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Shymm3x:
Okay.

I just showed my mum the pictures of her colourful Ijebu folks and she has been cracking us up with bare jokes. Eweso!!

Anyway, you didn't answer my question, Auntie Yetseyi...I want you to compare yourself to Toolz Oniru.

Pictures of two Ijebu chics with ridiculous bodies - yoq]

Showed my mum the pix too.

You know I wont answer just let it go joor
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Shymm3x:
I just created a thread for it in the culture section: https://www.nairaland.com/2627937/ijebulands-ojude-oba-festival-2015#38434187

There are some horse riding pics on the thread.

I have seen it, saw your mention earlier.

Shymm3x:
You can add more pics.

cc:yetseyi

These are the pictures I found on the internet, Ms Ijebu.

Nice pix shymexx, very colorful I love the various aso oke and the Fine horses.

Proudly Ijebu

Ewesooo dede omo alare, Ajobi a gbe wa ooo

CC: mintayo

Shymm3x:
Loool. I take that as a positive, Auntie Yetseyi.

Not yet - but I did search on the internet earlier today and I found a link to some pictures and also a next link about the history of the event.

These are the links:

https://www.naij.com/566134-photos-ijebu-ode-stands-still-2015-ojude-oba-festival.html (pictures)

http://sgo.sagepub.com/content/5/1/2158244015574640

I have checked through the pictures they seem okay but I hope to see more colorful ones maybe when the official photos are out one would see more. From the little I have seen though they represented well (as always). I like looking at the pictures for 2 major reasons: the horse riding and of course the clothes, I have seen some mamas with colorful outfits in those photos.

I will check the Nairalander guy who gave a link to watch the video (I mentioned you in that post) hopefully he will have pictures.

Shymm3x:
Lol. I know Auntie Yetseyi.

However, that doesn't mean you shouldn't be able to tell us if you're built like Toolz Oniru ya Ijebu sister. I believe she's very conservative as well, hence she was able to keep her virginity.

loool brother shymex

Any way no comment

Have you seen any Ojude-Oba thread?
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Shymm3x:
Happy Sunday, Auntie Yetseyi.

I just wanna see if you're built like Toolz Oniru since she's Ijebu and there's a legend out there about Ijebu chics being voluptuous.

Lool brother shymm3x even if I want to upload a DP (but I don't) it will definitely be a face-only picture. I am very conservative (you know that already).

I will assume I didn't see the legend/myth part of your post. [quote author=Shymm3x post=38431404]

benedicts:
Yea, sorry for missing that part. When I. Approached him, he told me frankly that GOD ask him to leave her that she is not. His. Will for him. I reminded him of his auterances when I told him to be patient not knowing he was rushing to get married with her to cover the shame of impregnating his fiance before wedding.
How will the girl make him take up responsibilities of the child when they don't stay in the same state again? He told us then that GOD asked him to relocate with his family to another. State, getting there, he dumped them and disappeared. He dnt want to see d lady at all. My sister, what will she do in this case?

This one is a bit strong oo, God help them.

But God doesn't lie. So how come God told him to marry and also leave her.

I think the Lady should pray since it seems all efforts for him to take responsibility are in vain.

Shymm3x:
Lmao...I'm just keeping it real.

Auntie Yetseyi, when are we going to see ya pics?

okay

Uncle shymm3x not anytime soon . I am not really a pix sharing person though.

Happy Sunday

The "pastor" is not a christain.
Which true pastor will have sex with his fiance not to talk of aborting a baby 3times.
You didn't mention anything about him saying she's no longer the will of God in your post.

I just hate it when people lie against God

Anyway back to your question, Telling her will make no difference there's really nothing she can do about it. She should just make sure the guy assumes responsibility for the child that's all, however she feels wants to go about it but getting him arrested is out of the question.

Judgement will start from the house of God

Shymm3x:
Loool.

An owanbe face is the type of face synonymous with a lot of naij chics...the type you don't want to wake up next to, else ya whole day would be messed up.

Anyway, though I don't know what you look like - you don't sound like the type with an owanbe face.

ohh my, you are a case shymexx, I knew it was something not too nice you intended saying.

loool I reserve my comment.

The solution to this arguments is simple: do not generalize.

Being from a divorced family does not mean you would end up that way neither does coming from a together family guarantee success in marriage.

Some families are together but are really divorced or possibly abusive to each other like Enoami said and they may not necessarily be good examples to their children. Some just live like flatmates for example I know someone that her husband's nickname is "R.I.P alive". What will the children from these families learn from their parents about keeping a home together, conflict resolution etc? A father is known as "RIP alive" yet the family is together will this not have an impact on the children?

