wolesmile:


Unless that pix is taken from the scene of a movie...







Wake up to reality.

Tell me the reality. What can a tall man achieve that this man cannot? Mention only three.

peteruuu:

Lol, yah. The man is my neighbor. They are twins sef. Check the background in the pictures, you'll see the second man.
They're gospel artists

Is the twin also a midget?

wolesmile:
Some will say love is blind...



But me I'll say
1. Either the guy is rich
2. Or the guy is influential with some connections the lady needs
3. Or the guy guy helped her family out of a situation and the lady became the ultimate price
4. Or the lady was conned into marrying the man
5. Or the situation is not ordinary...



Whatever it is, this ain't love!!!

Or they love each other

Ugosample:



I see that point with the loneliness


Nigeria indeed is a $hithole country but then my parents are still in Nigeria (they insist they wanna stay) and some of the best friends I made while growing up are still in Nigeria and we still keep in touch.

When you spent the first 15-25 years of your life in Nigeria, despite wanting to disconnect from the country, something keeps keeping us interested about what is going on there, because a part of us is still there, and the people we left behind

it sucks, but that's life.

my own kids may not have such fondness for NIGERIA tho


Because they are not going/growing there

@emboldened; it depends. Are you married to an American citizen born and brought up in America, or to a Nigerian who emigrated like you to America and still has the Nigerian blood in her? If you are married to a woman like you, then your kids, growing up under the care of you both, even if they never visit Nigeria, will most likely still have that fondness when they grow up. I have seen a lot of grown up kids like that here who really wanna go see where their both parents are from, especially when some great news come from there. For example, with the way Nigerian music is going, it will still take over the world. In addition, if Nigeria wins, say the world cup; or if your child majors in something like African Studies, or if in his or her class, they are made to read some amazing Nigerian texts such as Things Fall Apart, or Half of a Yellow Sun, and the country is well spoken of in class. With both parents being full-blooded Nigerians, that identity is most likely still going to occur at some point. Even black Americans struggle with identity a lot here. However, if you are married to a white or full-blooded American, then it may balance out.

Originalsly:
Living in New York.......visiting and living are like night and day. If you can afford to live here.....fine to a certain
extent. ...depends on your network of friends. The earlier one came...the wider the network...the bigger the base of friends ..and for that...if you attended school would make a big difference. Support is soooo important. In all the hustle and bustle.....places of entertainment. ...etc....loneliness is huge over here. No matter how bad Nigeria is..... shithole country or whatever.... loneliness and homesickness will always, always have us returning to the land where we spent our early years....the same reasons why sooo many will curse Nigeria..but can't stay away from what's going on...socializing with others...the reasons why they have become Nairaland addicts. Yes..outside is organized...but it is like being in the military...your life is regulated unlike in Nigeria....you look out the window..see two dark clouds ..and decide you're not going to work because it may...may rain!..smoke anywhere..pee anywhere...start a business anywhere... sell whatever you want anywhere...that freedom ..infact. that right you no longer have as is when you enter countries 'that make sense'. Everywhere has its good and bad...to each his own.
Finally....loneliness is what sends most of the more senior folks to their grave....someone over 50 would be like in solitary confinement....especially during the day.

Genuine friendship is not very common in the US (and the western world in general) as it is in Nigeria. One thing I tell a lot of people here is that friendship in America thrives on proximity. You are friends with someone because you see the person daily, you talk, hang out, etc. If either of you relocates, and you no longer see the person, the friendship gradually dissipates. They say, "Time and distance expose weak bonds." Therefore, it becomes clear that your bond with that person was very weak! America for you; you are on your own! This is unlike Nigeria. Do you know that some of my friends from many years back in high school are still frequently in touch with me despite the fact that we are miles apart and have not seen each other since we graduated? In America, friendship does not last that long.
Here in America, people smile a lot. They appear to be very friendly on the surface level, but at a closer scrutiny, they are not. When you first arrive and you find strangers smiling at you and saying hi, you would think people are really friendly. After a while, you will realize that it is not so. In Nigeria, however, people do not smile that way, but they are more friendly. So, yes, you are right that people are really lonely in America.

ibrahimovic303:


My bro u said it all...The people here are something else, always keeping straight faces and look angry all the time. I even start to play ball by the side, this one self nor help...las las we gaz choose wetin we want na? Broke and happy in Naija or rich and lonely in the Western world.

