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bukatyne:
Madam,

Save your breathe and sleep well.

Nada will happen to him.

[/b]You said all over this thread that your children are more important than the marriage and he can go to hell. Same husband decided his daughter is more important that the marriage so why are you crying now?[b]

The same way you are a single mother to the two kids with you, he has decided to be a single father to his daughter. [/b]Besides, he left the pregnancy for you abi?[b]

What danger or dire situation is her daughter in, that she needed to be protected from in the marriage? How has the husband proven his daughter is more important than the marriage?
By taking the child away from the mother and leaving her with an aunty?

At second bolded, should the husband have kicked out/removed the pregnancy and not left it in her?

You give very strange interpretations to events.

Romangalactic:
My question now to you is based off this information you provided earlier on.

How exactly do you plan to cater for three(3) children with another one on the way when you have no mother, no father, and your only two siblings dont have any love for you?

I will be right to assume that your grocery shop is run by you personally and you get your daily earnings from it which is how you're able to foot 70% of bills.
70% is not 100%.

So what's the plan exactly?

She hasn't come to solicit for funds from you or anyone else on NL, so why are you asking her for a financial plan?
Do you want to give her money as laid upon your heart by the Almighty?
You can send her a PM if your mind is asking you to give her children something from the bottom of your heart.
Remember she is a full grown woman with 3 children and another on the way. She sounds like a reasonable mother.
She has her own business she is running.
I think she will be fine providing for her children.
They will not starve and if living in a bigger apartment is costing too much, she can move to a smaller one to save costs.

Romangalactic:
I have a really big problem with people like you.
You love the OP from the depth of your soul yet you're calling on someone else to do her thing like you kept slush funds in her account just waiting around to be used once you request for it.

Are you okay?

Do your thing doesn't mean the madam ifyalways should contribute money.
She is known to help with mobilising causes she believes in, and rallying all kinds of support (not necessarily financial). You will be surprised at the resources (not financial) that may be made available to this woman if people decide to reason her matter. Resources like how to get access to good public defence in her state of residence , family liaisons and conflict resolution centers etc.
The madam seems to have taken a break off NL though, cos I've also missed her posts.

babyfaceafrica:
because I am 99.9% certain he's not the one taking care of her.

Assumptions again...


There a lots of single dads.. Just because they don't make noise on social media does not mean we don't have them.

There are lots of single dads for sure, but only few will raise a 2 year old girl by themselves in Nigeria. They normally conveniently dump those children with some aunt or the other.
OP has confirmed the child is with the husband's sister. They may look after her well initially that everything is hot hot, hoping things will be resolved in a month or so. However, if it starts getting to 3 months they will show their true colours and the child will be abused and treated like a 3rd class citizen especially if her father isn't dropping enough money for her upkeep and even their own upkeep join.

Jman06:
In that case, women should also start opening up when they are hot and want sex. It won't be bad for them to approach and woo men to have sex with them.

Some men on here can confirm they get propositioned by women on a regular basis, so it's nothing new.
Majority of women who don't mind approaching men will only woo men they think are worth the chase, otherwise they would rather stick to their ever faithful vibrators/dildos

Jman06:
Hmmmm

This thread is an eye opener! So, women really love sexx that much? But why do they pretend like they don't like sex and some even demonize men and call them dogs for always wanting sex

I wish guys could stop spending money on women just to get them agree to have sex since it is now obvious that women also want it badly. They may even want it more going by their responses here. Guys, wise up!!!

Women want to enjoy sex, and have orgasms.
Give them this, and you won't have to pay for sex.
It's really weird when you have to pay for sex though, you guys should stop such nonsense

Takotsubo:
Hello Mr Jman06,

Unfortunately,my lack of sexual experience doesn't mean I am a better person. I have had thoughts to cheat and have seriously considered it.These thoughts wax and wane depending on how frustrated I feel.

The ONLY THING holding me back isn't really self control but the fact that my husband is a fantastic human being in my opinion. I'm not being virtuous at all,I'm just striking a balance and appreciating a good man.

I believe that if I didn't have his type of personality as a spouse,I may have done a lot of things by now.


Remember everyone has their own definition of 'who re'. Some want to know how many sexual partners in the past,others do not.

Some choose a number and that is their own defining line.

It is very important to bear in mind that people are very very unpredictable especially sexually and there's loads of men offering free sex,doesn't have to be an ex.

Put someone in the right place at the right time ,and you will be very shocked.

