.e Dem go talk wetin dem wan talk.

benjsniper33:
God bless you yemi, for you to take the pain to write this it shows how well you mean for Nigerian /African guys. I understand this writeup and I am able to relate it to two or more events in my life. And I have learnt a lot from this.

May all your labours in life never be in vain . Pls ignore the naysayers and continue the great work.

More power to your elbows.

I dedicate this great writeup to Great Nigerian guys who have picked themselves up or are trying to pick themselves up from the emotional blows of dating and truly loving a Nigerian lady.
Thanks

Thanks guys, here are other threads you may find interesting to read:
The Big Question: Why Is The Male Expected To Suffer In Silence When Jilted ?
How To: Overcoming Timidity For Shy Nigerian Guys
How True Is 'Behind Every Successful Man Exists A Woman'?
The Big Question: Why Not Him And Him Only ?
The Big Question: Where Does That Sexual Energy Comes From ?

Benita27:
It amazes me when some of you think you've figured women.

Well ofcourse you're referring to those who believe they have deciphered women. As for me, women particularly those of Nigeria extract haven't even figured themselves out much less of such a man who believes he has....but you are welcome to share with us what you think it means to have women figured ?

Mjshexy:
The lady by name Marissa Kara Fuller recently came on Anthony Joshua's comment section to lay her proposal after the Nigerian/British boxer shared a photo on his instagram page. Indeed the hustle is real

Na big wah o! How's does that spell hustle for her ?

What she did is closer to what is called "overture" something a Nigerian babe will not do if they discover a guy they like/love to befriend or desire to be in a relationship with, it's an indirect way of registering your interest with someone or an indirect way of reconciling with that person you were already in a relationship with before something happened that made them kept their distance.

To the shallow minded Nigerian babes with a mentality comparable to that of a Kangaroo, what she did is hustling herself on him just like they do here.

She knows quite well that her routine may not provide her the opportunity to encounter him one on one where she will also woo him, hence what she did as the only means she finds available, which is why she apologized ahead before expressing her feelings, and also after.

She didn't condemn his girlfriend as that would define her as desperate, she responded to his call to ask any question and she chirped about him going out with someone from Gilmore, which may be true or false, and even if it's true it still doesn't mean she is her girlfriend, and if it's false, Joshua will understand, which is why I say it is an overture.

The likes of Marissa Kara Fuller, and few others here on NL are the kinds of smart babes I'd like to befriend.

ollah1:
Dude, schooling these guys will take forever. Your username says it all. It's a big blowback to CNN. Isn't it the same news outlet that was bursted in London recently.? The topic made front page but was removed within minutes. Perhaps Seun was contacted.

I see we kinda think and follow alike, anyway I keep wondering when these hypocrites on NL would cease to amaze me, always riding on the same white-hating bandwagon, they all quick to scream "racist whites" this "racist oyinbo" that but yet still continue to be slave to them by sharing a racist religion with them in respect to Abrahmic religions, the Christian Bible was is the only book to infer God is white and Devil black, the white Arabs were the first to enslave negroes in Africa for a thousand plus years, you all speak their languages at the suppression of your native tongue just to appear civilized, believe in their white-arse prophets, do anything for a pilgrimage to their so-called holy land, happily name your children with Jewish, Arabic and all kinds of European names, shamelessly imitates them, imports everything from them, can't do anything without them in Nigeria and still wonder why some of them exhibit racists tendency towards you f00ls?

Whatever makes you climax.

SirMichael1:
Lazy readers aren't welcome to read my blabbings blabbing.

SirMichael1:
That's might be because it's all hogwash...

And how much have you earned so far on Nairaland for this self-appointed task of yours to sniff-out hogwash topics from one thread to another ? Anyway, I don't care because it's obvious you're the typical looser who won't concede victory after being repeatedly whipped in the game of SCRABBLE <---click link to see how you struggle to make a f00l of yourself---<<

SirMichael1:
Please summarize for some of us, the lazy readers

Lazy readers aren't welcome to read my blabbings.

HARDDON:
as much as this sounds like a very logical step to take, these would end him in no other place than on dah Fzone while another guy like me comes up the next day, makes fun of her in a confident way and swoosh her off.
Nice guys' portion is the bottom of the pot not on dah Dining Tables of MEN.
Because you ladies aint logical and the worse place to seek this kinda advise is from LADIES.

Bro, you are a wolf and I concur, and I gat to tell you being nice doesn't cut it in this part! 99.5% of Nigeria babes don't exactly dig guys who are in the truest sense of being nice - NICE just as I said it here. It's not that I haven't noticed this reality for a fact over a very long time based on observed and shared experiences but, as pathetic as it is, I never anticipated it happening to me, but it did, just when I believed to have seen qualities good enough for me to step of out of my single but contented shell.