LOL, you guys should visit America. They are the friendliest people on earth; always smiling to strangers for no reason.

larrywax:
Because I've got goals that I'm pursing ni


Commot for Naija & com give me feedback.

For over 3yrs that I've been here, electricity has never been taken for 1minute

Ajala, so, you've been in SA for over 3 years and you're still planning to jump to another zone. When you reach there, you will jump elsewhere again. Instead of you to ask your village people where they kept your goals so you can go grab once and for all, you keep jumping from place to place searching for goals that are not lost. At your age, your mates don already dey settle down for one place, you still dey jump upandan

wunmi590:


Lmaoo, you should know before I travel, I would have done my research well to only European countries

But you said any other country like nigeria is the worst country on earth.

FisifunKododada:
I have been living in the US for the past 16 years now. I spend MOST of my time working day and night. Life here is easy but you need money. People don't help each other here especially when mullah is involved.

Are you a citizen or permanent resident?

larrywax:
I live in South Africa and don't plan returning to naija for any reason until I figure out my next country of relocation... I shall know say naija nobi am

Why do you keeping jumping from one country to another? You aren't still comfortable with SA?

wunmi590:
I have never been to any country before aside this my present Nigeria, but believe me, if I have my way to visit any other country, I would prefer I stay there forever.

Including Afghanistan, North Korea, Somalia, and Sudan??

FriendNG:


You're right figure of speech and irony is the answer.

But you're also wrong because tenses fall under certain part of speech and not as independent past of speech.

Example: Singing is a present continues tense but the part of speech is a verb. (The tense "singing" is an action word" )



English and palava

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really, singing? verb? Have you heard of gerund? derivation of a verb that functions as a noun?

MzDeeb:


He is actually saying the truth.

Life is much more easier in abroad.

Constant light, good roads, good homes, peaceful lifestyle, extremely cheap foods n clothes.

Pple mind their business a lot too.

In Nigeria pple with physical challenges can't walk freely cos we tend not to mind our business, pple make jest of them, but here you see the disables everywhere without anyone making jest of them or being cruel to them.

To say the truth, living abroad is better. Except person wey wan suffer all through their lives

Are you saying that people make jest of those with disabilities in Nigeria? Maybe it depends on the nature of the disability; for example, reaction to a stammerer is different from reaction to a crippled. However, in general, people in Nigeria are more sympathetic towards the disabled than people in the West. In the West, everyone, irrespective of disability is expected to be independent, but in Nigeria, the reverse is the case. Therefore, people show more sympathy and empathy towards the disabled in Nigeria than in the West. When you say they cannot mind their business when they come across the disabled in Nigeria, it is just their sympathetic nature.

MzDeeb:
As a Nigerian who stays abroad. I miss the following ;

Our weather.. Chai the cold here is not smiling, the way the wind attacks one ehn, e go be like say ur village pple send dem

I miss being able to buy foodstuffs around. Eg Mama put.

I miss being able to stop over at a friend's place, playing loud music and all

I miss the drama that comes with living in lagos. The conductors, okrika guys, molue fights etc.

But I'm thankful for being here though. No stress.

@emboldened really? Why are you unable to stop by at a friend's place?

FortifiedCity:
The 3 rules of staying away from depression according to FortifiedCity

1. Live within your means/income.

2. Do more but expect less; this means you shouldn't expect so much from any human. Let every more be a surprise to you. Leverage on the power
of good surprises

3. Do not live your life to impress anyone. Whatever is right and in standing with natural laws, do just that.

If you do this, of a truth I tell you, you will never be a victim of depression.

