₦airaland Forum

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting. My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough. I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get. She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food. Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about. It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours. My income is more than hers though. Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

Lolz, no one will teach you how to spend wisely when you start having children. How can you place a wife that earn decent income on salary? Don't you have any plan for your future. A broke man at old age is as useless to women as tissue paper. You better start planing for your old age now that you have income.

Business women are chronic cheaters.

He should free the woman and allow peace to rein.

kyber:
I saw lots of girls today in school and they are my spec but I couldn’t approach them for fear of rejection

Even girls I do see in my street I no fit meet them to toast them even though I like them

I will advise you to focus on your education, at least for now. Women are very easy to get or slept with but can subsequently caused distraction that could hinder your success in life. There is absolutely nothing you will gain in dating girls while you are still in school or still being feed by your parent.

You can accidentally sleep with a girl using condom but don't ever be in commited relationship at this stage.

nnamdi640:
Just keep your mouth shut, even if there was no division in pdp, APC will still rig the election and that is why sensible people like falz are speaking out. You might be ok with the process doesn't mean it will not be used against you and your fellow jubilating now in years to come

The problem of you and the like of falz is that you don't think outside the box. A simple logic should've told you even before the election that APC with more governors, senators, representatives and many others would defeat fragmented PDP. Obi, Kwankwaso, G-5 were very much intact in PDP in 2019, yet they all lost to Buhari. Is it now that they've decided into 4 that you expect them to beat very much intact APC.

There maybe some irregularities, which is akin to every election in the world, but practically, APC did not likely rig anything as believed by some people. If they does, they would've won Kano, Lagos and Kaduna by wide margin. The only place I think there might be electoral fraud or possible intimidation is River state.

Some youths don't just have sense. A formidable opponent in PDP devided into 3 against incumbent APC, and some people still expect them to lose with all their strong structure across the federation. If not for Buhari bad governance and die miniute stupid fuel and cash scarcity, APC would've defeated them with more than 5 millions votes.

To me, APC actually lost the election by wide margin if you compare their 8m votes and 14m votes of former PDP guys Obi, Kwankwaso as well as Atiku of PDP.

kaylardz:
Tinubu will definitely complete two terms and hand over to his anointed candidate in 2031. With Tinubu in power, no politician in Nigeria can defeat him.

I think that was the major fear of Buhari, Obasanjo and the cabals. Mighty Tinubu with federal power is as dangerous as Obasanjo of 1999 - 2007.

Baba may perform well but forget it, no man can defeat him/his candidates with Inec and other federal apparatus under him. If a man can hold Lagos down for his party against almighty PDP with federal power for more than 20 years, I wonder who will defeat him now that he hold federal power. The manner and stressless means by which wike, Makinde, etc worked for him during last election was too exemptional for any politician who held no public post. Imaging the way politicians will work for him now that he is president.

He won't use force on anyone, just diplomacy and offers they won't be able to turn down.

Pierced:
Northerners will never support Obi.

And I doubt if PDP will be so stupid to give Obi their ticket.....when they know that the north never forgets.

Tinubu being a smart politician, and with presidency power will be so difficult to beat by any party in 2027 should he decided to contest again.

My major fear under him is that, Nigeria should not become one party state or with very weak and useless oppositions to checkmate his government.

You guys should move on and let face our personal developments. Allow politicians to fight their battles, stop all these unnecessary strategy predictions for God sake.

No one know tomorrow, I have learnt so far that whatever we hype to high heaven always performed abysmally, while the ones we outrightly condemned do well when giving the samd opportunity. Tinubu may not be perfect, but I am 100% sure he would be better than calamity Buhari. Trust me, Nigerians will see a new dimension of development that will lasted for generations under him.

1. Envy and jealousy

2. Pride and greed.

*Siblings envy one another especially the poor ones among them. No matter what the rich ones do or gave them, they will never like him or her.

* some people are very irrational with money. Once they have money, they will start disrespecting their siblings, wanting them to worship them and refuse to help them.

Besides, most of what people called hatred or envy among siblings are not truly what it is. Humans naturally feel withdraw from negative reaction to protect their integrity. For instance, whenever a poor sibling decided to stop asking for help or refuse to be ridicule by other rich siblings, people call it envy and jealousy. What I have noticed in people is that, siblings rarely had issues with big brothers who are truly stand with them.

lagosrd:
If they use BVAS stuff to send adeleke home, I want o see how it won't be used against tinubu

How can it affect him when he actually won the election.

APC would've lose the election if PDP is still intact. NNDP, PDP and LP got about 15M votes as against APC 8M votes.

There might be some irregularities, but I don't think APC changed any result or scores.

Godspikin:
What makes you think the north will lose out if Nigeria practice true federalism or regional government??

Many southerners don't know that North actually has competitive advantage should Nigeria opt for true federalism.

Talking about economy and commerce, abundant raw materials that can be converted into finish goods. They have arable land and man power for commercial farming. They have good roads network compare to what we have down here. Now, they have crude oil in commercial quantities.

Ninety6:
separation is the only solution to Nigeria. nothing can convince me otherwise.

We are better off together, regionalism is the way forward. Let each geo- political zone rule itself independently and pay tax to federal government to maintain national armies and foreign affairs.

Presidency should be rotate among these geo political zones, and national assembly must be unicameral with just 60 members(10 from each zone).

GodinDaFlesh:
Have we not learned? The county is rigged against the Igbo. Let this hellhole burn.

No one rigged against Igbo, Igbo simply don't know how to play politics. South East being a zone that usually give a bloc vote has advantage over other zones in the South if they had utilise the opportunity well. Being loyal to PDP that gives absolutely nothing for years instead of APGA to negotiate power with other zones is their greatest undone.

