Let be fair when judging others... its not a crime to have a rich family. Its also better for the girl to readjust are expectation once married. Until a girl moves in to your your house, Her father is still responsible for her. No condition is permanent, the person that is poor today may become rich tomorrow and vice versa. Please ask yourself this question.

1. If you have a daughter and you happen to be blessed, are you going to support her wedding ceremony according to what you can afford or based on what husbands family think they should spend?. In most Nigerian culture, Marriages party is mostly for the bride because shes the one leaving her home. As long as they're not forcing to spend on something you can't afford, let them spend according to their means.. stop your ego.

2. If your blessed financially, will you provide to your daughter even after she's married.

3. If you truly love your wife, talk to her about her choice of words and let her improve.

As for me oo. If am blessed, i'll provide, celebrate and support my children according to how God blesses me and not how their spouses and relative thinks i should support my kids.


Most people here just comments anyhow because they're not rich today.. but they forget that no condition is permanent. Please am begging people, IF YOU ARE WELL OFF, SUPPORT YOUR CHILDREN ACCORDING TO YOUR MEANS.

So men with four wives don't have affairs...

1. If you want to practice marrying four, do your self a favor and let your first wife know that you'll be marrying four. Its better for you and her to know before marriage.

2. Don't marry another wife with your wife's wealth

3. Don't marry another wife through Zina... Every seconds/hours spent with another woman will be paid back to the wife at home with your good deeds on the day of Jannah.

4. Don't marry multiple if you cannot afford it. You'll be accountable to Allah if your wife ends up fending for herself and children. In addition to providing for your wife and kids, you as a man is also responsible for the monetary affairs of parents, sisters, aunts, etc. Men of today only pick and select sunnah. No one is taking care of widows, and divorcees.. I wonder if that sunnah flew out the window.


5. Its very sad that the sunnah that men of today are happy about is polygamy. I wonder sometimes why there is no ISLAMIC caliphate for over 100 year. The sahabah were never like this. They protected the Ummah.

The sunnah of lowering gaze for men flew out the window. Zina is the order of the day.
The sunnah of providing for parents, sister, aunts, and women in the community flew out the window.
The sunnah of protecting women in the community flew out the window.
The sunnah of protecting the Muslim Ummah flew out the window.
The Sunnah of having an Islamic Caliphate flew out the window.
The sunnah of not assaulting their wife flew out the window.
The sunnah of educating their wife(s) flew out the window.

An the list goes on

This article will answer two very common questions:

“How old was Mary (the mother of Jesus) when she became pregnant?” & “How old was Mary when she gave birth to our Lord Jesus, the Christ?”

Thousands of paintings, drawings, statues, and even “living manger scenes” portray Mary, Jesus’ mother, at the time of Jesus’ birth. However, most of them portray her as a young woman in her 20’s. To be sure, Mary was a remarkable woman. For one thing, she truly understood what it meant to sacrifice for the sake of doing God’s will, an example her son, Jesus, noted and would later follow. For example, apparently no one at that time, including she herself, was expecting the Messiah to be born of a virgin. This is why she asked the angel Gabriel how she was going to bear the Messiah when she was not married and sexually active (Luke 1:34), why Joseph decided to divorce her, and why, years later, the religious leaders still thought that Jesus was a bastard child, born of fornication (John 8:41 – KJV). She knew that accepting pregnancy from God would cause turmoil and pain to her and her loved ones, but she accepted God’s plan for her life, saying, “…Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word…”(Luke 1:38 – ESV [1]).

One very remarkable thing about Mary is that she would almost certainly have been 12-14 years old when the angel Gabriel appeared to her. We know this because the common custom at that time was for girls to marry early, at that age. The Bible never gives Mary’s age when she got pregnant or gave birth to Jesus, and that is because when something happened that was common in the culture, nothing was said about it. We write the same way today, leaving out any details that everyone knows by custom and culture. If we read in the newspaper that a thief drove down the road for miles while being chased by police, we do not think, “Drove? What is ‘drove?’ I wonder how he got down the road all that distance?” We all know what “drove down the road” means, so we exclude the details when we write about it.

Similarly, if I tell someone, “I called Dan and talked with him,” it is clear from our culture that I called on a telephone, even though I do not say it. Many years ago I was teaching my kids the Bible, and I read them that Deborah the prophetess “called Barak” (Judg. 4:6 – KJV). My little daughter interrupted me and wanted to know Barak’s phone number. Her comment made sense given her understanding of custom and culture.

In ancient Israel, girls married in their teens, even early teens. [2] For Mary to be betrothed (engaged) but not yet formally married, yet old enough to have and nurse the Messiah, she would have been 12-14. The Zondervan Pictorial Encyclopedia of the Bible points out, “It appears that both boys and girls were married very young. Later [after the New Testament period] the rabbis fixed the minimum age for marriage at twelve for girls and thirteen for boys.” [3]

Some customs of biblical Palestine continued through the centuries, and after her trip to the Near East around 1910, Alma White commented on the age of marriage in Palestine, “A girl is usually married in her twelfth or thirteenth year, and sometimes as early as her tenth year.” [4] W. M. Thompson, a missionary in the Middle East for some 30 years, attests to the same thing. [5] James Neil points out that everyone married, because they felt obligated to fulfill God’s command to be fruitful and multiply, and that, “Girls are ‘given in marriage’ at eleven or twelve years of age, though this is not the limit. They are frequently married as young as nine….” [6]

Marrying young was the custom in many ancient cultures. Two cultures that had particular influence on the biblical world were the Greeks and Romans. Isomachus, a character in the Greek writer Xenophon’s Oeconomics, mentions that when he married his wife, she was not yet fifteen. [7] Roman girls also married very young, sometimes even before puberty. [8]

Women married early because it was they who bore the children who continued the family line and provided economic strength and physical protection for the family, and it was generally desirable to have many children. Furthermore, lots of children died young, and many women died in childbirth. We know from Matthew and Luke that Mary was a virgin, and had never been married before, so her marriage age would have been set by common custom. Also, as was common, Mary had a large family, with at least seven children. Her male children were Jesus, James, Joseph, Simon and Judas (Matt. 13:55), and she had at least two daughters, for Jesus had “sisters” as well as brothers (Matt. 13:55 and 56). [9]

Boys also married early, but somewhat later than girls. Jewish boys were expected to marry at sixteen or seventeen. [10] Similarly, in the Roman world, the age at which a Roman boy discarded the white toga with a red border, the symbol of youth, and wore the pure white toga of a Roman man and citizen, was generally between 14 and 17. [11] Just how old Joseph was when he married Mary is not as easily determined as Mary’s age, because although men customarily married in their mid to late teens, for a number of reasons they sometimes married later.

It is often assumed that Joseph married late in his life, because it is almost certain that he had died by the time Jesus started his ministry. We draw this conclusion from a number of biblical records in which Joseph was conspicuously absent, culturally speaking. One is when Jesus moved his headquarters to Capernaum his mother and brothers came, but not his father (John 2:12). Even more significant is that while on the Cross, Jesus instructed the Apostle John to take care of his mother and told Mary to treat John as a son, which would never have occurred had Joseph been alive (John 19:26 and 27). However, the fact that Joseph was dead by the time Jesus was 30 does not necessarily mean that Joseph was a much older man when he married Mary, because many people died young from accidents or disease.