I'm quoting this because it is deep, so I can refer to it later.

shortgun:
It's an abomination in our land when a man sees a girls unclothedness without her consent
The guy needs to appease d gods of d land.

What if a girl sees a man's unclothedness without his consent in your land?

chriskosherbal:
The FTC lady is saying Wizzy should shut up and make peace with them ...

What if their demand is getting too much and affecting his account adversely...yes he should take care of his kids no doubt but the baby mama (s) are not his wife and so should go and work and stop looking for quick and easy way out ...

He should be sweating his ass morning and night ...to the extent of opening fashion home (all to double hustle ) and be spraying the money on them cos na dem start to dey born pikin ...are their not women who got married legally and upon delivery were abandoned by their supposed husband, sometimes even twins bUT still make sure they give the kids the best they can afford ...

Is Linda ikeji not their mate ....mtewwwwww

Abeg wizzy for the sake of the kids give them small thing jare, next time they will think well before opening their legs for any celeb they see.

Do you know what is called child support? You think America is like your lawless, disorganized country? Wizkid should be thankful that his baby mamas have not sued his ass in an American court, otherwise, he would go to jail for it!! Do you think it was the baby mamas that decided on how much he should be paying as child support?b here in the states, if you cannot pay child suport, then, zip up!!!

Gbelex:

Uncle,are they playing the same position? Ronaldo has bn made a striker due to hi striking force and goal scoring ability.Messi plays in the midfield behind strikers,th why yo have been seeing those assist from him and sometimes get the goal himself while CR7 plays infront of the midfielders,so if I may ask you,what do you think his job would be,to pass or score? I bet u know the answer. they are both arguably the best player I the world which. Believe to compare them you just have to do dat by their achievements and not by taking anything from anyone cause they are two different playe with different playing style.Messi d solo run, CR7 d Thunderbolt.

Going by your analogy, Messi should not be competing with Ronaldo in goals. Messi, despite playing in the midfield, and sometimes, even deeper, still competes with Ronaldo, a striker, in terms of goals. Take goals out of Ronaldo, and you have nothing left. Take assists, passes, and dribbles out of Messi, and a lot is still left of him.

coolHeadedBird:
very possible. People are funny. I have been there. I met with someone for SOA, I spelt it out categorically that I dont't want a fake statement cos there would be verification. i even told him the person would be my sponsor that I already have funding, only that it was not captured on my I-20. The school wanted me to appear on campus first before I could be given employment letter, hey felt I might go to another school. I explained all this to the bro and he assured me that no problem. I never knew he didn't have access to the owner of the account until I needed to put my sponsor's email address and phone on my visa application before he told me he couldn't provide that. I was sad but , moved on anyways. my interview went well, interviewing officer only needed my sponsor to confirm the statement with a mail and that's how I got hooked. I could have created an email address to do that, but I didn't want to do anything fraud, I have never been involved in a shady business And knowing fully well they could get every data on the email if they choose to, and that would worsen my case. I was praying cos I knew it could lead to ban. after several emails between I and embassy, I got a refusal with a blue paper that I can reapply.
this is just to caution others that if you don't have direct access to your sponsor, please don't use such statement. Thank you.

I don't get it; are you guys just meeting with random people for bank statements? Isn't bank statement supposed to be something that belongs to your genuine sponsor? Do you just get anybody's bank statement even if it is genuine?

lanrexdo:
This one doesn't know what to say. He is just looking for cheap avenue to revive his lost career.

I was once depressed and it is the horrible feeling ever. I always try and cheer up and yes i meditate better on positive things rather negative and lose interest in life itself.

Fast facts on depression:
Llack of joy and reduced interest in things that used to bring a person happiness.
Life events, such as bereavement, produce mood changes that can usually be distinguished from the features of depression.
The causes of depression are not fully understood but are likely to be a complex combination of genetic, biological, environmental, and psycho-social factors.

