₦airaland Forum

wirinet:
You blame Obas for agreeing with constitutional provisions?
Here is what Obasanjo said;


What did he say that is off? If the governor was there, won't they all stand up and greet him? Remember the only person with a higher order of protocol than a former president is the current president.

Yes, Obasanjo was just being brash. Maybe he was annoyed that he was not recognised when he came up to speak. Maybe non of the obas came yo greet him.

Please don't say what you don't know, Yoruba obas, especially first class Kings don't stand up from their seats to greet governors or president except where the Kings involves just arrive and meet them on the seat. We all know even local government chairmen are above them but we respect the thrones and subsequently the Kings. The same obj that have postrated for Kings countless time when he was in power is now telling them to stand up and gree him. The man is just being bitter or probably affected by old age.

If that was the case, those Obas would've stood up even before being reminded by arrogant OBJ.

Tntsi:
Nonsense talk. President obasanjo did nothing wrong.
It is even worse in the north.
In the north, a governor will not only stand an emir but he will sack him and divide his throne.
Ask the former emir of kano .

There is big difference between using constituted authority to remove monarchs and humiliating them in public. What Obasanjo did was wrong, Yoruba only respect the thrones that these individual Obas occupied and not their personality.

I blame those Obas for allowing him to insult them like that.

Ekpekus:
Rashford is a very selfish player...

Why won't a player be selfish in front of goal when only those that scores goals are given all the glories and awards.

happney65:
Yeye, I will give you facts.

Tell me how did he crash Nitel? Was it even efficient before he came on board? Nitel or Mtel or whatever the fvck they called themselves simply went out of business because they couldn't keep up with the pace of the new entrants.

Obasanjo was a pure capitalist who knew government has no business being in business. And that is what he did effectively.

The Nitel then that was like current day Nepa,very inefficient and dumb. They simply went off the radar when they couldn't keep up with the new pace so how is that Obasanjo's fault?

And how did he crash our refineries please I want to know? Where? When? How? Obasanjo when he was leaving in 79,we had 4 functional refineries that he handed over to shagari. It was useless Buhari when he took over from shagari started the trajectory of our wobbling refineries. Obasanjo when he was about leaving sold off the dead refineries to Dangote and Otedola to do it as he discovered the government can't and won't be able to.

It was Yaradua that reversed the sale. Dangote said it at the commissing of his refinery himself .

What about Power?. Obasanjo has handed off generation, transmission and distribution too when he was leaving, Yaradua also cancelled it and here we are. He did it the same way he did telecommunications

Even infrastructure sef. The most busy federal road in Nigeria the Lagos Ibadan expressway that the Buhari administration are fixing was even constructed by him too in 79

His only mistake was he being a dictator and an election rigger. But talking about the Economy, Nobody,I repeat Nobody has surpassed him since 1999.

Periodt!

Which economy are you talking about please? Is like some of you were still very small during his administration that made you think the hardship Nigerians are passing through started today.

The same OBJ that spent over 15 Trillions naira on electricity generation with nothing to show for it? The same Obj that the price of fuel triple during his time in power? How much were the price of goods and services before and after he left office? What is the quality of naira to dollar before and after he left office? Was he not the same man who remove history as subject from secondary school curriculum so that you won't remember his evil acts?

The problem of we youths of these days is that, we always think the past is better than today because we lack reading culture. The only difference between then and now is modernisation. Unlike today that majority of people would rather come to the cities and be jobless, alot of people back then stayed in their respective towns and villages and grow most of their foods by themselves. Their wants and needs are limited, and they were always satisfied with little they have. They have less reason to complain because most of them don't own cars or spent much on transportation. You hardly see youth lavishing away money in clubs like today. I could remember back then, almost all middle class and professionals own backyard gardens or farms where they grow basis stuffs for their family. How many people you can see doing that today.

hayyawithme:
Note: what happened is that we have been dealing with each other, this problem last transaction was not our first or second transaction.

I and merchant are not in the same country, but we meet in Binance.

He usually sent drivers that goes round to collect money from his clients for him, if we the client give money to the driver, he will confirm and sent the USDT.