If we are going to paint a picture of the birth of Christ, or cast a woman for a living nativity scene, there is some room for interpretation, but if we want to show Mary as she actually was, having a girl of twelve to fourteen as an actor or model would be the most proper thing to do.

Endnotes

[1] Scripture quotations marked (ESV) are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version™ © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers. All rights reserved.
[2] Philip King and Lawrence Stager, Life in Biblical Israel, (Westminster John Knox Press, Louisville, 2001), p. 37.
[3] Merrill C. Tenney, editor, The Zondervan Pictorial Encyclopedia of the Bible (Regency Reference Library, Grand Rapids, MI, 1976), Vol. 4, “Marriage,” p. 96.
[4] Alma White, Jerusalem, Egypt, Palestine, Syria, (Pillar of Fire, Zarephath, New Jersey, 1936), p. 83, 173.
[5] W. M. Thompson, The Land and the Book, (Baker Book House, Grand Rapids, MI, 1880, reprinted 1973), p. 293.
[6] James Neil, Everyday Life in the Holy Land, (Society for Promoting Christian Knowledge, London, 1913), p. 223.
[7] Robert Flaceliere, Love in Ancient Greece, (Crown Publishers, Inc., New York, 1962), p. 110; Mary Johnston, Roman Life, (Scott, Foresman and Company, Chicago, 1957), p. 145.
[8] Robert Flaceliere, Love in Ancient Greece, (Crown Publishers, Inc., New York, 1962), p. 115.
[9] It is sometimes said that these brothers and sisters were not Mary’s children, but that argument is not based on good exegesis or the natural reading of the text. The people of Nazareth, who made the statement, were not making a comment about Jesus’ relatives, but about his family.
[10] Alfred Edersheim, Sketches of Jewish Social Life, (William B. Eerdmans Publishing Company, Grand Rapids, MI, reprinted 1979), p. 147.
[11] Mary Johnston, Roman Life, (Scott, Foresman and Company, Chicago, 1957), p. 146.

Empire sounds like a fool that is happy about wife beating. Why are you calling women a bi-tch, is it that men don't sin every day against Allah, so will you call yourself a Bi-tch for sinning against Allah or are you claiming to be Sin Free?

Any man that goes beyond what Allah has prescribed for beating, will account for it and may end up giving the "said bi-tch wife" some of his good deeds on the day of judgement.

Can you find a fellow Nigerian that currently have a live in nanny. I did that too and it was perfect for me because the lady had nanny video monitor and her nanny was aware. All she did was to asked her nanny if she was willing to take care of one more child and she agreed. I was only paying 33% of daycare center cost and it was a win win situation for us all.

Ye.... e wa wo aye obinrin. Are men not supposed to be the protectors of women...

If you a man and agree with anal sex:

before you do it to your wife... you do it to yourself first to see how it feel because just like you have anus, she has anus too. There is no natural lubricant.. Plus.. it causes diseases too and leakage of shit. If any man is going to put a woman through this fitly thing, make sure something is put in your anus too.. plus over time, the muscles tend to be weak, and shit will be uncontrollable passing out.. how will the wife be clean and pure for salat all because of plus in Islam, wife has to obey her husbands sexual advances...

Please men.. men... men....


If you agree to Muta Marriage.. let your mother, sister, and daughter be the first on the list....

Total rubbish .....

e wo aye obinrin.. Ya Allah.

If this is not hijab, can you educate others why its not.

Was he taking is Nigerian wife out like that. The wife that suffered with him...? Just thinking...

If you cannot handle a woman’s jealousy, then you have no wisdom to commands multiple wives. Jealousy is natural for women and you should know that by now. Just like you have a right to marry four, she also has a right for a divorce.

IF YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY MORE THAN ONE… LET YOUR FUTURE WIFE KNOW IN ADDVANCE. This really helps everyone because husband is assuming that wife should agree.. and Wife is also assuming that is will be the only one. Assumption is haram in Islam. It’s better for likeminded people to marry. Just like some men want to marry multiple, some men don’t. People need to educate women about their rights especially fathers. Most fathers/mothers are just concern about wedding without preparing them for a marriage.


IT IS BETTER THAT MEN LET THEIR FUTTURE WIFE KNOWS IN ADVANCE THAT THEY’LL HAVE MULTIPLE . Reason being that some women suffer in great deal with their husband, help the husband and support him. They may even not take a penny for dowry because of their husband poverty. But the moment this same man improve in life, now he wants second wife. And the new wife has a right to command ANY AMOUNT FOR DOWRY. So tell me, how many people can take that.

Plus economy of Nigeria is not stable.. you may get rich today and tomorrow, your wealth vanishes. If your wealth diminishes, whats plan B.. how do you provide for your family. A woman you enforces your right on by marrying multiples may suspend all monetary help she was helping you with because that’s her right too BY Allah.

Plus have you thought about the work associated with it. How to help with homework ( Arabic schools/secular school) for kids and their day to day. Don’t rely on your wife only to do this. The time we spend with our family(wife and kids is critical)

Your investment in your kids is YOUR TOMORROW. Your investment to your kids is education, Islamic education, secular education, Your time spent (money cant buy this), etc.. Have you thought about how to manage two or more homes and being able to provide quality education and time to ALL YOUR KIDS

Have your thought about how to manage multiple jealous women…. Multiple extended family problems, etc

THE BEST THING IS FOR PEOPLE TO BRING THIS UP BEFORE MARRIAGE RATHER THAN ENFORCING THINGS ON EACH OTHER.

We have so many proclaimed scholars on Nairaland. Please GO TO SCHOOL AND BECOME A SCHOLAR!!!!. Being a scholar is not an easy task. Its a scarifies and shouldn't be belittle by one that has not gone to school. If your beloved scholar is belittling a fellow scholar... lets leave it at their level. If not GO TO SCHOOL SO THAT YOU CAN BE AT THEIR LEVEL .

TV and movie pictures and video pictures

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TV and movie pictures and video pictures
I have a question regarding pictures -Are pictures that are manafactured through means such as video, computers etc.
(i.e. they come on and off the screen)permissable? Can you please verify this with proof and evidence?
Praise be to Allaah.

The ruling on a thing depends on the way in which it is perceived. It is essential to know how the picture-making you refer to is done. The author of Risaalat Ahkaam al-Tasweer (The ruling on picture-making) said:

1. Movie pictures or pictures on a cinema film:

This is a method which transmits moving pictures with sound for a limited time span, showing all the events that happened within this time frame. The picture which is shown by the film on the screen is the shadow or reflection of that thing, not its real essence, after it has been recorded on the film. It says in al-Sharee’ah al-Islamiyyah wa’l-Funoon (Islamic sharee’ah and the Arts) that the cinema is called [in Arabic] akhyaliyyah [from khayaal, meaning shadow or dim reflection], “because it shows the shadows of things, not their real essence.”