Hell! Let me share it (some may learn, who knows)...

Okay, as of late, I just went through a scenario quite similar in outcome to the one you briefed in response to MissRainy69 post up there.

As in, it's not even a financial provision/lack issue, but could you imagine a babe (who I'd say was 80% in love with me due to my niceties, caring and genuine expression of heartfelt affection) just got whisked away within the blink of an eye by someone who doesn't even reside in the area but did exactly just as you put it "make fun of her in a confident way" in fact this relation-visiting outsider usually made jest of her in lewd ways, and just about roughly two weeks of my absence was more than enough for said wolf to descend on her, had her senses re-tuned to respond to his own frequency, she inexplicably began giving me attitude when I got back, to cut long story short, she was eventually won over till date or so I'm to believe.

Guess what the worse part was, they both happen to have met/knew one another thru me in a manner to which I later regret upon realizing how naïve I was in trying to be formal by introducing one another as courtesy demand.

Anyway after reeling from the aftermath, I just swallow my pride, man-up and retreat back to my single and happy shell, but whenever this dude wey no even reach my cousin for age, comes around, knowing they meetup and stuff, one can't sometimes help it but to relive flashbacks of when she and I were getting along fine and smooth. Me, I just console myself with "she was never mine to be, good riddance" and see the whole thing as a need to instill yet another precautionary measures in me when it comes to these Naija babes...because fvck it, such sh1t ain't gonna happen to me ever again, be it my trusted cousin or an imaginary best friend. Naija guys too believe dem smart, dem sharp, everything na game to dem, no be every guys get time for mind and relationship games.

It's not even a matter of whether one is a natural or not, being a wolf isn't a hard role for me to assume if I'd want to all these years, but there are imbibed ethics that inhibits me and most importantly there are far more worthy things for me to accomplish with time.

Another point I'd like to stress to guys on NL is - most of these Naija babes don't even realise how sado-masochistic they are, they appear desirous of decent and nice guys when actually who they crave deep inside are bad cruel guys in prince-charming clothing who entices them with whatever the fvck each and every one of their respective selves love to be enticed with, they get lured into a make-belief pseudo-realistic relationship, they know it's all fake but it's too dazzling to leave, believing such joyful fantasy could become real, they knowingly and cheerfully continue to bask in this illusory world of love conjured best by these wolves for them to enact their Cinderella part only to have their heart broken and the illusion wears off, they come storm the cyberspace in troops seeking solace among their types forever reiterating threads like "Why Are Guys Wicked" , "Are There No More Decent Guys ?" "Why Are Good Guys Always Broke" bla bla bla.

MissRaine69:
Have you actually considered its the type of women most of you guys go for?

So how are we to detect beforehand the type of women we should steer clear of ? It's stereotypical of you to think every guys are all about the 2face and Idi-bia of every girl, some of us cherish other qualities than the physical features.

MissRaine69:
You ladies ? Say most or some

In this part - I stick to most, it's obvious you may belong to the 0.5% of the ones who with which such angles of approach and continuation may appeal to, but the remaining 95% aren't flustered, despite how many Mills & Boons they've consumed or how grand they want their long-held romantic fantasy to play out in reality, even despite how daisy/barbie-lovy/teddy-cuddling childhood they grew up on, despite being a sharwama/noodle generation or not, these 95% aren't swayed the least so far it's in Nigeria, from the impoverished, to the middle-class to the noveau rich, the mentality remains the same whenever it comes to babes and guys, get rich or die broke.

MissRaine69:
Did you read what I wrote or you just seek to stereotype and just be angry at females in general?
If she does fit the stereotype you harp on

Babe, he didn't try to stereotype the generality of females throughout the world as you seem to have perceived. What he meant is truly idiosyncratic to the majority of girls, babes, women in this parts. Most are imbued with the mentality of measuring, comparing and assessing each man's worth on materialism and financial capability. I don't know which corner of the globe you lived most of your lives, be it among those whose mentality are uptight idealistic or among folks with varying ones but around here na so things be.

MissRaine69:
She was stupid then ,she is stupid now and will be stupid tomorrow most guys choose to ignore that. Who has the problem here? The woman who has zero percent everything being herself or the guy who has chosen to over look the zero percent everything and hopes for the best?

None has the problem. It's all a matter of interest, where the problem lies is the feigned ignorance from some guy's part and pretentiously undemanding from some babe's part.

MissRaine69:
For instance:
I was thinking of Watching some movies this weekend what would you recommend? What movies do you like?
There is a new place on such and such street that opened could we try it some time...
This new song by so and so speaks to me , what song does it for you?
Now this could be tricky - some women don't read books so asking about fav authors could be tricky .