In my view,sex is a normal basic instinct,to.indulge or not to indulge is left to whomever and I respect that.

I just don't believe virginity had any impact on my marriage,maybe because it wasn't a factor for my husband and his personality is very laid back.

Everything I've written is my personal opinion,my own personal experience,not a manual for others to follow.

Good luck.

Your honesty is a breathe of fresh air
I'm almost certain most of your youthful years wasn't spent in a place where hypocrisy reigns or is it just ignorance that reigns?
Sadly many of our men on NL have failed to listen to women and what they want. They would rather make assumptions for you, and swear it is what you want.
You have been told the reason you stay faithful is because there are no ex-es lurking by, forgetting that other "predators" abound.

To the sermon preachers on here:
It is actually a choice to stay faithful or break your marital vows.
I have no problem with women making a decision to remain virgins, and also for those who chose not to. It's afterall a decision one makes and lives with ( sadly , we also have many female victims of sexual molestation who had their choices taken away from them either as young children or even adults).
I'm just not happy with those telling women not to have sexual fulfilment, while they are enjoying the sex. Hypocrisy at its finest, as if they love your more than you love yourself.

Deepocean:
Lol, nobody eats his/her cake and have it.
Enjoy the sex at the wrong time with the wrong people and suffer for it later, but stop putting the blame on the innocent man. Blaming a man for what he didn't cause is the greatest of crime against humanity, don't you know that wrong accusation is a crime If a narrow tube is turned to a pipeline or well or borehole by randon guys in exchange for cash and material things under the guise of boyfriend/girlfriend lover, who should be blamed? Blaming that man is a great crime my dear. Though I know that the the did is done already as concerning your case, I'll advise you not to quote me again but look for a solution to your problem if the problem hasn't gone beyond repair. And stop comparing your gender with male gender, doing that is a subtle competition, we are not equal and we'll never be, we pay the bride price, and no one wants to pay for a destroyed, dilapidated, stinking, rotten thing.

My advice for you is to know that the virtue placed on woman's chastity is worth what is to look at and have a hard ponder on rather than comparing with men that nobody cares about what they've done (though this is not not promote male promiscuity). Nature had created female gender body to be more precious and cherished more than gold or diamond, that is why it is vety difficult for the reasonable and sensible type among your gender to even allow her laps to be revealed even while sitting down at home, let's cherish it and treat you like gold and diamond rather than to allow yourself to be treated like common sand that we all match and step on. Stop sleeping around like a street dog, be responsible.
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You're preaching to the wrong choir, dear brother.
Your fears that you won't be able to satisy your woman, isn't my problem at all. Many of your mates are able to do that, so ask them to teach you.

My chastity isn't your business, neither is yours mine.
Some of my life's mantra include live and let live, so go and police your own body.

I'm soooo allergic to hypocrisy, pls stay far away.

I don't need you to treat me like gold or diamond, dear brother.
You wouldn't know what to do with gold/diamond if you ever saw it. The problem is, you wouldn't even recognize it.

Deepocean:
Yes, you have the freedom to do whatsoever that pleases you, in fact it's a free world. But it'll be a crime against humanity if you've explored everything explorable before getting married with all sort of men ranging from Tramadol men to Viegra men to Alomo men to all kind of men that enhance their sexual act with sexual enhancement drugs and moaned 2 hours non stop under them that your body is accustomed to 2 hours sexing non stop to now marry to an innocent man that have not even heard of all these drugs before let alone using them, that now perform under the normal time frame for sex. No matter how he tries you'll never be satisfied, all what's you'll be shouting is the man is bad in bed, not knowing that you're the one that have rewired your sexual system in the name of I want to have sex and enjoy my youthful age.

Stop being a prude, oga at the top. You can also enjoy being at the bottom too, when you drop your prudishness
Our definition of crime and humanity apparently is very different.
China choosing to keep mum about the epidermic in their country and allowing it spread can perhaps be seen as a crime against humanity, slavery is definitely one also, genocide is another. Ah, how about terrorism .
Those are crimes against humanity.
However, me choosing to have sex with someone who uses alomo/yoyo bitters/opa eyin/agbo jedi/viagra is DEFINITELY no crime against humanity.
Sex is just what it is- sex. A basic primal human need.
Some of us like it slowly and jejely, while some of us like it hard and rough. Some are fine with 2 minutes of it and 1 hour of kissing, while some don't want any kissing but want the main action for 2 hours.
The earlier you learn to start discussing the real issues of sex amongst couples, the better for everyone. You can always adjust to your partners needs, without losing yourself.