2 – TV pictures

This is a method which transmits pictures and sounds at the same time via an electrical impulse. This is the result of the effect of light from the object whose picture is being taken being reflected on a mica sheet which is covered with a vast number of tiny particles made of photosensitive material, manufactured from silver oxide and caesium, of which the particles are separated from one another and isolated electrically.

This kind of image-making using machines is very similar to the image on a movie film, but in TV pictures, the images are changed to electronic signals, then to electromagnetic waves, which are then either sent via antennas to be picked up by the receiving apparatus in TV sets, within the range that the signal can reach, or they are sent to be stored in the form of magnetic changes on plastic tapes that have been plated with the appropriate magnetic substance that can store these waves.

In order to show what has been recorded on these tapes after these waves have been stored, it has to pass through a machine which transforms it once more into electronic signals then sends it to a screen in the form of electrical signals, so that it appears as a picture, but only after a complex operation.

The TV set is the equipment which receives the electrical waves and gathers them, then transmits them in a regulated manner in the form of a picture with complete features.

There is another kind which is considered to be similar to this kind of image-making. This is something similar to the telephone which is used in some industrially-advanced countries, which transmits both the voice and the image of the speaker, so both parties can see one another on the screen of the device on which they are talking.

Similarly, there are cameras which are installed at the doors of houses. This system picks up the voice and image of the person who is coming to the house and transmits it to a screen inside the house, so that whoever is inside the house can see it clearly. And similarly there is equipment which is used to watch out for criminals stealing and so on in banks, stores, etc.

These kinds of equipment are considered to be of one kind, but are used for a variety of purposes, whereby the camera covers the area which is to be watched over, and it transmits the images to a screen like a TV, where the image appears clearly. New things are appearing all the time, and we do not know what will appear in the future. If this indicates anything, it indicates the mind-boggling expansion of the use of machines to make images of both kinds, both still and moving, in many areas, including manufacturing, war, security, education, medicine, social, etc.

Ahkaam al-Tasweer by Ahmad ibn ‘Ali Waasil, p. 65-67

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said:

With regard to pictures made in the modern fashion, they fall into two categories:

The first category is those which have no tangible substance (and can only be seen by running them through a machine), as I was told is the case with pictures on video tapes. There is no ruling at all concerning these, and they do not come under the prohibition at all. Hence the scholars who forbid making pictures with cameras on paper (photographs) permitted this (video pictures), and said that there is nothing wrong with this. Then it was asked, is it permissible to film lectures which are given in the mosques? The (scholarly) view was that it is better not to do that, because it may disturb the worshippers and because they may film things that may not be appropriate, and so on.

The second category is fixed or still pictures on paper (photographs) …

But the matter needs further discussion if one wants to make these kind of permissible pictures. For they are subject to five rulings which depend on the intention. If the intention is something forbidden, then it is haraam. If he intends something waajib (obligatory), then it is waajib. Sometimes pictures may be essential, especially moving pictures. For example, if we see someone in the act of committing a crime against a person’s rights, such as an attempt to kill and so on, and we cannot prove it in any way but by taking pictures, then in this case taking pictures becomes waajib, especially in cases where pictures may decide the case. The means are subject to the rulings on the ends. If we make these pictures in order to prove the identity of a person for fear that someone else may be accused of the crime, this is also acceptable, indeed it is essential.

But if we take these pictures just to enjoy looking at them, this is undoubtedly haraam... And Allaah knows best.” (See Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 2/197-199)

Ruling on taking pictures with digital cameras and video cameras


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What is the ruling on taking pictures with a digital camera? What is the ruling on taking pictures with a video camera?
Praise be to Allah.
Taking pictures with a digital camera is of two types:

1. When the picture is a photograph or still picture. This is not permissible unless the aim is to use the picture in a permissible manner, such as pictures that are needed in order to prove identity or for a passport or driver’s license, or posting pictures of criminals so that they will be known, and other valid purposes.

It is not permissible to take pictures just for the purpose of memory and keeping the picture, as many people do.

See also the answer to question no. 10326

2. When the picture that is taken with the digital camera is a moving image, as in the case of video clips. There is nothing wrong with this, and it does not come under the prohibition.

But it is not permissible to take pictures of anything that will help in sin or be a source of temptation, such as pictures of adorned women or places of evildoing, or places of bid‘ah and shirk by way of venerating them and telling people about them.

See also the answer to question no. 10326

And Allah knows best.

Slandering callers and reformers
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In recent days there has been a lot of slander against those who call people to Islam (daa’iyahs) and dividing them into groups and categories. What is your opinion on that?
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah has enjoined justice and good treatment of others, and He has forbidden wrongdoing, hatred and enmity. Allaah sent His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with the same message as He sent all the Messengers, namely the call to Tawheed and to worship of Allaah alone. He commanded him to establish justice and forbade him to do the opposite, i.e., to worship anything other than Allaah, to cause division and to transgress against the rights of others.

In these days it has become very common that people who claim to have knowledge and to be calling people to good slander many of their brothers among the well-known daa’iyahs, and they talk about the seekers of knowledge, daa’iyahs and lecturers. They do that in secret in their own gatherings, but it may be recorded on tapes that are distributed among the people, and they may do it openly in public lectures in the mosques. This behaviour goes against the commands of Allaah and His Messenger in several ways.

1 – It is a transgression against the rights of the Muslims, and against the elite of the people, namely the seekers of knowledge and daa’iyahs who are striving to make the people aware and to teach them and correct their beliefs and practices, and to organize lessons and lectures, and to write beneficial books.

2 – It splits the Muslims and causes division in their ranks. They are the most in need of unity and they need to keep away from division, discord and too much gossip amongst themselves, especially when the daa’iyahs who are being slandered are from among the Ahl al-Sunnah wa’l-Jamaa’ah who are well known for their opposition to bid’ah (innovation) and myth, and for standing up against those who promote such things, and for exposing their plots and tricks. We see no benefit to be gained by such actions, except for the enemies who lie in wait for opportunities to harm the Muslims, such as the kaafirs, hypocrites and followers of bid’ah and misguidance.

3 – This action offers support and help for the self-serving among the secularists, westernizers and other heretics who are well known for stirring up trouble among the daa’iyahs and telling lies against them, and inciting people against them in their writings and recordings. It is contrary to Islamic brotherhood for those who are too hasty to help their enemies against their brothers among the seekers of knowledge, daa’iyahs and others.

4 – This spreads corrupts ideas in the hearts and minds of the common folk and elite; it spreads and propagates lies and false rumours, and causes a great deal of backbiting and slander. It leaves the door wide open to evil people who persist in spreading doubts and stirring up fitnah, and who are keen to cause harm to the believers by accusing them of things that they did not do.

5 – Much of what is being said has no basis in reality; rather these are illusions which the Shaytaan has made attractive to them, through which he has tempted them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another…”[al-Hujuraat 49:12]

The believer should interpret what his Muslim brother says in the best possible way. One of the salaf said: Never think of something that is said by your brother as being bad when you still find room for a good interpretation.

