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1Sharon:
You messed by getting rude to her. Now she'll cling onto that and use it as an excuse to not refund your deposit.

If there's a way to leave a review do that.

Edit. Here's the logic behind my comment:

Have you ever watched crime documentaries before? Even detectives know not to get rude to rape and murder suspects at the start.
In interviews they ease them into it. And they eventually snitch and implicate themselves. They pretend to be their friend and make them comfortable to open up.

Same concept here. Same concept with kidnappers and their victims. Complementing and pretending to befriend your attacker helps keep you alive.



Being rude to that thief of a landlady is understandable. But it's just gonna give her an avenue to refuse refunding him.

I know it's hard to understand because nigerians are easily led their instincts and emotions.

God bless you my sister!
In all honesty, this is actually very difficult but it's a necessity in the face of provocation.

God will help us Nigerians to imbibe this kind of resilience when the need arises. Shalom

Lies! For you to be paying $5k for rent, then you're living large in one of the choice areas in the US. I have people that pay $2k for a two room self contained in Virginia, good house...and still live well.

I hate people like her. If she can't cut her coat according to her clothes abroad, then let her come back home and allow intending Nigerian take her slot.

People like her will discourage you, you will think that those over there are just there wasting their time. But when they come home they opress you with everything you can think of.

Nonsense and ingredients!

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Even if they're having an affair, what, in the first place, is your business in the home of your friend that's already married?
Did she pay you to monitor her husband for her or it's you that's interested in the husband?
My dear, you probably don't know you are not in the same category any longer. She's married and has her own home while you are still single and looking for whom to call your own.
If you don't stay in your lane and mind your own business, you might live to regret delving into matters that are none of your business.
Homewrecker!

Bros... it's not a loan. Someone sent you money thru Palmpay POS.
It could as well be a mistake... and I doubt if the person would have your contact to call you (assuming it was a mistake).
However, don't be too happy because it could as well be someone that knows you, who probably wanted to send that money to someone else but made a mistake sending it to you without crosschecking.
My advise is...do not spend the money. If the person has your contact, he'll definitely call you to send back the money.

God will bless you plenty.....women ehn... sometimes I just wonder how they reason.
Men hardly reason this way. Instead, the fellow man would be happy for jamming upliftment right in his own domain.

Kobojunkie:
So because the lady was her nanny, somehow madam of the house think say nanny no get right to advance herself in life or marry whomever she chooses abi without her, madam's, say so?

Madam of house believed nanny needed permission from her because somehow nanny was meant to exist as Madam's personal property/slave, right?

Na wa oo!

It has always been a problem. My generator was stolen like that the week after I called a gen repairer to come service my new generator.

It's a long story but the bottom line is...he came back to steal the gen he serviced the previous week!

tommy589:
Your suspicion is right. Calling an handyman living in your area to fix things in your home is now a problem,the terrain is known to them,so most return at the dead of the night to break in

Location: Iju
Qualification: SSCE
Age limit: 20 - 25years
Salary: Attractive
Can be male or female
Must be smart and live around Iju

Really?
Just an apology!
Really
Have you ever imagined as a woman, someone accuses you of burglary or murder and you unfortunately happened to be around the crime scene on the date the purported crime was committed and the post goes viral... only to get an apology four months later that it was all a lie?

What happens to his already banished image and reputation now?

What if the guy was in the country and in the same environment on the said date?

Who would have believed the guy's innocence?

Do you know what he could have gone thru in the process of even having to convince the entire world that he knew nothing about all these?

I guess you and the young girl need to be sued and compelled to pay a hefty fine plus some jail term for acting faster than your brain by making such a viral post blindly without any form of due diligence.

sapphiere:
Give women a chance to paddle the canoe of this country and let's see if there won't be a change.

Yes, women loot but they have conscience. They will not steal more than they suppose.

And our darling caribbean commissioner......?