I dont know whether to laugh or cry at this point.
They should have taken them to IDH.
This isn't even funny at all.
Why are people importing this disease for God's sake?
People really need to stop travelling around the world.
Stop it already....

THUNDER4real:
This is one of those things that happen when you marry Daddy as husband....he will be mistreating you and seeing as a child not wife...

But normal people/fathers dont maltreat their children. They care for them, pamper them, pray for them, check on their welfare every second.

Aammee77:
I wonder oh! Obviously no love here
The just got married because she took in for him.
Ladies should stop being desperate to marry, some would in deliberately conceive so the man will be forced to marry them knowing fully well he does love them.
I'm no saying that's the case here though.
You're better off not married than dead

Rather, ladies should run from a man who shows any tendency to be violent.
Even if she had married him before getting pregnant, he would have done same to her.
Unfortunately, you can never know a human being 100%. He might have pretended to be the sweetest man alive , but turns to a monster after marriage. You really cannot know someone till you live in same quarters with them o.

Deepocean:
A lady wrote this on her wall on Facebook, she's a nurse by profession.

A man's penis remains the same, whether he has sex with different vaginas of different sizes.
He doesn't even need to do kegels to keep his penis in its original state.
It is strange that you find some women trying to compete with their men using their private parts.
A penis does not lose shape, tightness or looks, but when you abuse your vagina, it eventually does.
You'll start noticing that thing that looks like a liver sticking out and no longer retracting.
Then you will start to fill up with air when you have sex.
Then you will no longer feel certain dicks and only feel huge ones.
Then you won't feel any dick at all.
You will then go around saying so and so has a small dick, forgetting that you have a stadium between your legs and one man can never fill up the whole stadium.
A man and a woman are not built the same.
You can compete with him, but you will be the one who will get finished and not him.
Ladies respect yourself.

I rest my case.......

Nobody is competing with men.
It's not a competition that I want to have sex and enjoy sex. Why are you telling me not to do so, while you're enjoying the same thing.
Don't be evil.
What makes a vagina wall loose is hormones and having a baby, and not sex.
In this day and age, any woman with a loose vagina even after a baby wants one. There are several ways to make your vagina walls firmer, and kegels is just one of them.
Where are the gyne physiotherapists here

Emaprince:
And later women will be pretending as if its only men that likes sex.

They condemn men for wanting sex...and wanting before marriage, yet here they are acting like it is men that want it after marriage.

These women are pretenders and hypocrites

Women want sex, and rightly so.
Nothing beats good sex. At least have that experience in your lifetime.
I am eternally grateful for all the experience I gained before marriage.
I have been married now for over a decade, so no small pikin should come and try to tell me some kin thing. Go and marry first and stay married with a family, before you come tell me nansense
I still appear like a new bride before my partner, and we both enjoy ourselves. Infact, during our heyday, we don do 12 rounds before. Yes, all day. Now, sex is the least of my worries.
Of course, you reminisce sometimes about the past, laugh about a lot of things, but I even wish I had partied harder then. I still have my friends from way back, and atimes we remind ourselves of how silly we were, and we laugh about stupid gists.
Now I feel too old to do certain things, even with my partner.
What better time could I have done these things na, if not when I was single?
I wouldn't touch my ex escapades with a barge pole now btw, just saying. Simply because I loved on. I also moved on too.
I have no single regrets. None whatsoever.
As a young person, remember to live life.
If you're down with premarital sex, stay protected. Insist you're both tested for diseases before getting down, insist on condoms, and use contraceptives.
Many nasties out there.

Talk to her that you and daddy were doing only what adults should be doing.
Also, tell her its important to always knock before opening someone else's door

MT:
I really need to know as this is not my turf. Why does the the US get away with printing more dollars to save her economy?. Do the laws of micro economic not applicable to US in this case? . Please I will need to be genuinely educated in this area.

Same here.
But Bola Tinubu is a graduate of accounting from the US. I'm not sure how much of an economics background he has, but his suggestions shouldn't just be dismissed because it sounds as if he wants to pocket the money printed into bullion vans.
Why did the US print more dollars?

