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dfrost:
I agree with you on that point about a sizeable number. However, did you also notice that some of those that posted on the first page also had reasons too ranging from provocative dressing and sizeable number of women calling them derogatory names. I don't subscribe to retribution because it doesn't give any man the right to abuse a woman because of her attitude which was why I also wrote: let's not feed our demons because they will eventually consume us. Prevention measures are better than curative procedures.

Imagine my neighbour was inside the compound one day and the daughter was outside. She and those inside the compound (including me) overheard when some neighbourhood boys told the girl that they were going to molest her (I really don't know what led to such comment). Joking about it or not, I expected her to rise to the defense of the girl immediately.

You can imagine that the mother laughed over the matter and said "you boys are not serious" and went back in. Imagine a mother could not even protect her own daughter even when it was glaring.

We will surely overcome, honestly. I fear for the girl child (especially the innocent ones) because she's at the receiving end of the stigma (most times) of the whole issue.

PS: I've seen men who can kill anyone who abuses the female folk. Believe me.

dfrost:
classicB see if you can heed Brugo's advice to discuss within his context. Please note that most men, I repeat, most men feel your pain. Most men are not monsters, same way not all women/ladies/girls dress indecently.

I'll never forget what one of my uncles told me: the society prepares the crime, the criminal only commits it.

Most of the comments I've read on this discourse, borders on the fact that some of the female folk dress in a manner that provokes or invites the criminal to commit the crime. If possible, don't counter the points but see how you can educate the female folks around you on dressing.



On the other hand, some men are just beasts. Does a 2 year-old dress provocatively? No. Absolutely no. The male folks amongst us need to rise up and assist these ones and show them how to channel their thinking into something other than sex.

In school then, I had board games. So if any of my female classmate visits, we play the games thereby channeling our minds into something else. If any human feeds his/her mind on anything, the body acts in resonance with the mind. We should never feed our demons, else they will consume us eventually.

Which is why I insist on when a man/woman are courting, there should be a chaperone that is nearby but not close enough to be able to eavesdrop on their conversation so as to safeguard, most especially the woman.

SirShymexx:
The ra.pe topics you lot keep spamming this forum with everyday is becoming nauseating. Did you lot just discover the word or something? It is all about ra .pe this, ra.pe that - give the darn word a freaking break.

You won't get ra.ped if you don't hang around the wrong people, while putting yourself in a vulnerable position. No real guy would ra.pe anyone - ra.pe is for suckers and perverts. There is nothing to enjoy in the act.

Sort yourselves out and stop spamming everywhere with nonsense like every guy is out there to ra.pe every chic they meet. The topic is stale and ra.pe has been out there since forever - just give it a rest. If you are a victim of ra.pe, go report to the police and stop disturbing everyone.

DiroiD:
hello sir, I don't mind sir if I can get ur number? @ pastor ebankole

cagunwa:
"But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned." - 1 Core. 2:14.
He that has an ear let him hear.

Haywhymido:
there is this yoruba adage dat goes like eniti o bi omo kan ko koro lagan. dat is a woman with a lone child is nt better dan a barren woman. who knws 2moro.

bellong:

Mr spambot will block us from calling it what it is...

bellong:
. In as much as she has the two roebucks on the upper abdomen/thorax and the hole in the lower abdomen in between her legs, and they good enough to behold, to hell with beauty with no substance.

Acquilla:
I called her just now and spoke in an unusual manner. She was dumbfounded while the conversation lasted because i was expressive for the first time ever!!! she was so happy!!!!

I will do a hard reset on my heart as you have indirectly suggested.

coogaluta:
Why?
Don't people call people older than them by name?
Why can't I call my elder sister by name? Or because she is married?
We just like to over-emphasize things that don't matter.....imagine someone saying they were taking it for granted, like she became their student the moment she married into their family.
I'm a huge believer of MUTUAL respect but calling people aunty is the least of my worries. I have friends that are 10 years older than me, married with kids and they go by their name! Respecting them is another story altogether.
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bukatyne:
A wife should have the common sense to address her in-laws older than her by 'Aunty Y'/'Uncle Y' or 'Mummy X'/'Daddy X'

While I am a strong advocate of scrapping nonsense culture, I equally advocate wives/husbands make use of common sense and courtesy.

Would she address her married elder sister by name or disrespect her?

bukatyne:
Quotes from Marilyn Monroe

1. Before size zero, there was sexy

2. A smile is the best makeup any girl can wear


5. There comes a time when you have to stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't jump puddles for you


7. No girl should never forget that she doesn't need anyone who doesn't need her

8. Your clothes should be tight enough to show you're a woman, but loose enough to show you're a lady

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HumbledbYGrace:
Hi since the caged birds started singing.

DrGroove:
Loss of a child is not a man's loss. Why are you ranting n faking emotions? or is it because it was a baby boy? Allow your wife, the real person,who has lost this baby be the chief mourner.not you.
You are a man...You can have hundred of that child within one year

djon78:
Who ever wrote this is so much confused.Marriage is a very serious issue most especialy because it involves two different beings. The centre point of every human is the heart. Prov 4 vs 23 says that the issue s of life has its source from the heart. Jesus said in luke 6 that a goodman out of the good treasure of the heart bring forth good things

1 John 5 says that God is love, while 1 corinthians 13 vs 4 defines the xter of love as: patient, kind, not boastful nor proud, not rude and not selfish.

Who is then a God fearing man? He is one that have surrendered his heart to God and God fills it with his love so that man becomes a new person. Jesus said by these shall men know you are my disciple if you love one another.
Most of the people you call God fearing are just religious men or church goers' by there actions you see that God is not in control of their heart.

As for marriage the bible sahd Husband love your wives meaning be patient, kind, not selfish, not rude to their wives while wives on the othfr hand are to submit, obey and respect their husbands.
The secret of a succesful marriage lies in both the man truly loving his wife, while the woman submits, obeys and resgects the man.

When we look at many marriages failing today is because of those two attributes hhghlited are not being implemented. Thereby we have so many messed marriages. In addition to that many men and women look at the wrong values in chosing a spouse men look at outward beauty instead of the lasting treasures of good character while the women neglect lasting values like hardwork, highly responsible, good morals in a man but rather go for riches. Affluence etc.

If men and women will be wise and do the right thing there will be many succesful marriages instead of many marriages breaking up at an alarming rate.

manoda:
Also the way people reason and talk especially when they see you with your adopted child. I mean,someone has once told me, ordinary to born pikin you no fit,something that a child of 15yrs can do,you wey be adult no fit boast of one baby
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SweetWJ:
Heavenly greetings to u all in d name of our Lord Jesus Christ

Flytefalls:
You are very right. I am gearing up for personal Bible study. All of this is an aside because I have too many Witnesses in my face right now (family) spitting their one-track lyrics. I honestly have no need to disrespect anothers choice of religion, but these Witnesses are so darn snooty it picks at my nerves. My JW family constantly disrespect my choices, but I too can also have a defensive tongue.