6 – Whatever ijtihaad is produced by some scholars or seekers of knowledge, in areas where ijtihaad is permitted, the author of said ijtihaad cannot be blamed or rebuked for it, so long as he is qualified to engage in ijtihaad. If someone else has a different opinion, it is better for him to debate with him in a proper manner, striving to reach the truth via the shortest route and leaving no room for the insinuating whispers of the Shaytaan or for him to cause trouble among the believers. If that is not possible, and someone thinks that he has no choice but to explain what is wrong with his ijtihaad, then he should choose the best wording and the most subtle way of explaining, and not resort to attacking, slandering or going to extremes in criticizing him, which may cause others to reject the truth or to turn away from it. He should also avoid criticizing specific people, casting aspersions upon their intentions or saying unnecessary or irrelevant things about them. In such cases the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) would say, “What is the matter with some people who say such and such…?”

The advice I offer to these brothers who have fallen into the sin of slandering the daa’iyahs is to repent to Allaah for the things that they have written or said that may have corrupted the hearts of some youth and filled them with hatred and grudges, and kept them from seeking beneficial knowledge or from calling people to Allaah by making them preoccupied with gossip and talking about this one and that one, and seeking out faults for which they could criticize people, and going to extremes in doing that.

I also advise them to offer expiation for the things that they have done by writing and other means that they think they should not have done, and to remove from people’s minds the wrong ideas they may have given them. They should focus on fruitful actions which will bring them closer to Allaah and will be beneficial to people, and they should beware of being too hasty to accuse people of kufr, fisq and bid’ah without any clear evidence or proof. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever says to his brother ‘O kaafir!’ one of them will be deserving of that description.” (Saheeh, agreed upon).

It is prescribed for those who call others to the truth and for seekers of knowledge, if they are uncertain about something said by a scholar or anyone else, to refer to the prominent scholars and to ask them, so that they can explain the facts of the matter to them and remove the confusion and doubt from their minds, in accordance with the words of Allaah in Soorat al-Nisaa’ (interpretatiuon of the meaning):

“When there comes to them some matter touching (public) safety or fear, they make it known (among the people); if only they had referred it to the Messenger or to those charged with authority among them, the proper investigators would have understood it from them (directly). Had it not been for the Grace and Mercy of Allaah upon you, you would have followed Shaytaan (Satan), save a few of you”[al-Nisaa’ 4:83]

And Allaah is the One Whom we ask to reform all the Muslims and to unite their hearts in taqwa and to bring the scholars of the Muslims and those who call to the truth together in doing that which pleases Him and will benefit His slaves. May He unite them in following guidance and protect them against all the causes of division and dissent; may He support the truth through them and humiliate falsehood through them, for He is the One Who is able to do that. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions, and those who follow his guidance until the Day of Resurrection.

Slandering and Accusing Muslims

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Our Shaykh, I love you for the sake of Allaah and I hope that you can tell me how to silence those who slander the scholars. There are people who accuse you of being extreme in labeling others as kaafirs (non-Muslims) and of Qutbiism (a group that claims to base its ideas on the writings of Sayyid Qutb) – as they call it. What is your answer? Please note that I am – as Allaah knows – one of those who love you for the sake of Allaah.
Praise be to Allaah.
May Allaah love you, for Whose sake you love us, and may He bring us together in His mercy on the Day whereon neither wealth nor sons will avail, except him who brings to Allaah a clean heart (al-Shu’ara’ 26:89).

With regard to what you have said in your question, we advise you to keep away from everyone who speaks about your Muslim brothers or slanders them, or accuses them and casts aspersion on their intentions. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O you who have spoken the words of faith but faith has not entered your hearts! Do not backbite about the Muslims or seek out their faults, for whoever seeks out their faults, Allaah will seek out his faults even if he is his house.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, no. 4880; classed as saheeh (authentic) by al-Albaani.

It is also necessary for you to advise these people to fear Allaah and refrain from using such labels and names that divide the Muslims. With regard to offering advice and correcting mistakes, this should not be done by means of exposing people’s faults or casting aspersions on their intentions etc.

With regard to the issue of takfeer (labeling people as kaafirs - non-Muslims), this is subject to further discussion. Describing as a kaafir one who has been described as such by Allaah or by His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) is obligatory. Allaah has described some groups as being kaafirs in His Book, as when He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Surely, disbelievers are those who said: ‘Allaah is the third of the three (in a Trinity)’”

[al-Maa’idah 5:73]

“Surely, in disbelief are they who say that Allaah is the Messiah, son of Maryam (Mary)”

[al-Maa'idah 5:17]

But it is haraam (impermissible) to label as a kaafir someone whom Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not label as such.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Just as it is not permissible to label a specific person as a kaafir unless the conditions of labeling someone as such have been met in his case, so too we should not shy away from labeling as kaafirs those whom Allaah and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) have labeled as such. But we must differentiate between what is specific and what is general.

Sharh Kitaab al-Tawheed, 2/281.

See also question no. 21576.

And Allaah knows best.

Moreover, everyone who levels an accusation against another person must provide proof:

“Say (O Muhammad), Produce your proof if you are truthful”
[al-Baqarah 2:111]

“Since they produce not witnesses, they are the liars in the sight of Allaah”

[al-Noor 24:13]

This problem is widespread among some of those who claim to be religiously-guided, may Allaah guide them, for they make accusations against people on grounds that are not regarded as something worthy of criticism in sharee’ah or that do not undermine a person’s religious commitment.

Then they do not bring any proof of that, and they follow their own whims and desires, because it is human nature to appoint oneself as judge, praising and condemning on a whim.

We must go against the whims and desires of our own selves and measure people by the criteria set out in Islam; we should make mention of their good points and advise them with regard to their mistakes.

And Allaah is the Source of strength.

Does the mother in-law slap are own kids (males/female) when ever they disobey her in their respective homes? Why should grown-up be slapped. Why not call the son-inlaws parents to report him. Why not correct him by talking to him. I thought older people are supposed to be wiser than the younger generation. What point is the mother in-law trying to make by slapping him. That she's a no nonsense mother. But her daughter may suffer for her moms unwise decision.

1. How will son-in-laws parents and family react to this. Should they starting being physical to her daughter too going forward anytime they feel disrespect.
2. What if he starting looking outside the home for respect....? what if he start cheating.. In shot.. the wife has the most to lose, the mother in law should have used wisdom to handle it differently.


Whatever decisions are made by parents in their children's homes should be something that'll bring harmony to there respective houses. With that said, some men have very very bad hanger management issues. Heading a home by hanger, or as a dictator is also not good. The saddest thing is that most that have this issue don't admit that they have a problem.

I have 8 of this available for 70k. American spec....

Hmmm.. Its very easy to Jugde others.. You don't know what others are going through. Between going to one specialist to the other with no cure, most poeple spend their life trying to get a cure. Few are able to get a cure. The mouth wash, toothpast, etc out there don't really fight the bacteria that most chronic bad breath people have. When you have a disease that you never requested from God, you just deal with.