Finally compliment her in a non sexual way .... this colour looks really good on you ( any colour looks good on black women by the way most don't know this)

Talk about her smile , her laughter, her ambitions her fears her goals , what inspires her what motivates her
When you are starting to know someone the art of listening and observing is valuable. Just don't behave like it's a Q&A session
Best of luck to you

Damsel, I've tried far more genuine angles than that in a distant past. It still doesn't get one laid in this part, I mean for those who want to get laid or ultimately seek the pleasure love-making being the intrinsic part of many relationship. Even if such kind of angles work the trick, highest it well get him is into phase 1 or 2 of a 10 phase standard Naija relationship so furthering with such an angle doesn't a guaranty success when it comes to Nigeria, because what if a guy who aspire to graduate a beautiful relationship into a 'true-love' type hits a phase where he's got no idea why his feeling continues to be unrequited ? In Nigeria it's not just by being suave with words that expresses love and affection ooo! The wolves and the lions in the house know the answer, as do a Leopard like me. Ever heard of a joke by one of our popular stage comedian who joked: buying a rose-flower for a Nigerian girl just articulate how much you are in love with her, after accepting taking it reluctantly, as you turn your back leaving her doorstep, she will say: "dem tell dis one say na flawa I wan chop ni, abi he tink say I no sabi wey dem dey sell vegetables ni"

As funny as it may sound, that's the reality of things on ground here, 9ja babes will love you if you keep buy-acting, love you more if you can back other qualities you have up with buy-acting, but suave-talking, swag-talking, brain-talking without buy-acting, well those that will Friend-Zone such guys are even fair, ever heard of 'Kill-Zone'? Well it's a video-game the she-wolves in kitten clothing love to play for guys who fail to employ their senses.

Worse of it is, these wanton appetite for material cravings and show-off cuts across all calibers of guys and babes in the federation which is why there is a whole lot of relationship-frustrated guys out there who are hell-bent on acquiring 'fvck-u' money through any desperate means necessary.

Simply put, angles such as that which you wrote doesn't score sh1t for guys in this side of the world. To you and I, what you wrote are normal/standard stuff but to the majority of these babes, one appears too sophisticated for them to cope with. And being truly sophisticated or not, caring or not, intelligent or not, funny or not, good sense of dressing or not, even sometimes being broke or rich, truth is majority of 9ja babes are simply illogical as HARDDON puts it. I can narrate several real life stories that touch, is it about them Lioness who have mastered the art feigning true-love for Lion-wanabe guys who are loaded while their hearts is under the claws of wolves they bring all their tributes to, and reveal all their lives to.

Truth is, in Nigeria you don't need to be a wolf (bad guy) to score goals when you got money - easy picky, no much stress but to lack thereof still isn't seen as a hindrance for the wolves who know how to work on the psyche of some girls which MissRaine69 I believe refers to as 'indomie', these bad guys poke continually at their self-esteem until their weakness is revealed and as these babes become vulnerable to any suggestion, they will in their futile attempt to elicit validation from these wolves, they are susceptible to anything for as long as the love delusion last. Once they the wolf is satiated with enough cookies, he dumps the jar and moves on to his next prey in the wilderness of love filled with as 'dream lovers' as you once said, where an endless cycle where psycho-emotional predators continue to lurk and love-seekers of various types continue to roam.

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IamZod:
And as per the maxim "hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn" trust me it couldn't be more truer. Trust me, you wouldn't want to be in the vindictive nest of a scornful woman.

Scorned.

What makes you think men don't flare out or react? It's not all men that has a tough skin to contain great emotional hurt, some take the noose end, some go into various kinds of aggressive fit, why do you think some men just becomes suddenly violent to everyone around them ? Oh! Your mistake is to think it's when men unleash hell directly on their emotion-hurting lovers that it can be count as not letting go off past emotional hurt ? Most men who became alcoholics began gradually as a means to deal with various kinds of emotional troubles most of which are linked to unhealed hurt from past relationship detachment and yet it still doesn't seem as men 'reacting/flaring-up' to many especially to those who'd say they are just drinking away their sorrow.

IamZod:
As for me being Zod. I am resurrected. Lol. Tell your super hero Clark Kent that I am back.

I don't think you being Zod will be resurrected in the upcoming Justice League. The villainous of all villains 'Dark-Seid' is emerging. I can't deliver your message to Clark Kent because I was more into Marvel than DC.

IamZod:
OK guys let's talk about this issue a bit, Now as an individual, I find it really beyond my mental understanding as to why someone would hold on to a hurt that happened in the past for so donkey long, spanning over a reasonable number of years

Now I understand that such hurt could be devastating, probably a torturing break-up that left your heart in shambles or even something more sinister than that.
Now I know this might be controversial as most people wouldn't want to agree with my topic saying it is gender specific, **as any of the gender could be hurt and **find it hard to let go.