You can't defeat a rulling party with Labour party that lacks national spread especially in the Noth West and East. Obi would've won easily with PDP. If you still believe Obi won this year election, it mean you know nothing about politics. Obi know the truth, he is just using the victim tactics to keep his Obidients followers intact for the gubernatorial election and future elections.

But it is quite unfortunate that the tactics only work in one state in SE, and with this, his chances of becoming Nigeria president is almost gone forever.

Absolutely no! Not everyone is business oriented, besides there are many jobs that will pays you better than those engaging in SME businesses.

All you need to do is to invest towards your retirement period to avoid regret. Buy lands, Gold, and invest in foreign stock markets if you can.

This is a way to go. Inec should only transmit or upload results collated and signed by parties agents at polling units, anything short of that will give room to serious hacking/manipulation, which could eventually damage the process.

What Peter Obi and Obidients are currently doing is very dangerous for our democracy and society at large, and if care is not taking, this can resulted into civil unrest. In as much as we all hate APC and anyone they present, let use our brains to think for once.

You don't expect INEC to give you want they don't have, they will only give you what is in their collated system. If you have a genuine result signed by all parties agents at polling units, the right thing to do is to present it in court and cross check with what Inec claimed they have. The results signed by all party agents at polling units are more than enough to win a case in court, so why troubling inec over what you can easily present in court. Election is secret ballots, you can't just assume you won without having the real result signed by all parties agents at all polling units.

This is why I commended inec by not uploading results directly from polling units. It can be easily hack and caused serious problem for them along the line. If I were Inec chairman, I will do the same by uploading only result collated and signed by all parties agents at polling units.

insidelife22:
What oyetola couldn't do in Four yrs, Adeleke did in 100 days.

Fear God nah. This road was started by Aregbesola and 80% completed last 2 years I passed through the road. It is so unfortunate that politicians easily deceive youths especially on Internet.

If you are that intelligent, you should've knows that no one can complete a dualisation of 10km roads in 100 days. The formality of contract alone will take government few weeks out of the said 100 days.

Guest2008:
I read something kind of scary on the internet today and I'm finding it difficult to believe..

Is it true that for every successful pregnancy and delivery, you lose something in you? It could be voice, sight, hearing, sanity, body parts or any other thing...

This is not true at all. Postnatal depression and other symptoms are real but not every woman experience it.

I had only saw 2 women with memory lost and severe depression in my entire life, the rest, including my wife don't experience any of such.

accordadoga24:
This makes a lot of sense… One positive thing don come out of this boy

Potable did not go there to show love as you think but fight and public disturbances. Imagine the way he was throwing things at them to set them up against one another.

TheNiceGuy:
Old market women who sells vegetables and fruits will open palm pay?

Why are you guys forming nonsense woke

Next time, you ignore that fool. Alot of them are still under their parents doing nothing tangible to improve their future.

Their type are educated illiterates.

djojo:
The thing is that the policy is a good one, but Things like this will not work in a zoo country like Nigeria,
Those bank Managers was the first to sabotage the policies.
Our politicians are the second set of people.
And we the masses too.
Can you imagine i wanted to enter bus at oshodi to tollgate the driver said he will not collect transfer and i met a woman selling gala, she said i must buy 500 naira gala add extra 200 before she can give me cash of 1000. So can you now see that we the masses too are the set of people that make the policy difficult.
We always like to take advantage of each other.
The main fact is that there is no love at all in this country.

The policy and its implementation are entirely bad. You guys should get education, there is no cashless policy/economy anywhere in the world.

What people are ignorantly believing to be cashless economy in developed countries are simply digital economy. In digital economy, people has a luxury of transacting digitally without much hindrance. They use cash when it necessary. At least if you have never leave the shore of Nigeria before, you can make little research about what is going on in developed economy your foolish leaders are ignorantly copying.

DeJoeee:
For those asking how he is going to generate the money.
Cancelling the conduit pipes through which the god father's are paid with Lagos money is enough to achieve all this.
Many people don't know how much the state spends in running and maintaining the corrupt political structure in Lagos.
That's why they were making mouth with structure because they know how much they have invested now OBI have proved to them that structure is useless.

And you think he won't build and establish another structure for his party too? Did you see where he said he would dismantled democratically elected local governments and conduct election that will probably focus on caretakers.

Lagos has the best method of IGR in Nigeria, reason other states are using same Alpha beta you are condemning. You can't leave the work for corrupt civil servants and expect good results.

The worst thing that will ever befall Lagos is to allow inexperience person who has never manage an organisation to be a governor. The calibres of Peter Obi and other experienced managers are the ones good for economy of Lagos, not a boy like GVR.

Let Sanwo olu complete his good work abeg.

king1250:
Any results uploaded after pu election on 25th Feb is the handwork of APC in collaboration with INEC collation officers.

What most of you don't understand is that, uploading results directly from PUs is very risky as it can be easily hack by anyone. INEC did the right thing by uploading only results collated and signed by parties agents at Polling units.

pinkbarby:
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Are you a match maker or looking for baby daddy?

Would it not be much more better to opt for surrogacy than being in this arrangement?

This is the same thing as to just say you are looking for a ready made man who dont mind to marry you or turn you to a baby mamas.

remsonik:
Yes it's OK, if they manage their spending wisely. On your Gen only at night for 2-3 hours. Refill Gas in two months and get an electric cooker to use when there's light.QMonitor amounts spent on outings, eateries and orders.
Use gotv instead of dstv or buy a lower cost plan for anyone you have.
Put off your data and use data when needed only that will reduce the data bundle you buy monthly.

I think those things you listed don't take much money compare to School fees and other children needs? Those little ones spend about 70% of total expenses in the family.