Symptoms of depression can include:

depressed mood
reduced interest or pleasure in activities previously enjoyed, loss of sexual desire
unintentional weight loss (without dieting) or low appetite
insomnia (difficulty sleeping) or hypersomnia (excessive sleeping)
psychomotor agitation, for example, restlessness, pacing up and down
delayed psychomotor skills, for example, slowed movement and speech
fatigue or loss of energy
feelings of worthlessness or guilt
impaired ability to think, concentrate, or make decisions
recurrent thoughts of death or suicide, or attempt at suicide

Some of the symptoms you mentioned are actually for anxiety.

Atunde5:
I was just thinking aloud today and wondering when Nigerian VO abroad will be asking oyinbo "why do you choose to study in Nigeria?", "why do you choose lautech?"among some few questions.

BTW, do American universities accept neco results?

Of course, they will. When I was at the University of Ibadan, I saw quite a few American students, mostly those who came to study Yoruba. The difference here is that, these American students, after completing their studies in Nigeria, return to their country, America. The Nigerian visa officers also know that they will return to their country when they are done. However, when it comes to Nigerian students going to America, the reverse is the case!! This is the main reason why it is hard to get an American student visa. I have met students from several countries in Europe studying here in America, and none of them went through the sort of rigorous screening that Nigerian students go through during visa interviews. These guys also go back to their countries for summer break, but several Nigerians, once they step foot in America, never go back home, not even for a break. There are some countries whose citizens do not give a damn about America, and America literally begs them to come here; one of such countries is Norway. It's a pity how much our leaders have failed us, because back in the 70's when the naira was stronger than the dollar, we also never gave a damn about America!

platypelloid:
Please house,which one is the faster and more rewarding route for a medical doctor?
1)Uk plab or
2)MSc/Mph USA ??

Your kind advice Wil be appreciated.

How far have you gone in your medical career? You may want to refer to the post below, which, although was initially directed to somebody else, I thought that it might help you make informed choices regarding the US path, so I modified it a little. Hopefully, someone else assists you regarding the UK path. You may as well want to get in touch with the poster for more guidance, and I encourage you to follow the UK PLAB thread here on Nairaland.

Timotee:



With regards to the US path, there are several paths. The easiest path will be to write USMLE step 1 (and if possible, step 2ck) during your housejob period. The closest centre is in Ghana. If you're certain you won't be taking any governmental appointment in the future, then you can skip his NYSC.

After applying and getting admitted to an MPH programme (should apply during housejob or NYSC), you can work towards writing step 2cs and step 3 exams while doing your MPH. If you can get an observership while doing your MPH, it will help. Note that studying for the USMLE exams is very intensive and your MPH may suffer as a result. Also, you should put extra effort to getting very good scores on your USMLE exams. A failed exam will impact tremendously on your chances of getting a residency spot; so you should only write the exams when you're fully prepared.


Hope this helps.

Adhheir:

1. How do they get their money back? Since there is no PR or citizen cosigner that will be held responsible when you elope to ur own country.

Lol, @emboldened, shey you know the meaning of the word u use sha? No dey use any words anyhow o.

I guess he is expected to pay the loan on monthly installments, should be around $150 a month with that amount. He will have to start paying it from the next month after borrowing, therefore, they wouldn't wait until the time to "elope" comes; he is still an active student. If you are interested in what happens if he chooses to leave the United States without paying back, since he already has a social security number, the debt will go onto his credit report, and he will no longer be able to enter the United States in the future (he will become inadmissible). This may affect his family members who want to enter the United States in the future, too, due to the embassy's consideration of family history. Other than these, no implications.

paroh137:


Honestly bro, I would advise you to take your current studies like your life depends on it. Like if you don't study people are gonna kill you in cold blood. Read until your eyes fall out. Seek leadership positions, make the most of your time here and graduate with great grades. I personally feel it's better to go to US on a Master's than as an undergrad.