Wouldn't you prefer it if they aren't capable of letting go off past grudges than being vindictive as I asked on this thread Hell Hath No Fury Than A Woman Scorn In Love. The question I think should be asked much often is do men go through emotional hurt as much as women do in any given relationship, even more immense. And, why are we expected to repress ours while women reserves the liberty to flare-up ?

Btw, General Zod died in Man of Steel, and Doomsday was made out of his corpse in Dawn of Justice but also killed, so how did you become Zod ?

MissRaine69:
Anyone who tries to argue a point by first telling me to fork off or words to that effect won't get a moment

I see why you haven't being replying your mentions by me.

MissRaine69:
Some of us it's just au natural
No surgeons involved just good old natural DNA

so would it be correct to infer that the gluteus maximus sighted on your DP is yours ?

MissRaine69:
Aggression
If he was aggressive while dating , he will be agressive as a husband. So we parted.

I suppose you have a predilection for alpha-males, how's that for patronising and condescending (just kdding). Please respond to my PM Damsel.

Double post

MissRaine69:
Gambling would insinuate I have a psychological and physical dependency that become quite obvious when I do not game.
And last but not least stop being so condescending and patronising " Don't you mean ....?" No
I did not mean that I meant what I wrote.

I don't see how that was condescending nor patronising. Since you do, my bad, pardon.

I'm sure you get lot of PM but kindly respond to mine.

MissRaine69:
Chronic gamer ....dream lover

Don't you mean to write 'Chronic gambler' instead of chronic gamer ? And what could you possibly mean as a dream lover ? Care to elucidate.

MissRaine69:
Most relationships have no solid foundation. Some women are all about the wedding not the marriage and some men find themselves married but not in a relationship.

Very profound. I concur.

MissRaine69:
If he is hearing voices does he have a known mental illness?

And what if he doesn't. His sixth sense could have being awoken and be malfunctioning. LOL!

MissRaine69:
In women hormones , birth control as well as hormone resplacement therapy enhance lip discolouration. Anemia , Sun exposure, malasma & smoking also darkens lips.
A slice of lemon sprinkled with sugar and used as an exfoliator daily might be more achievable than strawberries just putting it out there.

I'm curious, are you a gynaecologist or dermatologist ?

MissRaine69:
Japan

Perhaps you meant Chinese, John Woo and co. Japanese contents are more popular for, and unbeatable in their own niche: Anime, Manga, Hentai and porn where unshaved lady cries during penetration (according to American porn addicts).

MissRaine69:
The majority of women unfortunately demand you spend but a small percentage don't. It's finding one that's the problem.....

globally or just in a society like ours ?

MissRaine69:
I have accepted I have chronic insomnia
None of this will work however there is just one thing that does work it's ......

Same here,
Origin: naturally pensive so much that I even cogitate as I drift within sleep phases.
Cure: _n_ni_m

Ever attempt to trace the source or origin of your insomnia ? If yes, please do share.

ElizaVeta:
Which is more painful, A or B (Physical pain or Emotional pain)

I just went through A weeks ago and it's healed up but B which is to me is more painful than every torturing techniques and devices in all the SAW movies. Still writhing from one. Feel me ?

Nutase:
I stumbled on this when flipping through DSTV channels due to boredom.

Can you see it

Yes she fell into the hands of the village deity in 2019 like Kratos did on Atlas 2019BC. I don't watch Nollywood but I've seen worse using the (i) button on that remote on Nigerian based contents and channels.

jagugu88li:
...don't tell me the lady only realised what was happening later. She saw it happening, said nothing, then thought of embarrassing the dude after he was done. Stupid!

What if the lady was so carried away so much that she wouldn't have even realise anything if not for maybe the feeling of instant wetness of the jism or him quake-squealing as he discharges behind her.

Couple of years ago some experts from a foreign-based NGO came to Nigeria to reside, with sufficient time at hand they were tasked to determine the fatality rate in the country and their conclusive statement goes along this lines “the total number of lives lost due to governmental neglect and irresponsibilty far exceed the causalties of war in conflict-torn regions”

Contrary to what some ignoramuses tend to think...to distinctify a country as dangerous isn't only about the frequency of violence and crime that occurs there, it's actually the totality of all the causative factors that leads to both avoidable and unavoidable loss of human lives at any specified period of time.

In Nigeria, many deaths or dangers can be avoided. For instance, if an effective government ensures 98% of all streets and roads are well tarred and paved, they will be no need for a commercial motor-cyclist to meander hundreds of pot-holes every time he transports passengers along that same route plied attimes by heavy-duty trucks and trailers such as a granite-loaded 16 wheeler tipper or a petrol-tanker which will crush both the skull and the protective helmet emphasized by our government for the Okada-man to always wear once accidents occurs due to the death-trap called road, to which fleeing passer-bys get incinerated in the conflagration.