This is the wrongest time to turn this pandemic into a political issue.

kokomilala:
They are more or less presidents in.their own rights and capacity in a true federal character.What we operate here is a unitary system ,just shy of a totalitarian order.
As it stands ,the government of Buhari or Abba Kyari has collpased.There's a vacuum in government.Nigeria is without a leader. This is the opportune moment for the masses to pour out to the streets and demand and enforce a new order.

Pour out into the streets with corona going on?

greenhulk:
I think u got it all wrong. Getting prepared does not guarantee immunity to the virus. The UK having so many infected is inevitable. The premier league and Champions league is one of the catalysts that accelerated the spread. In fact I hope u know the UK are not even testing enough. They only test people that have shown serious symptoms. If u have light symptoms they will ask u to go home and self isolate for 7 days.

But just because they have many cases doesn't mean they should stop preparing for the worst. In reality more than 30k have been infected in the UK. They didn't follow the total lockdown route China took, they are relying on herd immunity to flatten the curve. They know soon there will be influx of patients that need attention that is why they are getting prepared. That has nothing to do with Prince Charles and Boris getting infected. The virus is not a respecter of anyone. It is almost impossible to stop the virus from spreading in a country like the UK and the US.

But you know Nigeria has just 1 death so far, and less than a 100 infections and we're trying to prepare for the worst too, as it is.
The UK waited till so many were infected and dead before doing anything.
Now they're running helter skelter about.

AbujaBlue:
To those harping on about the pictures from Lagos - yes that is a nice gesture - but look at the size of it? It is just a wedding marquee with a few beds in it. What is the population of Lagos?

Open your eyes! Unless 100s more of these are built, it is just a PR stunt.

The federal government is also planning to open more centres and are planning convert one of the stadiums in Lagos to another makeshift hospital- I read that somewhere on NL.
Hopefully, they will start the business ASAP.
Other states also need to step up their game.
Abuja, where art thou?
Port harcourt, your attention is needed too.
Enugu, are you ready?
Kano, you nko?
All major cities with airports, seaports need to be on alert , and start preparing for this.
Who knows, our weather may help us. Perhaps , even because we suffer from a lot of infectious diseases, maybe there's some cross immunity somewhere to help our ministry. But till then, we continue to get ready.
What is affecting majority of Europe and even the US is the fact that they didn't take it sooo seriously, and it hit them like a tsunami before they could even turn.. Most cities didn't know what hit them.
Italy had almost a thousand deaths yesterday.
New facts are emerging about this virus, and it can kill young, fit people. Two 27 year olds have died in the UK, probably even more. A 16 year old has died in France. All were fit and well.
All those who don't believe the corona exists should just be careful, because their egungun done enter express

Alvin212:
Substandard
Looks like an amateurish improvised tent

That's definitely not substandard.
The excel centre existed long before the Corona, and it is being converted to a makeshift hospital specifically for the Covid19 disease.
Lagos state is building from the scratch specifically for same purpose.
You cannot build a brick/mortar hospital within 3 weeks, and there is really no time to waste on such frivolities
There is no underutilised building owned by the LASG that can be converted for such.
This is as good as it gets as it is just a temporary structure.
I'm very sure Italy would be glad to have the space for such and the wherewithal for such. Probably half of their construction workers are dead from the Covid or recovering from it.
If Italy had the time we have now to prepare, they would have remained eternally grateful
The UK has over 700 documented DEATHS from the Covid19, and are only just setting up a large hospital in preparation for more cases. Nigeria has only 1 DEATH from Covid so far, and we are actually on the same page of preparedness. We have learnt from Italy, UK and US and realised thankfully on time that the Covid isn't here to play with nobody
What you all need right now is to SUPPORT your government NOW.
Don't wait till your family gets affected, because I'm sure if they do, you will appreciate this 'substandard' structure.
SARS-CoV-2 is here with you folks, accept it now and start fighting for your lives.

Mizwisdom:
He's promoting a country that has failed to protect citizens, even their prime minister and next in line have contacted it. More than 14,500 cases, more than 500 deaths? and he's showing us pix to commend their effort and preparedness, it's sad. Very low of you explorer

.there's no problem showing how other countries are preparing for the pandemic. Theirs has even gone out of control before they started preparing.
Fortunately for us, we're even preparing before it gets to that level.
Kudos to the nigerian government and Lagos state government for being proactive

See how we are preparing in Nigeria here
https://www.instagram.com/p/B-QUAuApQDn/?igshid=1ov5kti8soija

wisdomkid:
No, you were in a haste to castigate saying just 400? Do your country have up to 10 well arranged beds for covid-19 patients?