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FreeSpirited:
Guys, When you want to date married women, women who are like 5 to10yrs above in marriage are the most vulnerable to fall into your trap. Many times they crave attention..or are just bored of their husband.
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It's not gainsay when they say the first 5 to 7 years is the most turbulent in marriage that can break or make a marriage.
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The story this young woman detailed above is a typical cycle of almost all marriages. The point our OP finds herself, for an average lady, after trying to endure or make things work will just succumb to the pressure of guys out there...and before u say jack..smart bold guys are already pounding her pvssy with all alacrity.. It's natural these days.. especially if you are in the business of chyking/chopping married women. You will know this.
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It's only a matter of time if nothing is done before this woman starts riding the BBC of a guy who gives her attention and tickle her fancy...Naso e dey start...Nothing new.
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That's why to me, fidelity in marriage is overrated..cos most times couples have broken their vow long before their significant other realises.
But in her situation, some women will deliberately go out and give in to the advances of their admirer just to kill boredom, depression and feel happy. To hell with marital vows..women do this most times to be Happy. However, the smart ones still find a way to balance home demand by not making it affect the integrity of the marriage...what they do is just flow with the marriage and not stress too much for the attention of their busy husband since he's not ready to be disturbed.
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In thesame vein, the busy husband most times is also somewhere cheating with a university or polytechnic slayqueen cos he's also bored of her wife....That's the paradox of marriage.
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You see... cheating on both sides maintains the marriage and happiness of both party codedly. Argue with me all you care...that's the reality..
Meanwhile, the stupid couples when they start the cheating game, they transfer the bottled anger and aggression on their partner which usually cause breakup......While the coded smart ones maintain their marriage and we keep praising and complimenting their marriage as the best thing that ever happened since Adam and Eve.
May God give us wisdom in all we do.

My brother,
Don't be deceived. You want to marry someone this year and she doesn't even want to know where you live?
Wait, forget about sex or temptation, how can she even claim to know you or anything about you? Even cares to know the kind of life you live?

In my own personal opinion... she doesn't have the intention of marrying you.

If you fail to end it before it's too late...it will end in premium tears.

Shalom!

Fmghewzy:
See morons already associating it with spiritual shitt.

Something that is very obvious that is science related.
It is clear that the oil tankers didn't follow the normal safety regulations.

I witnessed today's incident, safety precaution was ignored. The tanker clutch was burnt and in serious white smoke before approaching the bridge. Even if the clutch had just burnt (when I saw it), nothing stopped the idiot from parking at Mobil filling station and calling for repairs before continuing the journey. so it was pure foolishness and stupidity that led to that accident

Proarc:
I think there is need for that bridge to be looked into. So much trailer catching fire on that bridge

The steepness probably needs to be reduced.

Bros, don't talk like that.
I witnessed today's response to the fire incident. I was coming from Mile 12 and when I passed Secretariat...I saw the slow moving tanker with burnt clutch bringing out smoke and I was scared.
At first I decided to follow from behind, giving enough gap because I'd tot there would be traffic on that hill while climbing towards Berger in case of any eventuality (as if I knew).

But having seen that the hill was clear, I overtook and sped off. Then I entered Oando filling station to buy some fuel only to look back and see that tanker went up in flames.

Response came in about 5mins...I saw fire fighter moved in their vehicle to the place, it was as if they were expecting it...I was really surprised.

In this case, response came on time.

Activist001:
Nigerians sef. A tanker full of gasoline is burning and you're still driving + even taking pictures? Do you care about your life at all?

Anyways, what the fück is wrong with that bridge sef? Why is it always in the news for one fuel tanker burning or the other?

No fire service, no road safety, nothing on ground to access the situation before it gets out of hand? This country is cursed I swear. Tufia.

Well, I'm not the type to jump into sentimental conclusions on issues relating to domestic violence.

Notwithstanding, the guy went too far irrespective of the provocation from the wife. He shouldn't have beaten her at all.

We know that a great percentage of women are provocative and violent in nature but the ability to exercise caution, discipline and restraint is one of the attributes of a real man.

In the final analysis, thorough investigation should be carried out and balanced judgement applied bearing in mind the live and survival of the children in between.

So, it's a delicate matter.