Bad breath can originate from a wide variety of different places in your body. That's why most of these companies out there that promote their products with 'instant' cures are full of it. Here's why:

Dr Murat Aydin is a halitosis expert and has come up with a great classification system that define all types of bad breath. Here's a quick overview of this system:

Type 1 halitosis: Bad breath that originates from the mouth such as cavities, gum disease, bacterial imbalance on the tongue, impacted wisdom teeh etc.

Type 2 halitosis: Bad breath that originates from AROUND the oral cavity. Post nasal drip, tonsil stones, bacterial imbalance in the back of throat, retro-nasal mucosa etc.

Type3 halitosis: Bad breath that originates from the digestive tract. GERD, chronic gastritis, hiatal hernia, stomach and duodenal ulcers, lazy colon syndrome, etc.

Type 4 halitosis: Blood borne halitosis. Liver and kidney diseases, pulmonary infections, blood disorders, TMAU, etc

Type 5 halitosis: Delusional bad breath. A psychological state also known as halitophobia which greatly exagerates perceptions of breath odors.

More details on this classification method at : www.chronicbadbreathfix.com

The reason bad breath products widely advertised on the net don't work is because:

1/ They don't take into consideration the adaptive capacities of bad breath causing bacteria.
2/ They mostly address a single type of halitosis (usually type 1) (You see, they can brush, floss, use mouth wash but the chemicals they are using is not working. A lot of research needs to be done.

To cure bad breath for good, the sufferer must first identify under which category he/she falls under. For example, it is useless to take a treatment for a type 1 halitosis for someone with SIBO (Small Intestine Bacterial Overgrowth).

Salam Alaikum.. Updates from the Website owner....

All the people that provided their emails have been notified by email to provide additional information like professional / Islamic references, and CV. It so sad that none acknowledged that they got the initial email, or request for a timeline on when they'll be providing the references or CV. Its so sad that we have a country where youths are underemployed but is even sad that people don't know the steps that needs to take place to present yourself as a valuable and serious employees. Am sorry to say, not every youth will be employed by big big companies even though that's everyone's dream. Give other jobs an opportunity, and learn to be/act like a professional.

I remember when I was looking for a job after graduating from University, I respond back to emails timely, , provide information, followed up, made phone calls after calls. etc. 99% of these jobs never fell through but alhamduliai, I was hired by one of them. In a nut shell, please learn how to present yourself to a prospective employers. No employer will deal with an employee that is not timely. I'll say the same thing to my kids, my brothers and sisters. I posted the same job ads in other Nigerian job website, and their are 30 plus people showing interest from that website alone.

Please I want people that seriously need a job to respond. People complain about jobs now there is an opportunity. It may not be the greatest salary but is sure better than 20k or 30k. I have a reason for not putting the website owner’s email. What happens 2 years later and someone meets the qualification. They’ll probably still be emailing. The few that respond after a specified timeframe will be notified. This topic is still fresh plus the job recruitment is not only on Nairaland.

They may already have jobs and other commitments. Am open to referals too.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx I know this is not the career section but since this section is frequent by Muslims xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx This is for someone I know that owns an Islamic Website xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx I don't want Non Muslim to think otherwise but this is Islamic in nature xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Are you a "practising" Muslim looking for a Job or can you refer a Muslim brother or sister that needs a job. Please provide your email address and the website owner will get in contact with you. This will require a very high level of writing and marketing Skills. if you don't poses the requirement, dont apply.

Pay/Salary Naira:
Base Salary- 10k per month
Bonus- If minimum monthly targets are met 30k per month
Allowance(Internet/laptop charging) - 8k
Allowance(Telephone)- 2k
Allowance (Transportation)- 5k
Total Pay per month : 55k naira


Job Requirement and Skill:
1. Must have strong marketing skills. Will be reaching out to Islamic organization and associations
2. Must have good writing skill. Will be updating and administer Facebook page, proposal emails, some blogging and website content updates
3. Must poses strong customer service skill. Will be making some phone calls
4. Must be a practicing Muslim that prays, know the Quran and Hadith to some level, and follow the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW).
5. Can work from home( don't have to worry about transportation)
6. Agree to meet a "REALISTIC" weekly and monthly target/goals that is fair to Website owner and you the employee. Please note, there is no sales involve.
7. Must have fresh ideas, realistic, driven.
8. Preferably a graduate (doesn't matter if OND, HND, or BS)

Plese provide a first name and email address.

"""""""""""""""In attendance were six friends, who also acted as witnesses - "and a cat," says Sarah.

The short ceremony was conducted in Arabic, and additional duas - prayers - were read and the marriage was essentially no different from the nikahs performed for straight Muslim couples all over the world. """"""""""""



The following are the requirements of a valid marriage:

The pillars of marriage are three:

1. The couple must be free from any legal prevention to their being able to marry one another, like a close relationship or fosterage.

2. The woman must have the approval of her guardian.

3. There must be an offer and acceptance.

The conditions of marriage are four:

1. The presence of the couple

2. Their approval

3. The presence of the woman’s guardian

4. Two male, Muslim witnesses

These are the requirements of a valid marriage.

Our Prophet (peace be upon him) said : “Any woman married without the consent of her guardian, then her marriage contract is void , and the ruler is the guardian for whom has no guardian”. He also said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.”

The girl’s father is her guardian unless he is proven unfit on grounds of insanity, immorality, or malicious intent by a Muslim judge in an Islamic court or other presiding Islamic authority in the locality. In such cases, his guardianship is revoked and the next closest male relative will become her guardian.

Sheikh Nayif Al-Hamad

@ tbaba... I understand where you are coming from, but it still not settling with my system. I understand the equality in time spent and providing among multiple wives. But every woman wants to be the one that capture the heart of her significant other. How will I feel if I know our husband is "just" with us when it comes to (money, clothing, providing, etc) but I know am not his favorites when it comes to love and affectionate. I don't know if I can deal with that. The one that have the most love and affection will get away with a lot of things because it comes natural, the chemistry is very strong. While unknowingly if the wife that is the less fav does exactly the same thing, they'll not get the exact same treatment. Please help me out...

There are different views.....i found this interesting article.....below

Question: Can women hold public positions of authority in Islam?

Answer: In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
It is permissible for a woman to be an authority and leader in a position for which she is qualified, although some positions are specific only to men such as the position of prayer leader and supreme commander of the armed forces. Some classical scholars prohibited women from taking positions of authority and leadership based upon the statement of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him: لَنْ يُفْلِحَ قَوْمٌ وَلَّوْا أَمْرَهُمْ امْرَأَةً

A people will not succeed who are commanded by a woman. Source: Sahih Bukhari 4163, Grade: Sahih These scholars understood this statement to be general in meaning and therefore they did not allow women to take any public position of authority. However, other scholars understood this statement to be specific to commanding the armed forces and therefore allowed women to hold the position of judge. Ibn Hajar writes: وَخَالَفَ ابْنُ جَرِيرٍ الطَّبَرِيُّ فَقَالَ يَجُوزُ أَنْ تَقْضِيَ فِيمَا تُقْبَلُ شَهَادَتُهَا فِيهِ وَأَطْلَقَ بَعْضُ الْمَالِكِيَّةِ الْجَوَازَ Ibn Jareer At-Tabari disagreed with those who did not allow women to be judges and he said it is permissible for her to judge in matters in which her testimony is acceptable and some of the Maliki scholars gave them unrestricted permission to do so. Source: Fath ul-Bari Women are generally unqualified to perform the duties involved with commanding the armed forces or leading the ritual prayer, but they are qualified and allowed to perform other duties. In fact, women played a very important role in the development of the early Muslim community. Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, appointed Samrah bint Nuhaik as overseer of the market.