All these doesn't negate the fact that there are truly healthy married couples who are good examples to their children but in all honesty they may not be in the majority.

I would say everyone should do everything to ensure they have a good home, If you feel not marrying someone from a broken home is what you think will prevent a problem in your future marriage then please don't marry the individual its that simple but then marrying a product of a "together" family still guarantees nothing.

Its still on nairaland that they advise women that are battered in their marriage to flee, then the children will grow up and then get discriminated because their mum tried to spare her own life.


The solution is still not generalizing.

prettigurl16:
I would appreciate all contributions done openly here. I have received several PM's since I posted this topic. There is a reason why it is in the FAMILY section not the romance section. Thank you.

Lool

Shymm3x:
Loool. That is why I like you.

Those bleached up mofos stink and they always look messed up with all kinds of rainbow colour scheme everywhere loool.

Owanbe face is tag for...........

Its tag for what? This one you are sealing your lips I suspect it not something nice.

Nice thread tex.

Shymm3x:
Personally, I don't get the hype about lighties. I don't care about whatever shade of black a chic is as long as she's nice based on what I look out for in chics. Black is black regardless of the shade. But I don't like chics who bleach their skin though - they all look fugly to me.

I think it depends on how you define "more attractive". They only look more attractive to folks with colour problem who have been subconsciously brainwashed by the European standard of beauty. Being attractive has nothing to do with shade.

Personally, I think Meagan is the most beautiful woman on the planet and she's what you will classify as caramel. And I'm always in awe every time I see pics of Bria Myles and Briana Bette, and these are dark-skinned women.

These naij chics are the same...folks just tolerate
them but the truth is the truth. Sometimes you just have to overlook their bs cos it's typical but most people know they don't know how to act. You don't even need to ask a lot of them about where they're from - you would just know straight-away by their attitude.

Looool. Ijebus and owanbes are like bread and butter. But the funniest thing is that most Ijebu chics I meet don't have owanbe faces loool.

Bleaching is a no no for me anyway, I used to think it was only illiterates that bleach but I now know better.
Well you are right beauty have nothing to do with shade.



loool @owambe faces

There are some men like that who actually think its demeaning to discuss stuffs like that with women. Its common in the Landlord association meetings in my area in fact the landladies among them don't even go to their meetings because of this reason. I must add though that the ones I am talking about seem not to be enlightened maybe that's why.

bamac:
i have lived in ijebu-ode for the past 7years and confirming to you that muslims are more than xtians here... The difference is clear during xmas and ileya celebration..

OJUDE-OBA is saturday, you can watch it live online... CHECK MY SIGNATURE...

Thats nice, I saw that you created a thread for the press conference. You can please create a thread for pictures of the event .

cc: shymm3x

Shymm3x:
Loool. I don't even count being a lighty as being beautiful (I've a younger cousin from North Ldn who thinks only lighties are good looking and all dark skinned chics are fugly lool - his dad is from Ijebu Ode, ya part of Ijebuland looool)...though a lot of them are. Moreover, most naija lighties are never even good looking...they always make looking light-skinned plain. Perhaps it's cos they're notorious for skin bleaching with Fela Kuti's "yellow fever" symptoms everywhere loool. I prefer my caramel and dark skinned chics with ridiculous bodies.

First time I am seeing a guy saying being lighty doesn't equate to beauty. but there are lighties who are actually good looking. I think generally lighties are more attractive they are more "brighter" so they get noticed easily.

Shymm3x:
[/b]There are no right set of naij ladies...they're all the same [b] Let me check my family. My brother is married to a naija chic. Then two of my Uncles married naij women, and both are now separated from their wives. One is having fun, while the other is now with a Sierra Leonean chic...the rest are married to Ghanaians. Even my cousins aren't left out of the equation. Almost all of them are with chics from all kinds of countries, apart from two. The one that married very early at age 23 to a naij chic is now separated from his wife...but he likes his Yoruba chics and he has scooped up a next one. And the one that use to come on this forum is dating some Igbo or some chic from that South South part of naij. Round here, no one has time for naij chics...maybe me, cos I like clowning them loool. Even my boys aren't even into naij chics like that. True story.

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@ bolded very WRONG

Shymm3x:
Hopefully. I'll see if I can get pics on the internet. There's also a next Ijebu group I have on my friend list on a dummy facebook account - I'll check it as well.