In this particular case, after given money to the driver and expected him transfer the USDT, he only transfer half and we expected him to complete it, and it becomes another story until today.

Ok, I understand you perfectly well now, but try to remove the name BINANCE from your posts because your dealing with him was independent out of their platform. It is quite injustice to tag them on problem they know nothing about.

Meanwhile, there is nothing anyone can do to help you except to wait for the man to transfer the rest or forget about it.

hayyawithme:
@ Robnectar, Please what are the reasons I could not be able to make report when I want.

Was it by the length of it has.taken?

The transaction was done was done on August 2nd.

Actually he gave me half of the USDT, while the remaining half is still with him

Something is not right about what you are saying. Binance serves as escrow between you, so there is no way he would release half of your usdt to you. The moment you click on BUY, binance will withdraw your order from merchant account until both of you end the transaction..

So there is no way he will release only half of what you order for. Perhaps you click on confirm before he release the fund, hence the opportunity to shorthand you.

Kindly check your funding wallet if the remaining is there.

Skyview01:
While thinking and reminiscing, I am thinking of my childhood and growing up, as kids, whenever our fatger would come back from work, we would allwys all run out of the house through the backdoor at the sound of his car horn.

The biggest reason is immediately he is stepping in, he would start complaining about things not being in their right places.
Chores not being done or improperly done, house not clean enough and he would always have something to complain about in an angry tone of voice.

I came to believe it was his own way of dealing with a stressful day at work and over time, it kinda created some tensions between us.

I told myself, no matter what, if I had my own family, no matter the stress I pass through during the day, i would never take it out on the kids or wife.

So whenever i come back from work and i see chores not done properly, my father's reaction would flash in my mind and i would take a deep breath and go the opposite directio , ask the kids and wife how their day went.
and generaly chit chat about them without making them uncomfortable around me.

At the end, I might ask my son, "sweetheart, when are you going to wash the dishes? Even at the peak of a very stressful day, I would find a way to smile and go to my room in solitude.

Secondly, shouting at the children while correcting the. My dad as a true Nigerian man would yell at a high octave while correcting us and it frequently drives me crazy as a teenager.

With my kids and family, I practice a low even tone of voice while i am angry or making neccessary corrections. I find this to be very effective as it made the kids receptive and willing to change.

The results, kids are free with me and can discuss virtually everything in their lives with me.

So, what did you see your father do while growing up you were unhappy with and wanted to change in your own family.

Lolz, marry first.

Kobojunkie:
1. You do realize how disconnected from reality your response remains, right?
● Op is currently unhappy in his marriage and cannot wait to be rid of it. Your advise is that he remain in that unhappy marriage, funding a woman that he probably sees as part of reason for his unhappiness and chained to her for life, all while he pays for sex outside of his marriage.
● Op's wife is also unhappy about the strain on the marriage and is probably aware of the distance that has formed between them as a couple. She is also aware that once he starts cheating on her --- getting his needs met outside of the marriage-- the gap between them will definitely grow.

You claim that women are hardly bothered by what their husbands do outside of the marriage. Did your research consider that the reason many Nigerian women turn themselves(commonsense included) upside down after marriage has to do with the mental trauma that is living in an adulterous marriage?.

OP's wife is definitely not happy with the situation in her marriage and is probably already considering joining other women in praying and fasting rituals. Worse, in her unhappiness she might fall prey to one of Nigeria's many conmen out there
● Kids benefit nothing from watching Daddy and mummy live like complete strangers in the house. Studies show that the damage that kind of setting does is about the same as that a terrible divorce wrecks on them. So let's not even use kids to blackmail people into staying together in uncomfortable and unhappy marriages.

How Staying in an Unhappy Marriage Can Affect Your Children

2. In all, who benefits from living in an unhappy marriage for Heaven's sake? For whose benefit is this "necessary evil" when the damage done to all involved is all but sure?

I advise him base on his explanation. These are the points I could deduced from his post that made me giving him such advise.