Abu Balj Yahya reported: رَأَيْتُ سَمْرَاءَ بِنْتَ نَهِيكٍ وَكَانَتْ قَدْ أَدْرَكَتِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَيْهَا دِرْعٌ غَلِيظٌ وَخِمَارٌ غَلِيظٌ بِيَدِهَا سَوْطٌ تُؤَدِّبُ النَّاسَ وَتَأْمُرُ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَتَنْهَى عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ I saw Samrah bint Nuhaik and she had known the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him. She had on a thick corset and veil. In her hand was a whip which she used to discipline people, and she would enjoin good and forbid evil. Source: Al-Mu’jam Al-Kabeer At-Tabarani 785, Grade: Hasan Ibn Abd al-Barr said: أدركت رَسُول اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وعمرت وكانت تمر فِي الأسواق وتأمر بالمعروف وتنهى عَنِ المنكر وتضرب الناس عَلَى ذلك بسوط كَانَ معها She knew the Messenger of Allah during her lifetime. She would patrol the market while enjoining good and forbidding evil. She would discipline people with a whip that she had with her. Source: Al-Isti’ab bil Ma’ruf 3197 Ibn Al-Jawzai said: وكان عمر رضي الله عنه إذا دخل السوق دخل عليها Umar ibn Al-Khattab would enter the market and he would come to her. Source: Seerah Umar ibn Al-Kharrab 41 Women were among some of the most valuable religious scholars for the early Muslims.

Hafsa bint Umar, may Allah be pleased with her, was entrusted by Abu Bakr to safeguard the first complete written copy of the Quran. Aisha, may Allah be pleased with her, was one of the leading scholars of prophetic traditions and was considered an authority by the companions of the Prophet. Abu Musa reported: مَا أَشْكَلَ عَلَيْنَا أَصْحَابَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حَدِيثٌ قَطُّ فَسَأَلْنَا عَائِشَةَ إِلَّا وَجَدْنَا عِنْدَهَا مِنْهُ عِلْمًا We never had a new problem occur to us as the companions of the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, except that we would ask Aisha and find with her some knowledge concerning it. Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3883, Grade: Sahih Mu’adhah al-Adawiyyah was a narrator of prophetic traditions from the second generation of Islam who related sayings from Ali ibn Abu Talib, Aisha, and Hisham ibn Amir. Amrah bint Abdur Rahman was a student of Aisha from the second generation of Islam who related sayings from Umm Salamah and Rafi ibn Khadeej and was considered a legal scholar in the city of Medina. Hafsa bint Sireen was a student of Umm Atiyyah, Anas ibn Malik, and other companions of the Prophet. She was a legal scholar from the second generation of Islam and one of her students, Qatadah, is an important authority in the exegesis of the Quran. There are many other women who were scholars in the early age of Islam and through the succeeding eras until today. Women played an important role in supporting the Muslim community when they were under attack by the idolaters. Anas ibn Malik reported: كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَغْزُو بِأُمِّ سُلَيْمٍ وَنِسْوَةٍ مَعَهَا مِنْ الْأَنْصَارِ يَسْقِينَ الْمَاءَ وَيُدَاوِينَ الْجَرْحَى The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, would go into battle with Umm Sulaim and other women with her from the Ansar and they would give water and tend to the wounded. Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi 1575, Grade: Sahih There is no doubt that the support services of women were critical to the defense of Islam. Women have an important role for consulting the Muslim leadership.

The Prophet would consult his wives in the most sensitive matters among the Muslims. On the occasion of Al-Hudaybiyya, the Muslims were denied access to perform the Hajj pilgrimage in Mecca as a condition for the peace treaty. The Prophet accepted this condition but the Muslims were largely upset and refused to leave. In such a difficult matter, the Prophet consulted his wife Umm Salamah about the best course of action. Marwan reported: When the writing of the peace treaty was concluded the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said to his companions: قُومُوا فَانْحَرُوا ثُمَّ احْلِقُوا Get up and offer your sacrifices and shave your heads. None of them stood up and the Prophet repeated his order three times. When none of them stood up, the Prophet left them and went to Umm Salamah and told her about the people’s attitude. Umm Salamah said: يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ أَتُحِبُّ ذَلِكَ اخْرُجْ ثُمَّ لاَ تُكَلِّمْ أَحَدًا مِنْهُمْ كَلِمَةً حَتَّى تَنْحَرَ بُدْنَكَ وَتَدْعُوَ حَالِقَكَ فَيَحْلِقَكَ O prophet of Allah, would you like your order to be carried out? Go out and do not speak to them until you have offered your sacrifice and have called the barber to shave your head. Source: Sahih Bukhari 2731, Grade: Sahih The Prophet followed the advice of his wife and the companions began to make preparations to leave Mecca. This incident is an important precedent for us because it demonstrates the value the Prophet placed on the consultation of his wives and women in general. Allah has commanded consultation among the believers and this is general to both men and women. Allah said: فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. Surah Ali Imran 3:159 Women even have the right to correct the Muslim leadership and the leadership has to be humble enough to accept it. In a famous incident, a woman once corrected Umar Ibn Al-Khattab during one of his sermons while he was the Caliph. Umar said: امْرَأَةٌ أَصَابَتْ وَرَجُلٌ أَخْطَأَ The woman is correct and the man is mistaken. Source: Fath ul-Bari


In modern practice, Muslim women perform many roles in society in the fields of religion, politics, science, medicine, education, police, the military, and other important functions. Muslim women provide important contributions to their countries and they should be valued for the services they provide. Therefore, a Muslim woman is allowed to obtain any position of leadership and authority for which she is qualified, although some positions are specific only to men such as commander of the armed forces and prayer leader. Success comes from Allah, and Allah knows best. - See more at: http://www.faithinallah.org/can-women-take-positions-of-leadership-and-authority-in-islam/#sthash.e0DLX74Y.dpuf

Well am not a scholar still learning Hadiths and Quran myself. But from my thoughts and Life experiences. I can tell you that bad things happens for a reason. Life is not meant to be perfect. We are supposed to use difficult moments as a reflection to come close to Allah. I watch Mufti Menks lecture, and he stated that sometime, we are tested because Allah loves us and wants to draw us close to him.

Can you imagine a world:
Where everyone have thesame wealth
Everyone have thesame heights and beauty
The same wisdom
Perfect (everything)


Then we dont get to worship Allah. Why? because there will be no reason to call onto our creator. That quest is not there anymore. But us being human, we think that if we have wealth, beauty, children, etc. for some reason, its by our power.