Okay will be expecting it, I trust my maternal family they are already in town ( Those peeps like owambe )

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cc150615:
Well I need to answer you cause I'm really baffled at ur line of judgement...so you're concluding dt this girl is like this cos she's from a broken home..I'm sure if she was a spoilt Senator's daughter spoiling u with money nd had ds same xtics u won't complain o...And are u trying to say dr are no people from 'together' homes who can't do house chores I tell u dr are a gazillion of dem so you just can't tie her not been homely to being from a broken home.


But seriously this thread has made me really know how shallow a lotta ppl think...offcos I'm not saying broken homes can't have psychological or emotional effects on kids..but wat of kids dt have used the negative situation to develop themselves nd made them even better ppl....my point is u can't just meet a lady,get attracted to her for a while nd immediately u find out she's from a broken home..u just take to ur heels,anybody u say u wanna marry u take ur time to know the person nd know if she has the values u think are good enough for raising ur future kids nd base ur decision on dt...neverquit said it all there are a gazillion 'together homes' specially in ds 21st century dt are not healthy nd the kids grow up even worse than those from broken homes so don't let broken or not broken homes be ur criteria else u might just miss ur missing rib..know ur woman's character nd let God lead you...
With this imma gerarahere cos some comments are really amazing me dt ppl in the 21st century can still think like dt. Top of the morning to Y'all.

1000likes
Hi, How have you been its been a while.

autaspakladi:
There is no need for too much argument here...the lady am dating now is a product of a broken family, initially I was having it in my mind to marry her,but now I have changed my mind,because she cannot cook,the only food she can cook is indomie,and even when she finished cooking she will want to leave the pot and plate for me to wash,except if remaind her,in addition to that,she is very poor hygienically,she doesn't removed her shoe if she wants to enter my kitchen....she is also an incurable liar,....those of you claiming there is nothing wrong with ladies from broken family should rethink...

Lool are you saying she has bad hygiene, cant cook and lies because she comes from a broken home?

Shymm3x:
Looool. Though I still need to see ya pics - you are definitely not in the group. You know I will always give you a pass loool.

But really and truly, most naij chics aren't good looking and 99.999% of them have attitude problems. Yes, you'd see a few nice ones from time to time, however, the overwhelming majority of them are basic - yet they don't know how to act lool. Folks talk about travelling to different countries for holz citing beautiful women as one of the reasons...but I don't know anyone who talks about beautiful women when talking about naij. That alone should paint a perfect picture for you. Also, only a naij chic would see a guy somewhere, send folks to go get his number, and still give him that nasty attitude when he rings her...just to prove a point looooooool. My Uncles call them crazy crack head biitches loool.

True. I have got different layers of Muslims in my family as well. Heck, I have got a Muslim name on my BC (stopped using it in College but a few people from my pops side still call me by the name). Anyway, that'swhy I don't get involved in all the religious crap - I let Arabs and Europeans battle on ideology supremacy and focus on my blackness.

Your stats is amazing but I don't agree with you at all, Kai ladies have suffered ooo, see the way you are describing Nigerian ladies, that's not fair at all. I will still say (as I have always said) you guys need to move with the right set of Ladies and the fake stats you have up there will drop drastically besides the average Nigerian description of beauty is primarily being fair, so for most naija guys as long as you are not "yellow" you are not beautiful.

You know you need to get involved in religion, you were a proper religious Ijebu guy. Shymexx defender. of the black race loool.

Hope you will create a thread for ojude oba this year.

Shymm3x:
Nah, I was just speaking based on observation of those I'm always around since I'm Ijebu, hence I referenced that cos you're also Ijebu. I can't speak on other people and I'm not trying to compare.

okay

Shymm3x:
[/b] naija chics have attitude problems and most of them aren't good looking; [b]

you know I wont let this go.

Shymm3x:
Looool. Yes, a lot of Ijebus are Muslims and there might be more Muslim Ijebus than Christians.

Its just that I don't have the stats I am almost certain we have more muslim-Ijebu than christains. You hardly find a purely christain extended family and a sizeable number among the christains were converted.( Ojude-Oba is on saturday I think)

Shymm3x:
Tilapia the broken record - who let you out of the asylum? Loool. Press the red button and ya carer should be there promptly to give you the care you need and enough dose of propofol.

You done lost ya already insane cotton picking mind.

Let it go pls.

Shymm3x:
Now, folks who lost their dads are different cos all they will have are great/positive memories of him and they'll always lead their lives to make him proud. Even if they don't care, mums will always remind them. You can't even call that a "broken home" per se cos there won't be too much negativity there...though the father figure would still be missing. Dealing with chics from this background should be far easier than the ones from broken homes with bitter mums.