1. I have been married to her for 10years but this problem started about 5 years ago.

2. I am the best friend to my wife and kids.

3. I love my wife so much that cheating on her will be so hard.

Now let me treat each point one after the other:

1. Why didn't she denies him of frequent sex during their first 5 years of marriage? Why the sudden uninterested in sex after 5 years of marriage? Why can't we take the issue of hormonal change due to child birth, marital stress, and some other factors into consideration before jumping into conclude that he should divorce his wife?

2. The fact that he could boldly says he is the best friend to his wife and children shows they are still very much in good term as happy family, so there is no grounds for unhappy marriage as a reason for divorce.

3. By claiming he loves his wife so much, it is good to say that his decision is solely base on external factor( what his dad told him), in which he might regret doing till rest of his life.

It was from the points above that I arrived at the advise I gave him. What he is passing through is simply a contradiction of will and desire, in which its results are usually temporal. Until he fulfilled that erotics desire that he is unable to get from his wife, he may not be in right state of mind to take a good decision.

The first advise is to use reverse psychology on his wife by stop asking for sex and be happy with her. Nothing bring best out of a woman than this. He should also try to assist her in house chores if he has not been doing that before.

The second advise is to get sex and ease off tension in his body.

I specifically gave him the second option because he is at the point of taking a decision. Besides, he seem not to have enough patient to exercise that.

pasuma:
As someone who is married for 13 years now, i'll advice you not to.. believe me, the qualities your wife possesses are rare, you will not find them elsewhere rather you will loose a good woman over trivialities.. if sex were the problem, look elsewhere for sex, dont keep any relationship, but PLS DONT DIVORCE HER!!!

Exactly sir, good women that everyone is praying for, this one want to divorce her because of her inability to match his sexual demand. If you check very, he might be the type that don't help his wife at home. Child birth and taking care of children are not child play, it tells alot on their body and psychological wellbeing.

Kobojunkie:
Adultery is a solution to solving a marriage problem? Unbelievable! You don't see that what OP wants to do is in fact more humane than your suggestion that he cheat on his wife while remaining married to her?

2. I didn't base it at all on love. I asked you whether if your wife turned to having a side-dick in order to get fulfillment for one deficiency or another she perceives in your person, you would be OK with that too. That is after all the reason why you are prescribing adultery as a solution in marriage for OP here. But see how twisted and convoluted you got without actually responding directly to what I asked.

In any decision in life, you scale the weight of damages that would be incurred if a particular step is taking. I weighted the options, and I see that divorcing a good woman because of her inability to match his sexual demand is far more damaging, hence my advise to him. I did not specifically asked him to take it, it was just a suggestion since sex is the only reason he wanted to divorce her. As cheap as sex is these days, it doesn't worth being use to throw away his family if he truly love them. From my little experience, women hardly bothered on what you do outside as long as you are a caring and responsible husband and keep it within yourself. I will say it again, divorcing a good woman because of sex is not really a solution. A real man in Nigeria context take a second wife or have a fling outside to keep his family.


There is what is called "necessary evil" every wise person or country use it at a particular point to achieve their aims or objectives. Not that they are evils or bad, just that is compulsory to do that to lesson or avoid further demanges.

popizaino:
This is a great way to start and by the way did you study Urban and regional planning?

No sir.

Kobojunkie:
You folks are wicked and don't even realize it at all. So you are advising OP to commit adultery all so he can avoid divorce which is legal and the sensible thing to do in his situation?

If your own wife turns to cheating rather than divorcing you when she realizes she no longer loves you, would you equally be happy with that?

There are different approaches to solve every problem in marriage, OP did not talk about love, abusive or any other problems but sex, which is quite different to love.

I only suggested a solution to him since the only reason he wanted to divorce his wife is sex. He is an adult, so it is left for him to take or reject it. Leaving a woman and her children because you want to be free to enjoy yourself seem selfish to me. Besides, he said he won't be marrying another woman, which means he is free to date different women at will, so what differentiate him and those that have side chicks.

As for If i can accept same from my wife, there is different between a wife who doesn't love you again and started cheating and what op is talking about. Since you based your assumption on Love, there is no reason any right thinking man would keep a wife who cheat and doesn't love you anymore.