Yes.
Your country has similar or even better

Nigeria is not doing badly either. This has happened within 3 days fyi

Please check this link for the GTB emergency covid centre set up in Lagos.
Really amazing...

Kudos to the Lagos state govt
Kudos to GTB
Kudos to all Nigerian health personelle in Nigeria including Drs, nurses, pharmacists, lab scientists, technicians, cleaners, engineering unit in hospitals.
Kudos to all those working hard to make this pandemic bearable and a thing of the past
Kudos to every patriotic citizen of Nigeria.
We appreciate all your effort.
We cannot reward you, but we can only pray for you from the bottom of our hearts.

Explorers
Could you kindly make a thread on how Lagos state seems to be preparing so far for possible covid19 infections.
Here's a link
Thanks


https://www.instagram.com/p/B-QUAuApQDn/?igshid=f54asrvjvcoe

Someone is in Sifia pains.

Have some lollipop

Hmmm
While the women and your "simps" are hustling and getting top spots in business and in their finances, you're here looking for simps about.
Time waits for nobody.
Everyman for himself, as no paddy for jungle.
Why not ask your simps to teach you how to make it financially and how to be a boss in real life affairs and not women affairs?
Especially as it seems they are the ones really running the show everywhere. They say jump, and your lot asks how high.
Dangote, Otedola will be called "simps" in your books, yet they be running things..
Open your eyes, time is flying past you.

loshybab:
Yeye,Yeye,Yeye!!!
Are u implying that all those currently dancing to the ugly consequences of premarital sex ain't aware of the existence of contraceptives or they really wanted to get pregnant? Definitely not!

There are opinions and there are facts. Our inputs are mere opinions,and no matter the sophistication of how it's been written,it still wouldn't change the fact, which is the decay being caused by premarital pleasure. I'm only using my opinions to corroborate the fact. You agreeing or not doesn't change the fact, because it remains valid.

Before you reply with some other epistle of a defense, pls bear in mind that the plethora of people coming here to seek for opinions and words of encouragement wouldn't do so,if they could handle the consequences of their actions alone.

I quite appreciate your inputs though. Stay safe!

We will have sex when we want to, my broda
We will also use vibrators and other toys when we want to.
I always advice safe sex anyway.
Nigerian women need to take their reproductive health seriously and never leave it in any other person's hands.
There are many disease ridden people out there.
Make sure to use good condoms.
Don't use the morning after pill more than twice a month, and if you've needed to use it almost every month, time to get a long term contraceptive.
Even 16 year old girls abroad are taking responsibility for their sexual health. It's stupid to get an unwanted pregnancy and to be using abortion as your own form of contraceptive. Infact, you're not a serious somebody.

Now, loshybab.
Life is not perfect. Nobody is perfect either. We will always make mistakes in the journey of life. Some of those mistakes may even have dire consequences, but the important thing is to learn from such mistakes and grow..
Allow us grow, and learn from our mistakes and other people's mistakes.
Thank you.

RIP soldier

Jaqenhghar:
Thats some scary shít. Na house I dey brother. Take care of yourself O. Hopefully its just mild headache. You dey sleep well so?

Make we see how things unfold.

exnovio:
I've been at home for 12 days now with my family no movement,i work with Airline companies ,since airlines are cripple now i hv to stop working.where am Madrid the situation is very ugly.please pray for us.

God be with you guys o.
Pls stay at home and manage what you have . Ration your food and other essentials because that your Madrid, e be like say if you dare set your foot outside your door the virus jumps on you.
It's really scary now.

Jaqenhghar:
We are coping just fine. I work from home. It gets annoying not moving around much but it is what it is.
Its comforting to know that at least there are measures put in place in case we fall sick.
Functioning hospitals
Functioning drugs
Ambulances
Health workers who know what they are doing

You better stay at home jeje and don't put your trust on functioning hospitals
Your eye go clear if you get severe disease. Na then you go know say khaki no be leather.
In the UK, decisions are being made on who to put on ventilators and who should be denied. Yes, its beginning to spread like wildfire there. Their A/E is overwhelmed already and it will only get worse if people don't sit their ass down and stop moving around.
I learnt another country, whether na italy is denying those over 60years ventilators because it's just not enough to go round.
Infact, I have a headache now, and can only hope it's not Corona. I hope that even if it is, it will be the mild form of the disease.