Females that are beautiful thinks they are so special to the extend that they forget that they were just created without asking. You see them showing off their beauty. If they can seat and think... Did the one that is ugly offend Allah for any reason. No.. The beautiful has a test to be thankful and HUMBLE. The Ugly also have a test, to be thankful because there are others that are worst. Also take the opportunity to come close to Allah. Why because a beautiful heart is more precious than a beautiful face. But if you keep dwelling on the fact that u are ugly... you miss out on the blessing associated with your test.

You see some people that just get carried away with Class.. Hen Hen.. they are not up to our class.. I just they laugh in my mind.. ONLY ALLAH HAS CLASS.


Evrything that happens to us is supposed to be check and balances. When something bad or good happens to someone, it is a sign from Allah our creator that He is in control.


Check out this link and read.. pretty long but interesting"http://www.welcome-back.org/topic/trials.shtml"

"An individual once asked Sayyid Mawdudi about why many people, despite being good and pious, or apparently innocent, suffer severe tribulations in this worldly life. What wrong could a minor child or an infant, for example, commit so that he or she should have to suffer a fatal disease or even be murdered? Why do we see many good people suffering severe afflictions and calamities that they apparently do not deserve?

Mawdudi asked him to consider a beautiful, well-kept garden and its gardener. The garden has many kinds of plants, each requiring various types of resources and care. It is well kept and healthy since the gardener meticulously takes care of it. He often clears the weeds and unnecessary plants that are harmful for the good plants. He trims branches and leaves to maintain their good health. He waters his garden when needed, or withholds water when that is harmful. It is because of such good care that his garden remains beautiful and healthy.

The weeds or plants that he removes or the leaves and branches that he trims suffer much and complains. Their instincts are reactive to their own physical needs and they have little or no understanding about their surroundings, let alone the rest of the garden. They complain about their immediate needs and sufferings and do not know what is ultimately good for even themselves, much less the entire garden. Mawdudi then asked him to compare the garden with the universe and the gardener with Allah (swt).

The point was well made. The analogy, however, is simplistic, for Allah’s knowledge and wisdom is infinite compared to the finite knowledge of a gardener, and His domain is infinitely wider and more complex than a garden. In this universe where an infinite number of laws, events, variables and factors are at work, each affecting others in complex ways, it is impossible for us to comprehend the full wisdom and purpose behind what we apparently observe.

Parables are sometimes used in the Qur’an to make a point understood. Often, when intellect fails to comprehend a matter, a simple parable can get it across."

So when a new wife comes in the picture, it is better for all (Husband and Wife #1, #2) to have a general understanding of who owns what. What normally happens is that the new wife is not preview to the first wife's property. The new wife thinks it belongs to the husband and the husband will not sa its not mine either. I think if we do things accordingly... everyone should know what they are entiled to.

Lots of muslim sisters finds themselves in this situation.....

<<<<<<< question is not intended for haters of Islam, this question is intended to enlighten muslim sisters>>>>>>>>


As we all know, Muslim men are not obligated to inform their first wives that they'll be having wife number 2, 3, 4. As a muslim wife, that find myself in this situation, what's my right?

1. I work just like my Husband. Both husband and wife agreed to invest jointly in harmony. No fighting's, etc.. mutual respect and understanding
2. Investments were acquired in Husbands name. Very few in husband and wife's name. Both Husband and wife knows that the investments belongs to them equally.
3. Husband decide to take wife number 2. What is the first wife entitle to?


a. How are the properties supposed to be shared between the first wife and the husband now that a new wife is now in the picture
b. My understanding is that the wifes property is hers to keep. How will this be resolved
3. Will the first wife's kids be entitled to the Husbands share of property.


Some muslim sisters don't want polygamy because of issues like this. I believe that if muslim sisters knows their rights, this may lead to a better relationship with the husband and cowives..

Every religion have people that don't follow the principles of their Books but it seems that some people just hate Islam. We have Catholic priests that supposed to be the leaders of a church molesting children. There were huge cover ups all the way to Rome. Did muslims mock Xtians because of that. I didnt see mass protest against the Pope. In Sri Lanka, where a conservative, pro-Buddhist government reigns, Buddhist nationalist groups are operating with apparent impunity, looting Muslim and Christian establishments and calling for restrictions to be placed on the 9% of the country that is Muslim

Read more: http://world.time.com/2013/06/20/extremist-buddhist-monks-fight-oppression-with-violence/#ixzz2hGB61CIF. No body complains about that. But If it were certain muslim not following the principle of their Books, then its "Islam" and not the followers.


The poster of this article is trying to provide the right vs wrong. And still people are not thinking deep. Yes you hate Islam. And yes you hate the killing. But dont derail a postive write up that is meant to shed light to others. They'll complaining, muslims are not speaking up against extremist. When muslims speak up, they'll derail and condemn the write.

In my personal opion.. I feel that both muslims and non-muslims are very tensed towards each other. But whether we all like it or not, we are all connected to Adam and Eve.. Am not going to say this religion is right and the other wrong.. the faults goes both ways.


Until we collectively understand the impact of different era and how people lived, then there will continue to be false infomation and prapaganda being spread around. For example:
1. Prophet Muhammads (SWA) is a pedophier. Really... how old was Mary when she had Jesus (Prophet Isa.. AS). Some will say 12, some 13, some 14, some 15. Tell me, how many are marrying their kids off at this proclaimed age?. How old was Joseph....when he Married Mary. When we look at all of the other Prophets of Allah in the bible, how old were their wives, were they in their twenties. But no, because of HATE, people just talk out of their behind. Naturally, am more of a strategist. We as muslims also have all Prophets in the Quran. We can do a documentary about all of the prophets as they are in the quran and Hadiths and share to the media.. put in magazines, etc...

2. Prophet Muhammads (SWA) is a war person: Really, Thats what happened in that era. Just like how wars are declared today between nations, Prophet Muhammads (SWA) followed all the code of conducts of fighting a war at his era. Which means there is hate against our beloved religion and people are just one-sided.


With all that being said. Islam is where my passion is and I like to clean my house first before others. I personally like to judge people by experiencing what they are going through. How will I as a muslim feel if Non-muslims just form a millitant group and kill me because of my religion. I will not like it one bit. Plus these extremist are even killing more muslims than non-muslims. Because of extremist, people are forgetting that the Bible/Tora too has scriptures that are not viewed as humane in todays society.

So how can we as muslims curb this hatred.
1. Just as the Prophet Muhammads (SWA) followed all the code of conducts of fighting a war at his era, we need to follow the code of conducts of todays era. You hear muslims say that the west(that also have muslims) are killling their muslims brothers and sister so its ok to defend our selfs because the Quran says you can defend.. Look at that crazy London guy with Nigerian parents.. (British Army are killing people in our lands). What land is he refering to (London, Nigeria). Noop....He is refering to the middle east. Is he from the middle east noop. The code of cunducts of fighting war today is for the citizens of a country to voice out against their leaders. The leadership decide if a war is needed or not. And country to a country fight a war. Why is it ok today for muslims not follow the code of conducts of fighting a war?.... Some will say that some countries are powerful... but hey... all the people that Prophet Muhammads (SWA) fought out numbered him but he still prevail.