Having weighted the option, it is fair to say he can temporarily seek for casual sex instead of putting his wife and children in perpetual psychological pains. A man who have a good wife but only want to divorce her because of sex is just a pretender. He is probably being faithful to her because he doesn't have options or opportunity to date another woman, because if his wife is so good as he described in his post, I don't think he would be thinking about divorce because of sex.

ADURA123:
I am not divorcing to remarry, I want to be alone and be free. Thank you

Then what is the need to divorce her?

Oga get a side chick if sex is the only thing that want to make you leave your marriage. Every woman is like that, ask some of your friends and married men around you, they will tell you the truth.

Women bodies and psychology do change significantly after giving birth. House chores and taking care of children are not child play please. They are not robots, most time, they got tired, and sex could be the last thing on their minds.

I don't know how some people think sometimes, Wike is practically an APC member, and he will most likely remain so until some irreconcilable difference happened between him and his new friends.

For him to have acceptd a ministerial position from this current administration, just know it will be very hard for him to contest against them. He will only use PDP structure to further strengthen his influence in our political space.

The governor that built this stadium tried.

Before you become a SAN, you must have gone through alot of hurdles in the professional ladder, so to say that these SANs don't know the possibility of winning or losing a case even before going to court is not but absurd. They just want to earn a living and nothing more. It is good to say they feed on ignorance or gullibility of their clients. Let me use this PEPT as a case study, the petitioners should've known that in the case like this, the judges will put Nigeria stability first before anything. They should've known that if any judge mistakenly nullify election of a president, Nigeria they intent to govern might not be the same again. They should have also asked themselves the possibility of removing a sitting president who has everything under his control.

The reality is that, no court can remove Tinubu or Atiku when they have absolute power at the top. These guys are brutal to let go of power, they can do anything to keep it. Though I believe he won the election base on the fact that oppositions could not provide enough evidences of massive rigging.

We are not under military rule, the best time to stop a civilian president in Nigeria is before INEC declaration.

Ex0rrcist:
This is not feasible, as people preference for single house is not a bad thing. Part of what we need is proper city planning, good layouts, and urbanisation, with strict building regulations. We have some of this, but they are not enforced.

What is not feasible there? Of course there will be single houses with beautiful compounds for those who can afford it. It would be tagged luxury and quite expensive that only about 10% of entire population will be able to afford it, and you must not have more than one of it.

Besides, what is the needs for proper city planning when it cannot be enforced? Even if it is, will you also compel individuals who cannot afford to build good houses on their land to do so? The reality is that, you can't have good cities with individuals erecting structures here and there, absolutely impossible.

Advantages of this policy;

1. Beautiful and well planned cities and structures.

2. Average income earners can easily afford owning their apartments/houses through flexible Mortgage system.

3. Corruption would be automatically reduced, this is because majority of looters spent their money on properties.

4. This will also accelerate or promote egalitarianism

5. The policy with forbid single individual from real estate business. If you want to do real estate business, buy share from companies mandated by law to do so.

6. It will be very easy for government to identify extremely low income people or unemployed who cannot afford to own houses/apartments. The real estate companies involved would have special buildings to let out to them at a subsidise rate from government.

7. Availability of good houses to buy or let out at affordable price withiout the issue of wicked Landlords or dubious properties agents.

Raydos:
It does not have to be super expensive, Just a well paved roads with sidewalk and an underground drainage system, And this folks make it seem like it is a rocket science!!

China are building a whole city in just a year

And we are here can't even build a modern city after over 71 year of independence, And you want me to believe we have high IQ?

Having IQ is your ability to solve problems, Which we failed at it woefully!!

Below is a village in The U.S, what is hard in achieving this??

China has over 1 billion population, one should've been expecting poor Chinese men to be sleeping on the street but guess what, China has many ghost cities with massive beautiful structure. I was astonished the day I watched the documentary.

Here in Nigeria or Africa, some don't even have where to rest their heads, let alone having a ghost city where massive beautiful structures are unoccupied.

Do you know how many flats of modern houses 100 billions naira can build? But here in Nigeria, a single politician or military officer can loot that amount and clean mouth. Blacks are synonymous to evils, and should be living among the beasts.

fineboynl:
The problem with black is lack of collective will.