[ quote author=Bluezy13 post=96647907]Take a look at this man, his mind as been tampered with and will never remain the same until he lets go of the lady assumed to be the source of his misfortune.
I can not advise him to remain with the supposed lady, not because I lend credence to the prophecy but because his adulterated subconscious mind will never be happy with the lady although his consciousness may try to trick him to overlook the prophecy but that will be to his detriment.
And you know, we attract what we think, at such, he will keep on attracting negativity because his mind has been programmed to think and suspect a source of negativity lurking around him.

The prophecy may be true, the prophecy may be false. But either way, he has to let go of the lady to put his tampered mind at rest and save the lady some troubles.
However he is going to go about that, I do not know, he should device a means...after all he knows the lady more than I do.

My observation.[/quote]Sir, you've said it all. Nothing more!

One reason I still don't understand is that when import duties were increased to develop the local content in automobile industry, they were supposed to have taken advantage of that by producing quality cars at lower prices since there's no cost of shipping and clearing attached. Instead, the cost of locally made cars soared higher than those imported ones that had heavy import duties and shipping fees built in.

Smh

My brother
Marital issues require caution, patience and wisdom. This issue is definitely not what you can settle here because it didn't start today. She must have been taking some actions unilaterally that you either choose to allow her or feel less concerned probably because it doesn't affect you in any way.

My own advise here is ...
You need to sit her down and demand an explanation on why she took such a decision without your consent. (Inform your in-laws but Never blame them for conspiracy, how she presents you to them determine the level of respect they have for you)

Let her know you would not take such lightly if it happens again. If it means withdrawing your car from her for the time being as a punishment for that action, pls do.

Ensure you resolve any/every existing issues all at once.
After the blame, reassure her of your love but let her know she must observe boundaries henceforth.

Let her know if she repeats it, she wouldn't be able to predict what your actions would be.

Lastly, forgive her and move on.

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I'm sure the bridesmaid will be willing to replace the bride if given a chance probably fixing another date for wedding!

Senseless bride. I no pity you. If that guy goes, you will go from pillar to post before seeing another guy who would probably be worse than the first man to marry. Idiot!

My sister, being a family woman and for the sake of peace, go for the ministry job.

The pay might be low but trust me, it has the following advantage and more:

You have enough time for yourself and family.

You have time to develop strategy for side hustle that can even generate more than 200k monthly and still would not affect your job.

The job has security, pensionable and you can also grow with promotion on the job.

There will be times you would need time to consolidate on your side hustle or even have emergency stuff to attend to, the ministry job affords you that luxury.
....and many more.

See bank job....

The bank job is the exact opposite of what the government job offers.

You earn 200k monthly against 90k for ministry but.…...

That 200k, you must earn it by hardwork.

The bank has indirectly bought your entire time and attention for your family with that money.

Remember... your home is equally important!

Chances of having a side hustle is very minimal, even when you have, you will forever run it by proxy with very little or no time to supervise.

Tho, it's your choice but my own candid advice is you go for ministry job.

Peace.

Bros, I had a similar experience. The ball is actually in your court but my piece of advise.,...
1. Try studying the man with the aim of winning him to your side (in my own case I did that thru his gf).

If that doesn't work....

2. Ensure you save up enough to start sth on the side such that your side hustle will give you sth substantial even if it's not up to 200k but make sure it's well over 100k.

3. Then, make yourself so valuable and plan your exit around the time you know the company will need you most. (Tho, they always claim no one is indispensable but replacing valuable staff is not always easy).

4. Write your boss a notice to quit and give him very short notice with a genuine excuse.

Also make sure your mind is made up so that promise of a payrise or better treatment will not appeal to you.

That way, he would realize his mistakes but would be too late to make amends.

BKsoul:
the client should have stated the terms of payment from the onset... he said its 29th

God bless you. You said my mind. If the term was stated from the outset, it would not get to all these. Besides, its just the norm everywhere that payment is made after satisfactory delivery of a job. If the payment is to be made at a later date, then, it would have stated in the contract terms.