Looool. What happened to ya dad? Ijebu men are always faithful, though it seems they also like polygyny (an oxymoron but that is how they get down lool).

well I agree with your first sentence.

Nothing really.
Always is a very strong word same as never. Is faithfulness now associated with a particular ethnic group. Lool ooo a sizeable amount of Ijebus are muslims so that influences the plenty wives aspect to a reasonable extent.

Shymm3x:
Lol. Not taking shots. They know that is how Nigerians in diaspora are classified in everyday interaction in diaspora. Folks get along on the surface but that is where it ends - different mentality/outlook, experience, and knowledge scope.

It is not an assumption - that is the reality. Our outlook and behavioural pattern are influenced by what we were raised around. It is just basically like chics who grew up around dads who are supremely loving and successful. Subconsciously, they will always scheme for guys who are or have the samepotentials, as their dads. That is what they will subconsciously be attracted to. Just like every guy out there will always be subconsciously attracted to chics who are like their mums.

Chics from broken homes are also always quick to drop that "you're just as useless as my dad" line. If that doesn't tell a story...I don't know what it represents. The truth is: as a guy you will spend most of ya time trying to prove to them that you are not anything like their dads, due to all the negativity their mums must have instilled in them. And that is pretty much hard work.

Err, you are from a broken home. You just need a guy with a lot of patience who can play the role of a dad/partner at the same time. Run as far as you can from knuckleheads like me looool. But you'd make a great mum though.

You didn't consider the situation of loosing ones dad while young. The home is broken right? Either way the child is fatherless. Who does she use as the role model since you say she would most likely lookout for someone like her dad. So whats the difference between a child from separated parents that are alive and separated parents due to death.

Loool at the you are just like my dad line.

I am not confirming or denying anything

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Shymm3x:
Nah, I'm not a Nigerian in Diaspora like these village ones - I'm a Nigerian from diaspora. So the experience speaks for itself.

Anyway, chics from broken homes do make great mums but in relationships and maybe as wives (not married so I don't know if they make good wives), they are just too problematic. Only a patient guy who doesn't care about being a dad and a partner at the same time can deal with them. If you don't have that type of patience - it is always better to stay away from them.

Are you from a broken home?

Loool let "them" catch you I wont defend you at all.


Another assumption and I don't agree with you.


About your question what do you think? just guess.

Shymm3x:
I'm good, sis...and you?

Lmao @ how many people from broken families do I know and have I met.

Well, I know gazillion of them and I'd say I know gazillion of them. Heck, most of the folks I grew up with were from broken homes and if you know how the black family is out here, you'd know that there are more people from broken homes than folks who had their mums and dads in their lives.

Anyway, I agreed with him cos I've been with chics from broken homes and the emotional baggage that comes with them, is just too much pressure.

And you also have the nonsense their mums must have subconsciously instilled in them over time about men cos of their dads. So they always deal with guys based on the image they have in their heads about men. That's just the reality.

I am good thank you.

Loool I almost forgot you are a NID.

Anyway I don't agree with the both of you. . I just don't like all this discrimination that's all, I have met a lot that are the opposite of what you are talking about.

Shymm3x:
He's right though. Most women broken homes are somewhat problematic due to the lack of father figure in their lives, whilst growing up. It's a mental thing and once they get with a guy - they automatically expect him to provide what's lacking.

I don't know how to explain it...but you have to be with one to know how messed up they're.

Hi, where have you been?

I have a problem with the word "most" and you are using it again lool. Father figure? What if its a mother figure that is absent?


How many people from broken families do you know, or have you met. So people from broken families are messed up abi.

What about the families that are living together but they are apart in the real sense. Is this assumption applicable to them?

Timbuktou:
It's a risky proposition. Most children from broken homes haven't been taught how to keep a relationship or home together and make one work; and most of them never bother to learn. E no dey hard dem to divorce at the slightest marital inconvenience or check out emotionally. They are usually biased against the estranged parent and the parent's gender due to one-sided accounts from custodial parents.

Anybody intending to marry a product of a broken home would do well to ensure due diligence in determining their marriage ideals and conflict resolution beliefs and methods.

You are entitled to your opinion but using the word "most" in the first paragraph is wrong. Just say the ones you know. So children from complete families are the only ones taught how to keep a relationship or home together right?

Are you saying one should not find out the marriage ideals and conflict resolution methods of a "product" of a complete home because it is assumed that once you are from a complete home your marriage ideals are the best.

eremy:
Based on the requirements oitlined, you may send the one you reckon suits the purpose; after diligent research to determine this, of course.

Okay, thank you