2. Another major issue is that its had to know who to go for scholastics advise. If you look at most countries, there are no formal certification for our leaders. You just hear (odo afa mi ti mo ti kewu).. and its across Nigeria.. most African countries, middle east. We have some formal education but the informal outnumbers the formal educated Islamic scholars. Here in the USA.. you cant practice as a medical doctor unless you are board certified. Plus you have to follow a certain code of conduct and recertifications.

INFORMAL LEADERSHIP is the main problem muslims are facing today. And this informal leadship styles is not unified. Which leads us into not speaking with one voice. It is not wise for a lame muslim to read Hadith and interpret by themselves. We have to look at the scholastics view because they've gone through necessary school of thought. BUT REALLY, THE TRUE RECOGNIZED SCHOLARS ARE HAD TO FIND AND LOCATE. EVEN Prophet Muhammads (SWA) at his era was available TO A LAME MAN. WHERE ARE ALL OF THIS PROCLAIMED SCHOLARS THAT LAME MAN CANNOT REACH. If I have a problem today, the first person I can go to is my Imam. How do I know as a person that the imam am talking to has gone through the necessary training.

In Nigerian masjid here in the USA.. its not new to just categorize someone as afa because they've momorized the quran. This same afas are the ones you will see when Wasiu, Obesere, comes to town sparying money like there is no tomorrow. If am a lame muslim and am not practising the Sunnah, I expect anyone that calls themselves as afar to follow the sunnah.. This same alfas wives dont even wear hijabs. So tell me where is the code of cunducts. So whats the requirment of being called a muslim leader. Whats the certification required. Is there recertification required. Is there a Board that overseas this Leaders. Can your leadship role be revoke..


What I see is that people learn quran from their Alfas, and then proclaim that they themselves are now Alfas. They now teach others. Anyone can spring up from anywhere and proclaimed themselves as scholars. And nobody oversee the other. Am not saying we dont have formal islamic education and scholars, the issue here is that the informal outnumbers the formal by miles. We need that one leadership requirements, one training requirements, one certification requirements, Code of conducts is very essential and one voice from our Islamic leaders.


We muslim are against what extremist are doing. We hear it from our local masjid that extremist is not Islam. Everything being done by our leaders are regionalized, localize, individuals, etc. Do you really think non-muslims dont know that we muslims are against extremist views. What they dont like is the non chalant attitude from our leaders. Not knowing who the Islamic leaders are. Not having a unified voice from our leaders. Personally, I think thats where non-muslims major concerns are. This concerns then manifest into hatred.


Let there be one formal requirement for being a Mufti, Ulema, Faqīh, Grand Imam of Al-Azhar, Grand Mufti, Hafiz, Hujja, Hakim, Khatib, Marja, Mawlānā, Mawlawi, Mufassir, Muhaddith, Mujaddid, Mullah, Qadi, Ustad. Let there be board certification and training. Let there be unified rulings. Let there be codes of conducts. Let there be recertifications. Let there be one standards. Let there be unity and oneness. If these standards are in place and an Islamic scholar goes wayward, we can have one voice saying, we have our Quran, Hadiths, sunnah, Rullings but they've decided not to follow it then he/she is no longer considered a leader anymore. Formal ways will get through to non-muslims, informal ways will not get us anywhere.

I decided to reply because the muslim section of Nairaland is kind of divided (in my opinion) which shouldn't be. There is a lot of you are Shia you are Sunni going on here. A lot of energy spent on who is following the right islamic path vs wrong islamic path, etc. Un-known to muslims here on nairaland, it manifest to the way peoples post are commented on. Only certain people reply back to each others post and vice versa..


Anyway ... we are all muslims.. we need to focus on oneness of Islam and not divisions. So let get back to your concern....


I agree with you that Our Islamic leaders can do a bit more in voicing out opinions. They are voicing out but it lacks that oneness and unification. Its very sad to say that most muslim can't really tell you about our leadership structures. Am still learning myself. At our individual homes, our husbands are the leaders. When you go to the masjid, your imam is your leader. Then we have Sheus and Sheiks (I hear sheiks here in the USA but not sheu). We have Muftis, Qadi, Ulama, etc. It took a while for me to even know that there something called Mufti in Islam. Here are some other Islamic Leadership we have that you can read about and learn what there functions and roles are.. Ulema, Faqīh, Grand Imam of Al-Azhar, Grand Mufti, Hafiz, Hujja, Hakim, Khatib, Marja, Mawlānā, Mawlawi, Mufassir, Muhaddith, Mujaddid, Mullah, Qadi, Ustad.


Growing up in Nigeria, all I knew was Hafa, Sheu, Imam, going to arabic shools where they beat the hell out of you and Asalatu. But through self quest for Islamic knowledge, have come to understand that there is more to Islam than Asalatu and we nigerians need to get that. Am very happy that muslims in Nigeria are now revolutionized against your regular (AWON AFA WA SOPE) kinds of teaching. We now have a lot of great Islamic organization, Muslim student org, etc that are teaching more details Islam. But we msulims still have a lot to do because our older parent tends to gear towards asalatu and awon afawa sope kinds of Muslim. We as muslims need to educate the younger muslims on a different level. Here in the USA, if you take your kids to Nigerian Masjid, they may face some difficulties later as they grow. Because Nigerian masjid only focuses on Asalatu. Its like Nigeria masjid are springing out left and right with focus on Asalatu only but our kids need a stronger foundation about Salat, Quran, Hadiths, and the Correct Sunnah. But when you have an alfa that only memorized the quran, but dont follow the sunnah.. go figure. Because of that, my kids attend both Nigerian and Arab masjid. We need our Nigerian alfas here in the USA to learn from the revolution going on in Nigeria...

What i Know is that majority fo muslim are against everything you are concerned about. But the Imams, Mufti, that talk against them are every where. very localized. Different regions, countries, etc.


Things that may help.....

1. Am not sure if it is ok Islamically to have a global focus rather than local/region/country, etc. Is it ok to have a global standard/education/certification before you can be a Grand Imam of Al-Azhar, Grand Mufti, Hafiz, Hujja, Hakim, Khatib, Marja, Mawlānā, Mawlawi, Mufassir, Muhaddith, Mujaddid, Mullah, Qadi, Ustad. Its like the requirements are different every where you go to. We have too many unregulated leadership structure. Am looking for a more unified Fatwas, unified Rulings, etc.

2. Our kids should know what the islamic leadership structures are and what it takes to be one. When we adults dont know, how can kids know.

3. We are all muslim, what one muslim does affects us all. Why can't we be unified?...

Thankful for Allah's mercy on me. I continue to pray for his guidance over me, my family and my fellow muslims worldwide. I feel very strongly for non-muslims (and muslims) being attacked by extremist. May Allah protect us all from eveil doers. Ameen..