The collective will is how wall of Jericho was built. The collective will is let us build a tower that reach heaven. The tower of Babel. Those things are the collective will blacks do not have.

Black people were never organised and never had a written text or history. They tell stories of the past which contradicts one another. Before the white men came they were naked with leaf and hagered looking.

When some of them begins to proper or get rich they oppressed one another and destroy people preserve to have bright star.

The history of the black race is not very interesting or educative like the other race. Modernization is been forced on us as it was never part of us and reasons we are finding it difficult.

Give a black youths big money. He will start throwing it in the air. Party and sex.

May God bless you abundantly sir.

Our self centered and egocentric culture/tradition will never make us progress. A typical black man care not about his fellow man or society but himself alone. He is so wicked, materialistic and lack foresight. He only want to be above everyone, he only want to be worship by others, he would rather deprived his fellow men their privilege at home and takes all the fortunes to somewhere else to enjoy alone.

Like you have rightly said, civilization was probably forced on us because it amaze me how you will loot all resources meant for development of your home or your people and take it to another man's land to enjoy alone with your immediate family.

For Nigeria to have beautiful and organised cities, the right to build structures or buy land must be remove from individuals. Real Estate or construction companies should be the only organisations mandated by law to do so. Flexible Mortgage system must be introduce by banks, government and other financial houses. We are just wasting spaces in the name of building individuals houses, a single condo can accommodate a whole street in some localities. Would it not make sense if 50 people buy a flat each in a building than making useless structures on 50 plots of land or more. No individual or family should be allow to own more than 3 bedroom apartment or duplex if you are rich enough.

By this development, it will be very easy for investors to invest in a massive modern buildings and condos. This will also curb corruption to a greater extent as most of the loots are being spent on properties.

Marriage is not overrated if you marry a good and supportive wife. Some men become wealthy today because of their wives.

free2ryhme:
not everyone is like you

She might not be far from truth.

Who knows Nigerian guy probably wants her because of her rich background. You can never tell.

Lutherblaq:
The Military & Politicians are Actually the same Set of Clowns, All They Want is Power and no other thing.

the only way Nigerians can ever in their life get good governance is if they are united, but as we all can see only few are not religious and tribal bigots.

No Military or Civilians (democratic) Goverment can ever bring this country to the top if we are not united, our country should be our number one pariority not our Tribe or Religion, but we prefare to die in Illiteracy and Ignorance.

but one Solid thing i know is that Nigerians will Regret All This Tribal and religious Bigotry.

Some people will say This tribe started it, That tribe started it, But let me tell you there is nothing to justify this Stupidility.

United in what way sir?

I am sure your definition of being United is for all of us to vote for one particular man who comes from Pluto abi? Our individualistic cultural believes, egocentric and greed will never produce quality leaderships in this part of the world.

Nigeria and Black Africans at large don't need a messiah but strong institutions to move forward. And this can only be achieve through creation of new homogenous societies. The present arrangement need to be discharge to pave way for the new nations where people of the same cultures and identities chose the best way to pilot their affair.

lexy2014:
What is now the job of the coach if Chelsea now "need high profile established players to revive the team"?

How will the high profile established players revive the team?

The "high profile established players", will they fall from heaven?

All the billions they spent on players what is it for?

If you say "You can't have Westham United materials and expect to compete with top 4 teams", what does Newcastle have that made it qualify for CL?

How did West ham win a European trophy with it's calibre of players?

Big or established players put fear in opponents teams, it is not necessary they have full team of star players, just few of them in staring 11. Team mentality matters alot in football, you don't expect your team to beat opponents that have already concluded in their minds that your players are not better than them, likewise you cant win games with players who already believes their opponents are above their levels.

Newcastle simply profited from abysmal performances of Chelsea, Man u, Liverpool and Tottenham. Watch out what will happen to them this season.

As for the Westham United, alot of teams in that Europa league conference are not better than or at the same level with English championship league teams.

Chelsea need high profile established players to revive the team.

You can't have Westham United materials and expect to compete with top 4 teams.