PS I wish someone had told me this when I was in year 2. Oh well.

What are your reasons for the emboldened, man?

Laird:
Urine contains toxins.... Waste from the body passed out by the kidneys

Who can eat food from the dustbin

But you have heard of urine therapy, right?

TsunamiHot:


This is actually incorrect, about 12 states(California, Maryland, Illinois etc) in the US issue driver's license or driving permits to illegal immigrants. Let's at least verify information we put out here (like they say..."Google Is your friend).

I'm not endorsing(not that anybody needs endorsement. ..lolxxx) illegal migration though, just wanted to chip that in.

I'm not the one you should quote for this. Did you read in my post where I stated that I did not even know about that until I read it here. I don't know anything about illegal immigrants in regards to the issuing of drivers' license. However, if out of 50 states, only about 12 states issue driver's license, then, that is still a big issue of concern for any one intending to travel and turn illegal.

lefulefu:
visa application is not d issue. The issue is dat some of u guys come here to give false info. Like ur colleaue who was countered for exergerating. Same as some days ago some claiming to be in US was saying that TOFEL was what was required to gain admission. When i countered by saying a candidate needing to study in US or canada need to sit for SAT if he's going for a degree programme or if he's going for a Masters he has to sit for another exam(i have forgetten the name ) he said he hasnt heard of SAT.This was coming from someone who claimed he studied in a US college oo and he's working there.He has never heard of SAT. The admission officer in one or the schools i applied told me that its only non english speaking countries who sit for TOFEL and since i am frm nigeria i dont need TOFEL. But the nairalander said it was only europe and south africa who was exempted.what do i know? Maybe u guys could even be illegal immigrants forming posh for all i know.

Wait, let me just quickly correct some of your statements. Every school in the US has its own admission policy, so there is no unified process for it. And there are over five thousand schools here. Some very good schools do not even need any SAT or TOEFL from you, and they have no application fee. It's all free and easy, and it will only take you few minutes to turn in your application online. There are schools that require only SAT, some require only TOEFL, and some require both. It varies from school to school. Some need you to evaluate your transcript through WES or similar agencies, and still submit a bunch of test scores. Most likely, such schools are highly standard and give huge scholarship. The people you communicated with gave you information based on their own experiences with their own schools, but it's different in every school.

lefulefu:
Now this is the first reasonable post frm u.Plan well before travelling out.know if ur finances will be able to take u dat long.this post is diffrent from the earlier post u guys were posting that anybody who travels out will suffer and dat food is difficult for all manner of immgirants to get who are living in the US.

So, this is my first reasonable post, ehn? Who told you anybody travelling out will suffer? Can you point at where that was stated on this thread?

Babyvet:


Exactly, apart from jobs, how do they get to drive and get their own accommodation. Even if you work under the table, you will be subjected to low wages( under minimum wage) and expected to work a crazy amount of hours. How long can one sustain that for? Even if your doing it to secure your children future, what happens if the parent is deported and the young American citizen children are left behind and no-one else is available to take care of them. We have been seeing more cases of that especially with Mexicans.

Thanks for including the fact that you won't even be able to drive if you are illegal even if you have 1 million dollars to buy a car. I didn't even know this. There is a lot of suffering if one is illegal, but you become these people's enemies if you tell them. All they want to hear is, just come to America and everything will become paradise for you.

Pasca07:
All the things you mentioned so far doesn't change the fact that if US give a day visa to average Nigerians they will prefer it than staying in Nigeria that is d bitter truth.all this epistle will not stop Nigerians from leaving naija to usa either they have paper or not simply because if you can survive hard life in Nigeria then all the things you mentioned doesn't bother this set of people

I know such people. No one is saying they shouldn't come. I'm only saying they should plan well before coming. Hopefully there are some people reading who will start planning well before coming.

Sarang:


My apology

That's okay. Apology accepted. Love ya